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He isn't excited to see me anymore! What should I do?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a few months. We are currently living 280 miles apart and he isn't as excited to see me when I come to visit (I only get to visit once a month) it seems that our spark is starting to fade I want ...

A.   4 January 2009: Geez, I was in the same exact situation a few months back. He ended up breaking up with me. I tried talking to him, but he said everything was fine... guess he lied. Just try to be yourself and try to be all bubbly like you were once with him. I ... (read in full...)

How do I find out how she feels?

Q.   Hi Readers. This is not my first time to ask for advice on dearcupid, but the last time I didn't really get any advice that helped me and my problem... Basically, I'm a woman in my early 20's and am, and have been in love with another female...

A.   11 October 2008: I know this is hard, I was in the same situation with this girl I used to work with. Just go and tell her. I am glad I got over it, I really liked her, I loved the girl and I wanted to be with her. I went for it and talked to her about how I really ... (read in full...)

How much do looks matter to guys?

Q.   Do they care a lot about how you look? I know they matter at least some, but what if you have a lot of acne? Would not looking super-pretty or having acne (even if you were otherwise pretty) prevent guys from approaching you or asking you out?...

A.   11 October 2008: well some do care a lot, some don't. I know my ex wouldn't care, he wasn't shallow. Try to take care of your acne, don't touch your face with dirty hands, eat healthy, use facial products, and you will see your face will be better in a few weeks. ... (read in full...)

My soul mate is pregnant! What now?

Q.   first of all hello there my name is Niko im 17 years old and so is my girlfriend, we have been dating for more than 8 months... i know that she is my soulmate... i knwo that i will marry her.. im sure u will say u cant find a sopulmata at 17 years ...

A.   11 October 2008: I don't think you are a jerk, but maybe you aren't feeling well because you have come to realize that you guys aren't really ready and mature enough to have a baby. That is what happens when you are irresponsable and don't take the precautions ... (read in full...)

By the time I realized what was happening, I had fallen in love! Will she leave him?

Q.   Please someone help me, I don’t know what to do. I was married for 14 years with 2 beautiful girls and I had everything. I thought I had it all.... I worked with this woman who was a really good person and we just clicked, we had so much in commo...

A.   11 October 2008: Many women rather stay with their husbands for their kids sake. If she has left several times and always comes back to him, doesn't that tell you something? You did wrong by falling in love with a married woman to begin with, you were married too... ... (read in full...)

Does it matter if we don't talk every day?

Q.   I am 27 and have been dating a guy who is 24 for the past 2 months. Everything has been going really well and he said he really likes me. The thing is we don't talk everyday, should that matter? we probably speak 5-6 days out of 7 and we hang out ...

A.   11 October 2008: I think you are still good, I mean you guys are still talking. ... (read in full...)

He won't take his boxers off!

Q.   My boyfriend and me had sex but for some reason he kept his boxers on. When I tried to pull them down he would jerk away. When I ask him why. He said. Bf: My `thingy`` is too small. me: oh it cant that small Bf: yeah it is nutmeg (thats my nick...

A.   11 October 2008: My boyfriend was shy about him being naked around me, but I tried to be patient and it did work. Just apologize to him and put yourself in his position. If you were shy about lets say your boobs and you didn't want him to play with them, how would ... (read in full...)

I found pictures of my boyfriend and his ex on his phone... can I believe nothing has happened?

Q.   Hiya, i found pictures of my boyfriend and his ex gf on his phone and messages from her. he has a son to her so i understand they need contact with eachother. he says nothing has happened between them but i dont know what to believe, can you help ...

A.   18 June 2008: I would be very angry if my boyfriend had pictures of him and his ex on his cellphone. I would be ok if he had pictures of his child, but not his ex. Maybe you should talk to him and ask him why is it that he has pictures of his ex. Tell him that ... (read in full...)

How do I let my mum know I want to see a counsellor?

Q.   I havn't really got much goin' for me right now and i havn't come on here for sympathy like a tragic teenager BLAHBLAHBLAA. I know every teenager seems to be "depressed" atm, so its hard to tell whether it's genuine or not, but i really feel as t...

A.   15 May 2008: Well if she knows about your self-injury problem it would be easier just to tell her you think you need professional help on your current situation. Just go and tell her "mom I think it would be a good idea if I could talk to a professional about my ... (read in full...)

I asked if she wanted me to go to Spain with her. She hasn't replied. Was it too much?

Q.   Ok i met this girl in march that i really like, im 33 and she is 26. She is a really nice girl, kind, considerate, caring, and is into the same sort of things i like. We have been out on 3 dates, the first two were just a drink, and the third was ...

A.   15 May 2008: Well probably she wanted to go by herself because she needs that alone time that we all need at some point in our lives. She will be back! Just wish her good luck, I bet if she wanted you to go she would've said something about it already or she ... (read in full...)

What can you do if you like someone but they don't like you back?

Q.   well am really confused what would you do if you liked someone (a boy) but they didnt like you back...

A.   15 May 2008: You can't do anything about it. I am in love with my best guy friend but he doesn't feel the same way. I did talk to him about it, it broke my heart. So the only option we have is to go on with our lives and things will get better as time passes. ... (read in full...)

I really like a boy a little older than me. I need some advice.

Q.   i really like a guy in the year above he's EXTEMELY hot and i mean ohmygod but i have no idea how to get him, i am soo inexperienced... my friend told me to forget about him, but i don't want to at all, he is a really nice person and i don'...

A.   15 May 2008: Well just befriend him, hang out with him and things will take its course, whether or not he wants to be with you... you can't pressure someone into dating you if they don't like you back and you wouldn't know if you guys aren't friends.... (read in full...)

Should you lie about the best sex you've ever had?

Q.   What if your husband/wife/gf/bf asks about the best sex you've ever had and it wasnt with them? Should you lie? Tell the truth? Change the subject? Does gender or marital status matter in this situation?...

A.   15 May 2008: Well I have never had sex, but I think it would depend on your partner. If your partner is very emotional and closed minded, then I wouldn't tell them it was with someone else. If they are more open minded and more understanding I guess I could say ... (read in full...)

Does he really want me back?

Q.   I was with my ex for 15 years. In the first year of our breakup he wanted me back. Maybe it was because he had seen I had got on with my life and I had a boyfriend. After pressure from him to get back with me, he agreed to have counseling. It...

A.   15 May 2008: I think he doesn't know what he wants. Just try to get over him and go on with your life. It is hard I know since you have to see him from time to time because of your situation, but just try to see him as a friend who you had a relationship that ... (read in full...)

Is he serious about a relationship, or should I just enjoy the sex?

Q.   I had a fling with a cool guy about 6 years ago. We were never bf/gf but we really liked eachother and enjoyed hangin out. (Sex, Sex and more SEX) I returned home and we text the next few days. He hasn't called on the phone and has only left me...

A.   15 May 2008: Well, you know, guys don't need to call us 24/7... Two days isn't that bad, now if it were a week and then he sends you a text, that is a different story. I don't think he is playing you. You guys never had a relationship to start with anyways, you ... (read in full...)

He makes fun of me and my mates don't like him. I do like him, but I'm not sure what I should do.

Q.   theres this lad i really like loads and i think he likes me too but im not sure cos he always takes the mick out of me but it is in a fun way. also all my mates dont like him. what should i do?...

A.   15 May 2008: Well, I think you should decide what you really want. Do you really like him? Are you willing to be teased by him most of the time? Are you willing to sacrifice your friends for the guy? You are the only one who can decide what to do. In my opinion ... (read in full...)

I met a guy on a dating site. I'm nervous. Am I being paranoid?

Q.   Dear Aunts and Uncles, I am looking for some advice. My partner left me 3 months ago when I was ill and although I have my own friends, i joined an internet friendship and dating site for company and interaction but for friendship only. Howe...

A.   6 May 2008: Well, I suppose I could say I was in your shoes a few years back (2 to be exact). I met this guy online, he lived a state away from me.. we talked, we e-mailed, we texted eachother and we decided that we really liked one another. We set up a time ... (read in full...)

I feel as though he's having second thoughts about us, is he giving this guy a chance to be with him and pushing me away?

Q.   I am gay and in a relationship with someone that i love and care for so much. We have been together for a year. He was married once before to a woman but divorced after she found out that he was sleeping with a guy friend of his. Iam currently livi...

A.   6 May 2008: That is a very difficult situation you are in, if you feel that way(being pushed and not loved) and you have tried to talk to him about it, why waste your time? Just go on and look for another guy who really respects you and at least tells you the ... (read in full...)

I didn't have sex and now he ignores me.

Q.   I had a go with a boy in my course but did't have sex as I told him I only have it on a relationship basis and would prefer to know him better and so on, he told me to phone him and we agreed to date a week later but to muy surprise he look the ...

A.   5 May 2008: That has happened to me too. I had this good friendship(that is what I thought) with this guy at school, he was amazingly friendly and treated me like his girlfriend, everyone thought we were dating even though we weren't. Anyways, he started to ask ... (read in full...)

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