I dumped her before but I like her more now, how do I mend things??
Q. I´m going to be a sohpmore girl in high school. In eigth grade I breifly dated a seventh grader. I was severly depressed at the time and struggling with my orientation. We ended up dating for only two days befre I cut it off. She says she holds no ...
A. 21 July 2011: Yay You!... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 21 July 2011: I agree with Chigirl... (read in full...)
Should I Dump her or is it just another ego boost for me?
Q. I wanna dump my girlfriend. We are together for 18 months. She is nice , beautiful and there’s hardly anything I can find wrong in her but wanna dump her to make it 1-1. My first girlfriend had dumped 6 months before she came into my life . S...
A. 20 July 2011: Oh My GOD! How old are you? You sound about 13 from this ridiculous post. Your girlfriend deserves better than you. Grow up and stop acting like a child.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is very insecure and thinks I'm going to leave him for someone else!
Q. Hi aunts and uncles, I have a very sweet and caring bf of 2 months. We've both had bad past relationships and after going through so much, we decided to be together. Everything's been great until recently. He's constantly insecure because many guys ...
A. 19 July 2011: This is hard for you I've been in your shoes it's tiring and draining to have to constantly reassure someone of your love. What starts off as sweet and vulnerable soon becomes demanding and monsterish.
You will probably have to be blunt with him ... (read in full...)
Is there a chance things will work out in the future?
Q. Hi everyone. My girlfriend and I of 1 year and 3 months recently broke it off a couple days ago. She is 23 and I am 26 years old. She initiated the breakup, and although a lot of emotions were shown from the both of us, it was very mutual and I did ...
A. 19 July 2011: I think you have handled this really well and are continuing to do all the right things. It could be that her head is a bit messed up through all the problems she is having at the moment.
All the best mate hope this all works out for you.... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my friends who delve too much into my personal life?
Q. I have a friend of mine that I can talk to anything about, but I can't stand talking to him about my sexual past with women. Whether it be from a simple kiss, to sleeping with someone. He asks more questions and gets into detail and kind of has a ...
A. 19 July 2011: Mate don't tell this guy ANYTHING! You've heard the expression loose lips sink ships. Your private life is none of his business and a personal thing between you and the girl concerned only. I have a relation like your friend who probes and probes ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my friends who delve too much into my personal life?
Q. I have a friend of mine that I can talk to anything about, but I can't stand talking to him about my sexual past with women. Whether it be from a simple kiss, to sleeping with someone. He asks more questions and gets into detail and kind of has a ...
A. 19 July 2011: Mate don't tell this guy ANYTHING!... (read in full...)
I still love him but he's in love with another girl. What should I do?
Q. I've been dating a guy for 7 months, we used to have a great time. In April he told me that he was with a girl he met 2 weeks ago, and he also said that it was a joke, nothing sirious. Two weeks after that he told me that he's in love with his best ...
A. 19 July 2011: I'm so sorry this is a horrible situation for you. You will have to concentrate hard on forgetting this guy because it's not going to happen unfortunately. Try and go out with lots of friends frequently, the busier you are the less time you will ... (read in full...)
We're about to part for the summer -- how do I tell him how I feel?
Q. ok i really like this boy and ive liked him for like a year basically. without really have much contact with him, he knows who i am and were had short convosations in the past and im in a lot of his classes. i watch him looking at me a lot. and ...
A. 19 July 2011: Are you arty at all? You could make him something or draw him something and give it to him saying that it's something to remember you by and that you are really looking forward to seeing him again next term. Otherwise find some sort of object to ... (read in full...)
She had sex with her ex and took her daughter with her and I am concerned about the child...what can I do?
Q. My ex gf and I broke up 3 weeks ago.She has a 3 and a half year old daughter,which i took as my own,because ive been with her since she was born,she took me as her father. I helped her with everything,bought nappies etc,i supported her with ...
A. 19 July 2011: Oh dear what an awful situation for you. Please don't take her back when she comes crawling back to you and she WILL do this. I wouldn't waste any time feeling sorry for her but I agree with you about the child. To be honest I'm not sure what the ... (read in full...)
How do I get over wanting to compete with my straight-A girlfriend?
Q. Hi there. So I've got a relationship problem. My girlfriend is a straight A student. She gets A's for all her subjects and this really gets to me because I am a B and C student. While I know my marks are good,it still gets to me. I turn it into a ...
A. 19 July 2011: I don't want to come across as a male basher here but unfortunately this is a typical male trait. Competitiveness is bred into your DNA. I guess it goes right back to caveman days where you had to be the best or you starved. Keep in mind that ... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 19 July 2011: She doesn't sound very committed to the relationship then. I would imagine she will break your heart. Tread carefully.... (read in full...)
Any advice on meeting people these next two weeks?
Q. I'm gonna be stuck in my vacation house for about 2 weeks and I really want to meet some new people. I don't have a problem with my personality or looks, I'm not worried about that part. My house is 2 minutes from the beach but it's in an isolated ...
A. 17 July 2011: It's funny how you don't want to be with your parents at your age. I remember feeling like that too when I was 16. I'm in my late 30's now and I'd love to spend two weeks with my parents. :-)
You will just have to go for lots of walks and buy lots... (read in full...)
High and dry!
Q. I've found that I am very co dependent. I just moved out frimthe apartment I had with an ex gf one week ago. We lived together about 8 months. I knew this day was coming but I stayed anyway. We didn't have much in common and she has about 130 ...
A. 17 July 2011: Replace your demons with something positive. Only you can change this situation no one else can do it for you.... (read in full...)
Is there any way for this relationship to maybe return from sexual interest to our original real connection?
Q. I met a guy on the internet a few months ago, and he and I have been talking regularly ever since. Since day one, I really feel like the two of us have had a connection. Everything clicks. But recently things have taken a turn from genuine interest ...
A. 17 July 2011: OMG no don't go there. It's time for you to say to him that you like him but you are not interested in sex with him just yet as you want to get to know him first. For sure if you have sex straight away you will not see him again.... (read in full...)
The never take the blame boyfriend. why?
Q. I'm really gettin sick of this relationship we ben together for a year and a half and we have a baby together. My problem is that I'm tired of feeling like my needs are not understood but yet I'm suppose to understand his we agrue bout the dumbest ...
A. 17 July 2011: Make him spend a weekend with the baby by himself and leave him a list of housework chores that must be done before you return. Hopefully he will realise how hard it is to be super organised with a baby.... (read in full...)
Is there unfinished talking I need to do with her? Or should I just draw the line?
Q. I've been split from my ex for 7 months now and we haven't had much contact because I told her I needed to get over her. She texts me probably once or twice a month to see how I am. I've been on a few dates, but I just can't seem to get over her, ...
A. 17 July 2011: You know how you pull a band aid fast to minimise the pain? You are pulling it off s l o w l y by keeping in contact with her. Cut off all ties and rip that band aid off so you can start healing.... (read in full...)
High and dry!
Q. I've found that I am very co dependent. I just moved out frimthe apartment I had with an ex gf one week ago. We lived together about 8 months. I knew this day was coming but I stayed anyway. We didn't have much in common and she has about 130 ...
A. 17 July 2011: YES it's a bad idea to get over your ex with another ex, what are you thinking? Do you have a job? Kinda sounds like not since you spend a lot of time inside looking at Facebook and gossipy websites. Go look for a job dude and fill your life up ... (read in full...)
Sometimes we flirt, sometimes not. So I'm confused, what did he mean by this?
Q. Ok so theres this guy that flirts with me and opens up and tells me what he thinks of me. However, I'm never that open. When we flirt , I laugh it off but he doesn't. The next day I always used to test him to see if he just talks to me for a flirty ...
A. 17 July 2011: Mmmm I'm confused too. I wouldn't bother even looking at him until he's ready to be nice all the time.... (read in full...)
Any advice on meeting people these next two weeks?
Q. I'm gonna be stuck in my vacation house for about 2 weeks and I really want to meet some new people. I don't have a problem with my personality or looks, I'm not worried about that part. My house is 2 minutes from the beach but it's in an isolated ...
A. 17 July 2011: Join the tennis club and go out for dinner each night and buy something from the grocery shop every day.... (read in full...)
B/f thinks he can control me with sex!
Q. I have a boyfriend that acts like he can control me with his d¤•k, how can I stop him from acting that without giving up sex?...
A. 17 July 2011: Anyone who tries to control you in any way is not worthy of your love. A relationship should be an equal partnership.... (read in full...)
Really like my surf instructor, but didn't have a chance to say goodbye.
Q. Hi This week i have been having surfing lessons, and i have to say it has been one of the best weeks ever! Even though i loved the surfing, it wasn't just that. One of the instructors and me got on really well. We would talk all the time, laugh ...
A. 17 July 2011: Send him a card telling how much you enjoyed your lessons as ask if he's interested in meeting up with you at some stage.... (read in full...)
How do I start to gather some self respect and finally break all ties?
Q. I have been with my married lover for 3 years. Over the years he has hurt me terribly and blamed it on 'being weak'. He has lied through his back teeth and it has gotten to the point were I'm struggling with everything he says. I am madly inlove w...
A. 16 July 2011: I personally never understand why women stay with married men. It's so degrading!
You no what you have to do you MUST MUST MUST break it off with this guy. He doesn't respect you, he doesn't love you, you are just a convenience for him.
Block... (read in full...)
Partner leaves me for days when I try to talk to him
Q. When I confront my partner about things he always walks out and is gone for days. During this time he is nasty to me via text and acts like he doesn't care. My question is dies care or am I being played for a fool x ...
A. 16 July 2011: The real question is do you deserve this kind of treatment from someone who is supposed to love and care for you. The answer is NO! This guy does not deserve you. Move on and find someone worthy of your love.... (read in full...)
How can I learn who I am and change who I was?
Q. Ok. Being at age 33 I have learned that what I have done with my life just isn't enough. I have a decent job that I love helping people. I make decent money. After having been broken up for months with the same kind of women that I have dated for ...
A. 16 July 2011: There is a great book called Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers. Fear is always always worse than reality. You need to feel the fear and do it anyway. Next time your coworkers invite you somewhere acknowledge to yourself that you are ... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 16 July 2011: Love conquers all. If you love each other then of course it will work. If you're just in it for a bit of fun then it will fizzle.... (read in full...)
I'm a cheater. How do I find my happiness with just one person?
Q. Dear world, I'm 30 years old ive had my share of unsuccessful relationships...mainly unsuccesful because of me. i've never been faithful in a relatonship. im emotionally cheating and sometimes it leads to cheating physically if the emotional pa...
A. 16 July 2011: Did something happen to you in your past that has made you incapable of giving your entire self to one person. Looking in I would say you don't want anyone to get too close to you so you sabotage the relationship to ensure this doesn't happen. ... (read in full...)
What should I get my girl to show her I've missed her.
Q. Well, my girlfriend and I have been together for four months. She went on a road trip across the country for two months and a I haven't seen her since. She gets back in September...and I want to surprise her with something, Like a gift...but I don't ...
A. 12 July 2011: The best presents are the ones that don't cost a lot of money but have a lot of thought behind them. What is she really passionate about? The best present I ever received was a dragon made out of clay and fired that someone made for me because I ... (read in full...)
I think this is the best I can get out of life....what do you think??
Q. I feel like i failed in my life because i never had a girlfriend. I never had one. I had a bad childhood, never had any friends at school. Only have a couple of friends now. I'm 21 now, I had spend my night watching porn, playing videogam...
A. 12 July 2011: You must be a hell of an actor if your parents buy your assertions that you are successful and happy. Perhaps you have missed your calling. It's NEVER too late to change!... (read in full...)
Embarrassed about online dating
Q. Recently I met a really nice guy through online dating and I'm too embarrassed to admit it to anyone. I haven't even told anyone about him. When I go out, I tell my parents (yes I still live at home at 22. Grad students don't get paid that much) ...
A. 11 July 2011: I don't really understand why online dating has such a bad rap. My sister met her husband through an online dating site and they would never have met any other way but they are so compatible. Just come out with it and end the secrects. Once your ... (read in full...)
I am really starting to worry while my boyfriend is away at work!
Q. Hi. Well firstly, I’m not sure if it is my insecurities that are making me feel like this, but I’m really starting to worry about my boyfriend when he goes away to work. He works on boats, which means two weeks with me and two weeks away. Well...
A. 11 July 2011: If he was doing anything he shouldn't be doing he wouldn't be telling you the things he's telling you. He would be secretive and closed mouthed about what happens at work.... (read in full...)
Should I go to his party?
Q. I have been invited to a surprise birthday party for a guy I have known for several years. He has had feelings for me for a long time and has often tried to tell me by asking my friends how I feel and writing me letters. I do not reciprocate his ...
A. 11 July 2011: No don't go. You don't need to come up with an excuse simply say you are not avaliable that night. Don't go into details.... (read in full...)
My husband keeps taking money from our account!
Q. I just found out my husband took 3,000.00 from our account over the weekend and did not tell me. I found out when i went to pay my mortage of 2,800.00; there was 500.00 left in the account but he continued to use his debit card and now there is only ...
A. 11 July 2011: Have the bank block his access to any of your accounts.... (read in full...)
He's telling people on Facebook our problems!!!
Q. Dear Cupid, If a couple is supposed to or better yet, if a couple SHOULD keep whatever happens between them, wouldn't that include not chatting about your problems to other people on Facebook? Yesterday, me and my boyfriend had several pretty s...
A. 11 July 2011: He shouldn't have done that. Facebook is a troublemaker!... (read in full...)
Alone and pregnant???
Q. I've been seeing someone for around 2 weeks now and there is a chance i may be pregnant already, however we have used contraception each time and i am going to take a home pregnancy test tomorrow to be sure, i need to get a chance to tell him that ...
A. 11 July 2011: If you are pregnant don't arrange to meet him. Turn up at his house with the positive test results then he can't avoid you.
Why are you worried you might be if you've used contraception?... (read in full...)
My parents have cheated on each other... Is the same thing going to happen to me?
Q. Ok folks, this is a biggie. 7 years ago my Dad went through a mid-life crisis, during which time he was very depressed. This sparked a separation with my Mum and resulted in him cheating on her. Somehow the two managed to work things out and w...
A. 11 July 2011: Even though you are a product of your parents this doesn't mean you are going to be exactly like them. Do you have the same job as your Dad? Do you have the same friends, lifestyle etc?
Just because your parents cheated on each other doesn't mean... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to be morally offended by the way people are reaction to my display of affection to my boyfriend over the internet???
Q. I was on facebook and posted on my wall about how happy I am and how I think i am even more in love with my boyfriend then before.. the problem is all of his friends are commenting on it and saying thinks "like how is that possiable" and "I want ...
A. 11 July 2011: Who cares what other people think. You love him, you are happy, stuff everyone else.
On a seperate note honestly I think Facebook is going to be the ruination of young people. There are so many people on here that are hurt by things others w... (read in full...)
I don't want to get into the middle of his drama!
Q. back in feb i started to like this guy who i was working with. sad thing is i moved away after i started liking him him and i stayed in touch and we started heavy flirting thru text messages almost everyday. Iv grown to really like this guy ov...
A. 9 July 2011: Phew that was A LOT of information! It sounds to me like you have done a lot of chasing here with little results. Now that he knows you like him it's his turn now to do some chasing. You need to back of and start doing things you like with your ... (read in full...)
Husband has panties that aren't mine!
Q. i found a jelly vagina on my husband jacket and some pair of panties and the panties are not mine i ask hem why he had that plus some blue pills too and he dint answer my question he toll me that i was making a big deal but i think that the panties ...
A. 9 July 2011: Yep something is going on here for sure! There is no way there is an innocent explanation for these things. Kick him to the curb!
By the way what is a jelly vagina? I have never heard of this in my country??... (read in full...)
I dumped her before but I like her more now, how do I mend things??
Q. I´m going to be a sohpmore girl in high school. In eigth grade I breifly dated a seventh grader. I was severly depressed at the time and struggling with my orientation. We ended up dating for only two days befre I cut it off. She says she holds no ...
A. 9 July 2011: I think the best thing to do would be to be really honest with her and tell her what you have told us. Admit that you were a bitch in the past and that you have changed and really want to make it work with her.
All the best.... (read in full...)
Concerned about my dad's health and his problem with food. Please help me. I'm really worried that I will end up losing him
Q. I am really quite concerned about my dad...he is 50. I am 25. He has always eaten alot for the past ten years or so but has recently gotten worse. He eats no fruit or veg (except peas very ocassionally) and lives off a diet of coffee,cake,choc, ...
A. 9 July 2011: Does he do the food shopping? If so can you work it so that he can't shop for the food himself? Could it be that he only knows how to cook those kinds of foods too? Maybe attending some cooking classes together would be fun and educational ... (read in full...)
I love her & don't want to hurt her, but I am unhappy, how do I get out of this?
Q. Ive been dating my GF for over a year and past couple months she haven't gave me any affection and we ve been repeating same things everyday,school, talk at break go home and text. and ive been VERY irritated and tired of her these days. couple of ...
A. 9 July 2011: There's really no way you can get out of this without some amount of hurt I'm afraid. All you can do is be honest and tell her what you have told us. She needs to hear how you feel. This may be enough to make her take a good look at herself and ... (read in full...)
| *oo's Mum's friends
These are mutual friends, so *oo's Mum has
added them and they have added *oo's Mum!
|
