Am I normal? Just not that fussed about a girlfriend...
Q. Hey! Great site by the way. I am a 27 year old fella. I have had long-term girlfriends, short term girlfriends and everything else in between. I split from my last bird over a year ago. Problem is this: I don't feel the *need* to have a girlfriend. ...
A. 9 September 2005: Hiya hun,No there is absolutely nothing wrong with it.and some women feel the same way too.We don`t all need partners or spouses to feel good or complete.In fact some people like yourself can easily do without but i am sure that you yourself will ... (read in full...)
I caught my 10-year-old daughter masturbating!
Q. I hope you can help me with this because i just dont know what to do! I have a 10 year old daughter who is very happy- go lucky and has lots of friends. Last week i walked into her bedroom to find her straddling her bedcorner and thrusting. I told ...
A. 9 September 2005: hi there i wonder who was more shocked firstly you or your daughter? All i can really say to this is it is normal for both sexes to experiment.masturbation is all part of growing up and something all children will go through.As far as side effects ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend loves the attention from other women! Will he every stop the games?
Q. I am really hoping I can get some advice from a few different people here. My partner and I have been together for 8 months now. We love each other very much and have a great relationship overall. We live together and plan on moving closer to ...
A. 9 September 2005: Hi there now i am not sure if this will help you out or not but i have a couple of suggestions for both youself and your boyfriend.So here goes hunny.Firstly if he is worried that his flirting with women (which all men do)may go further then he has ... (read in full...)
I don't know how he really feels, so, what if I ask him?
Q. Hi. I'm a 18-year-old girl. I'm in love with a boy who sits next to me in class. He's smart, tall and absolutely cute. We always talk jokingly to each other that make me so happy. Just to hear his voice every day makes me over the moon. I always ...
A. 13 August 2005: hi sweety,I think you already probably know what i am about to say.If you don`t ask how will you ever truely know.What is the worst thing he can say? No and i dont know about you but i think i can handle someone saying no as all you will have to do ... (read in full...)
Dad keeps trying to run my life!
Q. I have a dad who is always telling me what to do and what to wear and how to take care of my son. I am 20 years old and I told him I am not a little girl any more and I don't live with him, but he said he don't care. I tried every thing to get thro...
A. 13 August 2005: Hi hun, this is a bit of a tricky and delicate one but here goes.First of all you are 20 is there any reason stopping you from finding a place of your own for you and your baby.That would solve some of your immediate troubles with your dad.Secondly ... (read in full...)
If he's not ready to agree to another child, how bad would it be to trick him?
Q. Hi, I have three children, (36) husband is (42). I told him I want another, my youngest set of twins just turned 6. I feel I waited enough time, he used to say financially he didn't know. We are doing fine now. I think he is just stalling. I'm ...
A. 13 August 2005: hi hunny,to be honest the worst thing to do to a guy in my opinion is to trick them into having a child.I think that you would be better of to talk to your partner again.You already have three children and perhaps he is just quite contented with the ... (read in full...)
I want to be her mysterious admirer for a little while before I ask her out...
Q. There is a girl I like to ask out when we come back to college, but I want to be a secret admirer for a week or 2 before then, so do you have any tips of how to approach this? Should I leave gifts for her with just saying from secret admirer? Thanks ...
A. 11 August 2005: Hi hun, This is a very tricky one but here goes.Firstly do you know how she would react to having notes and gifts left for her and not know who they are from?Ie would it make her excited and feel special or might it scare her a bit.Some girls get a ... (read in full...)
Don't know which guy to hang out with... I like them both!
Q. I'm a 15 yr old girl, and this guy I like (he's 18) asked me for my phone number so I gave it to him. The next day we kissed. The day after we kissed this guy (21) that I have liked for ages asked me to meet up with him because I hadn't seen him for ...
A. 11 August 2005: Hi sweety, First of all you are only 15 years old so i hope that neither of these men have taken things any further.As for which one to choose that is a decission only you can make.Just remember whilst you may think that you like one or both of them ... (read in full...)
I think I'm pregnant and my boyfriend now says we should see other people...
Q. My bf can be very nasty sometimes and I think I'm pregnant. He has now told me I can meet other boys. I dont know what to make of this or what to do. Any ideas?...
A. 11 August 2005: Hiya sweety,Firstly i would do a test and findout for sure if you are definately pregnant or not.Then if you are you can tell him for sure.As far as him being nasty even if you are pregnant you need to seriously think about whether you really want ... (read in full...)
No boyfriend... What can I do?
Q. I am a loner. Most of the girls in my year have boyftriends but I don't. What shall I do?...
A. 17 May 2005: hi sweety.First and foremost don`t worry there is more to life than boys and your time for them will come.Put it this way: if they all jumped off a cliff would you need to follow them to be like them? You are an individual and like i said your tim... (read in full...)
How do I approach my boyfriend about us having a child together?
Q. I am in a serious relationship with a recently divorced, older man whom I love very much. He is the father of three children and he has indicated that he is not wild about the idea of a fourth child, but he has not stated that the possibility is ...
A. 17 May 2005: Hi hunny.It sounds to me like you should both just sit down and have a really good heart to heart about the subject.If he really doesn`t want any more children then you will know but second guessing what he may or may not be saying is not a good ... (read in full...)
He's thoughtless and selfish and he teases me... even so, I worry about leaving him!
Q. Dear Agony aunt, I've been in a relationship with my partner for 3 years, and at first he behaved respectably and we had wonderful times together. Now its the opposite as he constantly teases me over myself, culture and even my 17 year daughter! ...
A. 17 May 2005: Hiya sweetheart.I think that the best thing that you can possibly do to save your sanity and self respect is to love yourself enough to know that you deserve better than you have with this guy.It may hurt you initially but the old saying that time ... (read in full...)
A text to my partner from another woman has taken the trust from our relationship...
Q. My partner & I haev been together for nearly 12 years. About 4 years ago he had an affair and this caused us to split up once I found out. About a year later we got back together and tried to put the past behind us & bring up our Son in a family ...
A. 17 May 2005: Hi hunny i know this is going to sound really obvious but unless you can lay the past to rest you will never trust him.He also has a very big role to play in understanding where you are coming from and helping you to re-build the trust you once had ... (read in full...)
I dream about feet and find them a turn-on. Does this make me a freak?
Q. I love Feet. Am I a freak? I seem to have a foot fetish, I find myself looking at women's feet and find them a turn on. I even dream about massaging feet and, well, it does not seem right....
A. 16 May 2005: Hi there.Many people have fantasies and fetishes some may seem strange others perfectly normal.To you this is your fetish and you are not alone.If i remember rightly didn`t some politician have the same one.I may be wrong.What might be right for you ... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and the girl I like is 16. Are we friends... or something more?
Q. Okay here it is. I like this girl who is 16 and I'm 12. We slowly started being friends when we met at my school and started talking online after school and talk for a long time, for probably about like 4 hours and after a while of that she gave me ...
A. 16 May 2005: Hi hun.The easiest way of knowing for certain is simply to ask her.The worst thing that she can do is say no you aren`t going out together.Girls can be tricky to figure out especially at 12 years old.You need to remember though that she will soon be ... (read in full...)
Three to six minutes is about my average in bed... and it makes my wife angry...
Q. Hi everybody I think my question is not uncommon. I ejaculate within 3-6 mts. I try to think about my work, my boss and any other non-sex stuff but it doesn't work out. My wife gets angry with me whenever this happen. I think some people out here...
A. 16 May 2005: Hi hun.You are absolutely right this is not an uncommon problem.You have already done one of the things which can help.Have you tried making love more often or masturbating in between or a little while before you make love as sometimes if it is a ... (read in full...)
There's a lot of strain in my g/f's life and she doesn't want anything serious. Will I lose her if I back off?
Q. My "girlfriend" is getting out of a marriage that was extremely bad. Not physical, but a very self centered individual. Her divorce is in the critical stage b/c she and the to-be ex have a child. Anyway, her parents love me, and they keep saying t...
A. 16 May 2005: hi hun. To be honest you can date without taking things to the serious relationship level.She is just getting out of a bad relationship and has quite wisely admitted she doesn`t want to rush headfirst into another one.She simply needs to take time ... (read in full...)
Since he knows I have nowhere to go, my b/f uses that when he theatens me.
Q. I feel so alone and I don't know what to do. I live with my boyfriend and he owns the house. We just had an argument of sorts and he blames it all on me; it wasn't over anything serious. He gets angry pretty quick and can be quite threaten...
A. 14 May 2005: Hi hunny.I think in your heart of hearts you know what you have to do.You say he believes that you have nowhere else to go.There is always somewhere to go even if it is only round a mates back to your parents a womens refuge.I think if you proved ... (read in full...)
Does sex have to be performed naked? Will I look odd if I want to leave some clothes on?
Q. Hello, My question is about sex. As I am a virgin female aged 20, I am nervous about sex mainly because I don't want to be naked. I am not embarrassed but think it would be nicer to leave some clothes on or use a blanket to feel less exposed ...
A. 14 May 2005: Hi sweetheart.You simply have to do what you feel most comfortable with.One day you may want to strip down and get naked then again you may simply wish to use a sheet,blanket little top whatever feels right for you.Being a virgin just thinking ... (read in full...)
Should I give up on the girl who doesn't want a relationship right now?
Q. There is this girl that I like. She told me that right now she doesn't want a relationship. I told her, then I guess this is good bye and she said, why. Do you think she likes me or not? Should I give up on her?...
A. 14 May 2005: Hi there.Why give up just because she has said to you she isn`t ready for a relationship just now?At least she is being honest with you and she didn`t say no never did she.I think that you should respect her decission and her honesty and if you ... (read in full...)
My fiance was away for 4 months and I slept with his boss. Now I feel terrible!
Q. Hi, I am to be married in 1 week. I love my fiance very much, but while he was away on a trip to Brazil I felt quite alone as he was away for 4 months, and I slept with his boss. I feel soo terrible about what I have done and I even made a confessi...
A. 13 May 2005: Hi there, Some people would say make a clean breast of things before thinking of going through with the marriage because getting married with that on your concience will eventually have an effect on the marriage anyway. Others would tell you to keep ... (read in full...)
What can I do to show him that I like him...and how do I read his response?
Q. There's this guy that I really like. How can I drop quite obvious hints that I like him? And how do I know if he likes me? thank you confused and in love x...
A. 13 May 2005: Hi confused and in love. This is going to sound obvious but then again it is, so here goes. Try simply telling him how you feel because you could drop the biggest and most obvious hints around and some men just won`t get them. This way you also ... (read in full...)
My b/f says he loves me, but we never talk and he doesn't want to spend time with me...
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years,. Things were great at first, but now he hardly talks to me. I was supposed to move in with him about two months ago, but didn't. He says he loves me, but I'm not so sure. He goes out drinking with his frie...
A. 13 May 2005: Hi sweetheart. To start off no you are not the problem. This is an age old thing so many of us suffer from called Men. You have been together for 2 years so yes, it may have been great to start but every relationship in the universe goes off the ... (read in full...)
I can't seem to stop feeling sad and worthless, but I want to feel good and special...
Q. I am 32 year old woman from South Africa, and while searching Google I found your web-site. I am hoping that I can get some help from you as I have reached the end of my tether. I am an overweight woman, not obese, and not unattractive. I have...
A. 13 May 2005: hi there depressed - south africa.Like you i am a big girl not obese but large framed.I had the same way of thinking as you are having too until one day i decided that i was not going to keep being so tough on myself.I came to the realisation that ... (read in full...)
My ex broke my heart. What's the secret of keeping women interested?
Q. Is it true that women only want men who treat them cruel? I was devoted to my ex-girfriend and she just broke my heart. Have I got to become a right bastard to make sure women stay with me? "Treat 'em mean, keep 'em keen" sort of thing?...
A. 12 May 2005: Hi hun. No you don`t have to treat them mean to keep them keen unfortunately though some women out ther thrive on this whilst others are looking for the gentleness and romance. No one is the same; as I said, it is the type of person each of us as ... (read in full...)
Hate the thought of breaking his heart, and he really likes me... but I don't fancy him!
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a few weeks and he is really romantic and does lots of gestures and he is getting obsessed with me. I don't like this and want to finish it but he is way too nice to tell him! I can't tell him to his face...
A. 12 May 2005: Hiya hunny. I really hate to say this but sometimes we have to be cruel to be kind. You would be better of telling him how you really feel rather than stringing him along as he will really resent you for that because it will hurt him even more than ... (read in full...)
I've fallen hard for my online boyfriend, but he has one odd and annoying habit...
Q. I have been chatting to this guy on the net for 9 months now. I have fallen so hard for him and he has told me that he feels the same way. We get along so well most of the time, but he has this habit of going offline when we have an argument and ...
A. 12 May 2005: Hiya sweety. This is one person's opinion who can 100% understand where you are coming from. I met someone on the net nearly 6 years ago we started talking and after a couple of days exchanged phone numbers. About a week after the initial meeting ... (read in full...)
How do I get him to do nice, little things to help me, like I do for him?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 6 months and I do anything and everything I can for him, mostly the little stuff, like: a back rub or making him something to eat or getting him something to drink, just little stuff like that. But, how do I ...
A. 12 May 2005: Hi hunny. It sounds like he is so used to not having to try to make an effort to please you because you are giving him what he wants whenever he wants. Try to not do so much for him because even though they may seem like small things to you, those ... (read in full...)
His other girlfriend is pregnant with his baby. Now I want to know how to move on without him!
Q. I started seeing my boyfriend when I was 15. I'm now 18 and he's 22. We were always seeing each other on and off 4 the last 3 and half years that we've known each other. During that time he treated me terribly, kept going off with other women, has...
A. 12 May 2005: Hi sweety. It sounds to me like you are infatuated with this guy. You probably already know what`s coming next. You need to leave this on/off relationship in the past and move on to someone who will treat you properly and with the respect that you ... (read in full...)
I think I love my partner, but he's cheated and has other "issues". What do I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 25 years old. I feel so deeply sad inside but I'm in love with a fella I have kids with, who has slept with his ex girlfriend and didn't tell me about it for 4 half months. That was some years ago now. He told me it didn't go all the way,...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi sweety. You say that you are going to Relate, so that is a start but it sounds to me like he could also do with going to some anger management classes. If he is becoming physically violent now too. Either that or as much as you love him you need ... (read in full...)
My fiance wants to spend all his time at the pub and not with me!
Q. I'm getting married in four months time. I do want to get married and so does my fiance, but lately he hasn't made me feel needed. He seems more interested in going to the pub most times, even though he isn't an alcoholic. How do I tell him how ...
A. 10 May 2005: hi hunny. Sorry to say this, but he sounds like most men. Try having some nights out on your own with your mates. The more we nag, the more defiant men get. You have to try to use a little bit of reverse psychology on them. You tell a child they ... (read in full...)
My partner cheats when he travels and I'm ready to leave him...
Q. My partner of 3 years has been unfaithful at least six times since we have been together. These are the only times I have caught him; god only knows how many more there have been. He promised me so many times to change and seek help but hey I ca...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi there. You know what you need to do: just leave him. It`s not as if you haven`t given him the opportunity to change. You should just go and leave him to his sad and rather pathetic cheating ways. Hope this helps you. Good luck and take care.... (read in full...)
An ex has been texting my boyfriend... and it's affected my ability to trust him.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over three years. We have been living together for about 6 months and have a five month old son. I also have a 6yr old daughter from a previous relationship and recently my boyfriend's ex, who is married to ...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi there. I think you already know the answer. She is his ex as in past and there is the answer. It sounds like you have a touch of the green eyed monster and you need to deal with it and stop letting it get at you so much. You have been together... (read in full...)
Too lazy to move during sex. I wonder if I'll ever have an orgasm again...
Q. Ever since I have been sexually active, there has only ever been one guy that has brought me to climax. Before him I never knew the meaning of the word. Now we have broken up and have a new boyfriend, he suggests I should go to the gym to get fit ...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi hunny. You certainly don`t need comments like that as they will do nothing for your confidence. In order to act like a sex goddess, you need to see yourself as a sex goddess. You don`t need to swing from the chandelier to move during intercourse. ... (read in full...)
I've lost confidence in the bedroom, and I want to get it back!
Q. I have lost all my confidence in the bedroom. I'm currently seeing a guy and we've had good sex and I'm pretty sure he enjoyed it. The problem is he came to stay with me this weekend and I totally clammed up. I found it almost impossible to relax ...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi sweety. You just need to start thinking sexy and you should start to relax. Put it this way, I am not exactly a perfect size 10 (I wish) and for years I was so nervous I couldn`t put the feeling into sex. Then I started to think I may not be a ... (read in full...)
She broke it off, saying she wanted to sort things out, then accused me of going with someone else...
Q. I posted a question here the other day but things have changed a bit since. Im 20 and my gf is 17, we've been together for just under to years now (our anniversary would have been next month) and I'm her 1st love and proper boyfriend. When she was ...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi there sweety. She sounds like she really needs to sort her feelings out. id she ever go for counselling after the rape or did she just try to forget it ever happened? If she did go to see someone then perhaps she could do with going back to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to come, but then he just goes "numb"...
Q. I can't seem to get my b/f off. I have tried everything from having him show me what he likes to having him do it himself for me to watch and learn. I don't know how to work it. He has told me that he is ready for it but then he has to do it himse...
A. 10 May 2005: Hi hunny.Some men do tend to suffer from this problem.Sometimes my partner can go for ages and feel like he is just about to cum but then nothing.If it is causing problems for you both perhaps he could try seeing a doctor to see if there may be a ... (read in full...)
He reaches orgasm so soon that I don't even get to participate!
Q. My boyfriend seems to always cum very quickly and even orgasms from just playing with me. How can I slow his orgasm rate down long enough for me to enjoy the sex too? What sort of tricks are out there?...
A. 9 May 2005: Hi sweety.There are a lot of guys out there with the same problem.Sometimes it is a simple case of getting overly aroused so he could try stopping what hes doing,thinking of something else entirely or there is always the old faithful masturbation ... (read in full...)
I couldn't stand it if my gf's ex made a move on her, but she won't allow me to defend her, either!
Q. I'll make this as short as I can, because I really need help on this. I'm 20 years old, two years out of high school, and so is my gf. Our school is already having a reunion for all alumni (I know, it's stupid). I have no interest in going, but ...
A. 9 May 2005: Hi there.The best relationships are ones based on trust and friendship.If she has chosen to be with you then you should respect her for that.If you try to defend her then how is she going to learn from her mistakes.She needs you to trust her to make ... (read in full...)
I just want some time together and alone by ourselves. Am I unreasonable?
Q. My boyfriend is the best person I've been with - when he's around (he's at uni) and we're together, he's lovely and I'm so happy. However, at the moment, I'm getting increasingly upset because I've noticed we don't actually do much together. When ...
A. 9 May 2005: Hi hunny.You really need to let him know exactly how you are feeling.You don`t need to be nasty just honest with him.Unfortunately not a lot of men are very good at reading between the lines.All you are really asking for at the end of the day is to ... (read in full...)
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