What causes my GF to go from hot to cold towards me? Could it be depression or a mental health issue?
Q. I'm a gay female. I have a dilemma I need some advice about. I have been sleeping with a good friend of mine for about six months now. The problem is she blows very hot and cold on me regularly, and I don't know how to deal with it. For a mon...
A. 21 May 2016: Its hard to honestly say.
You might be taking advantage of her unintentionally.
She might very well want a relationship with you and you keep throwing friend in her face.
Also she might not want sex at all but is afraid to say no as she ... (read in full...)
Does he want a committed relationship? Or production of more children? Or the chance to meet me for sex to make babies? Confused by him.
Q. I am a muslim lady 30yrs of age. Recently got talking to an older guy of around 51 yrs.actually he is a family friend, got to know him the past 5 yrs but nothing was between us til recently, he started picking interest in me. Its now 6 months sin...
A. 20 May 2016: Simple really.
Tell him to marry you.
Remind him that the sooner you marry, the sooner he will have the children he wants.
He wants to take advantage of you. Dont let him.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should leave or stay?
Q. I'm unhappily married. My husband cheated a few yrs back, I've since fallen out of love with him, the thought of finding someone else excites me. I'm not going to allow myself into a position where I might cheat, but I'm unsure if I can go through ...
A. 19 May 2016: I think the trial separation is the best option for you. it will answer all the questions you have about whether you want to stay with him.... (read in full...)
My ex had a medical emergency and I allowed him to move back in. Now he needs surgery and I regret my weakness. Any ideas?
Q. I have a relationship issue. I am not one of the super young people. That is why I feel bad about asking this question. I have been dating this guy, off and on, about 5 years. In year 3, he left me for someone else. I didn't want him back, bu...
A. 19 May 2016: I have to agree. He can move in with the other woman if he wants that. You don't owe him anything. I do hope you will let him stay though as he will need time to recover from his surgery.... (read in full...)
Do I walk away? Or do I try to explain how I am feeling to my Bf?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm just going to jump right in with the story. So I've been dating my on off boyfriend for 2 years and anyway he's 10 years older than me and due to stupid things he's done in the past still lives at home with his dad. The p...
A. 19 May 2016: Are you really going to ask him too choose between his father and you?
I think this relationship has run its course.... (read in full...)
My parents forced us to breakup. Two months later what should I do?
Q. Hello all :) I am writing seeking some advice from you good people as I have been facing the pain of a breakup for the past 2.5 months now. I have become depressed and mentally unstable through all of this, but am working really hard to become m...
A. 19 May 2016: As a parent myself, I would only want you to break up with your boyfriend if I felt that he was bad for you.
This is a crucial part of your life and you need to be focused on your grades and what career your going into.
So if he is hurting th... (read in full...)
How can I deal with complex emotions and the feelings I have that my life will spiral out of control if I break up with her? Sexually she no longer appeals
Q. My question has so many angles I realy dont know how to sum it up. There are so many parts that need more explaining but I simply cant fit them all in. I will try to summarise. I am a 47 year old male. I come from a broken familly. I have bee...
A. 19 May 2016: Its time to be honest with yourself.
You have 3 options.
1. Leave her and end up back where you were.
2. Stay with her and accept that this is your lot in life.
3. Get your act together, get off the drugs or at least cut them back and get a ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this? He doesn’t return the favor!
Q. so here goes... From the ages of 15 (lost my virginity) to 21 I've always had oral sex given to me with out asking (im now 23)...(by boyfriends not randoms) My current boyfriend of two years this september has only gone down on me a hand full...
A. 30 April 2016: Stop giving him head.
And just do other stuff. You will be fine... (read in full...)
Wearing jewelry from an ex whilst out on a date with a new partner... thoughts?
Q. I want to know what everybody's thoughts are on wearing jewellery from an ex partner whilst out on a date with a new partner. Thank you!...
A. 30 April 2016: Its rude. Don't do it.... (read in full...)
Why do guys want intercourse so badly?
Q. Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...
A. 30 April 2016: Well its a few reasons
1. We like how it feels. It feels great and the release helps you sleep. Same with going solo btw.
2. We also like the intimacy. Guys arn't very intimate in general. Frankly your probably the only on he actually hugs. A... (read in full...)
Why do some guys lie about losing their virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together six months. Last week we talked about having sex for the first time. I asked would I be his first and he didn't answer, he just retorted by asking would he be mine. I said no, I was not a virgin. He then began ...
A. 4 April 2016: Because he was scared that he wasn't good enough for you. He was worried that you would laugh at him.
Guy arn't great at showing their feelings. And sex is quite a big deal for a teen boy.
He didn't mean to lie or insult you.... (read in full...)
Long term affair has me shocked
Q. I recently found out that the affair my wife had about 30 years ago had been going on for almost 3 years... I was shocked. Back then after her affair was discovered, and came to an end, I never thought that it had lasted THAT long. My question is ...
A. 14 January 2016: God knows.
Adults do weird things.
I was told as a child that I had to behave and be better and would understand why when I grew up. Yet I myself and every other adult I have ever met have all behave like silly children.
Some times we j... (read in full...)
I hooked up with the girl who used my friend and broke his heart. Do I tell him?
Q. I have know this friend for 11 years and he is a very nice guy, he is the most successful friend I have, he's a high end lawyer, and because of that people tend to use him. So when he started dating this very attractive girl I instantly knew ...
A. 4 January 2016: Short answer: No and tell her to stop messaging you.... (read in full...)
Is this man almost twice my age trying to get close to me? Ask me to move in with him?
Q. Okay so I've just met a guy older than me.. (50 years old) and he owns his own business and we have been chatting for 3 weeks at most. He invited me out out 2 times already. The first time I was cautious and questioned him a lot (after all he is...
A. 30 December 2015: Of course he is trying to start something.
Soooooooo are you interested in him romantically?... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone on New Year's Eve. Any suggestions?
Q. So...this may sound pathetic...because I'm going to be alone this New Year's Eve. My friends are either going to spend New Year's Eve with their boyfriend or their husband. And the only one single friend prefers to stay at home. I feel so lonely.... ...
A. 30 December 2015: Is there anyone you missed? Work friends etc?
Call them up and see what they are up to.
Failing that, if you want to go out, then do so... (read in full...)
Was listening to a man moaning on youtube cheating on my husband?
Q. I was away from my husband, who doesn,t like phone sex, and I decided to play with myself unsuccesfully, so i listened to some random moaning on you tube that helped. I feel bad and feel like I cheated on him. Am I wrong to have listened to the ...
A. 30 December 2015: Not at all.
Think of it this way: You had an itch and scratched it.... (read in full...)
OK, what about foreplay on men?
Q. This is a question mainly for the guys, and is something I've wondered about for ages. During foreplay, men have so many choices as to where to touch/kiss/lick a woman, there are so many erogenous zones.. instep of feet, thighs, waist and stomac...
A. 7 February 2015: There is one thing, but it isn't foreplay.
I like it what women hold me around my shoulders during. Makes me feel your into it. Especially if your holding tight.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend's girlfriend -- again
Q. I believe that I am in love with my best friends girlfriend. His fiancé to be exact... I've been in love with one of his ex's before while they were dating and I went down a dark road of betraying his trust in order to break them up. I used to ...
A. 5 February 2015: To answer this question honestly I will have to ask 2.
1. Do you have trouble getting girlfriends? Are you shy or awkward?
2. Do you just use the women you date for sex?
I bet one of those is true isn't it.
So lets face some hard truths... (read in full...)
First partners and oral sex?
Q. When you dated your first boyfriend, did you give him oral sex?...
A. 4 February 2015: I tried it with my first girlfriend, but it was my 3rd relationship when I actually enjoyed doing it.
It takes time to get used to doing it.... (read in full...)
How important is the online photo?
Q. been single for 5 years and now making a big effort to find someone. I have hated the idea of online dating and had some rubbish experiences 4 years ago, but now I am trying it out with a different perspective. I am a very private person and don'...
A. 4 February 2015: Never use a fake pic.
When I show up for our first date, do you really want me to be disapointed?
If you really want a man, then you have to put yourself out there, I know its scary.
But the men on okcupid (like me) have to do the same thin... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to consider porn cheating?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and the relationship is going pretty well so far. The only thing that really bothers me, and I have expressed myself, is the fact he watches porn on his days off while I'm at work. In my ...
A. 12 September 2014: Porn is nothing special.
Its just assisted masturbation.
Its in no way cheating.... (read in full...)
I wasn't the one who messed up so why am I the one hurting?
Q. My ex and I had been together almost 4 years. He moved from England to Canada with me 3 years ago in August. We definitely had our rough patches, mainly to do with him speaking inappropriately to other girls. Anyway, on Sunday morning I checke...
A. 5 June 2014: It was always going to be like this.
I know its lonely and you miss him, but you have to let yourself get over him.
Soon you will be ok and then you can be with a man who appreciates you.... (read in full...)
Husband wants a threesome, how can I fulfill this sexual experience?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I need to know how to go about having a threesome with my husband. First off I am bisexual, so theres no issue with wanting to be with woman sexually. My husband has always wanted to experience a threesome. Its just a fantasy. ...
A. 3 June 2014: OK most everyone here have covered the No side of the argument.
But I do have to tell you, there was a lady who posted here quite a long time ago now, who tried it and hated it, and her husband kept pushing for them to do it again. 3some's ... (read in full...)
I got two girl's phone numbers, but I'm not sure what to do on a date! Advice?
Q. Just the thought of asking anyone of them out gives me butterfly nerve feeling in my stomach. I met this Indian lady while back so I manage to get the courage to ask for her number about couple weeks before school semester ended. The other lady I ...
A. 2 June 2014: that is fine. A date is just a "get to know you" thing. So it doesn't matter where you go as long as you have fun together.... (read in full...)
I'm happy to be a girl, I just don't want breasts
Q. I have always hated my breasts and I wish I didn't have them. My mom says I will change but I don't think I will because I just look in the mirror and cry and just hate everything I see I want a flat chest so badly and I just don't know what to do ...
A. 2 June 2014: Your young yet, you will get used to them. Becoming a man wasn't pleasant either. But I got used to it.
If at 18 you are still unhappy, you can get reduction surgery. But don't do anything drastic right now.... (read in full...)
Do I give too much in relationships?
Q. Dear Cupid I've always been the hearts and flowers kind of girl, but life showed me that happily ever after doesn't exist. I fell inlove with this guy.. and we dated for months. Everything was perfect and I still don't know what went wrong. We b...
A. 2 June 2014: No, you will meet the right one.... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married but afraid to do so because I do not want sex
Q. I am 21 years old and engaged to be married. Let me explain some of my background to you so that this makes sense. I went to a very small Christian school all my life (16 kids in a k-12 school) that is attached to my church. I grew up reading ...
A. 29 May 2014: Lets get the sex part out of the way first.
There are 2 things you need to know.
1. You will want to have sex when you are ready for it. This happens at different ages for different people. You are what we call a late bloomer. That is not a ba... (read in full...)
I'm so sick and tired of being leeched off of.
Q. Here's the situation. I use to live alone in a two bedroom apartment. One room for me to sleep, use computer, hang out, etc. The other room was my workout room with all my weights, benchs, punching bag, etc. I enjoyed the solitary lifestyle. My own ...
A. 15 May 2014: There is an easy way out you know.
Move.
Do you own the apartment or do you rent? It doesn't matter either way. Don't renew your lease or sell up.
Tell your rellie's that you cant afford to keep paying and you have to move to a cheaper pla... (read in full...)
New to relationships, need some help regarding sex.
Q. Hey all, I'm going to try to type this as organized as possible. I recently met my first girlfriend. She's 20, has a little bit of autism, and she is the sweetest, most caring girl I've ever met. I enjoy spending time with her, we're both weird...
A. 3 April 2014: Yes. You cannot wait for her to start it.
You said she was shy after all.
So what you do is just go a little bit further. Try fondling her a bit, maybe take off some clothes. Tops are a good start.
Stop when she asks you to though.
R... (read in full...)
I'm frustrated over being single for so long!
Q. It's going to be 4 years soon that I am single. Sure, I've met people and "dated" (very very briefly) a few guys but haven't been able to find a guy to actually have a decent relationship with in all this time. I enjoyed being single (primarily for ...
A. 2 April 2014: Try changing it up. If your going to the same places, then your meeting the same people. Give people a chance, don't just look for a type. If someone is nice and fun, try it. You might be surprised. Also be careful you arn't giving off the... (read in full...)
As I haven't heard from my boyfriend in over a month, does that mean I'm single?
Q. It's been about 4 or 5 weeks since I've spoken or even remotely heard from my boyfriend. About this time last month he asked me to pay his phone bill. I politely declined because I thought it was too early in the relationship to be asking to pay one ...
A. 2 April 2014: You were not in a relationship in the first place.
He was trying to take advantage of you. Consider yourself lucky, you didn't give him any money.
ps As a guy I have never asked a girlfriend for money..well I have.... But it was because my p... (read in full...)
How am I misreading people so much all the time?
Q. I have had too many social problems my whole life especially with women and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Mostly I'm being friend-zoned or else I'm being led on or just teased or something. I mean, I even had this one woman I worked with who ...
A. 2 April 2014: Before I start. I want to ask one thing: Are you hung up on a particular girl?
It seems you are.
If yes: Dude, she isn't into you and never will be. Stop wasting your time and meet someone else. And stop letting her cry on your shoulder. It's j... (read in full...)
Should I get back with my ex even if he took advantage of me financially?
Q. My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 days ago and after seeing him at work . He texted me Good job tonight and he feels hurt and embarrassed to take a break from relationship. Should I get back with him even if he took financially advantage of me? I...
A. 20 March 2014: no... (read in full...)
Need help deciding on my 30th birthday plans!
Q. I'm not sure what to do for my 30th birthday. It is on 16th May, so I don't have much time to plan this. I hope you can help. 1 . My favourite singer is doing a concert on my birthday in London. I could go to London from Wednesday or Thu...
A. 9 March 2014: Big weekend!!!
Concert with friends on Friday in London.
Mums family on Saturday
Dads family on Sunday!!!
3 days of partying!!! 3 days of presents! Its win-win!
..unless you are footing the bill...I hope your friends and family spoil yo... (read in full...)
24 and never had a girlfriend. Where do I start?
Q. This fact has made me very depressed and I have felt this way for a long time. I have never had a girlfriend or even had many friends that are girls. In fact I don't have many friends at all. I have one brother and though we are close in age, we ...
A. 15 February 2014: Start with actually going out. Go to bars and clubs and listen to live music. Some of the bands I have heard were pretty good.
Its a lie, but keep telling yourself it. When people talk to you, answer them.
Try and make friends with a girl your... (read in full...)
This Is For The Broken-Hearted on Valentine's Day
Q. Hello,readers! Here it is again! The day you see those gigantic red symbols called valentines; which are supposed to be hearts. They don't even look like a heart. Well, if they stick a knife through it, tear a hole, then fray the edges, it will b...
A. 15 February 2014: This is actually the one day in which I am happy to be single. Its just too funny watching guys run around buying insanely priced flowers and chocolates and teddy bears you know are going in the bin tomorrow. I still remember my first valentin... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to a male friend who doesn't feel the same about me
Q. Help!I have a male friend who I am attracted to more than he is attracted to me, he is flaky though and sometimes flirtatious then puts it back on friendship level. He makes no secret of his interests in other women and I make no secret of only bei...
A. 15 February 2014: Let me tell you how this always ends.
You finally throw yourself at him and be rejected or even worse, smile through your teeth as you watch him marry some other woman.
You also miss out on great relationships because you fixated on someo... (read in full...)
Will I have to be involved in my child's life in the future?
Q. I had a night out 2 weeks ago and slept with this girl who was on holiday in the city where I live. We exchanged email addresses and now I'm told she is pregnant. I honestly don't know how that happened because we used a condom, and sure I ...
A. 14 February 2014: What makes you think its yours?
I would confirm that before thinking about anything else.
Don't worry about child support, it isn't that much really, you will still be able to study.... (read in full...)
I can't leave my brother but I can't pursue my dreams if I stay with him
Q. Hi there. I don't know if it's a relationship question or not, but i am really freaking out in this situation and want to seek immediate help. A little brief about my past. I lost my mother when i was small and recently last year my dad expired ...
A. 13 February 2014: You have to leave.
Simple as that. If you stay, where will you be a year or two from now?
Just looking to prove your sis-in-law wrong isn't a good enough reason to stay.
Also since your brother is older, he should be taking care of himsel... (read in full...)
What is the problem with me and dating?
Q. Hello cupids. I ended my last relationship on the 30th of december 2012 and have been single for over a year. It hurts me that non of my relationships always see new year and am also always single on vals day so is going to be this vals day. The t...
A. 13 February 2014: I love being single on valentines day. Its always so funny to see the guys rushing around with cheap looking flowers.
Also women tend to stare at me and stand a bit too close to me in line on that particular day.
Anyway.
If you want the... (read in full...)
Who means more to you - the person you loved first or the person you love today?
Q. So I'm just curious here. Who do YOU guys favor more? Do you have more thoughts, special feelings, or emotions towards your "first love" or towards someone who's your "new" love??! I find myself going back and forth between these two guys and there ...
A. 3 February 2014: Your first relationship will always be special and you in part will always love them.
But your current one is your partner. There's no point in pining for things that didn't work out.... (read in full...)
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