I love her but she is destroying my life!
Q. This is a long story, but here goes. I'm a girl, and I've been with my partner, also a girl, for a year and a half. After about 3 months of bliss I found out she'd been messaging another girl behind my back, telling her she loved her and that she...
A. 23 November 2011: if the trust has gone so has the enjoyment and all this relationship can bring you is sadness, you are better to start moving on now... (read in full...)
How can I make this easier? I feel empty and alone when I'm not with him.
Q. My boyfriend and i have a 4 month old daughter together. we have been with each other every day for 3 months. we see each other every day, but when i'm not with him i miss him and want to be with him i feel empty and alone. how can i make this ...
A. 23 November 2011: did someone suddenly leave your life at some point and it makes you feel worried?
are you suffering from post natal depression?
are you too dependent on your boyfriend for company? do you have many friends you could spend time with instead to ... (read in full...)
We're in a long distance relationship, how can I show her she's not alone?
Q. My girlfriend is telling me that she feels alone. We are in a long distance relationship and I'm trying my best to be communicate with her. What should I do? She's also been picked on by people who used to be her friends as well could that be ...
A. 23 November 2011: she probably wants you to be able to have a proper relationship and move together, it sounds like she wants to see you but won't ask.
she probably feels very alone with her friends being mean and you far away. the best you can do is comfort her and ... (read in full...)
Career vs Love - what comes first?
Q. What's more important? • a career that pays $10k more than you currently earn... With greater responsibility and pressure. Or... • being in a loving relationship, building your own home and having a future with somebody that loves you? Your wag...
A. 23 November 2011: depends what will make you happier in the long term... (read in full...)
I feel quite used, how could I have not noticed he was having an affair? with me!?
Q. hey i think i'm in alot of trouble. i've been seeing this guy, lets call him toby, for a good month or so and he's very sweet, kind, funny and good looking, i thought i had found my perfect guy.. he's always been busy with work and stuff...
A. 20 November 2011: hey you never knew and the guilt you are clearly feeling shows you would never willingly do this!
if i were you i would tell his wife, it is the only way to undo what you have done.
don't beat yourself up about it. it was an honest mistake and ... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend says he loves me then why would he almost cheat? if he did it once would he do it again?
Q. so i have been wanting to find out about this for awhile now If a guy says he loves you and he shows that he loves you by like taking care of you,giving you money to get things you need/want, spending time with you. make's sure your happy. cuddles ...
A. 20 November 2011: This guy is dishonest and I think trust is important that he's not worth your time... (read in full...)
I will be seeing my ex at a party and I don't know how I should behave around him. Any advise?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me three months ago after we were together a year. He wanted to concentrate on other things and even though I loved him he wasn't the nicest or most considerate person. I do still love him but recognise I'm a lot better ...
A. 18 November 2011: imagine situations eg him flirting with a girl and try to counteract it so that if you decide to go it will not show... (read in full...)
Can a guy's car make him more (or less) attractive?
Q. Here’s a bit of a strange question. Does the type of car a guy has make him more attractive or less attractive? Does it have an influence on women? The reason I am asking this question is because of this, I used to have a classic BMW, one with ch...
A. 18 November 2011: depends on the girl, if i saw a guy with a van who had had it converted for travel i would be like thats hot he must be a cool guy.
but it wouldnt make much difference at all.
if a girl was a gold digger then yep it may make a difference... (read in full...)
The age old question: Does he like me?
Q. Hi! OK, a little backstory: he is my classmate in this tertiary course we're in, both of us being in second year (I didn't know him from 1st 'cause this is a newly merged programme). The first semester I didn't really see much of him as we were a...
A. 18 November 2011: ask him! or you can never ever ever know!
you can guess forever but if you want to know for sure then just muster up the courage and go ask him, remember confidence is sexy... (read in full...)
In 10 months we have never been out anywhere together and only his brother knows about me, should I leave him?
Q. Hi I was just wondering why men always have to play games when they know a woman likes them? I met a man nearly 10 months ago now we live close by he asked me out and I have a three year old son from a previous relationship. anyway I couldn't get a ...
A. 18 November 2011: sorry but this is definately a booty call, you are being used. if you want to test it then i would say you should do as 'so very confused' suggested... (read in full...)
I hope to eventually get back together with my ex -- is it fair to other guys to date in the meantime?
Q. It's been a few months since I broke up with my (ex)boyfriend. I still have feelings for him, but he's not sure how he feels and we can't really make it work right now anyways. I want to move on, and part of that means seeing other people. He was m...
A. 18 November 2011: Yes it is unfair on other people and you will jeopardise your chance of getting back with your ex if you sleep with other people... (read in full...)
Now that we are official she won't do "special" things to me!
Q. Hi, I've been in a relationship with this woman (on and off) for almost 3 years. At first, the sex was ridiculous (we weren't official at first, just friends with benefits.) But now, since we've officially decided to be in a committed rel...
A. 15 November 2011: well i have done the same thing to a guy, it is because i felt we had taken things too fast and i wanted to step back from sex and wait like we hadn;t done before... (read in full...)
After 3 years of having feelings for my coach should I try something?
Q. i cant help but be in love with my coach. i have been on a lot of other teams with a lot of other male coaches so its not like i have a thing for my coaches. but i am 18 years old and a senior in high school. my coach is always giving me signs that ...
A. 15 November 2011: okay, when you fancy/love someone it is natural for you to interpret everything they do as some kind of advance, especially at our age.
i'm sorry, as i have been in the same situation but it is unlikely that he will have any feelings for you and ... (read in full...)
He left me for harmless online flirting. Why?
Q. I have been with my chap going on 4 years. I have flirted online which was harmless and meant nothing. Just a bit of a joke and no more. I understand i hid it from him,but only so he wouldnt get the wrong idea as we had a break up over it once. ...
A. 15 November 2011: its the principle, you lied to him and cheated.
if you hadn't been caught who knows how much further you would have gone with it though... (read in full...)
Is it normal to enjoy being single?
Q. What is wrong with me? is this normal? will I feel better soon? I loved my ex bf so much, he said he loved me and I believed him cos he was a nice sweet guy. But he dumped me saying he didn't want a relationship anymore. I found out after ou...
A. 14 November 2011: yes! and enjoy it whilst it lasts because men can sense your strong by your self and will probably be attracted to you... (read in full...)
Why do guys feels the need to brag?
Q. Why do guys brag? He was a party boy and obviously I didn't give him anything sex-related/making out related to brag about. so... when people asked why we hung out around one another...he said that I hung around him and even the police couldn't...
A. 14 November 2011: just wait till he says it in front of his friends and just burst out laughing and be like, you wish.
he sounds like a little brat... (read in full...)
My wife wont have anal sex, should I go to a prostitute or will I regret it?
Q. Hello friends, i know i have been several times here on DCupid issues about that issue, but still i want it to get this help from you! Please! Here it comes: i wish i could get intercourse in the anus in my wife but she doesn't want it anymore, we ...
A. 11 November 2011: so basically what you should be asking yourself here is do i want to try one new thing in the bedroom or lose my wife who i have shared my life with. its easy to get wound up about these things but you need to take a step back because you shou... (read in full...)
Why do people think its okay to berate women who sleep with married men?
Q. I'm so fed up reading people taking the moral high ground on every topic, especially that of married cheats and 'home wreckers' There is so much contraversy surrounding cheating at the moment on this site and I would like to express my views as...
A. 10 November 2011: haha, nice try at defending yourself. when karma mean this happens to you and you have to sit there feeling physically sick because the man you love had sex with another woman i hope you remember that he is the only bad one, not her. enjoy your ... (read in full...)
Is it bad to fake an orgasm?
Q. If you fake an orgasm while your partner is trying to please you, is it rude? Me and my bf (of about a year) were having some fun a few days ago, and he was trying to get me to orgasm with his fingers, and it felt good, but after a while I realiz...
A. 10 November 2011: well he wont know he needs to improve!... (read in full...)
Peer pressure about sex/virginity
Q. Heya! I was just wondering about some help for peer pressure. Basically I'm almost 18, but I'm still a virgin when all of my friends are not. I'm getting a bit sick of every conversation I have with my friends having something to do with sex as it ...
A. 10 November 2011: if you are questioning why your doing this then are you really committed to it?
i would say what you are doing is noble.... (read in full...)
Struggling with my sexual orientation....
Q. Hi everyone, I'm having a little trouble coming to terms with my sexual orientation. I have always believed I was strait after having a string of girlfriends and many sexual partners. But over the last couple of years I have found myself being ...
A. 10 November 2011: you may just be bi sexual or curious, im pretty sure most people go through this stage and of course it is very hard to feel like you can accept yourself at first but it always becomes easier!
join a group where you can talk about it because tryi... (read in full...)
I've become the jealous snooping boyfriend! How can we work through this?
Q. I had been with my girlfriend for 15 years. She had gone to college for 6 years in order to, "get the job of her dreams."During the last 3 years of our relationship she became addicted to world of Warcraft and there was no sign of her seriously ...
A. 10 November 2011: if you do not trust her then that is part of you as a couple now, it will be hard to trust her again.
you moved apart and often when that happens you grow apart and into different people... (read in full...)
How can I enjoy sex with my partner who has a small penis? And is masturbation ok even though I'm in a relationship?
Q. how can i make myself to enjoy while having sex even though my partner have a small penis? And is mastubation good for someone who is in a relationship?...
A. 10 November 2011: like how small? small enough that you can barely find it it or just smaller than average?
small penises can be amazing as well, its a silly part of our culture that penises have to be big.
you can use toys with him and stuff as well! make him get... (read in full...)
No sex in 5 years, does it matter to guys?
Q. To the Men on Dearcupid, What would you think if you started a relationship with a woman who hadn't had sex in 5 years? Would it freak you out? Or does it simply not matter? Thanks I was just wondering!...
A. 10 November 2011: my boyfriend says: no one would care, other than if they thought i meant you didn't like/enjoy sex or that maybe you have some serious baggage.
all you would have to do is explain why you havent had sex and if they are worth it then they wont care... (read in full...)
Not had sex for 3 years now and not sure how I will react now that I have a new girlfriend
Q. I haven't had sex the last 3 years and I'm not sure how I will react when my new girlfriend and I get into bed. Has any of you guys been in a similar situation and what do you suggest?...
A. 9 November 2011: when i got with my boyfriend he hadnt had sex in a bout 2 years, basically you will probably find it hard to get into the rhythm (literally) and may finish rather quickly
i would recommend practicing moving your hips in a sexual way and maybe ma... (read in full...)
How do I ask girls I'm dating to do things to my bum?
Q. This is a super embarrassing question, but here goes: my old girlfriend hada bit of an ass fetish. She used to do things to my bum all the time, and loved it when I did it to her too. Wither her mouth, fingers, sometimes even a dildo. I thought this ...
A. 9 November 2011: make sure you know them well enough to be able to talk about it, have you thought about trying other sexual things instead of just this bum thing? i think girls would maybe be more open to other 'adventurous' stuff first.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I think her relationship is doomed?
Q. My friend cheated on her long term partner of about 17 years. He was always good to her. She treated him pretty poorly when she decided to dump him for the fella that she had been cheating with. Few years on now she has married this guy. Deep down I ...
A. 9 November 2011: definitely keep it to yourself, she might already know what you feel or she might have genuinely made the right decision. it is hard to gage a relationship unless you are in it yourself. ... (read in full...)
How do I convince him I'm good in bed? He doesn't realise that I'm a virgin.
Q. So I'm a virgin but I want to sleep with this guy who doesn't think im a virgin and will never know I'm a virgin as then he'll think I lied to him. Anyway, he's slept with lots of girls so is is experienced and I want him to think that I'm good in ...
A. 25 April 2011: Good oral sex. You need to find out which part he likes of his penis being touched most. The easiest way is to ask him but if you don't feel confident or comfortable enough then just treat the whole penis the same. Generally speaking you want to g... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and my BF is 47!! Scared for the future...
Q. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 47. Thats a 30 year age difference...now, I don't have a problem with that, by it makes me so depressed when I think about the future. He will die so early, and I don't want to be alone..I love him and he is the only man ...
A. 25 April 2011: Just out of curiosity is it legal in your state?
I have had a relationship with an older gentlemen and it was hard but I had to realise that it was never going to last. Maybe hours will I'm not saying it won't or anything but I know a woman, 40 n... (read in full...)
Should I go see a prostitute?
Q. Recently while i was overseas I had sex (twice) with a prostitute, in an adult venue. She had the looks, body and personality of a porn star. It as the best sex I ever had (and the most expensive!) As I am single and having to 'pay for sex' is...
A. 20 April 2011: As a woman I would never date a man who had EVER paid for sex. I find men that do it the most repulsive sleazy disrespectful things alive. A lot of women feel this way, so hate to break it to you but you might as well just empty your wallets out now ... (read in full...)
Do girls like crossdressers?
Q. This question is for the girls. How do you feel about a guy who likes to crossdress. Would you date a crossdresser? Would you be involved helping him achieve a feminine lifestyle and look?...
A. 18 April 2011: Yes! I find it strangely attractive... (read in full...)
Reason guys visit toilet so often?
Q. Hi all. I have a question. Is there any particular reason why guys would go to the toilet a lot whilst on a date, apart from the obvious reason of course....
A. 18 April 2011: Nerves... (read in full...)
What is your opinion of someone who has quite a few piercings on their body?
Q. I currently have my first and seconds (lobe piercings), and my helix done (upper ear cartilage piercing) and in my left ear first piercing (lobe), i have a 3mm fleshy (stretcher) And i want: -My thirds -My tongue -My nose -My belly ...
A. 18 April 2011: Nipple piercings are hot, so are the others you've sugested. With all due respect to many of the agony aunts there is a generation gap on this site that might make the audience your asking a little inappropriate.
But go for it!!!! It's not like a ta... (read in full...)
First time sex stories...?
Q. What was your first time having sex like, and how old were you when you did it? Did it hurt? How long did he last? (I'm asking because I just had my first time and want to see what others were like :) ) ...
A. 18 April 2011: 15 with a guy who was also a virgin. SO PAINFUL!! Haha couldn't even really go the full way. Unfortunately for him he was really really horny And I just wanted to get dressed Nd complain and moan about the pain. Poor lad... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: I'm sorry but there is no point pretending that womens oppression is just something you generate yourself that holds you back when men are paid more for the same jobs. You cannot ignore that reality no matter how's much you want to.... (read in full...)
Why is it that it's still a man's world, every porn mag is for men, every nude scene in a movie is of a woman? When are woman ever truly going to be treated as equals?
Q. I'm sick of the world that we live in, the expectations and pressures on women today, the young girls who suffer and have low self esteem due to the images we see everywhere, in films, magazines, billboards etc.. Why is it that it's still a mans ...
A. 12 April 2011: Under David Camerons new coalition policies there will be more and more women driven back into the home, 70% of those loosing their job in the public are women. We can be paid 30% less for part time work and 17% differencefor full time work. It's ... (read in full...)
I like my own parts. Is this wrong? I am confused about my sexuality.
Q. i have always liked men and wanted relationships with men, never crushed on a girl (im a girl) but i can watch girl porn and get turned on by bodies and guy porn too and same thing happens. i know its a fantasy and thats ok. but the problem...
A. 11 April 2011: Your just curios about sensations and masturbation. Most teens cannget turned on by any stlye or mix in porn because they're just curious beings, myself included... (read in full...)
He wont give his opinion but then complains when I make decisions without him
Q. I don't understand this. I ask my boyfriend for his opinion on something and he acts neutral about it. Then when I make a choice and it was the "wrong" one, he then has an opinion and tells me then he is mad that I made the wrong choice. This has ...
A. 11 April 2011: Do the same to him! See how trapped he feels!... (read in full...)
What clothes would suit me? I want clothes that would make me look attractive to girls
Q. hello everyone i want to change my appearance because all of my clothes are too small and the ones that fit me, i think i don't look good in them. the only out fit i like that i can make is converse sneakers, baggy jeans (that don't go ...
A. 10 April 2011: Do you have a specific girl in mind or do you like a certain way a set of girls who you would consider 'your type' dress?? I would personally say just dress how you want until you find the things you like!... (read in full...)
My Dad and I get on very well. So what would be the reasons I am attracted to very old men 50 plus?
Q. I'm an 18 year old girl and for as long as I can remember, I've always been attracted to older male celebrities, like men that are 50-68 years old. I have to force myself to find someone my age to be attracted to. I've even had a kind of crush on a ...
A. 10 April 2011: Haha, I am the same and my friends react in EXACTLY the same way! There is nothing wrong with being attracted to older men! You just have to understand that wanting a fully functioning relationship with one will never work, but sex and a bit more ... (read in full...)
Depressed because of age. Any advice?
Q. I am getting terribly depressed and although not suicidal. I keep getting very depressed because I am coming up to 60 years of age. No man will want me now I know that and cant help wondering what a bleak future. I know one doesnt have to have a ...
A. 9 April 2011: It is bound to be partly confidence as well, if you outshine the younger girls with big smiles and confidence you will get noticed in a good way! I always think doing excersise like yoga is the best way to improve mental health as well as meet new... (read in full...)
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