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11 October 2008: How to be secure in love... When you enter a relationship, it opens up hundreds, thousands of uncertain feelings. Little potholes in our sanity and they can easily make their ways into becoming tunnels. I was the most confident person in the wo...
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13 January 2008: I have recently started going out with a guy that I am CRAZY about. I really love him and our relationship has moved really quickly. We were close friends first and both rather secretive about feeling anything more for the other, afraid to ruin what ...
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Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?
Q. How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...
A. 18 March 2016: Why do you so badly want to be a part of your ex's life?
You sent nasty messages? While you were trying to convince them you can be a better person? They have every right to not want to be friends with you.
I think you should just leave them alo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's obsession with his friend's girlfriend is creepy
Q. My on/off bf of two years has known this girl for a year because she is on and off with his best friend. Ever since he met her, he’s hidden the fact that he’s socialised with her, he’s liked all of her profile pictures on facebook, all of her ...
A. 11 March 2016: This is definitely an emotional affair. Are you sure it.. ISN'T his baby? Not to make you freak out but.. It's fine to be interested but boys are not normally that interested in other girl's pregnancies.
He is not emotionally invested in you. He ... (read in full...)
Can I find a loving man who will accept my low sex drive?
Q. I have a low sex drive it's been suggested it's my age but I know I always have had this as sex itself has never been 'that' important to me ever so wonder whether it's just the way I am. I like men and would like a close relationship with someone ...
A. 6 March 2016: My sex drive is weirdly high. It always has been. My first bf was the same and we had a great time, but it ended because it was the only good thing. My now bf has a relatively low sex drive (once a week at a push, but probably once a fortnight would ... (read in full...)
How can I feel more comfortable with my boyfriend?
Q. I moved into an apartment with my 6 month bf, abt a month ago. In the beginning it was very difficult and I gt very anxious. So I had to start taking anxiety meds that have helped. But I still get stomach aches because I have IBS, and I don't feel ...
A. 26 February 2016: I suffer from OCD and struggle with anxiety attacks . I used to worry about being unwell around bf as well or having period disasters during the night. But I have gotten better.
My mantra is "he knew I was human before this" and it sort of help... (read in full...)
My boyfriend would rather go into the bathroom and wank off than to touch me
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 yrs and he won't touch me sexually he'd much rather go into the bathroom and lock the door and watch other females and he chats with them and tells them that he wants to go down on them and then make love ...
A. 23 February 2016: Well. I think you should leave him. Normally if someone is pleasuring themselves instead of enjoying things with their partner I would suggest working on it, finding out where you sequel connections has gone if you used to have one and now you ... (read in full...)
Can I get pregnant from boyfriend having sex then taking off condom and putting himself back into me?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been stupid and need help. Me and my boyfriend were fooling around last week after having a drink and had sex (this isn't our first time) but afterwards we joked about having children and he put it back in as a joke without a ...
A. 15 February 2016: Yes. If he came in the condom it would have been smeared over his penis and depending how delicately the condom was taken off could have gotten more on himself than he noticed. Also sometimes after the act,as men's penises relax, more ejaculate can ... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant this way?
Q. Hey all! so, I am a 35 year old married woman- hubby and I dont want kids. I have been on the pill for 10 years and a few months I had to quit because my body was starting to feel the stress. Hubby and I have been using condoms since. Lately, ...
A. 15 February 2016: You can get pregnant. Pre-ejaculate can come out way before ejaculation occurs. This can sometimes be enough to cause pregnancy. ... (read in full...)
Hw came in my mouth and it left a burning sensation. How long does that last?
Q. Hi, I'm 22 aND my bf and I gave our virginity to each other last yr. We only have had sex once sinxe and he pulled out before he ejaculatd. The other night I gave him a bj and he came in my mouth. He didn't givea warning aND held my head down so ...
A. 15 February 2016: Well I think he is rubbish for holding your head down and not warning you - a sign he is not considerate. I don't care how much people say they lose themselves in the moment it is still absolute rubbish.
If he was forcing your head to stay down and ... (read in full...)
Bf is taking me to the same restaurant he took his ex for valentine's day
Q. I found out my boyfriend is taking me to the same place he took his ex for vday 5 years ago. how do i know this his sister accidentally mentioned it to me, said oh i didn't know he is taking you to the same place he went wit his ex. Would you all ...
A. 9 February 2016: Maybe he just likes the food there? If he took her there five years ago does he even remember taking her there? If I couldn't go anywhere with my bf if I'd been there with an ex, I wouldn't be allowed at my favourite restaurants, the cinema, the ... (read in full...)
Is she not very sexually experienced and I'm just manipulative?
Q. So I've been seeing this girl for a month now- I am very sexual with her but just over the weekend we had unprotected sex and I came inside her.. She was pretty nervous afterwards but we kept doing it for the next 4 days. We have basically fallen in ...
A. 3 February 2016: Other than you not using protection leading to possible std's/sti's and pregnancy,(showing if you ask me that you are both immature and inexperienced securely) I don't understand what the problem is.
Of COURSE she wants to be wants to be pleased.... (read in full...)
I'm disappointed my boyfriend's thoughtless Christmas gift to me!
Q. I accidentally stumbled across the Christmas gift my boyfriend got me (it was addressed to me). It was a very wide, hot pink watch with a heart-shaped face, from a mid-range brand. I'm a little confused, because we have been together for 1 year and ...
A. 18 December 2013: Why can't you pretend to like it? Maybe he thinks you don't like jewellery because you've never had anything nice. You don't have to wear it every day but it would be a bit mean to tell him you hate it.
You can always ask him subtly why he deci... (read in full...)
Why did he come back to ignore me again?
Q. Hello, so me and my ex boyfriend broke up in 2010.. He had a gf as soon as we broke up but that didn't stop us from sleeping together.. We stopped talking for 8 months then he decided to email my cousin on facebook so she can give me his new number! ...
A. 21 January 2013: It could be for any number of reasons...you don't say what happened to make him start ignoring you so I am assuming it was random.Unfortunately it could just be that he wanted sex, because some people are like that.
Just forget about him, beca... (read in full...)
Am I too jealous of what my boyfriend watches?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 10 months. We are really close. He would never ever cheat on me. Yet I still have jealousy issues. I feel like my jealousy is severe. Like some other women, I don't like when my boyfriend watches TV because I know he ...
A. 21 January 2013: I think you're being too jealous.
Everyone is subjected to nudity and sex throughout life, probably at a younger age than we really should be, and we become desensitized to a lot of it. When you watch a movie with your family and there happens to b... (read in full...)
His asexuality doesn't match my high sex drive! Can it possibly work?
Q. Hi everyone! I am currently dealing with an issue I need some advice on. I have been in a relationship for several years and and my partner and I had always had an active sex life. I was always satisfied, though he could never reach orgasm. I ...
A. 20 January 2013: This is a hard situation to be in. I understand that you love him, but love isn't everything. Neither is sex.
The real question is, regardless of the reasons, are you going to be happy in this relationship? If you aren't, then what's the poin... (read in full...)
How can I stop this cyber bullying?
Q. Somebody please give me some good advice, i`ve been a victim of cyber bullying, i know who's doing it but just have to get the propf, what can i do about this? i`ve just getting police involved but no joy. Please help,...
A. 6 February 2011: Cyberbullying. Painful and unfortunately but as long as it's only in the cyber world your choices r easy.
Over email - delete email account and get a new one, or block those who r bullying, and just don't read anything they send.
Over text mes... (read in full...)
I've lost my best friend, was it meant to be?
Q. Well I've gone and lost my best friend all because I was drunk and was talking about her in a negative fashion on messenger at her house no less. So when she turned her computer back on the whole conversation popped up. How stupid of me to even talk ...
A. 6 February 2011: It may be a bit harsh, but I think you are at a point in your life where you should just drop everything negative. Drop the friendship (for now) apologise, leave it that way.
Take some time to sort out your life, otherwise you're not a friend to a... (read in full...)
Madly in love with him, but he has a girlfriend! what should I do?
Q. i am seeing this guy who really seemed to be the one i really wanted my whole life , actually im 20 but ive been through a really hard time fixing my broken heart ,so .. right in the moment that i was thinking how lucky i am and how exciting he is , ...
A. 6 February 2011: Just leave him. Why is he stringing some poor girl along? What happens if you stay and in a few years YOU'RE the one he's 'not really attracted to anymore'. It's either you or her. It isn't fair that he is doing this to either of you.
You have to a... (read in full...)
Will my morals go out the window?
Q. hey, can someone help me figure out who i am? im 18 and a virgin, the only guys ive kissed are ones ive got with while clubbing (too many to count) the problem is im going off to uni in september, and im not sure what ill end up doing. like even ...
A. 6 February 2011: Why are you asking everybody else to define your actions?
Live for yourself, just be conscious of what you're doing.
It's.. sort of natural to want to be the woman in the porn video. When you're sexually frustrated and anxious to experience p... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to improve his hygiene?
Q. How do I get my boyfriend to improve his hygiene? We live together so I know he only showers about once a week. The thing that I really hate is that he often goes for days without brushing his teeth. I've mentioned it to him before but it just ...
A. 5 February 2011: This seems to be a really common problem with the boys that i know around this age group. Why don't they brush their teeth? I don't know. I can't figure it out and I have tried repeatedly to find out :P
Tell him you like knowing he is going to... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is not very hygienic, his room is a mess, he has a pet rat on his window sill and I've started coming up with really nasty skin irritations!!
Q. Hi there guys i need some help and fast! Okayy, so i've been with my amazingly lovely boyfriend for two months now and things are going well. Although, over the time we've been going out i've started coming up with really nasty skin irritati...
A. 5 February 2011: You could be allergic to the detergent that he uses on his sheets. Or any air freshener he sprays in his room? You could be allergic to the rat despite how much he keeps the rat away. It still gets into the air. Why don't you try hanging at yours ... (read in full...)
She was more experimental with her exes than with me.
Q. My girlfriend was more sexually active with her exes than with me. I don't mind her past, but I wish she would just do some of these things with me. Does she just not find me as attractive?...
A. 18 December 2010: You really should talk to your girlfriend about this one. It could be that with her exes she was experimenting to find out what she liked and now she knows and so feels comfortable enough doing just the things she enjoys with you instead of feeling ... (read in full...)
Is taking a girl's anal or oral virginity important???
Q. Is taking a girl's anal or oral virginity important? I know there is no such thing but this is best way to describe it? or is vaginal the only one guys care about?...
A. 18 December 2010: Depends what kinda guy it is and what kinda girl it is. Some people see the first time a girl gives oral / gets oral or partakes in anal intercourse very important, other people don't view it as anything important and don't have a virgin grace ... (read in full...)
Hold on? Or let go of this relationship?
Q. Can anyone tell me if I am overreacting or not? I chat online with my bf on a daily basis, once he just left the chat without telling me and it made me upset. But he said sorry and promised he will never do it again. But today he did it for the s...
A. 2 November 2010: I think blaming your emotions simply on the fact that he left an online chat without saying goodbye is over reacting.
However, you're obviously unhappy with the relationship and the way he treats you.
Every relationship has good points and bad ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to not be affectionate with my family but I am with my girlfriend?
Q. I don't cuddle my family and rarly kiss them or tell them I love them, but I cuddle and kiss my girlfriend ands tell her I love her alot, is this normal?... Or am I crazy?...
A. 31 October 2010: Thats normal. People in my family aren't very huggy and kissy either. It's all dependent on how you personally feel. If you don't naturally do it thats fine. Make sure your family know you love them, and it's fine.
Being affectionate to your girl... (read in full...)
How do I lose 30 pounds by March?
Q. Okay this is a REALLY stupid question but i felt like asking it anyways. I met this boy and I like him a lot. of course he has a girl friend. we have a lot in common and im just wondering if he likes me... see stupid huh? well his little brother ...
A. 30 October 2010: You're not actually that much of an unhealthy weight. Eat healthily, do some light exercise and every few days pick it up a bit. Start running, use the wii fit (to start with), or do hoola-hooping? anything to get your body moving. do some mini-sit ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend needs a 'break' to find himself but what about me?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years decided today that he is moving out and that he needs time and space for himself. He said that he thinks he needs a break to find himself again and he thinks it would be best if we go on a break and he moves out. Obviously...
A. 7 August 2010: Your letter sounds like you've broken it off with him. Is this a break for you? or is this breaking up? Does he accept it as being broken up?
Make sure that you do what is best for you. You are his girlfriend and not his mum, so while being supp... (read in full...)
He has played me and I am only allowing it because without him I would be homeless! What should I do?
Q. Iam in a situation so complicated. I met someone who is a multi slave owner BDSM and has been for over 22 years. Hes has multiple partners. and is fascinated with the lifesyle. Eats lives worships. I was homeless and came here in return had to sleep ...
A. 2 August 2010: If you're working (a real consistent job) then save money and get out. I'd rather be homeless than live in that situation. Start finding your way out now. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend needs a 'break' to find himself but what about me?
Q. My boyfriend of 4 years decided today that he is moving out and that he needs time and space for himself. He said that he thinks he needs a break to find himself again and he thinks it would be best if we go on a break and he moves out. Obviously...
A. 2 August 2010: He isn't breaking up with you. i can understand why you're upset. He sounds like he's leaving for awhile because things aren't right. he's not giving up, he's just trying to sort himself out and sometimes people need time and space alone to do this. ... (read in full...)
Is it just how I look???
Q. well basically i used to be like really emo/goth in how i look and i liked this guy that wasnt and after telling him i liked him and him saying he didnt feel the same way back i kinda stopped talking to him for about a year, duing this time i ...
A. 24 July 2010: It's not JUST how you look. Appearance is important, and some people find it hard to approach people of certain attitudes. Wearing goth/emo clothes usually translates to people as meaning you're a less than bubbly person, and you sound very bubbly ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't have time for me and all we do is fight
Q. my boyfriend has just got a job which is excellent, he has been dreamed about this job all his life, until this he had a lot of free time and we were all time together...and now i feel lonely when he is at work, now we are together only 2-3 hours a ...
A. 24 July 2010: Consider yourself lucky you still get to see him everyday. My boyfriend left to go to uni and from september-may i see him once or twice a month for two days. He is out doing what he loves, and you would both be a lot happier if you found something ... (read in full...)
Lost feelings for my girlfriend. I don't even care to talk to her at times and I worry about it
Q. I dont know if im asking for help or what . Ive been dating this girl for almost 2 years now . we are best friends . I thought she was the woman of my dreams . Recently . I have had some space from her and it has opened my mind up to the imma...
A. 24 July 2010: If you're losing your feelings for her (like you're completely sure you are) then you have to let go, it's not fair no either of you to hang on if you don't feel like you love her anymore. If your feelings are being deteriorated by something she's ... (read in full...)
Is it really love if he gets angry because I'm too ill to want sex?
Q. He tells me he loves me. I have been unwell for a week now. He wants sex and i said no to him cause im not feeling well. He get really mad and pissed off with me. Is that love?...
A. 17 July 2010: it doesnt mean it is or is not love, it just means he's being needy and inconsiderate. if ur really not well, then he should respectfully wait and not get mad. ... (read in full...)
Irregular period? Or bleeding from sex?
Q. Am I bleeding because of his intensive fingering or do I just have an irregular period? Hi Um im very scared and i just want to know if this would be my period or if his nails was the problem or it was his finger that broke my hymen i dont kno...
A. 10 July 2010: It doesn't sound like pregnancy and as long as you always wear protection (condoms) or use a contraceptive pill when having sexual intercourse the chance of pregnancy is low.
From what i've read it's extremely unlikely that you're pregnant and it d... (read in full...)
Embarrassing problem...
Q. I've been in a relationship for 9 months now and me and my boyfriend have come to the stage where we want to start doing things, i was fine with the idea, as i was ready for it too, but i have a problem with my vagina area, i only noticed it ...
A. 8 July 2010: im afraid there just isn't enough detail in your question to really answer it. If it was your ovaries... you'd be in hospital. Just calm down. take a deep breath. See you GP, even look up images on google to see if it's normal for you. If it's only ... (read in full...)
Help me with my girlfriend and getting her to talk to me please!
Q. Could someone please help me with me current situation with my girlfriend!? We've been going out for almost 3 months and everything has been going great! Until now! Recently she has suddenly stopped sending as many messages to me and when she does, ...
A. 6 July 2010: 1) Abbreviations if abnormal are not really a good sign
2) i often (As a girl :P ) tell my friends things i wouldn't dream of telling my boyfriend, especially things im upset about.
3) my boyfriend gets the harsh end of all my mood swings (will te... (read in full...)
Fiance had long phone conversations with another woman. How do I approach this?
Q. I recently was able to check on cell ph records which confirmed my suspicions that my fiance has been having some long conversations with another woman. It stopped a couple of months ago but should I confront him or let it go? It does bother me but ...
A. 6 July 2010: two months ago? i think, no offense, that perhaps you're being overly suspicious hun? I mean, i've had hour long conversations with a sales market person :P how do you know this person is female anyway? And what made you susicious enough to look ... (read in full...)
He said to be patient... but this sounds crappy, doesn't it?
Q. Ok...I'm 45 and the guy I've been dating for almost three months is 34. I've invited him to meet friends...my family..but he always backs off. Today we talked and he said that three months is way too early. We only see each other about once a ...
A. 6 July 2010: I think you have a good reason to be upset. But... i live five minutes from my boyfriends house. he wouldn't get me anything 'spectacular' for my birthday,so he didn't get me anything at all cos it just wasnt good enough and he's never had to do ... (read in full...)
What does his sperm count mean?
Q. me and my partner are both in our mid 20s are trying for a baby but hes been told hes got a border line to low sperm count does this mean we cant have children or do we need to try a bit harder plz plz help ...
A. 6 July 2010: It does not mean u CANT have children. Often children hit you when you've stopped trying. Sometimes it means considering your other options? Or trying LESS hard. you can't try MORE hard for a baby further than having unprotected sex. Stop trying so ... (read in full...)
Worried I may be sick from oral sex.
Q. I just had sex for the first time. Im 18 and it was with a really good friend of mine. I had oral sex with him and were both STD free i checked before i even went near him, and i did swallow. We used protection for intercourse, but he did ...
A. 2 July 2010: tbh i don't think you'd get sick from swallowing it unless you had an intolerance of some kind? but i'm not sure about that. You'd have to go to a doctor to make sure. It could just be coincidence. I shouldn't think there's anything to worry about. ... (read in full...)
I can't even wear a tampon because it hurts so much!
Q. okay so i cannot use a tampon? it is so painful! i even put PKY jelly on the tampon so it is well lubricated! but it hurts so badly that i sometimes cry, it feels like something is tearing or pinching and i just wanna scream! also I hav really heavy ...
A. 29 June 2010: Speak to a trusted parent or guardian. an older sister, mother, auntie - older friend. Someone who can make you feel better.
It hurt when you were fingered because you're so young and your body isn't ready (i'm NOT judging, i'm just saying how it i... (read in full...)
Advice on pill and periods
Q. Ive been taking the pill where u dont have periods, ive had this pill for 3 months now and on my last pack, When i first took the pill the first month i had a very lite period that lasted a day then nothing since then then past day or so iv...
A. 29 June 2010: It depends on which pill you're specifically on. I was on the minipill which 'stops' your period. However, with me, as i was overweight when i went onto the pill i didn't have a period for four months and then i had constant spotting throughout the ... (read in full...)
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