My husband had an affair but seems to show little remorse!
Q. My husband had an affair but seems to show little remorse. He says according to Darwins theory he is just an alpha male and i should be glad to be with him, and he will continue to sleep with as many women as he can. I do love him but i find his ...
A. 8 May 2008: He is a selfish rat, I am sure if you played around he would go beserk. I adore my husband, however if i found out he had had an affair i would be gutted and i couldnt stay with him. Your husband has openly admitted that he wouldn't think twice ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has intense feelings for another woman. Is this a big problem him having a picture of her?
Q. My boyfriend has had feelings for his old high school friend/my friend for the last 5 years. We've talked a lot about this situation, and the conclusion is always, I'm crazy and he doesn't know how to get rid of these feelings. I really don't think ...
A. 5 May 2008: This guy needs a reality check! he is completely out of order and I don't know any woman who would put up with this behaviour? She obviously does not feel the same way about him otherwise they would be together?? What would he do if she 'came on to ... (read in full...)
What should I do about a long term admirer? The scenario feels unfinished.
Q. I wonder what should I do about a long term admirer . He sent me a letter saying " I will always be watching you, remember don't forget the happy ending ..." . I was in a relationship at the time and so was he .Neither of us were unfaithful . Since ...
A. 5 May 2008: I think if you both like each other enough you should do something about it.. it would start to annoy me i think, i would like either make a move or don't?
Maybe its just me.. I can't understand what he is doing with a girlfreind if his feel... (read in full...)
Is he trying to make me feel that I'm not good enough?
Q. 16/f. i have self esteem issues..or had..they're pretty much gone now, ever since i got my first boyfriend. and now, i feel like i'm gonna lose him for some strange reason. here are some reasons why: -whenever he compliments me, i take them very hum...
A. 3 May 2008: I would give him a wide berth, he isn't making you happy - I am sure he would be ecstatic if you had sex with him - but don't!
he sounds very immature and i don't think he has a clue how to treat a girl, saying that tho he is only young and is prob... (read in full...)
I love my children, but should I divorce?
Q. My wife of 14 years asked for a divorce. She is still in love with her first love. We have 2 children ages 10 and 13. After a year and long fights she wants me back and says she made a mistake and still loves me. This has happened twice before ...
A. 3 May 2008: She obviously is very confused and upset.. but if you truly are no longer in love with her and the situation has obviously affected the children then you must stand firm - be there as a freind maybe but that all??
There is only so many times some... (read in full...)
My best friend's girlfriend likes me and I like her...can anyone shed some light on this?
Q. My best friends girlfriend and i like each other. My best friend has been seeing this girl for a bout 3 months. i only met her 2 months ago. when i met her she seemed nice and i was purely trying to get to know her as a friend with my friends ...
A. 2 May 2008: I have been in this situation before and yes it can work out.. however my boyfriend at the time and his mate did fall out and there was a lot of hassle with other freinds taking sides and usually they will side with the guy who has been dumped.
I... (read in full...)
Should I wait for her to break up with her current boyfriend? She loves him but we have a history together!
Q. I dated a girl in college during my senior year for about 6 months. I ended it since I felt I needed to get out and have a crazy time during my last months in college and felt she would hold me back (she was underage). She didn't take it well, since ...
A. 2 May 2008: I agree with danielepew, I mean you hadn't given her much thought until you bumped into her that time, the age old boring old saying that we always want something we can't have???
She has her life sorted and is moving onwards and upwards and has ... (read in full...)
How do I trust my husband?
Q. A few years ago I had a few things happen and it made me realise what a strong desire sex is for a man. They rape for it, they hurt for it. Its like they will do anything for it. I just got married to a really wonderful man but I am having troubl...
A. 2 May 2008: I know how you feel, i knew when i married my husband that he had 'been busy' in the past and had cheated on his previous partner of 14 years. He sounds like a right pig doesnt he!
I worry about the same things but somtimes do we look too hard or r... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to kiss him at the party? I don't want to be seen as a slut!
Q. Hi i am going to a party tonight, and one of my lad friends is going. we were talking of going out last week, but decided our feelings were not strong enough. Anyway, we have both agreed that if the moment is right, then we might kiss tonight, but ...
A. 2 May 2008: Its not wrong, but be careful you don't get your heart broken.. it seems you may have stronger feelings for him than he has for you?
I would go out and have fun and keep your options open, who knows there may be someone really fit there tonight and ... (read in full...)
Am I a slut? I need to know if this is normal for teenagers to do.
Q. when i was 16 years old i dated my brothers friend,i dint like him that much cause he wasnt that gorgeous and i dint like his nature either..he wanted to have sex with me but i dint agree as i said i dint like him..i did not kiss or make out with ...
A. 1 May 2008: No you aren't a slut but be careful don't keep getting yourself into situations where you could have sex.. not straight away.
Get to know guys better, go on all manner of dates, yep a kiss and a cuddle is fine at first but wait a few months befo... (read in full...)
I found out my boyfriend joined a sex dating site. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey all, where do i start, well im new to this but just so confused ,feel like i could talk to someone better, if they dont know me, than friends who give advice, not saying that we wont become friends on this site but you'll understand when i say ...
A. 1 May 2008: you muust tell him you have seen this and demand an answer you must be so shocked and i am sorry you have had to go through this.
You want to know exactly what he is up to.. if he does not think you are enough for him and he needs the thrill of such... (read in full...)
Good break up tips? How do I say goodbye?
Q. 8 months ago i met Shawn when i began a new job where he worked. things went pretty fast and we began to date 2 mths later. along the line, we were convinced we shld get married. but lately there've been so many issues. we had an issue last wk when ...
A. 1 May 2008: becareful this guy sounds needy, insecure and controlling.. don't rush into marraige with him.
You must tell him its over perhaps have a friend with you for support??
It is horrible breaking up with some one but you have to think of your own happ... (read in full...)
He is the perfect guy but he will not claim me!! He does not call me "his girlfriend." Should I keep my options open?
Q. I have been talking to this guy since january. He is a real gentalmen. He calls me every morning before going to work to tell me to have a good day. He also says don't let those people stress you out at work. All the GOOD stuff. But for some ...
A. 1 May 2008: Its about time this guy stopped messing about and told you where you stand, gosh guys like this really bug me! (sorry I have dated too many of them!)
I would keep him as a freind but don't enter into conversations about moving away, after all if y... (read in full...)
She's going away soon - do I ask her out and risk the friendship?
Q. Lately i have been wondering if i should ask one of my best friends out. The only thing is i wont see her for 3 months when she goes back home for summer. A while back i took her out for lunch and had a good chat and from that point we became ...
A. 1 May 2008: I would give it time, somethings are worth waiting for and unlike guys she has been involved with you have with her the foundations of a good friendship already, which is something you must have in a relationship.
She is not going anywhere and obvi... (read in full...)
Help me to get him back
Q. me and my boyfriend(well ex now) have been dating for seven months. we both love eachother more then anything we broke up about two weeks ago it was a stupid argument and for the first week he regreted it and said he wanted to get back togathe...
A. 1 May 2008: it is a tough one - could you perhaps send him a card brifely stating that you still love him and miss him and have made a mistake.. and that you don't want to pressure him anymore but that should he change his mind you are there for him??
It may ... (read in full...)
I am puzzled by my colleague's behaviour, since I mentioned to her I am dating another co-worker. How to respond to this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have been single for about a year now and there is a guy at my workplace who I have noticed and who has noticed me.He asked me out last week. I mentioned it to a friend who I work with. She is single but is in a relationship E...
A. 27 April 2008: I would just ignore her, she seems very childish and attention-seeking.
Just give it time, she will get bored, this guy obviously is not interested in her and in time will think she is just silly.
I wouldn't tell her anything of importance again sh... (read in full...)
Should I have affair with the hot 21 year-old or stay faithfull to my wife who has recently gone off sex?
Q. I will make this short and sweet.My wife and i have not had sexx in over three months and all we do is work come home eat and go to bed with some ammenities in between.We work at the same place but we don't see ach other till the end of the day. ...
A. 27 April 2008: You signed a contract to stay faithful the day you signed your marraige certificate.. therefore faithful should be up there alongside horny as your middle name!.
You really can't do both - if you have tried eveything to get your marraige back on t... (read in full...)
I know my husband's son comes first but I refuse to stay in the shadows and live my life by the ex's rules???
Q. I hope you guys can help me.. my husband (we have been married for 3 years) has a 9 year old son from a previous relationship. His ex has always made things difficult and I think between them they use the boy as a pawn. When he goes to watch hi...
A. 20 April 2008: I really do appreciate all your advice, it helps more than you know!
I will see how things go, and try to be less tactless if I have a point to make as I know that some of the points I make are valid, they just come out sounding childish?? - if that... (read in full...)
I know my husband's son comes first but I refuse to stay in the shadows and live my life by the ex's rules???
Q. I hope you guys can help me.. my husband (we have been married for 3 years) has a 9 year old son from a previous relationship. His ex has always made things difficult and I think between them they use the boy as a pawn. When he goes to watch hi...
A. 20 April 2008: Yes my husband broke up with her, from what it seems they had a very nice lifestyle but he just didn't love her.
They had been together 15 years in total - split up after 7 of them for 2 years and then got back together and had their son.
She w... (read in full...)
I know my husband's son comes first but I refuse to stay in the shadows and live my life by the ex's rules???
Q. I hope you guys can help me.. my husband (we have been married for 3 years) has a 9 year old son from a previous relationship. His ex has always made things difficult and I think between them they use the boy as a pawn. When he goes to watch hi...
A. 20 April 2008: I just wondered if anyone thought I was in the wrong over this?? my husband has just left with his son to go to football, we had another row (his son was in ths car), he said i am getting at him all the time over it? i,m not it was just last night ... (read in full...)
Any ideas what he could mean by these texts?
Q. I'm a bit confused... a friend of a friend was texting me the other night asking me to go he pub. I couldn't because i was in work early the next morning. I told him and he was trying for ages to persuade me to go.. although i never..so he continued ...
A. 16 April 2008: I think he likes you definately - text him and ask him out.
- if he makes excuses then don't pressurise him just leave it.
Some guys just like the attention - but - and I hope I am not wrong - it does seem like he is keen on you.
Make the first mo... (read in full...)
Separated for 5 years but she wants us to be 'friends with benefits'.
Q. My wife and I have been separated for 5 years, but about a year ago we started sleeping together again. Here is my problem she doesn't want a relationship, she calls it friends with benefits. Do I call it off or what?...
A. 15 April 2008: Well she either wants you or she doesn't, it seems to me she is using you as a safety net and is enjoying the sex.. but the fact that is all she wants would set alarm bells ringing??
It seems she is keeping you in the back ground 'just in case' whil... (read in full...)
Should I spend more time with him to see if I like him?
Q. i am a bit stuck, recently i found out thos lad liked me we went on a date although i wasnt sure if i liked him in the same way, i thought this might be the opportunity to get to know him more and stuff as i dont really fancy him physically( not ...
A. 15 April 2008: I would'nt go out with him again, I think it would be wasting both your times.
By all means have him as a good mate, but your only young - you have so much time ahead of you, you should be dating guys you fancy the pants off!!
Okay I know the... (read in full...)
A one night stand - should I give him a call?
Q. I recently had a one night stand with a man I met at a bar. We were both very drunk. To be quite honest he didn't even know my name until we were finished and I told him what it was. We didn't exchange numbers. Just as I left he said 'call me ...
A. 15 April 2008: i would definately give it a shot you have nothing to lose.. keep us all posted... (read in full...)
This isn't a question, I just wanted to update you all! Any comments would be good though :)
Q. i think i finally got it! well i saw him today after school, holding hands with some chick,and i really think im finally done, i think i can finally get over him!!!mabey i can finally move on!i felt so sufficated even though we werent...
A. 15 April 2008: good for you - you are past the raw stage where it feels weird when you see him around...
You sound really positive, just concentrate on having fun.
This guy may be walking around looking smug with his new girlfriend but you just see in a few week... (read in full...)
He wants to be with me 6 days a week and 1 day with another woman!!
Q. I already know the answer here ....just would like some positive words to help get through this... I have been with my boyfriend(X now) for 6 1/2 years...been through the ups and downs, i'm his best friend, I gave him my all - sexually, taken ...
A. 15 April 2008: I think its time you applied a few conditions of your own, like 'get out you loser'
After all this time i can't believe he would treat you like this..
Its easier said than done for you must find it in your heart to leave him.
It will be so hard, ... (read in full...)
I want to know if he loves me but I get mixed signals from him! How should I proceed?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year now and he says he loves me and sometimes says he is in love with me and sometimes says he doesn't know or no. When he doesn't know, or says no, he says it is because I put pressure on him or he feels ...
A. 15 April 2008: Oh gosh this guy is sooo annoying, I'm sorry but he has obviously made you feel totally insecure about eveything that you constantly need his reassurance..
As an outsider this is easy for me to say and i feel bad saying it as its so clear you ador... (read in full...)
I'm feeling stressed because I feel I need to act like a step-parent to my boyfriend's daughter!
Q. How can I tell my boyfriend I'm very stressed when his daughter (age 7)comes over and stay with us. It's partly my problem because I want to make sure the little girl isn't hungry, she is not bored, and she likes me. My boyfriend tells me it's not ...
A. 14 April 2008: If you and your partner are living together then yes you are definately responsible for this girl.. shes so young and needs to be looked after and feel wanted when she is away from her mum.
Men are annoying - he will stay in bed on a Sunday, my hubb... (read in full...)
What would you do??? Feeling nauseous ever since I read his ex's f'book messages..
Q. i looked at my boyfriends ex-girlfriends facebook profile last night and was very surprised to see that he had commented on her wall (a space where you leave messages)... he must delete the posts she makes on his wall so i cannot read them or ...
A. 14 April 2008: please dump this loser now - i can't believe after 3 years he would treat you this way.. please please dump him!!! i think he has as good as cheated on you - its there in black and white.
He obviously enjoys the excitement that a new rela... (read in full...)
My partner left me after finding beastiality on my computer. I'm terribly depressed and regretful.
Q. my girlfriend found beastiality on my computer as i was looking at it while she was at work. i have never done anything else but look at it. i know it is terrible and gross but sometimes the sickest things turn people on. she left me and told me to ...
A. 14 April 2008: Not that i have done it myself - but there is that morbid curiosity factor that some people get some time.. like an oh my god do they really do that kinda thing.. if i was your partner i would think it was gross but if i loved you enough i would ... (read in full...)
I'm annoyed that women flirt with my boyfriend, how can I handle this?
Q. i am jealous about my boyfriend and same as others it is making problems now and we might break up... i am trying to stop that and sometimes it works great. my question: i am sitting in a restaurant for example with him and suddenly a woman...
A. 14 April 2008: wow - like the previous response - some women are very rude indeed!!! Your boyfriend has chosen to be with you, you are obviously very nice.
I can't think of anyone who would he want to go out with a girl who flaunts herself like this - the girl... (read in full...)
I need help getting over my teacher - but I don't know whether or not I'm in love with her.
Q. Hi, I really need help. I really really like my (female) english teacher. She's just so beautiful and kind. She lends me book, and I've never got below a G1 in my marks for my english work. (Our grades go Good Sound Poor, and the lower the number, ...
A. 14 April 2008: Your teacher sounds like a very nice person, she can obviously see that you are also nice and want to do well at school so she is giving you every encouragement she can.
Its good that we are made to feel positive about ourselves especially in a stre... (read in full...)
He has a GF but says he only goes out with her because he feels sorry for her!! Should I be getting involved with him?
Q. well theres this guy who i had a crush on months ago. i liked him loads! and i was mad on him but now i dont seem as interested in him as i used to be and have got over him. but i was in ICT the other day and the power went so we were all just sat ...
A. 13 April 2008: If he didn't like her he would dump her - if he was a real guy that is. Us girls want real guys, we don't want a wuss. He is loving the attention and has the safety net of his girlfriend. I would give him an ultimatum, but be warned he obvious... (read in full...)
Planning to tell him I like him so that he understands why I am avoiding him... my teacher...
Q. well I like my teacher a lot and im deciding whether I should tell him or not. I'm thinking telling him is the only way I'm going to stop liking him because its going to get rid of all the what if's going on in my head and I know it might make ...
A. 13 April 2008: If he acts this way with everyone i would say he is overstepping the mark and you need to realise he is just being over-friendly. But i think from what you say he is way abusing his authority - he is wrong - he is your teacher and could get into tro... (read in full...)
I need a midlife ego boost any tips?
Q. Hi, can anyone help with a self-esteem issue? I'm mid 40's and now find myself alone. I'm suffering from very low self-esteem, not helped by the sudden loss of hair, so I'm now 'thin on top' and I although I'm quite toned and female friends say ...
A. 13 April 2008: You have good friends who care that is a good start, do more enjoyable things with them. What about lonely hearts columns or internet dating - atleast that way people can see you and you can see them and you get to know each other in a different way ... (read in full...)
Our relation is purely sexual and... in secrecy. I love him and don't want us to hide any longer, what to tell him?
Q. I like this guy right, but whenever he want to hang out it's when nobody is around or just to have sex and let it be confidential. I want our relationship to be out in the open, and I feel like he is hiding me from his friends. But, i reallly LOVE ...
A. 13 April 2008: From an outsider it seems he is just using you for sex, I'm sorry but it does, Women want to be romanced, you obviously think a lot of him and of course you would want to show your relationship off to the world - but the fact that he doen't screams ... (read in full...)
My soon-to-be husband sometimes flirts with women online or on the phone, once even asked out a married woman. Am I denial, minimising the magnitude of his habit?
Q. Me and my bf are in a serious relationship and have plans to get married by hopefully next year. There's one issue that has been bothering me though.. he sometimes flirts with women online or on the phone. He has done this a few times in the past ...
A. 13 April 2008: Dump this guy now!! i know thats easier said than done but he obviously has no respect for you whatsoever and he will never ever change. Why should you have to put up with this rubbish, who does he think he is - you don't do that if you love som... (read in full...)
My friend is going to ask the boy I like to go out with me, I'm so nervous about this situation!
Q. Hey !! I need some advice . My very good close friend is going to ask the guy I like to go out with me and I'm totally nervous and scared .... he's showed signs that he liked me but I'm still not sure .... she thinks that he does but ...IDK .... ...
A. 13 April 2008: what can't you ask him out?? She knows you like him and she is not bothered? sometimes its every girl for herself. i wouldnt let this guy ruin your friendship tho..if hes never single for long maybe hes not that good a catch if he can't hold on to... (read in full...)
Do sweatpants (thick ones) prevent pregnancy?
Q. If the guy had thick sweat pants on and underwear and i had nothing can i still get pregnant?...
A. 13 April 2008: No. You shouldn't be getting yourself into situations like this without any form of contraception.. you should see your doctor about what would suit you best and the guy really should be wearing a condom. I guess you know that we all do but us gi... (read in full...)
Advice please about females with hair on their backs and bums?
Q. okay this is like really akward and embarrasing but oh well is it normal 4 girls to have hair on their lower back and on/in their butt?? like does it turn guys off? please help/answer me it really bugs me!!...
A. 13 April 2008: I think it is - some of us are unlucky like that. Some women are more hairy than others - if i didn't shave my legs, underarms and arms - yes i shave my arms - i would be soooooooooo hairy. I hate it but instead of stressing about these things we ... (read in full...)
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