Does becoming FWB destroy the chances of becoming something more?
Q. I have become fwb with an old flame who i have liked for a long time, problem is i want more but dare not say anything! we have only been together twice but he stopped all night and cuddled me, stroked my hair held my hand and kissed my forehead ...
A. 6 July 2010: I would say no, Im afriad.
But I think youd be better off telling him how you feel. I mean what are you doing there, its just going to hurt you in the end isnt it... (read in full...)
Do "fat girls" ever get a chance?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am 28 years old and been single my entire life. The only excuse that I have is that I am the "fat girl." I have tons of friends I work in a environment where I have to be outgoing and am. I go out almost every weekend. The guy...
A. 6 July 2010: Do you want the truth?
Yes there are plenty of guys out there for you. But the old myth that they will come to you is nonsense.
When you go out, do you go to the same places and with the same people? Or are you meeting new people?
Ill let ... (read in full...)
Feel so lonely and broken hearted
Q. I just wondered if anyone has any advice for feeling lonely. I'm a 32 single female and it does not help that I am new to the city, and also very shy. I don't know anyone here and am an introvert so I find it really hard just to go up to people and ...
A. 23 May 2010: Its simple, try something new. Also get out of the house, I make sure that I'm out for atlest 4 hours a day (not including work)
Join a club and slowly get to know the people in said club. There are your new friends. Don't stop there though, ... (read in full...)
Is my ex boyfriend in a rebound relationship?
Q. My ex and i broke up. a month later he was dating a girl. 2 months into their relationship he cheated on her with me said he wanted to get back with me that type of stuff. then a couple days later he said he was "happy" and "knows" he wants to be ...
A. 23 May 2010: What on earth are you doing? Why are you talking to him like this?
He is trying to make you his bit on the side, nothing more.
Don't kid yourself, if your relationship was special then it wouldn't have ended, people don't just need a break...t... (read in full...)
Cheating - general consensus, variety of questions
Q. I have a few general questions on cheating that I'd like to get feedback on... If your spouse cheated on you, would you stay with them? Would you leave? If you had children with them and they cheated, would you stay with them? Would you fo...
A. 23 May 2010: I take cheating as the person telling you that they don't want to commit to you.
There are thousands of reasons people do it, but at the end the truth is that they aren't happy with just you....so why stay with them?... (read in full...)
I am attracted to two men, what am I supposed to do?!
Q. I'm a 25 year old female in an open relationship with a man ten years older than me. We've been together for nearly 6 years, but I recently took a chance and met one of my male friends from the past for the first time. This has led to some new ...
A. 23 May 2010: Well, my first impression is that you seem to want you current relationship to end. It does seem that is is winding up huh.
the only issue I have is in regards to Joe being in a relationship. He could just make you his bit on the side and thus jus... (read in full...)
Are men attracted to overweight women?
Q. hey aunties and uncles. I'm going to be direct with this question because I've always wanted to know. is being overweight a real turn off for boys and do they get attracted to overweight girls? I myself am not overweight or anything but I am curious ...
A. 23 May 2010: Just as you will find that different women will like different things in men, so it is the same in reverse.
Men's idea of overweight is actually quite obese. We like curves and don't mind women to be quite a bit fatter than you think. 60 - 80kgs ... (read in full...)
Problems with condoms?
Q. in my past, present, and probably future relationships i have never liked using a condom. i dont know if its just me, the brand, or what. i think that smell like plastic, ranted they are, but still not a turn on. they inhibit my..pleasure. to ...
A. 17 May 2010: I know exactly what you mean, I just hate condoms...takes all the feeling away and they feel gross.
You need to experiment with different ones, there are extra thin ones that you could try that should make a difference... (read in full...)
I can't leave husband but can't stand for him to touch me
Q. U don't even know where to begin. Me and my husband hardly agree on anything. We have 3 daughters together and I have 2 boys from from before him. He treats my sons so differently than our girls. They are both great kids. They are both honor roll ...
A. 16 May 2010: You could visit your family...thats what women did before divorce. Just visit your family without him and never return. Easy as that really, but the hard part will be getting your life back on track. I do hope you have someone you can fall back on... (read in full...)
B/f makes me feel unimportant in his life
Q. Hi, please give me some advice. Iv been with boyfriend about a year, and I have to say in our relationship I'm the romantic one, but Iv come to accept that he doesn't show his love through small gestures. I'm always sending him little texts, or...
A. 15 May 2010: Why are you still with him?
You do realise that there are loads of guys in this world who will message you and make you feel special? What are you doing with him?... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be aroused by the thought of other men when you're in love
Q. I've been in a relationship with my man for nearly 7 years now and we are due to get married in another year. I love him a lot and we have great sex. But for most of our relationship I have found myself repeatedly tempted by other men. I have nev...
A. 15 May 2010: Its normal, just enjoy it. Fantasies are great, but only if they stay fantasies.
Everyone looks at who they find attractive from time to time. I mess around with most of the girls I work with. Its all just a laugh.
Just make sure you don't a... (read in full...)
Got too drunk and don't know how to apologise
Q. help. I'm feeling so crap about myself, i got way to drunk last night. all i had was 3 drinks of vodka and my tolerance is normally way higher. i dont remeber anything but i had gone and insulted both my friends who i also live with telling one...
A. 15 May 2010: The sooner you speak to your friends about it the better. By waiting you are allowing it to fester and soon you will be estranged from them.
This is how good friendships end you know. Just face up and take the yelling you know is coming and then... (read in full...)
Why did my crush act like this?
Q. Yesterday evening I was over at my crushes house to hang out with her brother. I finally got the nerve to make a move by giving her a what I like to call a "promise to date" ring. Anyway, the way I was going to go about giving it to her was to fi...
A. 15 May 2010: You have gone about this whole thing all wrong from the start.
Why dont you simply tell her that you like her and ask if she would like to hang out sometime. Subtility isnt usually the best policy... (read in full...)
Didn't wash my hands after oral sex--am I pregnant?
Q. I was giving my boyfriend oral, and i swallowed his precum, i think maybe afterward a little bit leaked on my hand. I really had to go pee, so I did. I didnt wash my hands, and grabbed the toilet paper. I didnt touch my vagina at all, but i touched ...
A. 15 May 2010: When Sperm is exposed to an oxygen environment it dies.
You are fine... (read in full...)
Creepy teacher!
Q. Ok, i'm not gonna sugercoat this. I think my tutor is a pervert and his actions are starting to make me feel uncomfortable. I am by nature a flirty person, but it's not always in a sexual way, just giving people an ego boost if they look like they ...
A. 9 May 2010: I think this issue has a very easy solution.
Simply undo what has been done, stop taking advantage of his privaleges and absolutely no flurting with him, try not to around him either.
When you talk to him use a serous tone and he will get the ... (read in full...)
He broke up but then acts all weird when seeing me
Q. i was with a much older man (33 years) and he sent me a message ending it (were together for 6 months). he said he couldnt see me to do it as if he did he want to get back with me......like why would you send someone a email saying it??! how unfa...
A. 9 May 2010: He is full of it, plain and simple.
I guess its up to you how much of your personal time you waste on him, but rest assured that a relationship with him will go nowhere.
He wouldn't break up with you if he wanted to be with you. So please s... (read in full...)
Can it be possible to be pregnant even though I am on the pill?
Q. I am 22, I need help. I am on pills and me and my Bf make love almost everyday. My periods finished on sunday. Since then i have been sick. I can smell food at all. I throw out evrything i eat. I am scared i might be pregnant. can that be possible. ...
A. 5 May 2010: Yes its possible, my daughter was concieved on the pill... (read in full...)
Sensitive new age guy vs Cocky and Arrogant
Q. Do women like men who are a bit cocky and arrogant? Or do they prefer snesitive new age guys? Some women, I've heard, like men who exude confidence. Is this a dumb question? Help me out here. I want to get women on side, so they stop pulling faces ...
A. 3 May 2010: I'll tell you three things to do and if you follow through, you will get a gf.
1. Be patient, get to know a couple of girls as just friends first.
2. Think about how they feel around you and how you can make them more comfortable. Try to smile... (read in full...)
Is it rude for two people to have sex while you're in the room?
Q. Does anybody else think it rude for two friends to have sex whilst your in the room! It made me uncomfortable, but, I perhaps I'm taking life too seriously or something. How would other people react? Btw it was a group if us sleeping at a mate...
A. 25 April 2010: A further thought, if you do stay there again, bring a cam corder. That way you can make some money... (read in full...)
Is it rude for two people to have sex while you're in the room?
Q. Does anybody else think it rude for two friends to have sex whilst your in the room! It made me uncomfortable, but, I perhaps I'm taking life too seriously or something. How would other people react? Btw it was a group if us sleeping at a mate...
A. 25 April 2010: It is odd. A couple of friends of myne used to dry hump alot in front of me but I just thought that was funny as they looked so rediculous.
I wonder if you should have raised a score card lol...5 or 6 out of 10?... (read in full...)
Should I un-friend my ex-girlfriend on Facebook?
Q. I broke up with my ex-girlfriend about three days ago, and I am now just starting the very hard, heart-breaking and emotional healing process. Every time I log on to the computer, I have the urge to check her Facebook page, to see how she's doing ...
A. 25 April 2010: My advice is yes, remove her. You need a clean break to properly start the grieving process.
You arnt getting over her are you, as you have said you always look at her status. So you will just keep hurting yourself until you make the break.... (read in full...)
Was my husband having lustful thoughts?
Q. myself and my husband we had been out for a picnic with a group of friends and their was a female who had worn revealing clothes my husband would look at her in breaks as we were together all the time eating and drinking does this show he was ...
A. 24 April 2010: the second one, dont worry bout it... (read in full...)
What are lustful thoughts?
Q. what are lustfull thoughts..?...
A. 24 April 2010: anything involving a tree and privacy... (read in full...)
Why does my ex girlfriend keep contacting me?
Q. Hi - can anyone help? A year ago my girlfriend ended our relationship after 2 years. I was certain that she was meeting someone else but could never prove it - she says that she wasnt - but a couple of days later I spoke to her and she said to ...
A. 24 April 2010: You arnt a bad person for wanting to get on with your life. You need to make it clear though that she isnt to message you again. Once I had to yell down the phone "STOP F**** CALLING ME!" at an ex that just wouldnt stop. So I would delete her an... (read in full...)
I just had a horrible "first time", or what should have been. I'm too hurt to move on, what do I do?
Q. "Wow, hun...You're so much smaller than my ex...I'm sorry." That's what she told me when we were just about to...yeah Then she got up, apologized, and left quietly. I felt so terrible after, I actually cried lol. We don't see each other anymore. ...
A. 24 April 2010: I wish I could say something that would make you feel better. But this will be ok in time. You are just unlucky... Did she know it was your first time? YOur fine down there and plenty of women will be digging their nails into your back screaming i... (read in full...)
Is it ok to go out with a 12 year old when I'm 16?
Q. Is it ok to go out with a 12 year old girl when im 16. No its not about sex thats completely retarded at this age. She admitted she liked after her mom told me....
A. 24 April 2010: Up to you really, but id advise against it. No one your age there?... (read in full...)
I know he's going to ask me out but I still love a guy who ignores me!
Q. so basically this guy in my class start to talk to me an were pretty good friends now an he has a crush on me an we kissed, i know hes going to ask me out next time we chill an i want to say yes but i still love this other guy who lives 2 hours away ...
A. 24 April 2010: Guys ignore girls for a reason, we want you to leave us alone... Simple as that. You only want him because he doesnt want you. Stop being silly, its a waiste of your life. Guy number 2 is the right option... (read in full...)
Can you REALLY forgive someone after they cheat?
Q. Is it ever possible to have someone cheat in a relationship, and then really forgive someone? If you really forgive that person in your heart, can you still live happily ever after?...
A. 24 April 2010: Well my personal answer is no. Cheating = end of relationship as far as I'm concerned. But that is me, If you do feel that it was a mistake and wont be repeated then yes you could move past it, BUt you would have to want that ... (read in full...)
I dreamt I had a penis and had sex with a woman! Why does this all mean?
Q. This is a really personal dream. I mean – I feel weird about being open about this but I really want to know what it meant… Before I begin, anyone reading this should understand that I’m female in real life. I’m heterosexual. And yes, I've had a ...
A. 24 April 2010: I have a different interpretation: After thinking for a bit, I figure that you are perhaps unhappy with said husbands performance in bed and thus you dreamed that you can do a better job. Do you remember what the women looked like? did she l... (read in full...)
Do women enjoy sex as much as men?
Q. I an always wondering cause ladies have different answers.. Do ladies love sex as much as men if not more?...
A. 24 April 2010: We really have one orgasm and they can have multiple ones...nuf said... (read in full...)
Slept with him and now don't hear from him
Q. i slept with this guy for first time and he said he liked it now he wont return my texts at all why...
A. 22 April 2010: There isnt anything you can really do sadly. Just chalk it upto experence... (read in full...)
My parents won't accept my boyfriend because he is only 2 years younger than they are!
Q. Hi I am 24 years old, my boyfriend is 40. I have 2 boys, and their dads aren't reslly around. I'm not trying to replace their dads i just want a male figure in their lifes. I have dated guys my own age and the don't want the same ehings as me. I've ...
A. 21 April 2010: You havn't said whether you love him?
If you do then your parents will get used to him and then Im sure they will get along fine... (read in full...)
Is eight guys too many?
Q. this is kind of stupid to ask but i just want to know people's opinion (go easy please :P) i am 18 and over the last 2 years i have had sex with 8 guys. is that too many? does that make me a slut? only 3 of the guys was i in any sort of relationship ...
A. 21 April 2010: No its fine. How many guys did you think youd date life time?
I thought id never cross the 10 gf mark.........
You will have many relationships in your life, just make sure to apreciate the good ones and to get out of the bad ones before they... (read in full...)
Should I 'come out' to my family?
Q. (Mod note: Two questions combined from this OP Hi I am Robbie. I'm Gay. My family have been noticing me being awkward and I've been saying nothings wrong when in Fact there is. Over the Easter I admitted to myself that I'm Gay and I've been sort of ...
A. 18 April 2010: Hmm im not gay myself, so my opinion might not be a good one.
But if I was, I think id put off telling my family until I was an adult. As a teen Im not sure what support is available but as an adult there are bars and clubs you can go to to meet ... (read in full...)
Lovers then best friends, but suddenly he doesn't care
Q. So I bumped into my ex-bf last week and am struggling to understand his attitude - he acts like he doesn't care at all about my life, but when we broke up, he said I'd always mean the world to him, so now I'm confused! We were together 9 years. ...
A. 18 April 2010: Why are you doing this to yourself? You have to let go.
By clinging to a long dead relationship you are only letting him hurt you more. You were together along time and if you were ment to be then you would still be together. You should accept t... (read in full...)
Confused, am I a freak?
Q. i am a 39 year old male who's wife passed away 9 years ago i have not been with another person since.Here is my confusion and question about four months ago i met this great looking girl at a bar she was nice and smart and everything well i went ...
A. 16 April 2010: You realise you had sex with a man.... Truth is we are all bisexual really. So its not that big of a deal.
I guess its upto you to decide if this is the lifestyle you want, but no your not wierd ok... (read in full...)
I told her I possibly gave her HIV, but it turned out I didn't have it.
Q. Please i need your advice,i wrote last week concerning my girl friend whom i said;said i gave her hiv,but i tasted negativ.It been 2 month 2day since we saw last,initially she was not in town,but came back 3 days ago,that anxiety of seeing me ...
A. 15 April 2010: You already are broken up. Thats why she isnt seeing you. Have you told her that you dont have HIV? Might make a difference... (read in full...)
Why do guys take so long to call you back?
Q. why do guys take so long to call back? If they don't call after 3 days dose that mean they lost interest?...
A. 15 April 2010: I know lol. I dont get it either They are trying not to look to eager, silly huh... (read in full...)
Since he hasn't asked the question, should I?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two years we live together and have a mortgage and everything is lovely but my problem is that I really want to get engaged and get married. I have started to discuss it a few times and he gives the impression t...
A. 15 April 2010: Guys are funny. We have this notion that we should own a house, a car and have lots of money before we can marry. Its just how we are. If you do want to marry then I think you need to feel him out better on it. Because he may not want that just y... (read in full...)
Why do I keep cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I keep cheating on my boyfriend. It's as simple as that. I feel like crap, it's happened twice and i've told him twice. The real problem is that I keep flirting and looking for more outside attention. Me and him don't spend very much time together ...
A. 15 April 2010: Firstly you need to make some friends, non sexual relationships are very important and you need both to be happy.
Secondly if you are cheating on him quite alot perhaps you don't really want to be with him, so do him a favour and end it.
A... (read in full...)
Am I the bad guy for not wanting these people as guests?
Q. Hello. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years and living together for almost one year. Today she asked me if it is OK for her son and her X brother n law to come stay the weekend with us. I was totally shocked she aske...
A. 15 April 2010: You should let her son stay, but I can understand why you wouldn't want the ex brother there.
I would however given him 1 chance (and only 1 chance) and if he was nice then that's fine but if hes a ^&%$ in anyway throw him on the street. ... (read in full...)
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