How should I flirt with a co-worker who is twice my age?
Q. Ok, well there's this mature lady who works at the same company as me. In my opinion, she is sexy as hell. She's a bit more than twice my age. Infact, her son, who I knew personally is three years older than me. INFACT, her son has two kids, which ...
A. 14 April 2012: You should treat her exactly the same as you would any woman you like. Absolutely. By my calcs, she is in her early 40s, so all she is is a more experienced, slightly more world-weary version of a 20 year old woman. No different. It is quite ... (read in full...)
Are there any men they do not use pornography in a relationship?
Q. Are there any men here who don't use pornography in a relationship? I would absolutely love knowing they weren't looking at anyone else. I don't even know why they still do it and thinks it's normal to still look when they are getting sex. Men want ...
A. 12 April 2012: As soon as laptops were invented, men had a new habit.
Interesting question. I think probably no man with a laptop doesn not indulge in porn. I am sure they all do. ONE HUNDRED PER CENT.
It's not their fault, the little lambs, is it? They are ... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with another man, but he doesn't want to watch, he just wants me to tell him about it. What is this called?
Q. Can someone please tell me... " my husband wants me to have sex with another man, he does not want to watch but he wants me to tell him about it" What is this called? ...
A. 11 April 2012: I knew it was just a male way of suggesting sort of what he wanted but not saying exactly!! : )
And glad he has explained himself now.
Poor guy. If only he knew what we'd been saying about him ...... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with another man, but he doesn't want to watch, he just wants me to tell him about it. What is this called?
Q. Can someone please tell me... " my husband wants me to have sex with another man, he does not want to watch but he wants me to tell him about it" What is this called? ...
A. 10 April 2012: Erm, I don't know what it's called ... looking for excitement? Or, as someone said, practising detachment?
Do you want to have sex with another man?
It is a fairly strange thing for him to want, because usually he would want to be there, to ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, and not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend.
Q. Hey, so I found out today I'm pregnant, possibly by about 6 weeks, despite using the pill, and I'm not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend and need some advice. We've been together 18 months now, and are looking for a house to buy together....
A. 8 April 2012: This is perfect timing.
Being pregnant is amazing.
Your baby will be wonderful.
Tell the guy.
He will either rise to the occasion, or not.
Go for it. And don't think of any other options. Have your baby, and trust in the good.... (read in full...)
I'm jealous because my husband's sister in law is pregnant, please help!
Q. I'm not usually a jealous person, but this situation has made me see green. I've been married to by wonderful husband for three years, and we started trying for a baby on our honeymoon. No such luck. I've had one miscarriage that I've known ab...
A. 8 April 2012: Totally normal and justifiable female emotions here. So don't worry. You are 110% part of the female race. We would ALL feel the same as you, I'd bet on it.
The only time I don't bristle when encountering a pregnant woman is when I am pregnant... (read in full...)
Why would a guy who wasn't into me act so happy to see me?
Q. 3 months ago.. I had a massive crush on this guy. i initiated contact [emailed him].. and he eventually asked for my number and suggested we meet. we did.. and it went really well [or so i thought]... but he never called me after that and didn't ...
A. 8 April 2012: It could have been a form of embarrassment. He was bad to you, so was overly nice when he saw you. Guys are weird and fXXcked up like that.
I would be aggravated by his behaviour, as well. I would send him the following email:
So. You gave ... (read in full...)
We have a baby on the way and he's speaking to another woman on twitter, please help?
Q. help! I am 8 months pregnant and I just found out two weeks ago my boyfriend of a year was talking to other female on twitter when i asked him about it he told me he just be playing with so I put him out in an attempt to get him to see that he was ...
A. 3 April 2012: Well, it seems to me like you are the one pushing him away. Check the facts:
He spoke with another girl on Twitter. When asked about it, he said it was nothing to worry about.
You threw him out.
He kept calling you.
You asked if you are ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a guy who's half my age
Q. Hi. I'm a 54 yr old woman, who honestly looks about 35. I'm very blessed. I work out, and have always taken good care of myself. I place a personal ad, and hesistantly, responded to a 27 yr old. He and I have lots in common. We are both college ...
A. 1 April 2012: If it works for you both, then great.
The key thing here is: to understand that the ONLY thing that matters is how much you are into each other. If that is totally solid, then you can work out all the rest.
There are huge advantages to ol... (read in full...)
When I say no, girlfriend ends up taking what she wants anyways
Q. So I recently went to sex store this week to buy toys for me and my girlfriend, we're lesbians. So I bought the vibrators, bullets, eggs, and dildos for us along with anal beads and lube. I told my girlfriend I'd like to use it on her during our ...
A. 1 April 2012: I'm sorry but I agree with the other person who replied here. I think this isn't the person for you. I don't think she is treating you with the respect we all deserve. I really don't.
This isn't about her saying no to the toy, really. This is ... (read in full...)
Please help me, I am all alone!
Q. Hi, 5 months ago I came out of a bad 6 month relationship, My first. It left me on antidepressents and shattered. Now 5 months on, I want to move on but no one is interested. My previous relationship nerly lost me all my friends and everyone one ...
A. 25 March 2012: Well, it is the purple hair that is doing it, and you know that.
It won't matter how nice you are - if you are making a very strong statement about looking different from everyone, then it is probable that the 'herd' won't accept you. I'm sorry - ... (read in full...)
Does sucking make the breast bigger?
Q. does sucking increase the size of breast ...
A. 21 March 2012: It depends who's sucking. If it's a baby, for a couple of years, probably yes.... (read in full...)
Should I change my hair colour for him?
Q. I am dating a new guy and his type is brunette with olive skin. I am blonde, which i dye. My natural color is dark brown. Should I go back to my natural color? He asked me to but acted like he was joking but i dont think he was. So stay blond or go ...
A. 21 March 2012: I think ... he thinks he would love to see your natural hair colour.
He obviously likes you, whatever your colour, though.
What do I think? I think that I had blonde hair, very blonde, all through my childhood, and that was my identity. Th... (read in full...)
How can I get pregnant faster?
Q. I got my first depo shot in December, it is now march, therefor I should be coming off of the depo. I want to conceive but I have read that it takes months or even years to become pregnant. So I would like to know if I have had Only one shot and I ...
A. 20 March 2012: It just depends on your body. You might get your period back within a couple of months. It might take longer. Basically the injection put artificial hormones into your body to suppress your own hormones. Once the artificial stuff is gone, your own ... (read in full...)
I'm 30 and have never been in a relationship. Is anyone else like this?
Q. Ok, here goes... I'm nervous about posting this but the bottom line is I'm lonely. I live in a big city and whilst I know people, I would consider the vast majority acquaintances. I moved away from my home town years ago as most of my childhood ...
A. 17 March 2012: I think that you have become the kind of person who doesn't jump into things, to such an extent that you are now, as you realise, missing out.
First thing: you don't have to tell anyone you haven't been in a relationship. You really don't. P... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and don't know what to do
Q. hello to cut to the case i am 14 and i think i am pregnant. my boyfriend is 15 but doest really know how to react. my mom and my step dad are going to flip out. i dont know what to do. so my question is, if i am pregnant at this age what rights do i ...
A. 16 March 2012: You've taken a good step by finding this site, where people will give you kind and helpful advice. So: don't worry now. You aren't alone with this any more. That's the first thing.
Now: before you start panicking, you need to do some simple t... (read in full...)
Do natural contraception monitors work?
Q. Hi This isnt a relationship question as such... more of a sex and practical question. I do not get on well with hormonal contraceptives. They do horrid things to me, and I stopped taking them. My boyfriend uses condoms, but it would be nice to...
A. 16 March 2012: The monitor is just a formalised, mechanical aid to self-monitoring, I think. So in fact, when you follow this cycle for month after month, you will notice the signs in your body even without needing the support/affirmation offered by the monitor.
... (read in full...)
Do natural contraception monitors work?
Q. Hi This isnt a relationship question as such... more of a sex and practical question. I do not get on well with hormonal contraceptives. They do horrid things to me, and I stopped taking them. My boyfriend uses condoms, but it would be nice to...
A. 15 March 2012: Simplest thing is buy an ovulation test kit every month - about £20 - and it has 7 tests in it. Start testing from day 8 (day 1 is the day your period starts). Test for 7 days. You will most likely ovulate in this time. After a few months, you ... (read in full...)
Married women: what could your hubby do to rekindle the fire of your attraction and affection?
Q. A question for the married women: what could your husband do to spark a fire of romance, excitement, strong feelings of love or attachment? I feel like my wife is drifting away. What things can I do to rekindle her interest, return that warm glow ...
A. 13 March 2012: Take time to notice her. Look her in the eye across a room in the way you did when you first met her. When you lie together, gather her in your arms. Kiss her on the forehead in the middle of the night, when she is sleeping, or half-asleep. Hold ... (read in full...)
On the verge of buying a house with a miserly man who only tolerates my children
Q. Scared. My second marriage begun disasterously my second Husband refused to bond with my children lied cheated and left me when I lost my job with his baby and my two other children to fend for ourselves financially and otherwise. My Son who is 9 ...
A. 5 March 2012: Your children are the most important people for you to look after. They are your Number One. He is, as my daughter would put it, Number Twenteen (if he's lucky).
Look, life is just too bloody short for this nonsense. You would manage fine financia... (read in full...)
I was wondering if you guys/girls think I could become pregnant.
Q. Me and my boyfriend are in a pickle. We had sex and he finished inside of me. BUT some factors will affect this. This was on 3/1/12. Today is 3/3/12. 1. I am on birth control, the pill Ortho-Tricyclen. But on 2/29/12 I couldnt take my pill. ...
A. 3 March 2012: If you are having your period now, you aren't pregnant.... (read in full...)
Starving for more in our sex life!
Q. My husband and I got married this last october. I love him more than anything but I knew from the begining that we weren't sexually compatable. This is a problem we've been dealing with for over a year. We've talked many times about what we can do ...
A. 29 February 2012: Hmm. Well, it's clear you have a higher sex drive. And you did know this. You say you knew you weren't sexually compatible. And now you have a problem, because you feel trapped. Making all the moves. But you are married now. Forever.
So, you have... (read in full...)
Can someone really be ready to marry after only three months?
Q. So I posted on here a while ago and the advice was pretty good so I wanted some opinions on something else. Basically I was in a relationship and through no fault of hers I moved away making it an LDR and this put a strain on the relationship to the ...
A. 29 February 2012: It is possible, but relatively rare. It is, truly, possible to meet someone and to click on many levels in one instant. And that is a real match. But, as I say, very rare.
I suspect that she is on a hormone drive. She wants to bag her man, hav... (read in full...)
Never so much as hugged a girl, and I'd like to change that
Q. Hey guys, well basically i’ve got a question regarding myself. It’s a bit embarrassing, but is it normal for a nineteen year old to be a virgin. I’ve never done anything with a girl, never been kissed, never even held hands with anybody. In fact now ...
A. 28 February 2012: Your first and easier objective could be to get some real friends who are girls. So, not a romantic thing - but friends. And girls like being hugged by their male friends. I don't know what your situation is, if you are at university, etc., but I ... (read in full...)
He's amazing, but he belittles me and doesn't trust me. Calls me goody-two-shoes. Do I end this relationship?
Q. This is hard for me to write, its hard for me to come to terms with, but i think im near the end of my 20 month relationship. Since the day i meet him we became inseparable, he is my first serious boyfriend and its been a wonderful and life changing...
A. 28 February 2012: To be honest, the business about 'prison time' and 'drug taking' is nonsense - as you say, the prison business was because he defended a girl being attacked, and the 'drug-taking' is no more than millions of young men in particular might try and ... (read in full...)
He's amazing, but he belittles me and doesn't trust me. Calls me goody-two-shoes. Do I end this relationship?
Q. This is hard for me to write, its hard for me to come to terms with, but i think im near the end of my 20 month relationship. Since the day i meet him we became inseparable, he is my first serious boyfriend and its been a wonderful and life changing...
A. 26 February 2012: Hi there.
I understand this dilemma, as I too have been in a situation where I am with someone who seemingly comes from a very different end of the spectrum to me, but nevertheless adds something to my life which seems extraordinary, and as if it w... (read in full...)
Why would my partner need a second sperm test?
Q. Can anyone please give me some advice, my partner and i have been trying for a baby for 1 year now, with no luck. My partner has had a sperm test but has been told he needs to do a second one, does anyone know why this might be. My partner is away ...
A. 25 February 2012: I agree, probably the first sample gave a very poor result, and now they need to check whether that is because the sample was compromised in some way, or whether that really is his sperm count.
Only thing to do is get it tested again when he's bac... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and am still grieving-but my boyfriend seems not to care, what should I do?
Q. I need some help to stop feeling angry with my bf about our abortion. I know readers might judge me for having an abortion, that's ok, I judge myself, I know I did the wrong thing, I feel guilty every day and regret my decision greatly. I'm trying ...
A. 25 February 2012: ps and sorry to say, but a tub of ice cream won't do it. Won't even touch it. This is pain on a different kind of level.
Only a reconnection with the source of life will do it, and your own power to generate new life, in my opinion.... (read in full...)
Shouldn't there be more to life than this?
Q. Do you ever think that you should be doing more in life? I have in the past waisted so much time partying and being selfish, no that I am clean and sober I just feel as If I should be doing more than just working, crazy huh?...
A. 25 February 2012: Life is short. You will work that out. Maybe you are starting to work it out already. There are only a few important things you can do to give your life meaning:
1) Have a family and be a generous and loving father. Enjoy every moment. Love som... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and am still grieving-but my boyfriend seems not to care, what should I do?
Q. I need some help to stop feeling angry with my bf about our abortion. I know readers might judge me for having an abortion, that's ok, I judge myself, I know I did the wrong thing, I feel guilty every day and regret my decision greatly. I'm trying ...
A. 25 February 2012: Firstly, I am so so sorry about the loss of your baby, and I am so sorry that you have, like probably millions of us before you, been hoodwinked by the 'abortion is the sensible option' nonsense. My feelings are as strong if not stronger than yours ... (read in full...)
An argument over opening doors has led me to question my feelings for him, am I being crazy or over-sensitive?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for just over a year. He's 46, I'm 43. I will admit, I have ignored some small "yellow flags", but there are many, many good qualities about him and I also know that there is no "perfect", that I, myself, am not ...
A. 23 February 2012: I think his question was kind of strange in the first place. Why would he ask that? I think he asked it because he wanted you to ask him back. Did you? Probably not, with the argument that followed.
As for his reaction ... be fair. He was giving h... (read in full...)
Do I give my ex yet another chance for my little girl's sake? Or do I move on?
Q. hi again... i seriously need advice. i come out of serious relationship of 4 years, 3 n half months ago, my ex is a recovering alcoholic, we have a little girl. he is desperate to get back with me and he is going to this council session every week ...
A. 23 February 2012: I think that you can't make the decision yet as to whether you can forgive, or reconcile. I think you first really should support him, as the father of your child and someone who you once I guess loved, and go to meet the people to hear about his ... (read in full...)
I cant go to senior prom with my G/f because of the age limit and so her ex is taking her but I know he still has feelings for her. I don't trust this guy and I don't know what to do
Q. hi agony aunts, i am in a relationship with an 18 year old girl. I am 22. the problem is that her senior prom is coming up, and we can't go together because her school has a stupid age limit, you can't go if you're over 21. so anyway, a gu...
A. 23 February 2012: It would drive me insane, too. Can't you pretend you're 21?!
She won't appreciate the inappropriacy of this, because she is with you and she only considers him a friend (that is how I would have looked at it at 18). She doesn't see a risk, so... (read in full...)
I am jealous about my guy's other children!
Q. That's a long story but will try and make it plain and easy... I was in a relationship with a guy for 8 years and although I did not plan to have kids to him I always thought that I would end up admitting it was the best thing because that baby ...
A. 22 February 2012: Making mistakes is easy, and we all do it. You aren't a bad person. You haven't had a kid with the simple guy, you have had one with the complicated one. And the result is you are living a more difficult life. So really, the person suffering most ... (read in full...)
Would you be put off a guy who said his son was "just a baby I made"?
Q. I'm dating a man who is a lot older than me, and he has a son who is a year younger than i am . He hasn't had much contact with his ex wife since they got divorced 23 years ago. He also hasn't seen his son much since his son was three years old. He ...
A. 22 February 2012: He sounds a nitwit to me. I wouldn't want him.... (read in full...)
I've split from my G/f but she's going to have our baby in 6 months time. Am I entitled to be at the birth of our baby?
Q. I have just split up with girlfriend and she is having our baby in approximately 6 months time. Please may I ask for anyone's kind advice in regards to if i I am definately entitled to be at the birth of my baby? I would very much apppreciate an...
A. 22 February 2012: I am not sure you are 'entitled' to witness the birth. The birth is a moment when the mother needs to feel totally safe and supported, and if you are a stressful figure for her, you actually shouldn't be there.
It will be a case of waiting ... (read in full...)
I had a vaginal delivery and havent had sex since. How will it feel now? Will I be loose down there?
Q. My ex bf and I broke up 16 months ago I was 8 months pregnant at the time. We recently got back together and I am kinda nervous about the whole sex thing. When we dated last we has a great sexual relationship but the last time we had sex I was well ...
A. 22 February 2012: How your vagina will be now does to some degree depend on the kind of delivery you had. You say a vaginal delivery and don't mention anything else, so presumably no forceps, ventouse, complications or tearing?
You are very young, which is perfe... (read in full...)
If my gf is pregnant, she says she does not want to keep the baby but is afraid of the guilt of an abortion. What can we do?
Q. I've got a real dilemma here. Me and my girlfriend have been together for less than 2 months. About 3 weeks into our relationship we started having sex. We used protection each time. Anyway, her period was supposed to begin at one point during the...
A. 22 February 2012: Answer 1: don't get pregnant.
Answer 2: if you get pregnant and don't want the baby, that is your fault, not the baby's. So live with it. Have the baby and give it up for adoption. It is the only decent thing to do. Frankly, though, I think yo... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and am wondering what is causing the little 'flutters'?
Q. I'm 34 weeks pregnent, 35 on friday, and today ive noticed that at the top of my vagina, im getting types of little flutters, and alot more in my belly then normal, also getting a bit of back ache, ive also been told by family that i have ...
A. 22 February 2012: The flutters are the baby's little hands moving.
Well, it depends what you mean by flutters, but I got that all the time in later pregnancy twice, and it was the baby's hands. The hands are quite big now, and moving a lot!
Only advice can be go... (read in full...)
I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 22 February 2012: I don't think I would want him at the birth.
There is this syndrome: when you are pregnant, the father will be nice to you because ... really he's just being nice to the baby, who is inside you. As soon as the baby comes out, he will shower t... (read in full...)
After being raped, are women ever able to enjoy sex?
Q. Nearly three years ago I was raped, so I have never had sex other than that one time. I have started a relationship with someone and I like him and he respects me, but I don't want to have sex. Do other women actually want sex after rape or do ...
A. 20 February 2012: I think you need to start first building up physical trust, as slowly as you need to. You need to know first and foremost that you can trust him absolutely not to do anything unless you want to. And also that his warmth and strength are only to ... (read in full...)
I'm eight months pregnant and the baby's father is incommunicado.
Q. Hello, I need some advice please, I'm 35 weeks pregnant and the baby's father hasn't been in contact with me since we split up 3 month ago. I've tried ringing him and have had no answer to my calls or texts. Its like he isn't interested, and I hear ...
A. 1 February 2012: He is stupid, stupid, stupid ... he is missing out on the best thing of his life.
What about his parents? The baby's grandparents? Maybe they want to be involved? They should be. This is a child on the way. A small person. Needs all the family h... (read in full...)
On the verge of buying a house with a miserly man who only tolerates my children
Q. Scared. My second marriage begun disasterously my second Husband refused to bond with my children lied cheated and left me when I lost my job with his baby and my two other children to fend for ourselves financially and otherwise. My Son who is 9 ...
A. 16 November 2011: Hey ... don't do it. I think it will get worse if you buy the house with him. Without a doubt.
And listen to this. You are the 4th person I now know of who has exactly the same problems, ie:
The guy who you are with, who isn't the father of yo... (read in full...)
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