Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 6 September 2011: The FWB guy is realising he's losing you so he's grasping at straws. Move on from this guy and find happiness with someone who doesn't just want to screw you but actually wants to love and care for you. You deserve it.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 5 September 2011: I understand what you mean and I can only tell you that if the love is enough you will come to a place where you can accept the way he loves you. If it's not enough however you do need to move on and find the right man.... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 1 September 2011: You are so on the right track. You go girl!... (read in full...)
Is 'friendship only' possible with the opposite sex?
Q. I am a woman who is looking for a friendship" only" with a man- what do you think?...
A. 28 August 2011: Yes it's possible!... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 27 August 2011: The FWB knew what he was getting himself in for so you don't owe him any explanations. Carry on as per usual.... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 27 August 2011: He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too.... (read in full...)
At a low point in my life. how can I get out of this?
Q. Hi all, I guess i don't know exactly how to explain how i feel in any other phrase but low, incredibley low. The guy i was interested in, screwed me over and thanks to all my attention being for him i messed up my a levels real bad an have only just ...
A. 27 August 2011: When you blame and whallow you miss the lesson. Focus your attention on what it was you were supposed to learn from all this. I once went out with a verbally abusive guy and after we broke up I was very low then I realised he had taught me some ... (read in full...)
I love the attention of my BFF and feel bad when he has a girlfriend. What does this mean?
Q. How can i know if i'm in a emotionnal affair with my male bff (i've known him for one year)? I adore my boyfriend but i like the attention i get from my bff he listens to me and notices me more than my bf it seems. I'm addicted to it I think like a ...
A. 27 August 2011: Yes I do think you are in the position of having your cake and wanting to eat it too. The idea that he is devoted to you is what you like and crave. I think it's good he has met someone cause otherwise I think the whole situation would have become ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex so interested in me having feelings for this other guy?
Q. I was with my boyfriend for about 6 months and we were really good together, he split up with me a few weeks ago and said he could do without distractions for a while. Ive only spoke to him a few times since the split and i really miss him. I c...
A. 27 August 2011: He's saying that because even though he doesn't want to be with you he doesn't really like the idea of anyone else being with you.... (read in full...)
How can I deal with this emotionally dead girl who I seem to want more from?
Q. A few weeks ago, I discovered routines and methods of being able to approach girls who would be rated say a 9 out of 10 so to speak and who reject any male that gives them attention. Anyway, I approached one girl etc and got through her usua...
A. 27 August 2011: It's the challenge of changing her that is the attraction here. And it's been the attraction for all the others too. I wouldn't invest your heart in this girl if I were you. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 25 August 2011: Most guys are really not that romantic. They can walk the walk and talk the talk when they are trying to impress someone and then once they have fallen in love and settled down they view romance as unnecessary. It's just one of those things and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 25 August 2011: There are lots of possible reasons why this is happening:
1. He is so preoccupied with his exams he just can't focus on anything else at the moment. Not everyone can focus on several things some people can only handle so much before other stuf... (read in full...)
Has he stopped liking me coz I lied that I talk to other guys?
Q. What should I do about this guy? does he even like me? I've been speaking to this guy that I really like. He gives me signs he like me too. He rang me from aboard when he went on holiday. He tells me how nice of a person I am and he thinks am re...
A. 25 August 2011: First of all why did you feel the need to lie to him?
Second if he cant cope with you talking to another guy then he's not good BF material. No one should dictate who you speak to or make you feel bad about who you speak to. Don't let him take... (read in full...)
I told my cousin I am attracted to her. She doesn't feel the same way
Q. Ok to start I have this problem I think I'm in love with my cousin or maybe it's just a lust. Im 28 and she's 22 I always been close with her since she was a teenager but this attraction didn't start until late last year. I don't know why it started ...
A. 25 August 2011: I was in love with one of my cousins once but now that I look back I realise it was just that he was older than me and used to spend a lot of time patiently playing games with my sister and I. He is still my favourite cousin but I don't think of ... (read in full...)
I love her, she went back to her ex, now she wants to try again. What do I do?
Q. So I'll try and make this as short as possible. After a 19 year relationship, my wife and I split up last year. I was't looking for anyone after this happened. A friend oif mine wanted me to meet this girl. I was hesitant at first and finally ...
A. 25 August 2011: The basic problem here is that she has betrayed your trust. At the end of the day if you think you can trust her again then let her back in but if you think she is not trustworthy then tell her to leave you alone. She did make a mistake but if you ... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish in expecting him to come away for weekends without his elderly mother?
Q. Hi there I could really use some advice here. I have just turned 40 with 2 grown up children. I was single up until 3 months ago when i met this nice man. To give a bit of his background, 3 years ago he split up with the mother of his child, at th...
A. 23 August 2011: You have made the right decision I think. Well done for your courage!
All the best you will be ok.... (read in full...)
We constantly fight, are we not meant to be together?
Q. Lately, my girlfriend and I have been fighting so much, and I can't stand it anymore. It seems like all that we do is fight, and somehow it's always my fault, and I'm always the one who's getting left bruised by the argument (emotionally, not ...
A. 22 August 2011: Why are you staying with her? She should not be swearing at you and calling you names that is so toxic for a relationship. You've listed 9 reasons to leave her in your post. Can you list 9 reasons to stay? If not it's time to face the music and ... (read in full...)
Whenever we have sex I cry and want to be alone. What's wrong with me?
Q. Okay I need advice. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. We work together and when we met I had a boyfriend. I was living with my ex and he cheated on me. My boyfriend now was there for me and after a few months we started dating. He is an ...
A. 22 August 2011: Kinda of sounds like you may have jumped into a relationship too soon after you were cheated on and never resolved the hurt in your own head. I would recommend some therapy to talk about how you feel.... (read in full...)
Should she tell him she relapsed with painkillers or deal with it herself?
Q. First of all, let's say this story is about a friend of mine who I knew in high school. She used to be a drug user, painkillers to be specific. She loved them. She sort of quit---that is, she stopped using them altogether for 2 months to prove to ...
A. 22 August 2011: She really needs to stop the drugs altogether and start dealing with life face to face rather than blocking it out all the time with drugs. Every time she takes drugs she is damaging her liver, heart, bowel and other organs not to mention her ... (read in full...)
My ex won't stop calling! How do I get him to leave me alone?
Q. Hi everyone i need some advice and fast, Backround info : i had a boyfriend 8 months ago and i really liked him but one night i got a phone call off of him tellin me that he wasn't ready for a girlfriend. I was really hurt because i dated ...
A. 22 August 2011: You've done the right thing by ignoring him. I would imagine that he's finally woken up to the fact that you were a great catch and he's messed up by letting you go. Block him from all forms of communication and tell him if he keeps contacting ... (read in full...)
Lost my sex drive and I'm only 23!
Q. I have a problem. Im 23 years old and I have lost my sex drive. I have been with my fiancee for a year and 8 months now. Our sex life was fine, both of us were able to get off and enjoy it. Lately, I'd say the last 1-2 months, I have had no interest ...
A. 22 August 2011: This is not uncommon so don't feel you are abnormal. There are times in our lives where our sex drive does dessert us for many reasons. In you case I would say it would be a good idea to see a doctor because it could be hormonal and your doctor ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 20 August 2011: You go girl. Knock those items off your list and enjoy them!... (read in full...)
Will my penis still grow at 19?
Q. This is a pretty embarrassing question but can my penis still grow at 19? I just turned 19 and my penis is exactly 5 inches. I know that is somewhat average, but it just feels really small to me. I've read a lot of studies and statistics and MOST ...
A. 11 August 2011: It's not the size that counts its what you do with it when you're with someone you love.... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish in expecting him to come away for weekends without his elderly mother?
Q. Hi there I could really use some advice here. I have just turned 40 with 2 grown up children. I was single up until 3 months ago when i met this nice man. To give a bit of his background, 3 years ago he split up with the mother of his child, at th...
A. 11 August 2011: Mmm it is a bit of a tricky one. I guess he feels a deep responsibility to ensure his mother is well looked after with her condition and he can't very well do that if he's away but on the other hand I totally see your side of it too. Can you ... (read in full...)
One sided sex life
Q. Okay last time i think i was alittle unclear so lets see if i can clear up some of the confusion. Me and my girl started have sex about a week ago. Now we are both virgins so we have to take it slow when it comes to actually having sex because i end ...
A. 10 August 2011: Oh dear Anon suggesting someone should "endure" sex is interesting advice. Obviously the OP is not satisfying his woman if she isn't enjoying the sex. No one should have to "endure" sex to keep someone else happy.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not talk on the phone?
Q. Are there any couples out there who never have conversations on the phone and are okay with it? My boyfriend and I have been dating almost a year and we've only had one conversation on the phone. The other times we've talked on the phone were j...
A. 10 August 2011: I'm sure there are. Could it be that you just don't need to talk on the phone because you see each other enough to not need to ring each other?... (read in full...)
He doesn't put effort into the relationship
Q. My boyfriend is really irritating me. He doesn't seem to try in our relationship. Today, he knew I was being weird on him and he knew why. He said he didn't think I was in the mood for kisses. Could he not try? Could he not try and cheer me up. Tell ...
A. 10 August 2011: Why do you stay with him if he doesn't make you happy? I would imagine he's not the type to try and draw it out of someone what is wrong with them and probably feels it's not his responsibility to make you feel happy by kissing and paying attention ... (read in full...)
Why would my rectum be bleeding after using the bathroom?
Q. Dear cupid, my stomach has been hurting all day today and im sure its because of all the junk food i have been eating. Almost every hour im eating something new. Thats because im not eating food so little snacks like chips and ice cream bars do not ...
A. 10 August 2011: You could have a hemaroid that has ruptured. These are veins that get enlarged around the anus. This is not a life threatening thing but they can be painful at times. You probably should see a doctor to check that's what it is. Sweetheart why are ... (read in full...)
Do women mind if guys feel their breasts during sex?
Q. Once I was with a prostitute and she seemed to feel uncomfortable because I touched her breasts. I don't know if all women are like this or if I had done something wrong. I understand that you shouldn't do anything to make someone feel uncomfortable ...
A. 10 August 2011: I love it... (read in full...)
My sister's ex is coming on to me -- hard -- and I don't want anything to do with him
Q. I don't know how to explain this situation. I just know that it's the worst thing that could have possibly happened. Basically, my sister and her ex had been together for almost 14 years and they have two children. They only split up a few months ...
A. 10 August 2011: This guy is the lowest of the low. I agree with the previous two posters. Tell people about this and start with your sister. You too both need to get out of that house asap.... (read in full...)
My BF hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his birthday and intends disappearing on that day and turning his phone off!
Q. So i recently learned my bf hates the fact that people try to make a fuss about his bday. I had planned to spend the entire day with him and his family and he shocked me by saying he was gonna disappear on everyone that day because he wants that day ...
A. 10 August 2011: I think it's a bit weird really. Why can he cope with messages every other day except his birthday? He's actually being a bit selfish expecting everyone to toe his line in this way. If I were you I'd plan a celebration for everyone else and tell ... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy my boyfriend's company, but he seems to really like me
Q. I've been dating this guy for a few weeks now, he's really sweet and lovely and really likes me but I'm just not happy with him. I just find him incredibly boring, I don't like being alone with him, whenever I am I'm desperately texting my friends ...
A. 10 August 2011: Oh dear I really should read posts more thoroughly before replying. Thank you Anon Female for pointing out that some of my advice is wrong. I agree with what she says regarding telling him you are a lesbian having now read your post properly. I ... (read in full...)
How can I know if this online guy is for real? Or married?
Q. hi i am new here, I am at my middle age, I want to share my recent experiences meeting a guy in online dating site, and i need some advice, thank you for taking your time to read my message. I opened an account in an online dating March this yea...
A. 10 August 2011: Ooo doll now that I've suggested that I'm wondering if you actually have it in your country. In NZ the electrol role is a thing you go on when you register to vote. Do you have to register to vote in your country? It does seem weird that someone ... (read in full...)
How can I know if this online guy is for real? Or married?
Q. hi i am new here, I am at my middle age, I want to share my recent experiences meeting a guy in online dating site, and i need some advice, thank you for taking your time to read my message. I opened an account in an online dating March this yea...
A. 9 August 2011: Check him out on electrol roles and births deaths and marriages. These are public records. Listen to your inner voice of caution and tread carefully don't commit to anything until you are 100% happy. Our inner voices are our safety barometers and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dumped me but still wants to be friends. I can't because I'm still in love with him
Q. Why wont my ex boyfriend let us part ways? he wont let me go:(? My ex bf dumped me saying he doesn't want a relationship. He broke my heart. I loved him so much. Is been 4months now and he won't leave me alone. No matter how long we go ...
A. 9 August 2011: Tell him you can't be friends with him because friends is not what you want from him. Then block him from all forms of communication and avoid having anything to do with him.... (read in full...)
I don't enjoy my boyfriend's company, but he seems to really like me
Q. I've been dating this guy for a few weeks now, he's really sweet and lovely and really likes me but I'm just not happy with him. I just find him incredibly boring, I don't like being alone with him, whenever I am I'm desperately texting my friends ...
A. 9 August 2011: If you keep going on feeling guilty and not cutting this guy loose because he's so nice you are going to end up hurting hime really really badly. You need to tell him it's just not working for you and let him go find someone who will love and ... (read in full...)
How can my g/f have feelings for a guy she seen 3 days and hasn't seen in a year?
Q. Hey, my girlfriend and i are 18 years old and we have been together for over a year. We're going through a problem which pretty much originated a year ago. During the first few months we started dating, she went on a three day trip to visit friends ...
A. 9 August 2011: I don't think you are overreacting to this. She has betrayed your trust and has continued to do it over a long period. If she can't get this guy out of her head and start telling you the truth then I would be thinking really hard about whether she ... (read in full...)
One sided sex life
Q. Okay last time i think i was alittle unclear so lets see if i can clear up some of the confusion. Me and my girl started have sex about a week ago. Now we are both virgins so we have to take it slow when it comes to actually having sex because i end ...
A. 9 August 2011: Can you two talk about this together. The best sex life is one you can articulate. Maybe she doesn't actually like you making her cum that way, maybe she wants something else. You need to talk about what you both like and dislike and want to try ... (read in full...)
Husband has been impotent for 5 years with no reason!
Q. Would you believe in your husband if he would say, he does not know, why he has no sexual desire, and why he can't get up for 5 years? We have been married for 25 years, and had great sex. But sex suddenly stopped 5 years ago. He is impotent, ...
A. 9 August 2011: He really does need to see a therapist and it needs to be someone who specialises in sex disorders. It doesn't mean he will have to talk about his childhood and feelings etc he just needs to examine what has happened and why and how to start back ... (read in full...)
Good marriage, but I want more
Q. Hi, I want to vent and maybe get some perspective from Aunts here. I read the site often. I'm an average guy, been married for almost 15 years and together for about 20 years with my wife. We have many children and most of the time we have a g...
A. 9 August 2011: After rereading your post I'm wondering if you leave her notes or message her during the day. If you are not then maybe you should start she might get a kick out of it and catch on to the idea. However I must also add hardly anyone I know does ... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 9 August 2011: Wow this is so lovely I'm so happy for you!... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 8 August 2011: You should know that men don't think about porn the same way women do. For them it's like reading a magazine full of interesting articles. They don't necessarily want their partner to be like the porn girls or do the things they do it's just ... (read in full...)
How do I stop my passionate crush on my teacher, who is 20 years older than me and married??
Q. Ok, well I think I'm in love with my teacher. He's about 20 years older, married, and his wife's pregnant. I always seem to think of him all the time, no matter what I'm doing. I also lust after him, and most recently I've been having fantasies of ...
A. 7 August 2011: Yes it's normal plenty of people have had crushes on their teachers. Keep foremost in your mind that fact that this will NEVER go anywhere with him. He is happy with his life and it doesn't include you. You really can't get over this without some ... (read in full...)
He didn't reply to my text after I said I would come round to see him. Did I hurt him or is he angry at me??
Q. Me and a guy friend were supposed to meet up today but the weather is crap so it doesn't look like it's happening. It was his idea to meet up but today it decided to rain (typical). I text him and it went like this: Me: Enjoying the weather? ;) ...
A. 7 August 2011: Doll he told you he was looking forward to seeing you and then you kept saying you don't have to. You made him unsure with all those replys about you don't have to. You need to ring him and talk instead of txting and tell him you want to meet up ... (read in full...)
When are men going to STOP being so selfish about porn and START realizing they are destroying the woman that loves them?
Q. Some women like porn and don't mind if their bf's look at it. This does not apply to those women. This is for the rest of us, the majority. Those of us that HATE PORN and HATE HOW IT MAKES US FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES. Seriously, after all the ex...
A. 6 August 2011: I don't think you have found the right man for you... (read in full...)
Good marriage, but I want more
Q. Hi, I want to vent and maybe get some perspective from Aunts here. I read the site often. I'm an average guy, been married for almost 15 years and together for about 20 years with my wife. We have many children and most of the time we have a g...
A. 6 August 2011: Every marriage worth it's salt goes through lots of ups and downs along the way.
I'm probably a bit like your wife and I've become that way since having kids. I love having sex with my hubby but I don't ever think about it during the day or plan... (read in full...)
I have Xeroderma Pigmentosum, do I have the right to fall in love?
Q. i suffer from Xeroderma Pigmentosum or XP. Its an incurable disease that deals with UV rays. I can never go in the sun, and if i do i literally burn. My disease at most has a limit of twenty years, which means in most cases a person who has XP lives ...
A. 2 August 2011: Yes you deserve love. I hope you find it!!!... (read in full...)
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