I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 20 August 2011: You go girl. Knock those items off your list and enjoy them!... (read in full...)
Good marriage, but I want more
Q. Hi, I want to vent and maybe get some perspective from Aunts here. I read the site often. I'm an average guy, been married for almost 15 years and together for about 20 years with my wife. We have many children and most of the time we have a g...
A. 9 August 2011: After rereading your post I'm wondering if you leave her notes or message her during the day. If you are not then maybe you should start she might get a kick out of it and catch on to the idea. However I must also add hardly anyone I know does ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 9 August 2011: Wow this is so lovely I'm so happy for you!... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 8 August 2011: You should know that men don't think about porn the same way women do. For them it's like reading a magazine full of interesting articles. They don't necessarily want their partner to be like the porn girls or do the things they do it's just ... (read in full...)
He didn't reply to my text after I said I would come round to see him. Did I hurt him or is he angry at me??
Q. Me and a guy friend were supposed to meet up today but the weather is crap so it doesn't look like it's happening. It was his idea to meet up but today it decided to rain (typical). I text him and it went like this: Me: Enjoying the weather? ;) ...
A. 7 August 2011: Doll he told you he was looking forward to seeing you and then you kept saying you don't have to. You made him unsure with all those replys about you don't have to. You need to ring him and talk instead of txting and tell him you want to meet up ... (read in full...)
What do high self esteem women care about V low self esteem women?
Q. Is it generally true that low self esteem women care more about the status/popularity/what everyone else thinks of the men they choose to be with, i.e. the more popular the better, and that high self esteem women don't particularly care about status ...
A. 7 August 2011: I guess it's too simple to say it's just low self-esteem women who think about men that way vs the way high self-esteem women do. I would categorise myself as high-ish self esteem and my man is very manly and masculine but also has a teddy bear ... (read in full...)
I am considering asking this guy out, but not sure if I should.
Q. I am considering asking a guy out on a date. He works in a building I'm doing work on (construction renovations). I run into him often with my coworkers and boss. I see him often because of work. We look at each other a lot. We are friendly...
A. 7 August 2011: Why don't you ask him if he'd be interested in getting together with you once the building is completed. Then you'll know if it's worth pursuing or not.... (read in full...)
I'm gay, but no one knows...how do I deal with this?
Q. I have a big problem about fitting in but not the type Im weird fitting in. The problem is that I'm gay but know one knows about me except for a few friends at school. I feel that no one should know about me unless you ask or figure it out yourself. ...
A. 7 August 2011: I understand your frustration with people trying to set you up with girls but try to keep in mind that they are coming from a good place with their intentions and not meaning to be annoying. They probably think they are helping. You will have to ... (read in full...)
I broke of up with my boyfriend of 4 years, but I have trouble warming to other men.
Q. i broke up with my first bf a couple months ago. we were together for about four years, and it wasn't working anymore... i still love him, but we were fighting a lot for no reason, i was constantly crying and it was taking it's toll on me. at ...
A. 7 August 2011: Two months is not very long to be out of a long term relationship so you will still be processing a lot of emotion and feelings. Don't turn your back on guys it's ok to talk to other people. Just talking to another guy is not going to mean the ... (read in full...)
We're each other's first significant other, but he doesn't behave the way I'd like him to.
Q. Hi!! I've been dating this guy for almost 6 months, and he never invites me anywhere, we see each other almost every day in college, but when we have free time (like vacations, weekends or anything) he never asks if we could meet or somethin...
A. 7 August 2011: Tell him you want to spend time with him outside of Uni and ask him why it's not happening.... (read in full...)
Why did he send me home when we were supposed to spend the whole weekend together?
Q. dear cupid, soo, me and my boyfriend have been together for almost two months now. it would have been almost four, but there was some drama caused by circumstances that were beyond our control, soo, we had to break up for, like, a month. the first...
A. 7 August 2011: Ask him how he slept and if he lies then you know something is up and you can tell him you know he didn't actually sleep and then ask him if there's something going on that you need to worry about.... (read in full...)
We separated and I slept with another woman. I am still in love my ex. If I reunite with my ex, should I tell her I've been sleeping with another lady, or should I keep mucking around with this other woman?
Q. So - the love of my life and I are on a three month break to allow both of us the time and space to get things right in our heads and to understand if we should continue seeing each other. Its been almost two months, and I've unfortunately ha...
A. 7 August 2011: Personally I wouldn't want to know about what my BF had been up to while we were on a break I'm a "what I don't know wont hurt me" kinda person but if you think she is the type that will want all these things out in the open then yes tell her. But ... (read in full...)
I'm conflicted... I want a girly girl, but the girls I'm attracted to complain about stupid BS on facebook.
Q. I am so tired of being picky but I can't help it. So here is the situation. I have like three or four, maybe five girls who I could date right now and they are all very nice but Im not physically attracted to two of them. and the others complain ...
A. 7 August 2011: Question one just say, I like you and I'd love to be friends with you but I don't want to take it any further.
Question two I wouldn't categorise you as picky, you just haven't met the right girl yet who knocks you off your feet and makes you want... (read in full...)
Creepy guy won't leave me alone.
Q. So, I have a problem. Well, it started that there was this guy I had a crush on, he was really cool. He was a year older, (I love older guys, even by a year) he had 3 tattoos, and just had a really cool background. To a 19 year old, that's perfect, ...
A. 7 August 2011: Simple first tell him he's not the guy for you and you want to go separate ways then block him from all forms of communication. If he rings hang up and is he comes to the door dont answer it. He will soon get the message and if he doesn't involve ... (read in full...)
I'm worried I sent him mixed messages .....
Q. my first question, my first date i met this guy at a gig and were chatting, swopped numbers and all but we lived really far away from each other. We texted each other found out we had a lot in common, music taste, sense of humour, ambitions I de...
A. 6 August 2011: No don't worry. It's always a bit awkward on the first date. Why don't you txt him saying you had a lovely day with him and are looking foward to the next date.... (read in full...)
I want to switch colleges but I don't want to feel like I'm following someone!
Q. I'm entering my second year of college and as it approaches, I realize it's not where I want to be. The school I'm at is only useful for one major and I don't think I want to be that major anymore. Now, I am considering a transfer....and ...
A. 6 August 2011: You need to switch for the educational aspects not the guy. Take him off the list and if it still weighs better to swtich then do it and make it work.... (read in full...)
I worry about having children because my boyfriend's family have different illnesses
Q. I have been going out with my bf for about 2yrs and 3months now, we live together and all. we arent going to have kids for a while as we are both not ready. im 21 and he is 27. the other day i brought up kids with him..and i said i was abit worried ...
A. 6 August 2011: Honestly I would talk to someone who specialises in inherited conditions to see what the risks are. I have a friend who's husband has epilepsy and none of her children have it. I don't think dementia is an inherited condition it's a brain ... (read in full...)
My ex says "when you change we can be friends again"
Q. Hi, i'm gay and has just recently broken up with my bisexual boyfriend. I can tell he's bisexual because he left me for another girl who had been trying to get between us and seduce him while we were together. We've broken up for more than 3 week...
A. 6 August 2011: Dude you have really messed this up by venting on twitter and facebook. Dignified people get far further in life that angry bitter people. Keep all these thought in your head and if you must write them down get a diary and pen and write it all in ... (read in full...)
Humiliated betrayed and heartbroken by my ex fiance!
Q. I've been horrribly humilated, betrayed, and heartbroken by my ex fiance of over 2 years . Every time we had an argument, he would give me the cold shoulder until I would cave in a week later and ask him to discuss the problem. I have been married ...
A. 6 August 2011: Opps just realised you have broken it off. I got carried away and didn't read properly. This man is a wank. Put him firmly in your past and move on. He's in the wrong not you!... (read in full...)
Humiliated betrayed and heartbroken by my ex fiance!
Q. I've been horrribly humilated, betrayed, and heartbroken by my ex fiance of over 2 years . Every time we had an argument, he would give me the cold shoulder until I would cave in a week later and ask him to discuss the problem. I have been married ...
A. 6 August 2011: Don't marry this man sweetheart. He's not going to make you happy he will destroy your heart and soul. Break the engagement off and run as fast as you can.... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 6 August 2011: I don't think you have found the right man for you... (read in full...)
I just want them to leave me alone. Suggestions?
Q. Hey, well basically ill try and keep it short and simple. About 7-8 months ago i left highschool because i had a mental break down and everything just went wrong. I fell out with pretty much all my friends, for different reasons, some of them i fell ...
A. 6 August 2011: Sweet as... (read in full...)
New nickname for my bofriend please?
Q. i am 15 and just was want some ideas as like other things to call my boyfriend. i contsantly call him babe and i cant really think of anything different. he calls me alot of different things like babe baby hun sweetheart and cupcake. so i was just ...
A. 6 August 2011: My husband's nickname is Yogi cause he likes honey... (read in full...)
I'm devastated over the death of my nephew
Q. Hi everyone. Help me grieve this loss. Yesterday I got a terrible news from my home country Pakistan about my eldest nephew's death. He was 16 and perfectly healthy and growing. He hung himself and died. I was called from my home with this news a...
A. 6 August 2011: Firstly I am so sorry for your lost this is a very painful time for you and I understand your feelings but you really need to give yourself a break here. You need not feel guilty about being jealous when you were 7 a lot of people feel like that at ... (read in full...)
Good marriage, but I want more
Q. Hi, I want to vent and maybe get some perspective from Aunts here. I read the site often. I'm an average guy, been married for almost 15 years and together for about 20 years with my wife. We have many children and most of the time we have a g...
A. 6 August 2011: Every marriage worth it's salt goes through lots of ups and downs along the way.
I'm probably a bit like your wife and I've become that way since having kids. I love having sex with my hubby but I don't ever think about it during the day or plan... (read in full...)
Am I just naive and blinded by love? How does one know that he/she is the one?
Q. Am I just madly in love and perhaps a little blinded by it or is this the real deal? I am a little confused because I feel like my feelings might be moving a little fast. For those who have found their life partners, how did you know that they were ...
A. 6 August 2011: Just enjoy these lovely intense feelings and don't worry about where it's all going. It will go where it's meant to go so just hop on and enjoy the ride.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get him back in a long distance relationship?
Q. My boyfriend broke up with me a couple of days ago. We were in a long distance relationship for about one month but overall I've been with him for one year and 3 months and have lived with him for 8 months. He told me that he doesn't know what he ...
A. 6 August 2011: It's very unfair of him to ask you to wait round while he sorts himsef out. Get out there and enjoy life you are missing out on opportunites waiting round on him to be ready.... (read in full...)
I just want them to leave me alone. Suggestions?
Q. Hey, well basically ill try and keep it short and simple. About 7-8 months ago i left highschool because i had a mental break down and everything just went wrong. I fell out with pretty much all my friends, for different reasons, some of them i fell ...
A. 6 August 2011: This post is basically a repeat. see answers here http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-do-people-take-an-instant-dislike-to.html... (read in full...)
We broke up agreed to stay friends, should I hang around or move on?
Q. me and my ex have split about 4 months ago it was a bad break up. but recently i found a lump and get really scared, and as i do still love him and feel i can tell him anything, i phoned him and told him. due to this we are in contact. we ...
A. 6 August 2011: I personally don't think it works to stay friends with your ex unless there are children involved. Move on with your life because as you have admitted you are closing yourself off to other opportunites with him in the background.
Turn to your... (read in full...)
Why do people take an instant dislike to me ?
Q. Hey, well i was wondering why people seem to take an instant dislike to me, or simpley start on me for no reason what so ever. i currently have one friend, i have tryed to get along with other people but they seem to either t...
A. 6 August 2011: I find it very weird that complete strangers walking past you on the street hassle you. Something is happening to cause that.... (read in full...)
We've now been apart for longer than we were together. Why does this still get me down?
Q. This has got to stop. My ex and I split up back in February because I was leaving the town where we went to university together this summer. It was my final year and her first. A short time after we split she started seeing another guy and ...
A. 2 August 2011: You will be ok just keep immersing yourself in everyday life and keep busy. One day you will realise you don't think about her any more. Being busy is the key.... (read in full...)
I'd told him I'd get rid of the baby, but I'm having second thoughts.
Q. Hello. Ive today found out im pregnent the test says 3+ weeks. The thing is the father is my ex who i have slept with once he also has a gf well engaged to he also has a one yr old with her we slwpt together when they where having problams and had ...
A. 2 August 2011: If you do choose to have the baby you are going to have it for you and not involve him in it cause it's just going to cause fireworks. Be aware that having a baby is really really really hard work and even though it can be done on your own it's ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: Yes you deserve love. I hope you find it!!!... (read in full...)
Are there any tricks I can do that might help my situation in my conquest?
Q. So i have had a fwb relationship with this guy from work for the past 3 months. At first it was all about hooking up. But then we started talking about everyday stuff and things going on in our lives. So then i thought well maybe we can be more than ...
A. 2 August 2011: I don't think anything more is going to happen with this relationship than is already happening. He seems pretty fixed on not wanting to be more than a romp in the hay so I wouldn't waste any more time on him. While you are with him you are closed ... (read in full...)
I feel disgusting and like no one will ever respect me because I've not only had sex, but with more than one person!
Q. I have slept with two guys in my life. Most of my friends haven't even been with one. It's not like I barely knew either guy, I knew both very well and genuinely cared for them. The problem is, being only sixteen, I feel cheap. I wish I could go...
A. 2 August 2011: You need to forgive yourself. It's not like you've run around sleeping with every Tom Dick and Harry. ... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly confused. I truly love my B/f. But now I like his friend even more. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who I've been dating for about a year and a half, and I lost my virginity to him, and I love him. I truly do. But he has a friend... and I find myself really excited to see him, and I'm really friendly towards him,...
A. 2 August 2011: Maybe you should leave your current BF and just be by yourself for a wee while and decide what you really want. Don't stay with your current BF if you don't really love him. It's a waste of time.
All the best... (read in full...)
I am so lost it's unreal. IDK what my current bf will think. Should I just tell him?
Q. OK guys i have a problem. So I am currently in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful soldier man. I love him dearly and feel safe with him. He caught me and held me after my ex dumped me and was with me through all the crap my ex pulled after ...
A. 2 August 2011: You don't owe this guy any niceties or politeness. Tell him straight up that you want nothing to do with him and that if he doesn't leave you alone you will file a harrassment claim against him. Block him from your cell phone and any other ... (read in full...)
What are the true signs that would show he's interested in me?
Q. Dear cupid,there is this guy am strongly attracted to,when we are having a chat,i find my self asking lots of qst about him,fanny enough he doesnt ask me at all,but there is this kind of look that he gives me,it makes me think that he is also ...
A. 1 August 2011: Usually a guy who doesn't have any interest in you would not give you the time of day so the fact that he stops and talks with you shows he definately has some interest. Ask him out for a coffee and see what happens... (read in full...)
I am so lost it's unreal. IDK what my current bf will think. Should I just tell him?
Q. OK guys i have a problem. So I am currently in a wonderful relationship with a wonderful soldier man. I love him dearly and feel safe with him. He caught me and held me after my ex dumped me and was with me through all the crap my ex pulled after ...
A. 1 August 2011: Tell the ex to bugger off. He had his chance and he blew it. You are way better off with your new BF so don't even give your ex a second thought.... (read in full...)
I'm hopelessly confused. I truly love my B/f. But now I like his friend even more. What should I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have a boyfriend who I've been dating for about a year and a half, and I lost my virginity to him, and I love him. I truly do. But he has a friend... and I find myself really excited to see him, and I'm really friendly towards him,...
A. 1 August 2011: Don't go there! You will hurt everyone involved if you try and force this. Forget about the friend and concentrate on your BF.... (read in full...)
My ex has been contacting me but I don't know her intentions.
Q. I won't get into great detail about how me and my ex broke up after a 5 year relationship. I got an earlier post if anyone wishes to read on that. Just that she began liking someone else around March during the time she was still in a relationship ...
A. 31 July 2011: Oh dear 2old4this we are not all like that you know.... (read in full...)
Will I ever quit feeling like he's hiding something from me
Q. I caught my boyfriend looking at internet porn and some of it was illegal. After confronting him and forgiving him, things seem fine. I am able to search his internet history (complete history, including anything he might delete or look...
A. 31 July 2011: Trust has to be earned. Tell him he has to earn it back and continue checking up on him. Keep doing it until one day you realise you don't need to check anymore because you trust him again. He has to endure this now if he wants to keep you.... (read in full...)
Professor is offensive with a severe attitude problem....but I'm becoming obsessed with him.
Q. A Little Introduction to my problem: I have this professor at college. A little detail------ he's in his early 40's, and an obnoxious *******. On one hand, he's an academic genius, extremely knowledgeable on his subject. His style of teaching can ...
A. 31 July 2011: Simple you go in there with your head held high like you have nothing to be ashamed over. You are going to have to fake it until you make it now. Act like you are confident and self assured around him and eventually you will be.... (read in full...)
How do I know if he came in me or not?
Q. this morning, at about 4 i was rather drunk and ended up having sex for the first time with one of my ex-boyfriends. it was kind of a rushed thing, just happened out of no-where, i wasn't pressured into it and i know it was stupid to have sex with ...
A. 31 July 2011: Male Anon is right on the money.
Go get the pill and next time use condoms and then the worry will be gone.
All the best... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on what I can do to help my ultrasound appointment on my varicose veins?
Q. I am in my mid twenties and I have varicose veins for years..i notice it keeps getting worse and bigger as time goes on and I actually feel more discomfort this past year and I also just in general want to get them treated because i know they are ...
A. 31 July 2011: Just do what the phamphlets tell you to do. ... (read in full...)
My ex has been contacting me but I don't know her intentions.
Q. I won't get into great detail about how me and my ex broke up after a 5 year relationship. I got an earlier post if anyone wishes to read on that. Just that she began liking someone else around March during the time she was still in a relationship ...
A. 31 July 2011: To be honest I think she's contacting you because she is hurt and needs a shoulder to cry on. Don't be her shoulder she has done nothing to deserve any nice treatment from you. Tell her that you have moved on and now she should too.... (read in full...)
Professor is offensive with a severe attitude problem....but I'm becoming obsessed with him.
Q. A Little Introduction to my problem: I have this professor at college. A little detail------ he's in his early 40's, and an obnoxious *******. On one hand, he's an academic genius, extremely knowledgeable on his subject. His style of teaching can ...
A. 30 July 2011: Oh dear sounds like you didn't really listen to any of our advice. How did you know what his cell phone number was? I suppose aside from apologising to his face for being so silly there's really not much you can do but cool your heels and wait for ... (read in full...)
Professor is offensive with a severe attitude problem....but I'm becoming obsessed with him.
Q. A Little Introduction to my problem: I have this professor at college. A little detail------ he's in his early 40's, and an obnoxious *******. On one hand, he's an academic genius, extremely knowledgeable on his subject. His style of teaching can ...
A. 21 July 2011: This is kind of like Stockholm Syndrome. You feel some compassion for your "oppressor" because you've been "forced" to absorb his views.
To be honest he's not likely to be the sort of person you could cuddle up with on the couch and feel loved and ... (read in full...)
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