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Penis size insecurities......

Q.   OK, so we've seen the barrage of penis size questions. Got me so curious I decided to actually measure mine. What I encountered was that it may be impossible to get an accurate measurement because there are probably 13 ways to measure it. I know ...

A.   30 April 2011: I noticed that the only (one) gf who criticised my size was cheating on me with three other guys. Women want to be with you, sex is a bonus. Stop worrying about it.... (read in full...)

Why do so many marriage end in divorce? what can I do to ensure my marriage is as solid as my parents?

Q.   Hi all, First off let me say that I'm coming at this from a teenage perspective and as such an outsiders perspective. As you may know the divorce rate in the USA is around 50per cent for first marriages. Though my own parents are not divorced (Ma...

A.   30 April 2011: My grandparents divorced. But they then remarried and stayed married for the rest of their lives. The horrible truth is that we are selfish and we focus to much on sex. Thus we go into marridge with unrealistic expectations. Divorce mostly ... (read in full...)

Should I go see a prostitute?

Q.   Recently while i was overseas I had sex (twice) with a prostitute, in an adult venue. She had the looks, body and personality of a porn star. It as the best sex I ever had (and the most expensive!) As I am single and having to 'pay for sex' is...

A.   20 April 2011: The real question here is why dont you want a gf?... (read in full...)

Guys- if you're in a good relationship, do you still watch porn?

Q.   So about a month ago I found out my boyfriend was watching porn. Mainly on the days when we don't have sex. We've been living together for about two years and I've always been the sexually frustrated one bc I have a super high libido. I usually have ...

A.   16 April 2011: My first gf owned a porn video, we would put it on and watch it together. To be honest.....it depends on who I am with, I like to have sex every day. Not too many girls are willing to do that (usually once a week), so on the off days I use porn... (read in full...)

Will my strange body movements during an orgasm turn off a guy?

Q.   This is kind of an embarrassing question for me. I haven't had sex in my relationships yet, but when I'm on my own (meaning masturbating) I feel that when I orgasm I squirm too much up until when I arch my back becoming stiff, and my lower body ...

A.   9 April 2011: If you now give you name and address, you will notice a line outside your front door, around the block of guys wanting to date you. Serously this is every guys dream for sex. Do you think we just want you to lay there, look up and say "about done?... (read in full...)

One ourtcome of casual sex may be incest

Q.   This is an interesting point I've been thinking about for a while and am curious to see what anyone else has to say. It seems like more and more it is becoming socially acceptable to have children outside of marriage, even to have multiple childre...

A.   9 April 2011: Where is it acceptable social behavour to have children before marrige? And to have multiple children to different people? It isnt, Just because we arnt throwing tomartos at single mothers doesnt mean we approve. The lady living next door with h... (read in full...)

If a girl touches a guy, does it mean she likes him? I'm not sure if this girl likes me or not.

Q.   Last year we had a uni meeting at a beach and it had been drizzling. I was cold and didn't expect the weather to be that bad, so I had only worn a t shirt and shorts. While we were walking in a group a girl who hangs around me sometimes threw her ...

A.   25 February 2011: Just seems like shes messing around really. You could try asking her out....... ... (read in full...)

We broke up and now have a FWB relationship. I don't get much sex, and I feel used! Should I end it?

Q.   So my girlfriend and I broke up a few months back, but kept a FWB relationship till one of us meet someone else. The only problem is that we actually have only had sex once or twice, yet every night she comes to my room, eats my food, watches my ...

A.   25 February 2011: Ofcourse you should, how much longer is this going to go on for? I had a gf like this once, You have to be firm and make sure she understands that you want her to leave so you can get on with your life. Lets face it, while she is there you are ... (read in full...)

How the hell are people able to break up and not get devastated??

Q.   OK so it has been a week since this girl I was in a relationship and I stopped speaking. I initiated it because she was lying and hurting me and we talked about it for weeks before and I know it was the best thing. BUT...it is killing me!!! It...

A.   22 February 2011: Theres no way to just get over it. It will hurt for along time. But one day you just wont think about it as much and then you will be fine. Im sorry to tell you after my 8th relationship, it hurts just the same as it did the first time......... (read in full...)

Facebook Ruined My Life

Q.   Is it just me or is Facebook a total head-wreck? Personally, I see it as one big popularity contest. I mean it is so pointless. Why not go out and meet your friends for real, instead of giving yourself a headache trying to think of the 'coolest' ...

A.   21 February 2011: Ummmm......I use facebook to keep intouch with my family who live in Ireland, USA and New Zealand (I live in Australia). Couldnt care less how many friends I have on there. Ive noticed alot of friend requests from very strange people who Ive n... (read in full...)

Why don't any girls want me?

Q.   Okay, I realise this is a difficult sort of question to answer so I will tell you all the basics about me: I am 17 years old and have never had a girlfriend. This isn't exactly through choice, girls just aren't interested in me. I'm a quiet ki...

A.   21 February 2011: Im very simular to you, except I have a goofy sense of humour. Didnt have a single girl in school and was very lonely. Wondered if id ever get one. All types of girls will like you, if your a good guy, they will go for you. Perhaps you can ... (read in full...)

She just wants to be friends and I want more. It is driving me crazy! Should I leave her?

Q.   Hi Agony Aunts, i am wondering if you can pls. help me with a problem that is driving me crazy. I have a friend whom i am feeling very close to. she just wants to be friends. but the closer i get to her the more i feel i am falling in love with her...

A.   21 February 2011: I'll keep it simple, you have two options really: 1. Stay, keep being rejected. Watch her get married from the backrow and spend the rest of your life alone and unhappy. This path has the added bonus of meeting women who are great for you and reje... (read in full...)

10 Things Guys really want in a woman...

Q.   I received a message from a friend on my Facebook fan page and she had an idea for a post for my blog. She inquired if I could write about what men want in a woman. I thought that this might be interesting as well, so I responded to her message and ...

A.   19 February 2011: Im late in answering, but what the heck :) What men need in a women is pretty much the same as what women need. The best example I can think of is the movie "fun with dick and jane". The Jim Carey one, not the crappy George segal one. Wh... (read in full...)

I told my boyfriend I don't really enjoy sex, and he's taken it personally, as if he was bad in bed! What do I do now?

Q.   Hey all. So I'm 17 and I'm sexually active (about 7 months now). And honestly, I'm not a fan. My boyfriend is the only person I've ever had sex with. (We've been together since we were 15.) To be honest, sex was never really and interest of mine...

A.   19 February 2011: The number one thing a woman can say to turn off a guy is "I don't like sex". I'll tell you, my first girlfriend wasn't a virgin and she knew what she liked in bed. I still respect her for that far more than any other girl I met. I'll be ... (read in full...)

Guy I'm seeing doesn't know who he is or what he wants., and I don't know how to deal with it.

Q.   I've been in a complicated relationship with a guy. We met 3 1/2 years ago. It's been crazy and unhealthy, but I could use some help to figure this guy out. Firstly, we met and he was with someone else. I knew that. They were having a bunch of ...

A.   19 February 2011: It's easy really. Say goodbye and move on. Serously, how much BS are you going to put up with before you realise it just isnt going to happen. This is the classic mistake everyone makes, your trying to force something that doesnt exist. So ... (read in full...)

What do I say on a date?

Q.   I'm going on a date. I don't know what I'm going to say. My dad says I should just say, "Tell me something about you," but I still don't know what I'm going to say. I actually never went on a date. Help! ...

A.   19 February 2011: Try this: 1. Hi 2. I like..... what do you like? 3. My friends are ..... 4. My family are...... Stop worrying about it, dates are supposed to be fun. ... (read in full...)

There's now an unspoken tension between us. How can we move forward from here?

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for nearly a year and a half. We live together. We haven't had sex in over 8 months. The sexual relationship never seemed quite right to me, her body language always made it seem like it wasn't something she wanted to ...

A.   19 February 2011: It seems you are giving up. Dont, if your relationship is going to work, your going to have to discuss this. You know there are some people who just aren't sexual. Frankly, we place far too much importance on it anyway. How is the rest of yo... (read in full...)

If your girlfriend had only a single 2 minutes' sexual encounter before you were in her life,would you let that effect you?

Q.   If you were a virgin before your gf and you knew that your gf only engaged in sex for a minute or two and realized it was wrong and stopped. And that was her only sexual encounter before you,would you let that effect you? I love my girlfriend but I ...

A.   31 December 2010: Dude, its nothing, stop thinking about it. Honestly it isnt your business, you didnt even know her then.... (read in full...)

Almost married a compulsive liar in 2 weeks

Q.   I have been with a guy for 3 yrs and been engaged for a yr and a half. when we first met everything was amazing and we both decided we wanted to marry eachother and worked towards it. I knew he had broken up with his last 2 gfs and they were serious ...

A.   31 December 2010: I dated a girl who was a compulsive liar when I was alot younger. Teh best thing I did, was wash the word "sucker" off my forehead, and deleted her number, finally I told her never to speak to me again. Nuff said... (read in full...)

We weren't having sex so he was going to prostitutes

Q.   I've been with my bf for 2years and everything was going good Until I found out he was ceasing on me with prostitutes and girls from clubs!!! To cut things short I broke up with him and Im trying to move on despite the fevt that I'm devastat...

A.   31 December 2010: Well, I could give you a long winded answer, but the truth is simple. You know what you want and whats important to you, thats all that matters really. Just put him in the lemon basket, and meet the one you are ment to be with.... (read in full...)

Should I just make it clear that I'm attracted to older guys?

Q.   I'm 19 years old i turn 20 in a couple of months. I'm only attracted to older guys say 24-28... I'm sick of feeling like its something i should be ashamed of So i was basically wondering do you think i should just make it clear to everyone?...

A.   31 December 2010: We are attracted to who we are attracted to. Simple as that. It isnt a choice, never apologise for it. What would the point be in dating someone you didnt want? You'd just be miserable and make them miserable too.... (read in full...)

Fight or flight - is it even worth it

Q.   So I've been dating this guy for four months, passionate, loving, attentive and productive relationship. The problem, I was the "other women" - wait, let me explain. He isnt married to her, never has been, they have a baby together, a son (now 7 ...

A.   31 December 2010: To answer your question, i have to ask one Do you want to be happy? If yes, loose him, if no then stay no 2 girl... (read in full...)

I thought I married a man, not a little boy!

Q.   I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...

A.   31 December 2010: I alway wonder when I read these type of questions, What did you like about him in the first place? But life is about balance you know, work and play :). Dont ask for your time take it, and let him clean up... (read in full...)

I'm 20 and look 10!

Q.   How do I make myself look older? I am 20 and I look like I am 10. I don't think I could find a guy looking like a kid. ...

A.   31 December 2010: I had a gf who looked really young, lol, she was older than I am. She tended to dress a bit formally, but still had to give id all the time (she was 27 btw). Ill tell you a secret, its your personality that gets bfs, so just be you and you will... (read in full...)

I know this girl is using me, yet she makes me look like the bad guy!

Q.   Alright so I was in what you might call a reationship. I dont considering partly through it I figured out she didn't like me. I started dating her while on vacation in south Florida. We talked and found out she wanted to move up to NC about 4 hours ...

A.   8 November 2010: You just need to learn the ancient art of being a snob. What I would do, is not answer when she calls, make it clear to your friend you dont want her around, and let yurself get over it. I mean it, dont talk to her again, just let her go. L... (read in full...)

Admit it guys, you're fantasizing about the girls in porn, the rest is just excuses

Q.   I have opinion's I’d like to express about male sexuality. Porn. I understand that not all girls have an issue with it, just as some guys don’t watch it. I often hear of guys feeling like they have to hide it from there spouse. "what they don’t know ...

A.   4 November 2010: This topic is a bit "done to death" i think. So ill answer honestly : The moment Ive cum, Ive forgottern what she looked like. Its just to get off, nothing more... (read in full...)

My girlfriend started dancing at a strip club!

Q.   I know this is a long post but I don't have anyone I feel like I can talk too about this situation and I really hope some people here can read through this and tell me what they think. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months ...

A.   29 October 2010: I should ask you a question, because there isnt much I can say that will help. Its upto you really: Do you love her and want to be with her? Then learn to live with this and move past it. Howver if you feel this is just wrong, then you arnt do... (read in full...)

I'm 22 and feel I'm getting old. When do people usually find "the one"?

Q.   hi guys, I'm worried that i wont find the right guy. I'm nearly 22 and i feel like my dating life is nearly over. I would probably like to be settled down by 25 and marrying/kids about 30. Ive got a guy in my life, but he tends to invalidate an...

A.   23 October 2010: Dont worry too much about it. If you really want to meet someone and settle down, then you need to get out more and meet new people. Dont settle, thats the secret. Im 32. 10 years older than you and Im still single. But Im not worried as Im su... (read in full...)

Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?

Q.   So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...

A.   2 October 2010: Ive never really understood why women get so upset when they find out about white lies. It common knowledge that for every one lie a man tells, the women tells ten. I'm afraid I'm firmly in the "women should get over it" camp. As I'm anythi... (read in full...)

Why is LYING about porn and HIDING it even worse than the porn itself?

Q.   So from all the porn questions and answers on here, it seems many women think a guy's lying about his porn use and hiding it are actually WORSE than the porn itself. They cannot understand why anyone would lie about something like that and go behind ...

A.   22 September 2010: Women dont understand it and never will for one reason only. They dont want to understand. They are right and thats that. They just cant understand the notion of "having to masturbate" as opposed to wanting to. Im serous when I admit when I was... (read in full...)

I'm ending all contact with my ex. Is there still a chance he will come back?

Q.   My ex boyfriend of 4 months broke up with me last February, because he wasn't ready for a commitment, and he didn't know what he wanted. The whole, "It's not you it's me" deal. I was heartbroken because I was happy. Since then we would hang out ...

A.   31 August 2010: I only have one real piece of advice when it comes to ex boyfriends and girlfriends. Forget them and meet someone new... (read in full...)

Growing hair in abnormal areas

Q.   I have been growing lots of hair on my buttocks, my vaginal area and my nipples...is this normal? Will guys find it repulsive? I need to know....

A.   31 August 2010: My first girlfriend had hair on her breasts, it didnt bother me too much. Hair down there is perfectly normal so dont worry about it. Besides if you really hate it you can always shave it off or wax... (read in full...)

What you need to know about Online Dating

Q.   First, let me start off by saying that online dating is not a bad thing. In todays age of technology and the internet, I think online dating is just as good if not better than simply meeting someone at a bar, pub or nightclub. When you meet ...

A.   31 August 2010: Thank you for writing this. Im afraid i have to admit that I have been scammed out of money this way. The situation was simple, I was lonely and just wanted to meet a girl, she sounded to good to be true, but I was lonely as i have said and th... (read in full...)

LDR: what's the point?

Q.   I would like to know something, as it's always seemed highly absurd to me, and nonsense, what is the point of being in a Long distance relationship??? I mean, you cant touch the person, right? which means you cant hold them, kiss them, fuck them, ...

A.   25 August 2010: I was always oposed to LDR's. Thought they were just a lie. Then I met a girl online, she lives in the USA and I live in Australia. And for a month it was nice, we sent letters back and forth and played evony together. But yes, I went to b... (read in full...)

Kissing Cousins!

Q.   Kissing Cousins. I have read many questions on this site about cousins that are "in love". For some of these couples I really do believe that they love each other. But cousins are still your family. And cousins that are couples who are 1st cousins ...

A.   25 August 2010: Well some people say 3rd cousins are family and some dont. I guess that is a "to each their own" situation. I personally dont recognise 2nd cousins as family as I really cant see how we would be genetically connected. They have teh genes from m... (read in full...)

Any experiences of love spells working

Q.   Has anyone tried a love spell? Did you have any success stories, please share them and share the love spells. Please can you provide a love spell for me as I want my partner back so loving and for him to be faithful and worship me. Plea...

A.   22 August 2010: An ex tried a love spell on us once, she put a pouch under the mattress and we had to sleep. Spent the rest of that week arguing over sex..... guess it was a luv spell A good love spell that seems to work is: 1. loads of alchol 2. pr... (read in full...)

Why Men Visit Strip Clubs

Q.   Quite a few of you have written to me in regards to your boyfriends (and a few husbands) frequenting the mens den, called Strip Clubs. This issue is a concern for most if not all women in a relationship and I can understand that. So today, I decided ...

A.   2 August 2010: Very interesting read there Anon. I live in Australia and things are a bit different here. Prostitution is legal so in our strip clubs there are women walking around offering their survices. But I do agree that no self respecting guy w... (read in full...)

Marriage - why should any man bother?

Q.   Women… why should any guy propose marriage? Full disclosure: I have never been married, but several family members and friends have been hurt by divorce, and I know of only a handful of happy marriages over one year old. My feelings for the...

A.   23 July 2010: i hear you brother Women in truth have become quite self obsessed, and seem to have no respect or regard for men at all. I personally wont date a white women (I am a white man btw), I just dont trust them, far too selfish in my opinion. A... (read in full...)

I'm almost 19 and have never even kissed a girl!

Q.   Hello. I'm 18, nearly 19 and I have never kissed a girl before, infact I've never hooked up with a girl before (or whatever all you hip kids are calling it nowadays). I feel there are several factors affecting this. 1; I'm a naturally very reclusive ...

A.   10 July 2010: I was 19 and 1/2 when I met my first girlfriend, wasnt even close to a girl before that. Now days I think the whole things funny :) and so will you... (read in full...)

Do guys ever put women in "the friend zone"?

Q.   I'm concerned I've been putting in some male form of the friend zone but don't know. I have been friends with this guy for 2 years. We talk everyday on the phone, he has told me very personal things he doesn't tell anyone else, he has rearrange...

A.   10 July 2010: Look this is actually quite simple. Its just that you want it to be more so you are trying to make it more by over analysing it. He isn't going to come around, don't know why, neither does he to be honest. Attraction is one of those odd things i... (read in full...)

Does becoming FWB destroy the chances of becoming something more?

Q.   I have become fwb with an old flame who i have liked for a long time, problem is i want more but dare not say anything! we have only been together twice but he stopped all night and cuddled me, stroked my hair held my hand and kissed my forehead ...

A.   6 July 2010: I would say no, Im afriad. But I think youd be better off telling him how you feel. I mean what are you doing there, its just going to hurt you in the end isnt it... (read in full...)

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