Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 6 September 2011: The FWB guy is realising he's losing you so he's grasping at straws. Move on from this guy and find happiness with someone who doesn't just want to screw you but actually wants to love and care for you. You deserve it.... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still 'love' me, because I still love him!
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them ...
A. 5 September 2011: You have now answered your own question sweetheart. All you can do is remain friends with these people and be the best friend you can be... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 5 September 2011: I understand what you mean and I can only tell you that if the love is enough you will come to a place where you can accept the way he loves you. If it's not enough however you do need to move on and find the right man.... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 4 September 2011: Sorry Doll but you have the wrong end of the stick. By no means at all am I saying you are horrible and terrible. I would never do that to anyone! Far from it. I was simply trying to figure out if I was going to be answering the same post more ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 3 September 2011: I'm sorry but it's just a bit too coincidental for me that you have red hair you are from the UK and you are aged 22-25 and you are experiencing the same sort of problems as the person in this post: ... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still 'love' me, because I still love him!
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them ...
A. 3 September 2011: Still I would tell him that you don't agree with the way this girl runs off and comes back and that you think you are the women for him. This way you will really find out how things stand and not have to wonder anymore.... (read in full...)
I am fed up with his paranoia!
Q. I have been going out my bf for 5 months now and he has started to say he loves me n getting quite clingy. He is very paranoid about me talking to other guys or when I'm away out and we have had a couple of fights about it already. I am on the fence ...
A. 3 September 2011: No you can't let him down easy and he's manipulating you into feeling like you must stay with all these comments like I'll die without you etc. Don't stay if you don't feel right about it and definately don't stay if it's just because you feel ... (read in full...)
I should feel sorry for her but I hate her and her perfect life!
Q. He's got a girlfriend and he knows I like him. He said he wants to sleep with me even though he's with her like I'm some sl*t or something. She's oblivious to what he's like. She must be, he been trying to get in my pants for nearly two years behind ...
A. 3 September 2011: Are you trying to see how many times you can ask the same question? Both of these posts are you too!
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-chose-to-get-a-girlfriend-so-why.html
http:... (read in full...)
Does my male best friend still 'love' me, because I still love him!
Q. Right, I have had a male best friend for over 6 months now, but we both feel like it has been forever! in the first 2 months, we started flirting, texting 24/7, i got told he was a player by many people but i really liked him, so i just ignored them ...
A. 3 September 2011: Honestly I think you should be really up front with him and tell him you really like him and would like to explore a relationship with him and see what happens.... (read in full...)
How do you balance a demanding career with relationships?
Q. I am a 21 year old male student. Three months ago I met a girl via an online community, we had good conversations and apparently found each other sufficiently attractive to meet up. So we did, and a relationship developed. She was to become my first ...
A. 3 September 2011: You need to culitvate a leave it at the door policy. When you are at work focus on that and when you are with her focus on that only. Also be up front with her and tell her your career is really important you and that you need lots of time to focus ... (read in full...)
I'm at a loss as to what to write in our 1 year anniversary card?
Q. Hi, I'd love some ideas from both male and female readers about what to write in my boyfriend's 1 year anniversary card, please. Obviously we've been together a year, and we've been through a lot....good times and not so good times, including a ...
A. 3 September 2011: Dear Name You are the most awesome guy I have ever met and I LOVE being with you. We've laughed together, we've cried together. We've had good times, bad times and ordinary times and our love is stronger than steel. You've stuck by me through ... (read in full...)
He chose to get a girlfriend so why does he still want to sleep with me?
Q. I had a "friends with benefits" type thing, a while ago and ended up liking him (which was stupid). That ended and he got a girlfriend but told me he wanted to stay "friends". I agreed even though I hated it. I didn't talk to him as much because it ...
A. 3 September 2011: This post sounds mighty familar. This is you too no?? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-fwb-is-dating-someone-else-but-still.html... (read in full...)
A girl made a mockery of me at a party, how do I recover from this?
Q. Tonight I attended a party my cousin was holding. There were a few members of the family there, but it was mostly friends of my cousin. Anyway, there were a lot of drunk people there, while I was acting as designated driver for my parents. I figured ...
A. 3 September 2011: At the end of the day you have nothing to worry about because if they were having some kind of private joke on you it was between them only and because you didn't rise to the bait and fly off the handle they now look more stupid than you. Hold your ... (read in full...)
Did my boyfriend just seriously tear up after sex?
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. He started sniffling like he was going to cry and didn't 'finish'. (He instigated the sex). I didn't push him or anything. Has anyone ever had it happen to them or know why? I don't want to humiliat...
A. 3 September 2011: Something is definately going on here. He is dealing with some serious unresolved issues. If you can I would ask him what is going on.... (read in full...)
I love 3 older married men and I'm only 18.
Q. Hi, I am an 18 year old girl, and I am single. I met one of my mums friends husband last year and I instantly felt a connection with him. He had just been made redundant so he got a job at where me and my dad worked. He is 31 and probably not the ...
A. 2 September 2011: It's fine to love older men but don't be tempted into starting anything up with a married man.... (read in full...)
Do temperaments or the sun signs really matter in getting the right life partner?
Q. Does temperaments or the sun signs really matter in getting the right life partner?...
A. 2 September 2011: The right life partner is someone who loves you for who you are and who makes you laugh and feel happy.... (read in full...)
I am fed up with his paranoia!
Q. I have been going out my bf for 5 months now and he has started to say he loves me n getting quite clingy. He is very paranoid about me talking to other guys or when I'm away out and we have had a couple of fights about it already. I am on the fence ...
A. 2 September 2011: Paranoia always sets off warning bells in my head. Paraniod guys often end up being abusers.... (read in full...)
I want her attention again! What happened?
Q. i met this girl for the first time a couple of weeks ago at my friends place...she turns out to be my friend's sister's friend. She is very pretty. A day later she just added me on facebook, and since then she had been chatting with me every single ...
A. 2 September 2011: Send her a message asking how she is.... (read in full...)
I am not too sure about my sexuality-- does this change me being straight?
Q. Hey, well i'm so confussed all my feelings are so mixed up and i just don't understand. I'm 14 years old and from what i know i am straight, i am attracted to men i find them sexy, i have no problem with being in...
A. 2 September 2011: You are pretty young so you will have lots of puberty hormones running through your body that make you feel lots of different things. Don't worry about getting a boyfriend or girlfriend yet just cruise and make friends with lots of different ... (read in full...)
Why does he do this to me?
Q. I've been seeing a man on and off since April. He still doesn't want to be in a relationship, he's says he's not ready. I've poured my heart out to him and he means the world to me. We've slept together a few times and always have a good time ...
A. 2 September 2011: To be fair to him he has said right from the start that he didn't want anything deep so I'm guessing you probably thought you would be able to change his mind. I would forget about this guy and move on he's never going to give you what you want and ... (read in full...)
Is he not interested when I'm with my friends? And, when the time comes, how do I know for sure he doesn't have an STD?
Q. Okaay im a little bit confused might be a bit of a long question. I have a boyfriend who is slightly older than me. We met strangley and randomly, he goes to my school as me (we're both in 6th form but he is in the year above and im starting this ...
A. 2 September 2011: I think you have the wrong end of the stick I think he's just busy doing things in his life that make him happy. It's important to keep doing your own things when you are in a relationship so you can keep your own identity. As for the STD thing. ... (read in full...)
Is it strange that I get a hard on knowing she's with another guy?
Q. I am a Junior in college and have been dating this hot chic a couple of times. Her roommate doesn't care for me and has introduced "Jean" to another guy and they have started dating also. Every thing up till now is casual dating but I get a "hard ...
A. 2 September 2011: I personally have not heard of this but each to there own.... (read in full...)
My sister got pregnant and now my mother accuses me of being selfish because I don't want to help her raise her grandchild...
Q. My sister had a baby out of wedlock a few months ago and where i come from it is shunned upon. though it is common nowadays in this country people still look down at those who have bastard children. my sister went on for years of abuse towards me ...
A. 2 September 2011: I agree with Mishmash but I wonder if you can have a conversation with you Mum about how you are feeling. If your sister is not going to step up maybe you could suggest adoption. There are so many couples out there who would love a child but are ... (read in full...)
I thought she liked me, help please?
Q. This girl called kelly seemed quite interested in me and i really like her, but then after talking to her for awhile [By text, we dont live close] it seemed as if she didnt like me so i stopped bothering her for a couple of weeks which was hard ...
A. 2 September 2011: She sounds like a bit of a manupliater to me. I wouldn't invest to much time and thought on her unless she starts making a bit of an effort too.... (read in full...)
I caught my girlfriend cheating, but I still love her
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for a little over 3 years. She was my first everything and we loved each other so much we didn't go a day without each other. we had a very strong relationship. I never talk to any girls once I met her. I didn't really ...
A. 2 September 2011: If I were in your shoes I would never want to see this girl again. She has betrayed your trust by lying and cheating. She has shown a huge amount of disrespect to you and hasn't even dot the decency to be up front about it when you caught her red ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a whore, but he's the one who wants to mess around.
Q. hi everyone. I really need som help. I dont know wgat to do anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for the last 5 years, but now he hates me.. He calls me dirty names and accuses me of cheating. All the time. He says that he wants to play ...
A. 1 September 2011: Don't settle for this kind of life I beg of you. You will NOT be alone for the rest of your life however I think you would benefit from some time alone to figure out who you are, what you like, what makes you happy, what makes you sad etc. When ... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 1 September 2011: You are so on the right track. You go girl!... (read in full...)
Our fairytale relationship has lost its spark
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 and a half years now. Since 10th grade, and back then, he was so romantic and wanted nothing more than for me to be his girlfriend. I feel like the start of our relationship, and how we both had crushes on ...
A. 31 August 2011: Unfortunately this is what happens in most relationships once people get comfortable with each other. It's not necessary any more to make an effort so romance slides. Have you tried telling him how you feel?... (read in full...)
I gained weight after we broke up, and now I'm terribly unhappy.
Q. I really need help I dont know what to do in my life i feel confused I really miss my rx boyfriend I would love to go back with him but I gained lots of weight I use to weight 120 and now im 200 I go on diets but I end up eating junk food again I ...
A. 31 August 2011: Just to add to Female Anon's excellent advice adopt the Fake it until you make it strategy. If you put a big smile on your face and act confident and happy your brain will soon accept that that's how you feel and pretty soon you will find you are ... (read in full...)
I get emotional when I hear about child abuse.
Q. Im 28 and a mother of a beautiful 16 month old baby boy. Every night before I fall alsleep i cry for all the beautiful little kids out there who are not cared for or are victims of child abuse. I cannot get my head round the fact that there are ...
A. 31 August 2011: I'm the same! I cry at any story involving child abuse and just can't believe that there are people out there who do horrible things to defenceless children. You are normal :-)... (read in full...)
I couldn't take back my ex, and now I wished I had!
Q. Dear Cupid, right now I have no idea what to do. Anyone that can give me words of comfort, advice or anything would help me so much. I will try to explain what has happened as best I can and show how i feel as much as possible. Basically, it ...
A. 31 August 2011: Try and get her back. You are both older now and wiser so go for it.... (read in full...)
One minute I want to break up with my boyfriend the next minute I cant live without him?
Q. Hi, I've been having a strange issue for the past few months, and I'm wondering if Im bipolar. Sometimes I feel I really need to break up with my boyfriend,and other days I feel I cant live without him. These "need to break up" feelings can tur...
A. 31 August 2011: Honestly I would go and see your doctor about this. Panic attacks are a real thing and scary to deal with by yourself. Your doctor will be able to help I'm sure. Also I think you should talk to your family about it. A problem shared is a problem ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend called me a whore, but he's the one who wants to mess around.
Q. hi everyone. I really need som help. I dont know wgat to do anymore. My boyfriend and I have been together for the last 5 years, but now he hates me.. He calls me dirty names and accuses me of cheating. All the time. He says that he wants to play ...
A. 31 August 2011: This man is a disgusting speciman of a human being. I agree with the other posters get away from him as fast as you can. You DESERVE someone who will love and cherish you. If you stay with this man he will erode your confidence, self esteem, ... (read in full...)
How do I broach the virgin topic with this guy I really like?
Q. Ok I,m going out with this great guy over a month now and I think i,m ready to sleep with him. The thing is I,m a virgin and he doens't exactly know it. like we've messed around a bit but I pushed him away when he tried to go forward and I do have ...
A. 31 August 2011: I bet he is nervous too because the first time with a new partner whether you are a virgin or not is nerve racking. Just be up front about it and say "I really want this but I want you to know that I'm a virgin so lets take this slowly" I'm not a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lifelong friend is a gorgeous stripper. How can I be less jealous?
Q. Hey there, I am in an interesting predicament. My bf and I have been together for 8 months, and we are very much in love. I am conflicted over his relationship with his life-long female friend. She is very attractive (and a stripper), and h...
A. 30 August 2011: Yes I'm with you I'd be jealous too. I can't believe she walks around in front of him like that. Tell him how this is making you feel and if the pair of them don't start having a normal friendship (where he doesn't tell you she's hot and she walks ... (read in full...)
I know I'm not good enough for him. Should I just let him go?
Q. Hi, I've been seeing this guy for a year and a half. We dated for a month last year in May, then we broke up because he was still in love with his ex and I didn't want to compete with her, so we decided to break up until he got over her. We continue...
A. 30 August 2011: Why do you think you are not good enough for him. He likes you or he wouldn't have bothered hanging out with you and kissing you for all that time and he certinally wouldn't have asked you to be his GF if he didn't like you. Have confidence that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's lifelong friend is a gorgeous stripper. How can I be less jealous?
Q. Hey there, I am in an interesting predicament. My bf and I have been together for 8 months, and we are very much in love. I am conflicted over his relationship with his life-long female friend. She is very attractive (and a stripper), and h...
A. 30 August 2011: This is a double up. I have answered on the first one... (read in full...)
My friends' stupid comments are ruining my chances with girls
Q. Ok. I am not attractive to girls not because of my appearence but because of the rest people. I will explain this. Many girls compliment me for my appearence and don't have a problem with my personality. However when I am around guys I know, these ...
A. 30 August 2011: You need to adopt a close mouthed policy with your friends. Don't tell them anything about your dating life and then they wont have anything to rib you about. Girls will get to know that you don't "kiss" and tell so to speak. It's none of your ... (read in full...)
My FWB is dating someone else, but still wants sex with me
Q. We had a friends with benefits type thing for a while. He said it was because we live too far apart and I accepted that. Now he's dating a girl who lives near him but still wants to sleep with me. He calls me "hot" etc I feel ugly :( I'm not easy a...
A. 30 August 2011: I'm guessing here that you really thought he would forget about the FWB part and fall in love with you like you are with him? Am I right?
I personally don't understand the FWB idea. I think sex is a personal special thing that you should only do w... (read in full...)
His communication sometimes is tardy. Am I expecting too much from my LDR?
Q. my boyfriend and i have a long distance relationship. we see each other maybe once every few weeks. for the most part we text or skype sometimes. But seems like every time he is with his friends he takes hours to reply or sometimes doesn't even...
A. 28 August 2011: I'm on the side of your BF. You can't ditch your friends just to be on time to connect with your LDR. ... (read in full...)
Ladies, aged less than 30, would you date a guy even if he isn't ''FUN''?
Q. Would you consider a relatively young male to be dateable even if he is a 180 degrees from the hard party bad boy persona? I am not saying that I am weak, nor that I can't stick up for myself and who I care about. I simply have no interest in ...
A. 28 August 2011: My husband has the same ideals as you and he was and is my perfect match. I was 20 when I met him.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend wants to live separately but not break up. Am I being selfish resisting this change?
Q. My girlfriend and I are in our mid-40's and have been going together for just over a year and a half. We've been living together for the last 6 months. She told me last month that after the year lease is up on our rental house that she wants us t...
A. 28 August 2011: I can see both sides here. I understand how you feel and I think it's a normal reaction on your part to feel like this about this move. Equally though I understand where she is coming from too. My husband works away from home a lot and it's ... (read in full...)
Is 'friendship only' possible with the opposite sex?
Q. I am a woman who is looking for a friendship" only" with a man- what do you think?...
A. 28 August 2011: Yes it's possible!... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 27 August 2011: The FWB knew what he was getting himself in for so you don't owe him any explanations. Carry on as per usual.... (read in full...)
Does him getting in a huff about me seeing my ex mean he has feelings for me or just cant he commit?
Q. ok, little back story... I was dating this guy for 8 months but he was a rebound relationship after my first used me and dumped me for someone else. I could never get over my first relation while I was with him so after my 3 time trying to contact ...
A. 27 August 2011: He wants his cake and he wants to eat it too.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 25 August 2011: Most guys are really not that romantic. They can walk the walk and talk the talk when they are trying to impress someone and then once they have fallen in love and settled down they view romance as unnecessary. It's just one of those things and ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is too busy
Q. My boy friend is a final year medical student and i've been with this guy for over 3 years and we are getting married very soon. i know he loves me a lot. But he doesn't show his care in the way i want. He doesn't create romance between us often an...
A. 25 August 2011: There are lots of possible reasons why this is happening:
1. He is so preoccupied with his exams he just can't focus on anything else at the moment. Not everyone can focus on several things some people can only handle so much before other stuf... (read in full...)
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