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I like learning from other peoples mistakes and I'm here to give advice to those who ask for it. I am not qualified to do so, but due to me travelling quite a bit, I've had my fair share of experiences.
I am currently in a long distance relationship and although I am quite happy to be with that person, we still haven't set a final target, where our long distance relationship ends and our future together begins. In fact, neither of us is sure there will be a future together, as one of us will have to sacrifice everything to be with the other person, which makes it all even harder to stay stong. I love having him in my life and we are taking it slow and we´ll see where it takes us. |
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I have a weird family!!
Q. I have a weird family. I don't know if I should call them weird but they are getting on my nerves. The problem with them is that they spend and shop excessively. And we are from the middle class family. They just can't stop asking me for mon...
A. 4 November 2008: 1) Dont get rid of your iPod - you earned it, you wanted it, you bought it on your hard earned money.
2) And why is it exactly they want money from you? Who else works in your family?
3) Can you afford to move out of the house?
4) If ... (read in full...)
My libido is missing, I suspect it's due to the pill, what can I do to bring it back, any exercises or vitamins or...?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 24yrs old and I have been on Birth Control pills since the age of 16 due to ovarian cysts. I have never had any issues with my "libido" until just recently. Seems like lately, when having intercourse with my bf of 3 yrs, I cannot ...
A. 4 November 2008: Libido isnt just orgasm though. If your libido was gone you wouldnt want to have sex in the first place. Try using new positions? When I was on the pill a while ago my sex drive has decreased - I wasnt up for sex at all, i have stopped takin... (read in full...)
Married man broke it off with me! I'm heartbroken-should I contact him?
Q. I know this is a long post, but I am desperately searching for some advice. I started dating a guy back in March. I had known him for about 5 years, and also knew that he was married. He had flirted with me before, but I always kept my distance...
A. 3 November 2008: Hi!
Yes, I would advice to move on, is there anything else that you can do? Probably not...
I dont think there is much sense in contacting him either, wouldnt change a bit. If their marriage is recovering then you interfering wont do any good.
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Suddenly she wants to use condoms... is she cheating?
Q. i think my girlfriend is cheating on me. we have been going out for just over 3 months and because she is on the pill, we dont use condoms. however, over the last couple of weeks, she has insisted that we use condoms. we are at different univer...
A. 3 November 2008: She might not trust you and therefore wants to be extra safe. Also might be scarred of getting pregnant.... (read in full...)
I am in a long distance and age difference relationship. I found out he is cheating ...
Q. I am in a long distance and age difference relationship. My boyfriend is from italy he is 27 and had to return because he overstayed his visa. he left in Febuary and i was able to visit for 2 weeks in august so now we are waiting for his new ...
A. 3 November 2008: Hello!
Ive got an italian boyfriend as well. I got a good deal for myself, but the majority of young italians are very flirty, not trustworthy, love sex and cant stay off it for too long. Him telling you to come to live with him in italy is just ... (read in full...)
Does my wife of 30 plus years have a sexual fantasy about another man?
Q. My wife of 30 plus years has a sexual fantasy about another man. How do I know this? Back a few years ago my car broke down in in a rural area. I ended up leaving my car with a friend of mine, got it fixed and my wife took me to pick it up. When we ...
A. 2 November 2008: She probably does have a fantasy about his big thick cock. So what? Let her enjoy her little fantasy. And its better not to ask her about it, you will take all the joy out of it then!... (read in full...)
I've emailed him and asked him out for a drink but haven't heard back yet...
Q. I've been at my new job now for 1 month, me and my male boss get on very well. He is 31 and I'm 19. He is single and has a child. He talks to me a lot about his life, most of the time he is the one to start a conversation with me. I asked him out ...
A. 2 November 2008: I recon let him initiate the contact he wants to, dont go all proactive. If he fancies you he will ask you out for a drink. But I agree with previous posters - it will complicate things at work eventually.... (read in full...)
Every time I call him he is soooooo tired.
Q. Hi, I'm a 23 year old engaged girl. Me and my fiancé were in different places, only communication through chat and fone.. Ours is an arranged one.. once he tried to be horny but I was not comfortable at that time.. later we had nice talks.. ...
A. 2 November 2008: In the mood for what? Just to talk or sex talk?
If he is really very tired it is probably near to impossible to get him to talk. Give him some space, he will start missing your calls and will call you himself when he is ready for a normal chat.
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Ex-boyfriend a bit too friendly? Am I being used or pulled into a FWB?
Q. Ok, so me and my ex-bf have been split for about three months now. He broke up with me for some internet friend and said they were so in love that she was going to move down here next year... then she broke up with him a month after they got ...
A. 2 November 2008: You are being used already, let him get on with his life without you. If he cared for you he wouldnt drag you into his problems now especially that it involves his love life. ... (read in full...)
Does he like me or he's just playing with my heart?
Q. Hi everyone He sent me a text msg and said:" BaBee .. I miss you alot" and then later hetold me that he was just a wrong message. ( he sent it to his gf) I always keep wondering whether he sent me a wrong mesage or it was his plan. He did ma...
A. 2 November 2008: Hey!
If it bothers you seeing him when he comes over for tutoring then stop it, its not worth it.
Also I think he does send those "wrong" messages to you on purpose - as it is very unlikely that your name is right next to his new gf name in h... (read in full...)
My man wants to do my backdoor/butt? Any advice?
Q. The guy that I am seeing has been asking me for anal lately and I have never ever done it. I heard it really hurts, but it is ok if you use lots of lube. I am kind of interested in trying it as he is always poking around back there with his cock...
A. 1 November 2008: For me baby oil works better than all those special lubricants as it takes longer to wear off.
For the first time its best to try it on the side, both of you lying down and tell him not to move, you will have to do everything yourself - guide hi... (read in full...)
Is this love or just pure lust? please I need help!!
Q. hello I am a little bit confused with the kind of feelings my boyfriend and I are having for each other, we have been together for 9 months, the first 6 we was living 2 hours away, so we would only be able to see eachother once a week. The last 3 ...
A. 1 November 2008: And what is it exactly that you are worried about? I think you have answered your own question, he looks after you and wants to spend more of his time with you. Would he do that if he didnt love you? I dont think so.... (read in full...)
What's up with my boyfriend's obvious double-standard?
Q. What's up with my boyfriend's obvious double-standard? It seriously makes me angry! Yesterday I went over to my boyfriend's. I had to take a cab. I arrived late, and he was upset... but he got downright angry when he looked at my chest. I was wea...
A. 1 November 2008: You are making a huge deal over nothing. If breast size was something crucial for him (and there are men that like big breasts so much that theyve broke up with their flat chest gfs just because they couldnt turn them on) so, just get over the fact ... (read in full...)
His cheating may have resulted in a child, I am also pregnant and he's asking me for an extra chance, any advice?
Q. Hi, I have been with my bf for 7yrs and I am now 14wks pregnant...this is suppose to be a joyous time in ourlives but it is not because he has done the unthinkable by cheating and possibly is a father to a wk old child...he claims he could be his ...
A. 1 November 2008: I would advice to wait for the DNA test results first and take it from there. Get to see those papers yourself though! If they confirm he is the father - do you still want to be with him and have this child? If he is the father I think this girl ... (read in full...)
Does sperm cause problems by swallowing?
Q. right quite a wierd question, can you get an upset stomach from swallowing the sperm?...
A. 1 November 2008: Unless you are allergic to proteins I think you shouldnt get sick, the other option is that you are just disgusted and feel the need to throw up.... (read in full...)
Is there a good way to divorce so she doesn’t try to crush me? I’d like a nice smooth glide path out of this mess.
Q. I’m a confused man age 47 and in the military. I’ve been married 21 years and dated my wife for six years before our marriage. I was scared of marriage when I dated her, but when she became pregnant I knew it was time. Our marriage started off ...
A. 1 November 2008: If you dont want to end the marriage - go and see a therapist.
If you want to separate and think that she is still having an affair and think that she will try to drain you financially if you divorce - hire a private detective, its not cheap, b... (read in full...)
I am desperate for sex!
Q. I am 27 year old, I desperately want sex - for fun. However my socioeconomic status is not good enough to get married and have 'legal sex'. On the other hand i do not want to 'buy' sex as it is inhuman, i think. what should I do for my desire? ...
A. 1 November 2008: Agree with previous poster about prostitutes. Other option -getting a girlfiend?... (read in full...)
I'm not LIVING my life, I'm just putting up with it.
Q. I am at this site because I am truly at the end of my rope. This has gone on for so long that something has got to give, or I am literally going to go crazy. I badly need someone who will try to help me with advice and not judge me. My proble...
A. 1 November 2008: Hi!
If you want to move - think of what could and should be done to move. First research the countries. You speak Spanish, so you have all the countries beneaf US except for Argentina. Those are third world countries, and if you are not going to... (read in full...)
Every guy wants her... could she like a fat guy?
Q. Is it possible for a pretty girl to like a fat guy when nearly every guy wants her and can pretty much get any guy she wants? ...
A. 1 November 2008: Either all other guys are asses and the fat guy has got really nice personality or all other guys are fine but the girl is insecure and not confident enough to go out with a good looking fit guy as then she will feel like she is not good enough for ... (read in full...)
Had sex with ex bf. My fiancee is now excited to be a dad but I don't even know whether I'm pregnant!
Q. I have a question - Me and my ex-boyfriend were having sex and it was 2 days after my period and he might have precumed inside of me. Is there any way that i might become preg.? I dont know i have been feelin weird after we had sex.We never used a ...
A. 1 November 2008: So how does your fiancee know that you are pregnant if YOU ARE NOT SURE YET? First get a pregnancy test! You could also go to a clinic and get tested there, but a home preg test should be just fine.... (read in full...)
Ex bf wanted me to stay over last night... What does this mean? He said he wanted to be single
Q. Hi all at dear cupid, Im really stressing out at the moment, im still really in love with my ex bf,we split about 3 weeks ago now, and i use to ring him every other day when we split, but this week, we've spoken every single day this week, and i al...
A. 1 November 2008: Sounds like he just wants sex and since you are vulnerable its easy to get it with you.... (read in full...)
Hope I can get an honest answer here!
Q. Hi! hope i can get a honest answer here...i've got a bf and i love him a lot and he loves me the same way. he's very nice and kind. only i'm not used to the kind of relationship he's got with his sister...i think i'm a bit jelous and i'm almost ...
A. 31 October 2008: Hello!
I have a friend who is 22, when she is at home she can walk around in her underware when her mum and dad are around, I find it weird...
Also another friend of mine likes to sleep with other people, not in a sexual way - when her brother... (read in full...)
Am I getting upset for no reason or should I confront him and ask him about it???
Q. I was just wondering if I am overreacting. My husband left his email program up and so I was reading one of the emails and it was from an old girlfriend. She was telling him about her marriage and how things weren't so good for her right now and ...
A. 31 October 2008: Hi, I think you dont have anything to worry about. He hasnt told you because probably knew you would get upset. If they will keep on emailing each other he will probably tell you sooner or later that they are keeping in touch, if it was a one off ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have this type of friendship with a married guy?
Q. I made a casual friendship with a guy when I sold some radios for an air base (he's air force) He was very friendly, yet a bit too much back then. He left a week later. I had to contacted him a month after that by email and since then we began ...
A. 31 October 2008: Hi. Doesn't sound like anything "bad" is going on between you two. He is a military man, they move around the globe and most probably he does not have as many friends as people who aren't in the military have. Because he moves around and is never ... (read in full...)
My wife is cheating, but doesn't want to leave me.
Q. Thing between my wife and me have not been right for a while. She has been chatting a lot to other men online. A while back I found out that she was sending naked pictures to these men. I thought she stopped but recently she started talking to an ...
A. 30 October 2008: My advice is to separate for a while if that is possible, since she is the one that is cheating it should be her. If this cannot be arranged, move out of the bedroom, try to estrange from her. She cant be treating you like this. Try to show her what ... (read in full...)
Is he just with her to make me jealous???
Q. I think he wants me back but playing mind games! I split with ex of 2 an half year 3 month ago because he drank to the extent he became a horrible person, I asked him to quit and he said he couldn't. Since then he got a new lass who he's been with ...
A. 30 October 2008: I used to have a boyfriend who played mind games with me, I was so insecure about most of things! Dont let him play with you. I agree with previous poster Fade 878, sounds like you want him back - hes an alcoholic! Move on!... (read in full...)
I want to end this two year affair... NOW!
Q. Hi- I am looking for Advice on a situation that I have been in for 2 years. I have been married for 14 years and only started cheating 2 years ago. I have had many lovers in those 2 years (I know that it's wrong) I have ended all of the cheating and ...
A. 30 October 2008: I would advice not to tell your husband, but I guess that would depend on what kind of man he is. Telling him might make you feel better but could be torture for him, so better confess to a councellor.
As to finishing your affair - is changing... (read in full...)
I'm feeling the intensity slipping away.....
Q. Hi My problem is, that I've been seeing a woman for 8 months. Initially my feelings were very passionate. Up until recently I've noticed a difference in my feelings and I don't know why. Our love making is very powerful. We generally see...
A. 27 October 2008: You say you've been seeing this woman for 8 months, what is your relationship like outside those weekender sex marathons? Is there love and care and desire to get to know each other better? If not, then it could be that your relationship is mainly ... (read in full...)
How long should I say nothing?
Q. I recently split with my girlfriend of 7 months. Basically, she started a 70 a week job in another part of the country and i felt i had to go be with her to make it last. I went there to try her job and live with her. Unfortunately, we fell out. She ...
A. 27 October 2008: Sounds like she does not want to be with you and well made it clear she does not want to be in a relationship with you...Just leave her be, if she changes her mind she will let you know and then it will be up to you to decide whether you still want ... (read in full...)
Her parents have grounded her and taken her phone away...
Q. Ok so I'm sure you all have heard this story a billion times, but I never thought it would happen to me. Last night I ordered some pizza to this girl's house that I don't like as a joke, and now my girlfriend tells me her parents said she is ...
A. 24 October 2008: Your girlfriend got her phone taken off her ( I assume she is the same age as you - 18-21) because you sent pizza to some girl??? Whas that pizza poisoned or it was a pizza made out of poop? And how did they get a sniff of this?
This all just sou... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant this way?
Q. hey... this is kind of embarrasing but.. If a guy rubs his *ahem* against a girls.. area.. with underwear on, is it possible for the girl to get pregnant if the guy cums? Sorry but this question has been bugging me.. thanks xxx...
A. 24 October 2008: well for sperm to travel this distance from your underware to your egg is like a travel to the moon. do be careful though... (read in full...)
I feel we should split up before University. Good idea???
Q. I'm having a huge problem right now about my relationship with my bf. We were together for almost 2 years but split up for 5 monthS. We got back together about a month and a half ago and things have been ok. Hes deffinetly more loving and carring in ...
A. 24 October 2008: If you are not happy and dont see future together I dont think its a good idea to waste your and his time. In university you will meet so many guys who potentially will be able to make you happy.
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I'm terrified of losing my virginity.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and everything is going so well. It couldn't be going better except for one thing; I'm a virgin and am still scared of losing my virginity. My boyfriend has been so understanding, and we ...
A. 23 October 2008: Hm...and which positions have you tried? So when you come close to doing it, you freeze up and just let him to his thing? Maybe a change in roles would be good? he does nothing, maybe even his wrists tied, and you on top? (I am not sure if this is a ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of his empty promises.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and been living together for 2. Recently I went into his phone to text myself (couldn't find my phone) and there were messages to and from this girl he used to work with, "Vanessa". We've...
A. 23 October 2008: I agree with MammaMia, depends on the messages - if they arent intimate then you are overreacting, although it is not very common for guys to have a girl as their best friend, does happen though.
And if the txts were compromising him, then I s... (read in full...)
Will I ever get over the hate for that slut???
Q. My husband and I are together now. He had a brief affair with our neighbour who is married. We were all friends. When I caught them together he asked me what about us, well I told him that as long as he was involved with her I would see to it that ...
A. 23 October 2008: I know this is going to sound childish, but I think I wouldnt be able to help myself and would do something nasty to her house...like wiping dogs poo all over her door or windows...assuming there is enough poo lying around and that she doesnt have ... (read in full...)
I'm terrified of losing my virginity.
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over a year, and everything is going so well. It couldn't be going better except for one thing; I'm a virgin and am still scared of losing my virginity. My boyfriend has been so understanding, and we ...
A. 23 October 2008: What is it exactly that you are scared of? The pain? It shouldn't be that bad. How about some romantic music, slowly getting clothes off, having a glass of champagne/wine, lots of kissing and oral on you before he does anything else?
Do you live... (read in full...)
Why does my wife want to "just play" and not have sex?
Q. all my wife wants to do is give me head or jerk me off and all i want is to touch her but when i do she says no or stop i dont want to have sex i just want to play to it feels like its been like this for months ...
A. 23 October 2008: Confront her directly?
Ask her whether her health has been troubling her? (Just a thought) Or she wasnt happy with intercourse before? Ask her exactly how youve asked us - why wont you have sex with me, you might get an honest answer!... (read in full...)
Read her journal: did she sleep with him?
Q. There is one particular ex my GF has that for whatever reason, more than her others, rubs me the wrong way. I don't like this guy one bit. However, he was her first boyfriend, and stopped dating I think at 16 years old. We are 22 now, but she is ...
A. 23 October 2008: Oh guys common - she shouldnt ever lie, EVER! What kind of saint, impossibly perfect person would that be eh???
She slept with him, so what?
I think if she doesnt wanna talk about it its her right, after all there are some people that hold... (read in full...)
What should I do with this great connection we have?
Q. i have a really big crush on someone who has a girlfriend. me and him go to school together but she lives like 2 hours away at college he always flirts with me and alot of people see it, he even went as far as taking my phone and getting my number ...
A. 23 October 2008: If that was my boyfriend, and I am in a serious long distance relationship, I would consider this cheating. Maybe those two guys arent serious about their relationship or hes just the type of guy that thinks its ok to be flirting with another girl ... (read in full...)
Is four months long enough?
Q. i have been with a guy for nearly 4 months and im happy but he is asking about sex. im not sure if im ready and is 4 months long enough?? its just that everytime we're alone together we come so close to having it and i have to stop because im not ...
A. 23 October 2008: If you are having doubts then you are not ready. You are ready when you want to get him out of those clothes and make sweet sweet love to you. ... (read in full...)
It's killing me waiting for her to move on....
Q. My gf and I broke up 6 weeks ago. She hasn’t gotten over it (i.e. she keeps sending me emails and we keep “accidently” running into each other) and I miss her a lot. I don’t think she’s the one (she's not a life partner - too irresponsible, ...
A. 23 October 2008: Hang in there! Dont slip! Thats the worst case scenario, then it will take her ages to stick off you.
Ive been in a similar situation, well not exactly the same, but the guy wouldn't leave me alone, phoning, txting, emailing, sending flowers ... (read in full...)
Read her journal: did she sleep with him?
Q. There is one particular ex my GF has that for whatever reason, more than her others, rubs me the wrong way. I don't like this guy one bit. However, he was her first boyfriend, and stopped dating I think at 16 years old. We are 22 now, but she is ...
A. 22 October 2008: Even if she slept with him it doesnt matter now does it?
If she lied to you about it, then she most probably didn't want to hurt your feelings. And if you keep on badgering her about this she might end up telling you more lies which is going to... (read in full...)
What should I do with this great connection we have?
Q. i have a really big crush on someone who has a girlfriend. me and him go to school together but she lives like 2 hours away at college he always flirts with me and alot of people see it, he even went as far as taking my phone and getting my number ...
A. 22 October 2008: Ask him about his girlfriend. In a friendly non-pushy manner. Maybe they have decided to take time out. That would explain his flirting. In any case its best to ask him now before things get more complicated, so that you wont have things to regret ... (read in full...)
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