How could she move on so soon?
Q. Just wanted some sound advice. My partner left me after an 18 year relationship and I found out when trying to resolve things that within three weeks she was dated someone else. She ended the relationship in a cruel way and I didn't get closure. I ...
A. 4 November 2011: What you are feeling is completely normal and shows that you have a brain a heart and some feelings unlike your ex whom I think you are probably well rid of from what she has done. Allow yourself to grieve as it's important to get it all out. You ... (read in full...)
I'm really frustrated with my husband
Q. hi i need help, my husband realy is frustrating me, he has a lot of walls built up around him caused from an old relationship but its making my life with him hell, i love him and i no he loves me but he gives me so much verble abuse and blames ...
A. 4 November 2011: When he abuses you and blames you for things you stand up for yourself and do not put up with it! No one deserves to be persecuted in their own home. Tell him to back off or you will leave. ... (read in full...)
I'm overworked and overwhelmed by school work....and I don't know what to do!
Q. So recently I have been very stressed out about all aspects of my life. I wake up at 5:45 am to catch the bus, which comes at 6:30. My school has block schelduling, so i only have four periods of homework to worry about, but my english ad history ...
A. 27 October 2011: Just ask the teacher if you can talk to him or her and then tell them you are finding your work load too much at the moment and ask if they can suggest some ways to lighten it up. Like I said teachers are people too so just be honest and tell them ... (read in full...)
His Mom and us! How do I talk to him about this? How can we make this situation better
Q. Hello all! Any advice is much appreciated. My boyfriend is 21 (soon to be 22) and I am 20, respectively. We have been dating for nearly five months. I care about him a lot and truly love him but we have been hitting some stumbling blocks lately. T...
A. 24 October 2011: It would be great if you could do some casual but sneaky detective work on the mother if you can. Try and ask her some sneaky questions on things that he's told you she's said and see what she says about the situation. If her story is completely ... (read in full...)
I'm overworked and overwhelmed by school work....and I don't know what to do!
Q. So recently I have been very stressed out about all aspects of my life. I wake up at 5:45 am to catch the bus, which comes at 6:30. My school has block schelduling, so i only have four periods of homework to worry about, but my english ad history ...
A. 23 October 2011: My only suggestion is to talk to your teachers about the stress you are under and ask them how they can help you manage your work load and make it easier. Remember teachers are just people, they have children, husbands, wives and lives outside ... (read in full...)
How can I further improve my thoughts about myself and help my relationship?
Q. Hello, So I guess I'll tell my story. I am 16 and my boyfriend is 20. (yes, i am aware of the age difference please do not comment on it) We've been dating for 7 months. We are both very in love with each other. I'm very insecure. I always belie...
A. 23 October 2011: If you carry on being so paranoid about stuff that doesn't matter you will lose this guy.
Get it into your head that he is with YOU he loves YOU he thinks YOU are the bees knees. Get on with this relationship and concentrate on moving it forw... (read in full...)
He flirts and texts. But that's it. Do I give up on him? He brings out the best in me.
Q. I met this guy about a year ago. I started liking him about 5 months ago, still like him. He keeps sending me mixed signals, and Im just really confused. Ive told him I like him, but nothing ever happens. Yet when we text or I see him, he flir...
A. 23 October 2011: And if he doesn't take up the opportunity then forget it he's not the man for you and there will be someone better around the corner.... (read in full...)
He flirts and texts. But that's it. Do I give up on him? He brings out the best in me.
Q. I met this guy about a year ago. I started liking him about 5 months ago, still like him. He keeps sending me mixed signals, and Im just really confused. Ive told him I like him, but nothing ever happens. Yet when we text or I see him, he flir...
A. 23 October 2011: Make him chase you. He knows you are interested so now you need to get on with living your life and let him "get" you.... (read in full...)
Do I walk away? Or try one more time? when I see him, its torture when nothing comes out of it
Q. So I am just looking for people's general opinions and how they would deal in this situation. Im really sorry its long! I had a crush on a teacher who wasnt actually my teacher, in high school. I honestly cant explain the feeling. It wasn...
A. 23 October 2011: Honestly I think this is a dead duck. It's had so many opportunites to develop and nothing has happened. Move on and forget this man while you are pinning after him you are closed off to other opportunites that are passing you by.... (read in full...)
Please be fair about this : I'm a virgin. How can I make it easier for me to find a girl without a sexual past??
Q. okay, i have a problem and i would like some help if you guys have the time to give me some advice, is not the first time that i bring this question here, but i feel that the last time i didn't express myself correctly and only confused the readers, ...
A. 23 October 2011: There are two ways for you to approach this that I can see.
First is to screen your dates. When dating ask girls what their thoughts are about sex before marriage and then you will find out if they are a virgin or not.
Second is to join a church. ... (read in full...)
Why is my husband calling me names and being so mean.? He's the one who has been secretly visiting and talking to my "friend"
Q. My husband and I have been married for 2 years, he's 41 and I'm 32. I had this friend, or so I thought she was. We were great friends, but we did hang out a few times. My husband and I started having some marital difficulties, and during that tim...
A. 23 October 2011: He's being nasty because he's been caught and trying to make you the bad guy in the situation to make himself feel better.... (read in full...)
Life passing by. How do I cope with Mom pressure?. I hate she's constantly reminding me I'm getting older and less wannted
Q. I'm about to turn 25 and i'm having a quarter life crisis. Every other aspect of my life is good. I'm graduating from grad school soon, I have a great job that I love. The only thing that is going wrong is my lack of a love life. I want marriag...
A. 23 October 2011: I didn't get married until I was 28 my sister was 36 and many more of my friends were very late 20's or early 30's before they met and married Mr. Right. So don't fret you are not on the shelf yet :-) Have you told your Mum how she makes you feel ... (read in full...)
When does the ugly duckling stage pass? Need it to happen
Q. Hi, I haven't known too many girls who've suffered from ugly duckling syndrome but I do know it's out there. When does this stage usually pass? I had acne but I took accutane, I'm beginning to lose weight and currently I have braces. Through ...
A. 23 October 2011: You sound like a completely normal teenager to me. Almost everyone I went to school with had acne and braces. Self confident people are the most attractive ones. Work on your self confidence (love yourself for who you are) and you will be amazed ... (read in full...)
Was he that good? Is this normal? I'm horny and if he's not there, it's hard for me to feel pleasure from touching myself
Q. First off, my age group is misleading, I'm a few days to 18. Anyways, about a month or so ago, me an my bf got intimate, not sex, but he did finger me. Ever since then, when I'm horny and he's not there, it's hard for me to feel pleasure from to...
A. 23 October 2011: Someone else touching you is always a bit more erotic that yourself. Experiment a bit more when you are masturbating and learn a bit more about what feels good.... (read in full...)
Why not? he asked his friend to ask my friend for my number ... But he DIDN'T call me
Q. Hi! Three weeks ago I went out with my friend, a friend of hers and a friend of this friend. We had a blast and i finished sleeping with this second friend. During the night he was telling me about going out together after work (we live very cl...
A. 23 October 2011: If he's really into you he will call. He may have been really busy. Relax and get on with your life, don't sit around by the phone waiting.... (read in full...)
Do I tell my fiance about this? Accident while Doctor attended to me. Does this mean I'm not a virgin?
Q. Hello everyone. I'm a 24 year old virgin. I've never done anything more than kiss heavily. I'm perfectly fine and happy about that. I'm engaged to a wonderful girl who is just like me; needless to say we are insanely eager to get married and ...
A. 23 October 2011: First of all what happens at the doctor is between you and the doctor and no body else's business. You don't need to tell this to your girlfriend.
Second you are still a virgin. Virginty is only lost when you actually penetrate someones vagi... (read in full...)
His Mom and us! How do I talk to him about this? How can we make this situation better
Q. Hello all! Any advice is much appreciated. My boyfriend is 21 (soon to be 22) and I am 20, respectively. We have been dating for nearly five months. I care about him a lot and truly love him but we have been hitting some stumbling blocks lately. T...
A. 23 October 2011: Have you actually witnessed her behaviour that he describes. I am suspicious that he is making this all up in an effort to make you do the running round. Especially given how polite she is to you in person. If she was really the diabolical ... (read in full...)
She says she loves me, but has shown absolutely no emotion or affection toward me since we got back together.
Q. Things my girlfriend of 4 and half years dreads if I ask her:- "Shall we have a night out?" We used to have nights out at least once a week. Then we split up for 3 months in 2008 and got back, things have never been the same. Its as if she doe...
A. 23 October 2011: Move on it's not working... (read in full...)
Is he missing me? he has not directly apologized, but he is posting profile pictures of himself from when we were together
Q. If a guy starts posting his profile pictures as those from the time when you were together...but not exactly the ones you're in... is he just thinking of the general time or could he... possibly missing you. He has given other signals, like rea...
A. 23 October 2011: I look at pics from times when I was with another person but no way do I want him back... (read in full...)
I'm bigger than the guy that likes me and he lied to me. He told me he's 16 and he's only 14. What do I do?
Q. somebody please help with my situation well here we go my brother just present me a guy thru the phone their friends hes really cute!like two weeks ago its been since we met we have a really good time talking to eachother and the third day we were ...
A. 23 October 2011: I know how frustrating it is at your age waiting for the right guy to come along but trust me (I've been there) he will come when he's meant to. In the meantime it's imperative that you continue with your life and live it to the fullest. Don't sit ... (read in full...)
Does same sex Female Colleague Feel the Same Way as I do or Does she just Not Like Me?
Q. I started a new job two months ago and although I sit wit a table of guys (the women sit at another table) recently I have noticed one of the girls acting differently towards me lately. I am not sure if she is jealous of the attention I get from my ...
A. 23 October 2011: She is certinally sending a lot of mixed messages. My advice is to ride it out for a while and see what happens. She obviously feels some kind of connection with you but until you are sure what that connection is it's best to take her as she ... (read in full...)
I'm bigger than the guy that likes me and he lied to me. He told me he's 16 and he's only 14. What do I do?
Q. somebody please help with my situation well here we go my brother just present me a guy thru the phone their friends hes really cute!like two weeks ago its been since we met we have a really good time talking to eachother and the third day we were ...
A. 22 October 2011: He lied because he wanted to be with you and knew you would not have him if you knew his real age. If you want to be with him then be with him if you don't then leave it alone.... (read in full...)
I cheated with my boyfriend's friend, we broke it off but are now communicating again and I'm only happy when I'm talking to him! HELP!
Q. hey , i really need some advice, please dont judge me i feel bad enough about myself as it is back in may i fell for my boyfriend of three and a half years best mate lets just call him james, ive known james just as long as my partner who we will ...
A. 22 October 2011: At the end of the day you are not responsible for anyone's state of mind. Nothing you can say or do can change someone's attitude about themselves if they feel bad it's their problem not yours. You would probably never have been able to keep him ... (read in full...)
Does same sex Female Colleague Feel the Same Way as I do or Does she just Not Like Me?
Q. I started a new job two months ago and although I sit wit a table of guys (the women sit at another table) recently I have noticed one of the girls acting differently towards me lately. I am not sure if she is jealous of the attention I get from my ...
A. 22 October 2011: Maybe she is the type of person who finds it easier to talk to a person one on one and doesn't feel comfortable talking in a group?... (read in full...)
I hate that my boyfriend is flirty with other girls!
Q. I just hate the fact that my bf is flirtacious to other girls,he is 22 now...and thats very immature,he admitted to having an ego problem ..that it kind of boosts his ego!his friends challege him at times if he could talk up/get the no. of a ...
A. 22 October 2011: Deep down you know the answer here. You are unhappy and life is too short to be unhappy. There are plenty of other fish in the sea.... (read in full...)
I want to be a partner, not a mother or a sounding board
Q. I am 43 and am dating a 46 year old man for 9 months. We are both divorced (5 years and 10 years) and both have kids. I have really been enjoying getting to know him. When we first met, he had just moved from a rental house into a house he had ...
A. 22 October 2011: Tell him how you feel and what you see happening to him and don't take any ranting from him. ... (read in full...)
Why we hurt those who love us so much?
Q. I am Pakistani and have been in a relationship with a British girl for the last 18 months and she happens to be just one year younger than me here in Dubai. She and I being great fans of football . I like Diego Maradona and regard him, like mil...
A. 22 October 2011: It really sounds like sport discussions should be banned in your relationship. You should both adopt an agree to disagree policy and never mention sport again since it causes such violent reactions between to two of you.
As for why didn't you say ... (read in full...)
I just want to be attracted to girls but sometimes I find guys attractive
Q. I believe that I'm straight, but sometimes I have terrifying gay thoughts. I'm very attracted to girls, I never been attracted to another guy. When I have these thoughts it makes me stressed, anxious, and have head aches. Gay people freak me out, ...
A. 22 October 2011: Why do gay people freak you out? Gay people are just people trying to plod their way through life the best way they can just like a straight person. It would be good for you to examine why you feel this way about gay people and start living your ... (read in full...)
I had a falling out with my friend. Do I wish him a happy birthday?
Q. I've put off asking this for a very long time, wrote it all out and deleted it, as I thought it was stupid to ask. But I cant make a decision. I fell out with my male best friend a couple of months ago. For good reason, and have done my utmost to ...
A. 22 October 2011: Send a card wishing him a happy birthday then you don't have to speak to him but will put to rest any feelings of guilt.... (read in full...)
How do I get in touch with her just being a friend and then later ask her out?
Q. theres this girl i used to go to school with 2 years ago and she was in a few of my classes but we never spoke at all only if we had to. anyway were friends on facebook and she commented on my status a few months ago and that was it the only time...
A. 22 October 2011: Send her a message saying you'd like to get in touch if she's keen and then take it slowly from there.... (read in full...)
Do I have appendicitis?
Q. MOD NOTE: Poster, I am approving this, but PLEASE understand we are NOT doctors on here and NO ONE can make a diagnosis over the internet. You are just going to get general opinions. I think I might have appendicitis but I can't be too sure. On...
A. 22 October 2011: Those symptons could also be flu, gallstones, 24 hour bug and many more. You should go to a doctor and be properly assessed so you can put your mind at rest.... (read in full...)
I suspect my son is gay and is going to move away because he doesn't want us to know
Q. My son is 30 and for a few year I've suspected he might be gay. As far as I'm aware he hasn't had a girl friend and the friends he seems to be close to have always been mixed sex couples. He has women friends but no relationship that I'm aware of. ...
A. 22 October 2011: Tell him you love him and are proud of him and let him know there is nothing he could do that would ever change those facts. Then tell him you want him to be happy and that you will support him in any life decision he makes.... (read in full...)
Is being told your motherly a compliment or a complaint?
Q. Is being told your " Mothery " a compliment or a complaint? I was out with my boyfriend last night in his car i was cuddling him and I kissed his head while stroking his hair and he said I was mothery. I wasn't sure how to respond so I just stayed ...
A. 22 October 2011: I think when people say you are motherly they mean it as a compliment. People who are motherly make you feel safe, secure and all warm inside.... (read in full...)
Is he worth obsessing over for two years??
Q. so..currently i am living abroad for a 1 year school internship, and yesterday i was talking to this guy who i have had a crush on for 2 years now, and he asked me an akward question. i had just posted a new photo of mine on f.b and he said he ...
A. 16 October 2011: Instead of obsessing over him take the bull by the horns and ask him out. The you will know.... (read in full...)
To me he is disrespectful. Why mess me around? Is this how men act when they mess up?
Q. My boyfriend and I were supposed to go to Jamaica yesterday. I booked the ticket for us back in April. He left to his home country in August and the first thing I said was remember our October trip. Anyhow three days ago, I kept asking if he had b...
A. 16 October 2011: It sounds like he really never planned on going with you. It's a shame you didn't grab a gal pal and head off there without him. He doesn't sound like a keeper to me.... (read in full...)
I need his support. Why will my fiance not stand up for me when his Mom is appallingly rude to me?
Q. My fiance's family are Mormon and his mother has never approved of me. She has always been rude to me and I have never stood up to her because I do not feel that it is my place. My fiance and I have had so many arguments about his family and he just...
A. 16 October 2011: His mother is a bitch! If he wont support you with her now then it will only get worse as time goes on. It's time to have a very serious conversation with him about this and it would pay to ask him how he would stand on you standing up to his ... (read in full...)
Do I keep going with her? Or give up on her until she is over her ex? Am I just the nice rebound guy to her?
Q. ok so feel a bit strange about doing this but really need some advice. I'm 31, pretty normal guy. Have had a very normal relationship history up to now - few happy long term relationships, few shorter term things. My issue is with my current ...
A. 16 October 2011: She does not sound like a very nice person to me. No one deserves to be spoken to the way she is speaking to you so I wouldn't waste any more time on her if I were you. You deserve better!... (read in full...)
How do we spend the night as a little more than just friends?
Q. I have a girl joining me in a couple of nights to hang out as friends. Now my question is simple, how can I make it so we spend the night as a little more as friends? Women especially, what types of things can I do to woo her? I don't want it to be...
A. 16 October 2011: Make her a nice meal and eat it together (or failing that a spectacular dessert) and find out what her favourite movie is and watch that together. As the movie progresses you can start to cuddle up together and see where things go.... (read in full...)
Am I horrible and selfish for not sleeping his way?
Q. things have been rocky with my boyfriend lately. Our last fight was on our anniversary-month. He came over surprise me with a flower, letter and chocolate and in turn I gave him letter and a key chain bear. He told me he had to wake up 7am in the ...
A. 16 October 2011: Personally I couldn't bear to sleep like that all night. Why don't you suggest that you cuddle up together for a while and then get comfortable to sleep. I understand where he was coming from with the movie though. I struggle to go to bed late ... (read in full...)
He found out I used to be an escort and I don't want to lose him
Q. He found out that I was an escort for 2 months, before our faithful and meaningful relationship. We love each other more than anything, because we are both each other's first love. I feel extremely sorry and disgusting for what I did and I wished ...
A. 16 October 2011: I'm a tad concerned about the fact he hacked into your account. That screams red flag to me! What right has he got to do something like this. It's creepy.
Also everyone has a past aand if he can't deal with yours then I'm sorry but he's not the ... (read in full...)
How do I start talking to the younger girl I like?
Q. How to start talking with this girl, shes 14 and damn beautiful i am a highschool student shes always with her freinds i know i can win her over if she becomes my friend but dont have the daring to talk to her have never talked with her till date ...
A. 12 October 2011: Aunt Honesty has said it all. Go for it!... (read in full...)
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