My ex has been contacting me but I don't know her intentions.
Q. I won't get into great detail about how me and my ex broke up after a 5 year relationship. I got an earlier post if anyone wishes to read on that. Just that she began liking someone else around March during the time she was still in a relationship ...
A. 31 July 2011: Oh dear 2old4this we are not all like that you know.... (read in full...)
Professor is offensive with a severe attitude problem....but I'm becoming obsessed with him.
Q. A Little Introduction to my problem: I have this professor at college. A little detail------ he's in his early 40's, and an obnoxious *******. On one hand, he's an academic genius, extremely knowledgeable on his subject. His style of teaching can ...
A. 31 July 2011: Simple you go in there with your head held high like you have nothing to be ashamed over. You are going to have to fake it until you make it now. Act like you are confident and self assured around him and eventually you will be.... (read in full...)
Any suggestions on what I can do to help my ultrasound appointment on my varicose veins?
Q. I am in my mid twenties and I have varicose veins for years..i notice it keeps getting worse and bigger as time goes on and I actually feel more discomfort this past year and I also just in general want to get them treated because i know they are ...
A. 31 July 2011: Just do what the phamphlets tell you to do. ... (read in full...)
I like the idea of a boyfriend but I don't like pressure
Q. i'd like a boyfriend and when i think about having one i think it'd be great, but then when i'm around a boy that likes me ... things change and i feel like i'm being pressured into things. i've never been pressured into anything but i don't ...
A. 31 July 2011: Kinda sounds like you haven't met the right man yet.... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the trip or go for it?
Q. Okay so, I have had this crush on this boy for quite a while - but it was an innocent crush, more just from afar. I went to high school with him, he was two years above me. It never even crossed my mind anything would happen because we were just ...
A. 31 July 2011: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/he-is-one-of-the-best-people-i.html
This is the same person No???... (read in full...)
Should I cancel the trip or go for it?
Q. Okay so, I have had this crush on this boy for quite a while - but it was an innocent crush, more just from afar. I went to high school with him, he was two years above me. It never even crossed my mind anything would happen because we were just ...
A. 31 July 2011: This post sounds mighty familiar. See my orginal answer which advised you not to do it.
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I'm leaving soon should I tell her about my feelings?
Q. Hello everyone. I am due to leave in Sept for further studies from my home country, for the next two years, at least. The problem I'm facing is concerned with my feelings for a girl. I have known her for a year now, and I have developed deep fee...
A. 31 July 2011: You need to tell her how you feel and then you will know whether or not to keep pursuing this or not. Just be straight up about it with her. Say "Name, I really like you, I like you more than a friend what do you think about that?"... (read in full...)
What's going on with my relationship?!? any ideas anyone?
Q. Right so i gotta ask something, ive used the site before but never for anything concrete like this. So me and my girlfriend of 4 months have been really happy together. Its been really really good. around a month ago she had to go on holiday, she ...
A. 31 July 2011: Yep something's up. Why do you want to be with this girl is what I'm wondering. It doesn't sound like she's very nice to you or makes you very happy.... (read in full...)
She's accusing me of cheating on her and being jealous of her male friends!
Q. I'm 19, been with my girlfriend who's 21, for 6 months now. All's been well up until recently. However, for the past few weeks, she's been accusing me of being jealous of her male friends. The irony? I'm not jealous, and I even get along we...
A. 31 July 2011: Mmmmm tricky one given you have already tried to talk to her about her weird behaviour. Paranoia is a killer for relationships so maybe tell her if she doesn't stop being paranoid about you the relationship is headed for the rocks.
Also I woul... (read in full...)
My ex has been contacting me but I don't know her intentions.
Q. I won't get into great detail about how me and my ex broke up after a 5 year relationship. I got an earlier post if anyone wishes to read on that. Just that she began liking someone else around March during the time she was still in a relationship ...
A. 31 July 2011: To be honest I think she's contacting you because she is hurt and needs a shoulder to cry on. Don't be her shoulder she has done nothing to deserve any nice treatment from you. Tell her that you have moved on and now she should too.... (read in full...)
My best friend and lover made me feel like a used condom.
Q. Dear Agony Aunts, I've posted here before and gotten such great advice, words that truly helped me with the problems in my life. Recovering from a breakup I met a boy in one of my classes. Immediately I could tell he was attracted to me, and...
A. 31 July 2011: What a complete wank he is. You have done nothing wrong here doll absoutely nothing. He is so completely clueless about how life works that it takes my breath away. You don't owe this man (if in fact you can call him a man) ANYTHING. If I were ... (read in full...)
I'm left emotionally and physically starved
Q. Hi, please, I desperately need help! My boyfriend/partner of several years is driving me sexually and emotionally insane! We live together for 2 and a half years now but things arent good. When or if we row he wont speak to me or let me speak to him ...
A. 31 July 2011: Oh doll is it really worth continuing in this relationship? If none of your needs are being met then he's not the right man for you. Maybe it's time to think about moving on and finding someone who loves you the way you deserve and need to be ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to love again, but he does want sex
Q. How should i act when i see him at work tommorow? he just wants sex? I really like this guy at work. He stares at me when am not looking and am the only girl he chats to at work. I thought he was sweet. So I gave him my number. We got chatt...
A. 31 July 2011: You walk in there done up to the nines with your head held up high and the brightest smile you can summon. If you have to talk to him do so with the upmost confidence that you are a beautiful gorgeous person whom everyone wants to be around. DONT ... (read in full...)
I'm automatically friend-zoned?
Q. I'm not really in this situation at present… still, is it normal for a non-ugly female person to be "friend zoned" by a guy they like? What might they reasons be for this? I only ask because I was reading a website (Urban Dictionary) and the majo...
A. 31 July 2011: What does friend-zoned mean?... (read in full...)
He's not offering any support -- am I overreacting?
Q. I'm very upset with my boyfriend and I'm wondering if I'm overreacting or being a jerk. My grandfather was recently hospitalized and has been in and out of congestive heart failure. I am 20 and still living at home. My parents have decided to fly ...
A. 31 July 2011: Some people worry about saying the wrong thing when someone they love has a sick relative. I struggled to know what to say when my cousin was dying recently. It could be that he's worried about saying the wrong thing so he's bascially saying ... (read in full...)
I took my birth control pills a few hours earlier than normal. Could this have messed my period up?
Q. I had sex about a week ago,and we didn't use condoms twice. He also didn't pull out. He has a really difficult time staying hard with condoms,so I figured it couldn't hurt since I'm on birth control. We had sex that Friday and Saturday. My period w...
A. 31 July 2011: Some pills do need to be taken at the exact same time every day to be effective so they could have been compromised. You should go see a doctor and get a pregancy test done then you will know for sure. Maybe you should take your pills with you ... (read in full...)
Should I move in with her once her husband leaves?
Q. I met that married woman and had a sex with her the same day. Last June we went to vacation together, she came back pregnant had an abortion while still living with her husband. She has told me, once her husband is out I'll be in. The woman never ...
A. 31 July 2011: You are being played. She is not going to leave her husband or she would have done it by now. Move on from this girl she is not the one for you. Find someone who isn't already attached.... (read in full...)
Professor is offensive with a severe attitude problem....but I'm becoming obsessed with him.
Q. A Little Introduction to my problem: I have this professor at college. A little detail------ he's in his early 40's, and an obnoxious *******. On one hand, he's an academic genius, extremely knowledgeable on his subject. His style of teaching can ...
A. 30 July 2011: Oh dear sounds like you didn't really listen to any of our advice. How did you know what his cell phone number was? I suppose aside from apologising to his face for being so silly there's really not much you can do but cool your heels and wait for ... (read in full...)
He's ignored me for two weeks. How can I keep his interest?
Q. okay so there's this guy he's not the player type. He is usually so sweet to me and we used to talk and text all the time. He recently asked me to go to town with him, just us two, and after we went back to his house. We spent the whole day together ...
A. 30 July 2011: Ring him on the landline and tell him you are missing him or if you can't do that go to his house and tell him in person.... (read in full...)
How can I stop myself from falling in love with my best friend?
Q. How can i stop myself from falling in love with my best friend? I'm freely bisexual and so is my best friend. Anyway, we have flirted a lot in the past but nothing had ever come of it. We have only known each other for like 6 months but we just cli...
A. 30 July 2011: I guess at the end of the day you need to think about how much you would hurt your boyfriend if you act on your feelings towards this girl. Unless he's into three way relationships he's not going to be happy and you will lose him. You need to ... (read in full...)
Uncomfortable with my chest size...how should I deal with this? How should I react when I get sleazy comments?
Q. So in a nutshell, I have large boobs. I am 25, probably D cup size, and only 5'1" and 130 lbs; I don't know my cup size for sure because it's been so long since I got measured. And the reason it's been so long is because going to Victoria's Secret ...
A. 30 July 2011: Some girls would love to have big boobs so we are never happy with what we've got. You are right you need to develop inner toughness. Stick out those beautiful breasts and hold your head up high. God made you so beautiful and you should be proud. ... (read in full...)
My mom thinks that wet bath mats and talking loudly are deal breakers! How do I get her to accept my relationship with my fiance?
Q. I was so worried to tell my mom I got engaged to my boyfriend. We went back to my hometown to tell her in person and I was so relieved when she seemed to take the news well (ish) that I cried. But my partner went home a couple of days before me, and ...
A. 30 July 2011: Oh dear your mother hasn't got enough to worry about if she thinks those things are bad. I'm sure given time she will grow to love your man especially when she realises how happy you are with him. Failing that you could always bring home someone ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my mom that I'm ready to start having sex? And are condoms good enough or do I need some other form of birth control too?
Q. Hi!! I'm new here and i'm not sure how to ask, but well, i've been with my 1st boyfriend for almost 6 months and we want to start having sex, but we are both very worried about unwanted pregnancies and we don't feel save using just condoms during s...
A. 30 July 2011: Condoms are reasonably safe if you use them responsibily. You can also buy spermicide creams that kill sperm. These are able to be purchased from a chemist of drug store.
Make sure you have a practice with putting a condom on before you actu... (read in full...)
Never had a girlfriend or even been kissed and this bothers me to no end!
Q. I am an 18 year old male. I'm kind of frustrated. It seems that every one of my friends has a significant other and when I hang out with them I always feel like I'm getting in the way. I have never had a girlfriend or even been kissed and this ...
A. 29 July 2011: I'm not a guy so I've never had to ask any one out so I can only imagine how nerve racking it must be. That said however sometimes the fear about doing something is way worse than the reality so you should screw up your courage and give it a go ... (read in full...)
Any "happy ending" love stories?
Q. There are too many "my horrible love life is slowly killing me" posts. Anybody have any happy ending, true love, stories? Thanks! :)...
A. 29 July 2011: Yep I'm happily married with 3 little kiddies. It happens when it's supposed to.... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to achieve orgasm through vaginal sex?
Q. Hi guys, i am a 21 year old female. iv been with my boyfriend about 6 months and we have been having sex for a few months now. iv had previuos sexual partners before him. but one thing thats really been bothering my boyfriend is that he can't ...
A. 28 July 2011: Some people can't orgasm vaginally. ... (read in full...)
Should I take him back after what he did??
Q. I have been in a relationship with my ex boyfriend for 5 months. He was in the army during the week, and during most of the weekends he was home. When he was here in the weekend we spended most of our time together. He was so in love with me t...
A. 26 July 2011: He made a big big mistake. The only reason you should take him back is if you love and miss him and think you can forgive him for what he did. He will have to be prepared to do a lot of hard work for you to trust him again. He needs to be ... (read in full...)
My family dislikes my bf, I love him, they do crazy things to break us up, should I move out?
Q. Dear cupid, my sister and my mother hate my boyfriend!and i feel like its creating a gap between us and this makes no sense!when i ask them why they dont like him their only reasons are because he doesnt have much money all the time to take me to ...
A. 26 July 2011: Your sister is quite frankly acting like a child. Her catty bitchy behaviour will drive you apart of that carries on. You should not have to put up with this. So what if he doesn't make enough money to take you out to tea. Does he make you ... (read in full...)
Why do I feel so strongly about this guy??
Q. Why do I feel so strongly about this guy. i really like him.? I really like this guy at work. He's really friendly and lovely. He stares at me when am not looking and looks away when I catch him. I gave him my number, we were chatting on t...
A. 26 July 2011: It's chemistry. All the right receptors are firing for you over this guy cause the chemistry is there. Sounds like he's into you too. Bite the bullet and ask him out for coffee and see what happens.
All the best have fun.... (read in full...)
Happened eleven years ago & I am fuming over a stripper, should I let it go??
Q. i just found out after 11 years, that the stripper cut my soon to be husbands clothes off of him while three of his "friends" (one was his brother and "best man") held him down!! then she had them lay him on the floor while she "danced" over the top ...
A. 26 July 2011: You are feeling angry and hurt mainly because of the lie. I bet if you had known about it at the time you wouldn't be quite so bothered. What you need to keep in mind to get this in perspective is yes he did these things but
a.) The initial expe... (read in full...)
After this, do you think I will hear from him again??
Q. Me and a guy i knew from school (we're 24 now) used to have a casual thing when we were both single. I'd never done "casual" sex before and after a while i began to have feelings for him. At one point i told him that i didn't think i could be casual ...
A. 26 July 2011: Move on from this guy. There's no point hoping he's going to give you anymore than he already has. While you are invested in him you are closed off to other opportunities that come along. Go out and find someone you can have a real relationship ... (read in full...)
He is one of the best people I have ever met and I don't want to lose him from my life...what can I do?
Q. Last winter, I hooked with one of my friends. We went to high school together, he is 2 years older though. So we werent great friends, we just ran into each other occasionally. I ended up leaving for school again right after this, but we kept in ...
A. 24 July 2011: To be honest I'm not sure what it is you see in this guy. He sounds like a bit of a deadbeat to me. And given all the opportunities the two of you have had to hook up and it hasn't happened suggests to me that it's not mean't to be. I wouldn't ... (read in full...)
How can I overcome my nerves about drunken sex?
Q. Basically I have a problem with drunken sex. So here's the story. I was out Friday night at a party and my cousion brings her friends down and this stunning girl but about 5 years older than me. I have a pretty good wing man though who can usually ...
A. 24 July 2011: If you do get drunk don't have sex. Drunken sex sucks!... (read in full...)
Do guys usually hug a girl they've just met?
Q. I just met this guy through friends at work so I went hang out some friends house where I met this guy we talked some when I left that evening he asked for a hug. Do guys usually hug a girl he just met? We met up again had dinner with friends he sat ...
A. 24 July 2011: Some people are huggy people. Could be that he is one of these or just really likes you and saw that as an opportunity to touch you.... (read in full...)
Is this guy actually gay or am I getting played?
Q. Alright, guys. Here's the tough one, and I need to know what to do. Until recently, I've been with this girl for five and a half years. She is beautiful, caring, reserved, and I can't help but feel that she really loves me. Recently, our li...
A. 24 July 2011: It does sound weird. I would say he is not gay and that he just wanted your girlfriend for himself. What a wank he's not only done the dirty on you but also on gay guys in general.
All the best dude this is a really hard situation for you.... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband back in my bed?
Q. My husband won't sleep in the same bed as me. We have two young kids and it started when they were babies and he needed more sleep for work. 6 years later - now he's gotten used to sleeping alone and claims he cannot get a good night's sleep in our ...
A. 24 July 2011: My sister used to be like your husband. She couldn't stand sleeping in a bed with someone else. Her now husband is a very huggy person and she has gotten used to having someone in her bed now. Your husband has gotten out of the habit of sleeping ... (read in full...)
He disappeared after our second date...and I miss him so much I cry myself to sleep!
Q. I dated someone twice. Then, he disappeared - he didn't make contact with me after the second date. I haven't seen / heard from him for 2 weeks now. I'm disappointed and confused. I'm too embarrassed to call him because the last time we met (2nd...
A. 21 July 2011: Eeesch I hate to say this but it kinda sounds like he got what he wanted (Sex) and now he's off looking for his next conquest. Chalk this one up to experience. DO NOT beat yourself up for this, he's a wank and he used you. Pick yourself up, learn ... (read in full...)
Professor is offensive with a severe attitude problem....but I'm becoming obsessed with him.
Q. A Little Introduction to my problem: I have this professor at college. A little detail------ he's in his early 40's, and an obnoxious *******. On one hand, he's an academic genius, extremely knowledgeable on his subject. His style of teaching can ...
A. 21 July 2011: This is kind of like Stockholm Syndrome. You feel some compassion for your "oppressor" because you've been "forced" to absorb his views.
To be honest he's not likely to be the sort of person you could cuddle up with on the couch and feel loved and ... (read in full...)
Why am I still single? Feeling so hopeless and lonely.
Q. Guys can you please tell me why is this happening, I mean its not like I'm ugly or anything and I even have good future ahead of and most I'm importantly I know what I want in my life. But why am I still single? why can't the normal thing of having ...
A. 21 July 2011: The best way to meet people is to be on common ground. So join some clubs and take some classes in something you are interested in e.g gym, art, cooking, pottery etc. This way you meet up with people who like the same things you do and you have an ... (read in full...)
Do sociopaths ever get lonely?
Q. Hello aunts and uncles, So I recently got out off a (short term) relationship with a man who I believe was a sociopath. (He had all the signs, he lied all the time, was manipulative, said things he did not mean, was promiscuous, etc). We date...
A. 21 July 2011: I would suspect no. At least not in the sense that you and I would get lonely for company.... (read in full...)
How can I sit with my mum and tell her I have been lying for a year??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for a year now, hes 36 and I'm 20. I love him more than anything. We had our up and downs but we are always there for each other and find a way to work our differences. He knows my family and they all love him, ...
A. 21 July 2011: Mothers have enormous capacity for forgiveness and when she understands how happy you are she will forgive and forget the lie. Be blunt blurt it out tell her you worry she may be unhappy with your choice but that you have gone into this carefully ... (read in full...)
I dumped her before but I like her more now, how do I mend things??
Q. I´m going to be a sohpmore girl in high school. In eigth grade I breifly dated a seventh grader. I was severly depressed at the time and struggling with my orientation. We ended up dating for only two days befre I cut it off. She says she holds no ...
A. 21 July 2011: Yay You!... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 21 July 2011: I agree with Chigirl... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 19 July 2011: She doesn't sound very committed to the relationship then. I would imagine she will break your heart. Tread carefully.... (read in full...)
Any hope for us?
Q. Can this relationship go anywhere? We are on different levels. I make more money than her. I have a degree in graphic arts. My job is a part time hotel job and I freelance from time to time. I'm continuing to look for a full time graphic position ...
A. 16 July 2011: Love conquers all. If you love each other then of course it will work. If you're just in it for a bit of fun then it will fizzle.... (read in full...)
I dumped her before but I like her more now, how do I mend things??
Q. I´m going to be a sohpmore girl in high school. In eigth grade I breifly dated a seventh grader. I was severly depressed at the time and struggling with my orientation. We ended up dating for only two days befre I cut it off. She says she holds no ...
A. 9 July 2011: I think the best thing to do would be to be really honest with her and tell her what you have told us. Admit that you were a bitch in the past and that you have changed and really want to make it work with her.
All the best.... (read in full...)
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