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Hi :) I've lived in four different countries, met people from all around the world. I see myself as a cosmopolitan, friendly and open-minded person.

I like learning from other peoples mistakes and I'm here to give advice to those who ask for it. I am not qualified to do so, but due to me travelling quite a bit, I've had my fair share of experiences.

I am currently in a long distance relationship and although I am quite happy to be with that person, we still haven't set a final target, where our long distance relationship ends and our future together begins. In fact, neither of us is sure there will be a future together, as one of us will have to sacrifice everything to be with the other person, which makes it all even harder to stay stong. I love having him in my life and we are taking it slow and we´ll see where it takes us.

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Here it is ten years later, what do I do?

Q.   Hi My husband and I were talking and he and I have been married over ten years. Around ten years ago we were separated for a year but were still close, didn't live together but it was hard to tell we weren't married. Anyway the question is h...

A.   10 December 2008: And why did he have to tell you this now? To make himself feel better or make you feel bad? I dont really know... It doesn't really matter what happened ten years ago, you were on your break and he slept with someone else. Happens. And he didnt wa... (read in full...)

Should we try to get custody like his family wants, or give up on this?

Q.   My husband's ex girlfriend and him had a daughter 4 years ago. He pays child support but never gets to see her or if he does get to see her the women takes the child away if he doesn't do what she wants. "Takela"(we'll call his ex) is never with ...

A.   10 December 2008: Hello there. This is a very important decision that you will have to make but to put it frankly - it will have to be made by you and your husband. Not his family. If he has given up on connecting with his daughter well could this be an indicati... (read in full...)

We're running out of things to try...any suggestions for things to try in bed?

Q.   What are some new things to try in bed? We've done a lot of positions and are pretty adventurous. We try brainstorming new ideas but get stuck in ruts. Any suggestions? Thanks!...

A.   10 December 2008: Wow! You are 16-17 and you've tried almost everything? I suggest checking out kamasutra if you are done with all positions popular in the western world. Also changing locations might spice things up - car, nature, cinema. Then there is t... (read in full...)

Faking it...

Q.   When my bf starts to massage me with his fingers to try and get me to have an orgasm, I become embarrassed an I cannot get an orgasm so I fake it. Help me so I can stop faking and start feeling an orgasm?...

A.   10 December 2008: I agree with all previous posters - don't fake it! If you are too embarassed to tell him or don't know how to tell him what you like - show him, guide his fingers and if he is doing it right let him know that it feels good.... (read in full...)

I did something really stupid and need advice...

Q.   I need help, I did something rly really stupid. Basically there's a male teacher who helps me with sooo much stuff, and today I kinda gave him a quick kiss on the cheek, and I'm soo worried that someone might have saw... I don't think at the angle ...

A.   10 December 2008: First of all calm down. Pretend it never happened. And if someone asks, tell them they are wrong. And I guess one more thing - don't do it again!... (read in full...)

I've been crying my eyes out because I can't think of any other way to get him out of my head. Help!

Q.   So basically.. my boyfriend (now my ex) and I broke up a couple weeks ago. We both decided it would be best for us to let things go, and accept the fact that we shouldn't be together. We were together for about 3 years, and during the middle of our ...

A.   9 December 2008: Hi there. You have told him on several occasions to go and be with this girl, so all he has really done - he took your advice! It is the same as with girls telling their boyfriends - oh um, I am so fat, I need to lose weight - and guess what... (read in full...)

Non shallow guy...

Q.   Hi, I know this sounds like a stupid question - would you fancy an ugly looking girl with a weight problem? It's just a question. Any male readers could give me an idea because I am a shallow person. Is there such a thing as a non-shallow guy? Is ...

A.   9 December 2008: Hey, im not a guy as you can see, but I personally know a few couples where he is the good looking superman and she is a plump average girl. ... (read in full...)

Is 12 sexual partners considered slutty?

Q.   I've just starting going out with a great girl, we are both 22, but recently found out that she has had 12 sexual partners, I didn't take the news well, she has only had 1 one night stand in her past but I am still concerned that she sounds slutty ...

A.   9 December 2008: Hey, I would suggest for future reference - don't ask about previous sexual partners or relationships, this brings nothing but trouble, upsets partners, unless your partner is very keep to talk about it herself. If you are happy with her then I s... (read in full...)

I have ulcers and sores in my mouth after cheating on my husband. Is this an STD?

Q.   Can anyone help me I am worried sick, I have cheated on husband for a few months now, I have only given the other man oral, he is married too and says he has never had an affair before, but over the last number of weeks I have started getting ...

A.   9 December 2008: You need to see a doctor immediately, this sounds like this could be hep virus! ... (read in full...)

About calories and fat!

Q.   Hi, this isnt a relationship question its about calories and fat! Im so confused! For example if i ate a bagel and it has 215kcal fat 3.2g and saturated fat 0.3g is this fattening or not??? as bread is less in calories but a bit higher in sat...

A.   8 December 2008: Hi, fat is still fat saturated or not. Unsaturated fat is healthier thats the main difference. "you should have no more than 70g fat a day if you’re having around 2,000 calories daily." (http://... (read in full...)

Other than diets, exercising and starving myself how else can I lose weight?

Q.   Hello, I'm new to this site and just had one main question if you could help I would really love it. Well to start I'm 16 years old. I weigh 130 About. I'm just under 5 ft. To me I'm am fat although my family and friends say I'm normal. Plus for...

A.   27 November 2008: Hi, I would suggest calorie counting, its really not that complicated. For the first month or so avoid all junk food, make yourself healthy sandwiches for school - wholemeal bread, chicken/turkey meat, veggies, no sauces, that kind of thing. S... (read in full...)

Baby fever

Q.   I don't know if this is normal or natural, but I really want to have a baby. I'm only 18 not financially stable, I have a flat to pay for but I can't stop thinking about babies. I haven't been with my boyfriend all that long but my broodine...

A.   27 November 2008: Hi there! I went through broodiness periods myself, as your hormones fluctuate its normal to experince the "baby fever". It does go away eventually though, especially when you are engaged in something exciting - travel, time consuming hobbies, ... (read in full...)

My period came twice this month and I'm really worried that I could be pregnant!

Q.   Hi, I am 16 years old and I had my period twice this month :/ first on the 2nd of November and it lasted like 7/8 days and again yesterday on the 25th of November.. :/.. I am scared that I could be pregnant because on the internet I found you can be ...

A.   27 November 2008: You can get pregnant if the semen gets inside your vagina. In all the other cases it is highly unlikely that you will get pregnant. You are still young, so your periods might be still irregular until your mid twenties. Stress can lead to hormonal... (read in full...)

I don't think I love my husband anymore! Help!

Q.   Hi I feel sick and utterly alone not being able to talk to anyone about my marriage. There is nobody I feel I can be absolutely honest with and the one person I should do my husband I don't want to hurt. We have been married 9 years and have 4...

A.   27 November 2008: Hi there. 4 kids is a huuuuge responsibility and it seems that it is all lying on your shoulders. You pointed out that you dont rely on his income. So if he is not the provider, he is not the father he should be, then you are pulling all the ... (read in full...)

I want to get a bikini wax, but I'm scared that I'll smell!

Q.   A question for the girls, I am thinking of going for a bikini wax because I don't know what to do with it, but I think I smell, I was just wondering if you are suppose to have an odour, and I am a little worried in case I leak when they start ...

A.   27 November 2008: About waxing being more painful during period - i dont agree, that depends on the person. If you mean that ur scared you will get wet - you probably wont as it will hurt, so you wont be exactly lying there daydreaming :) You can ask for a we... (read in full...)

Does going to the gym make sex better?

Q.   Does going to the Gym help you when you want to have good sex?...

A.   27 November 2008: Not necessarily the gym makes it better, but staying fit does. You can stay fit by working out, weights will help you build up muscles which will make you look fit but that wont improve your stamina. For endurance and good fitness I would advice ... (read in full...)

Long Distance Depression? Confused...

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend and I have a long distance Relationship. That was love at first sigh! Feelings i never had before and that on!, Now, We have 6 months of know, and 3 and a half living together, Now we are away of each other again. He loves me and i...

A.   27 November 2008: Hi. First do not rush into any decisions, since you are appart you pretty much have all the time in the world to think everything through. In a long distance relationship it is very VERY important to have an end goal - i.e. getting together... (read in full...)

Should I pursue it?

Q.   My husband of two years and I seperated in September mainly because the marriage was abusive, but also because he decided he was having a midlife crisis (at age 24!!) and couldn't decide if he wanted to be married any more. Since we have been apa...

A.   27 November 2008: Well getting together might help you make up your mind. You are still not sure about what to do, so the change in location might help. You got married for a reason, because you loved each other I presume? Are the feelings still there? Do you thin... (read in full...)

When She Feels Like It

Q.   Okay, I am a young man and I am engaged to a woman who only wants to have sex when "she" wants to. I mean it's really frustrating and has become a burden and forcing me to consider calling off the wedding. We have had discussions about it and she ...

A.   27 November 2008: I totally agree with Fade, if its not working right now, it will not in the future, it will be years before your sex drive is going to fade, I see no reason why you should sacrifice sex, you will just grow to resent her and the relationship if you ... (read in full...)

Do my dreams mean anything?

Q.   hello =) this is probably going to sound like a really lame problem... but i keep having dreams about this guy. its some one ive never met before, but its the same guy in every dream. the situation changes, but we're still always dating...

A.   27 November 2008: There are some websites that explain dreams, google it. It could be something, could be nothing... I rarely dream myself at night at all, but I daydream lots. Maybe deep down inside you want to have a date or two? ... (read in full...)

Is it okay for a 13 year old to masturbate?

Q.   is it ok for a 13 year old to masturbate? ...

A.   27 November 2008: I found out my boyfriend did it for the first time when he was 8!!!! Shock shock! I started when I was 11. Its just down to your hormones, someone starts earlier than others, some people never do it... so if you feel like doing it now, why put it ... (read in full...)

Why is it so hard for parents to talk to their kids about sex??

Q.   why is it so hard for parents to talk to us teenagers about sex? i just dont know why to some parents its so hard for them to tell us what sex is. i think that me at age 13 i should have been known this stuff from my mom but why do they insisted in ...

A.   27 November 2008: Because they see you as their child, and always will, even when you are 40 and 50 and 60 etc. Of course by then they will except that their little baby has grown up and hes a life of her/his own, and sex is a part of any normal persons life. But ... (read in full...)

How can I tell when he's ready to ejaculate?

Q.   I've been with my boyfriend for a while now and I know he wants more than what we have currently done in the past (furthest we have gone is with the hand). I want to give him a bj but for some reason I can't stand the idea of him cumming in my ...

A.   27 November 2008: 1) You can ask him to tell you when he is about to come, tell him to pull out just before he does cum. 2) Just observe him, his breathing will become more intense, well youve given him a hand job before, this wont be any different!... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable just because these mates are girls?

Q.   My boyfriend has a few girlfriends. He has actually slept with one of these girls but says it was a drunken mistake and that they are like brother and sister. He has this other girl mate who is only 23, she calls and texts all the time. I can ...

A.   25 November 2008: You are not being unreasonable. This is ridiculous, he is trying to be what to those girls? A father? A brother? She needs looking after my ass! She has got her own family for that. Maybe if he was working he would have less time for all these lo... (read in full...)

I have the chance to lose my virginity with a girl I have been chatting to over the Internet - should I go for it?

Q.   I'm a virgin but I've got the chance to loose it to a girl I've been chatting to over the internet. We are planning on meeting in a hotel and spending the day "doing it" She is lovely to chat and is well up for it even though I'm a virgin but ...

A.   25 November 2008: I agree with previous poster. Dont do it if you are not totally up for it! You HAVE to be attracted to the person for sex to be good. Go out more, socialise more, and there will be more chances that you will meet the right girl for yourself... (read in full...)

She lets me stay over and sleep in her bed - but sex is out for now - why could this be?

Q.   My girlfriend and I recently went through some rough patches, i.e. she moved me out of her house her parents own that I moved out of my place to live in almost a year ago. Now we are together still and she lets me stay over and sleep in her bed, but ...

A.   25 November 2008: Ask her directly about her intentions. Why you are not having sex? She is playing some kind of mind game, but I am not sure where its heading??? There must be a reason why she is doing that though, testing you somehow I would say? How long will you ... (read in full...)

My ex wants us to be close friends after the break up - but I want to move on. Is this mean?

Q.   well we broke off becoz of her family problems. now that we have decided to remain friends,we had reduced alot but this girl still wants me to call her atleast once a day. we are having hard time to accept this friendship and keep going back and ...

A.   25 November 2008: As you have rightly pointed out - she has no other close friends, so she is hanging on to you partially out of habit. Try to encourage her to take up some new activity, find more people to socialise with (thats what a friend would suggest ... (read in full...)

We plan to marry in January but I can't forget that she has been unfaithful, please advise.

Q.   Dear Sir, I’m happy to stumble upon your website. I have a fiancée whom we have dated for 6 years 3 months. I really love this girl and she claims to love me too. We arranged to get married early January 2009. All the marriage arrangements have been ...

A.   25 November 2008: Infidelity is a big issue, do not rush into marriage if her faithfullness is an issue. It might be just txts, do you know if this "fling" is more than just txting? What do you think has made her do that? Is she bored with her relation... (read in full...)

I feel really unappreciated and feel he wants to control me.

Q.   I have been with my bf for like 8 months now and it was a long distance relationship at first for a month and a half, he was in isolation and I was always there for him, emotionally since we were far apart and he told me he'll never forget the ...

A.   24 November 2008: Hi there. I think you have to let him know that you are not happy with your existing communication pattern. You have to tell him you are not happy, but don't be vague, tell him exactly what you find upsetting - that he snaps at you, that he can be ... (read in full...)

Hurting from Porn

Q.   I am in a 6 year relationship, we live together, and I just found out that my boyfriend frequents a couple of porn sites. I came across this by accident on my own computer. I came across this website by trying to understand why this is happening and ...

A.   24 November 2008: Hi, I think one of the posters had a good point - if you break up, you are very unlikely to find a guy who will not be a porn fan. So if you want to resolve this isssue in a contstructive way - 1) Do you want to stay with your boyfriend? ... (read in full...)

Is college supposed to be this lonely?

Q.   Im in my second year of college and I have never beeb so lonely in my life. I know people but I feel I have no REAL friends that I can depend on. I had a best friend last year who I always partied with and stuff but we had a falling out becuase of ...

A.   23 November 2008: Hi there! I am in uni at the moment too, and hehhe, I felt so lonely today that I've just cried for 2 hours non stop, now my face is so swollen and red... I am in a bit of a different situation from yours, I am in a long distance relation... (read in full...)

Should I pursue this long distance relationship?

Q.   I am 24 years old girl. I have just met a guy during a trip. We have been together for 3 whole days with a lot of my friends. I got really interested in this guy. I have heard through my friends that he has a long distance relationship but he rarely ...

A.   22 November 2008: Well you can drop him a mail/call and ask whether he fancies going out for a meal sometime, see what his reaction would be first. If you do not ask him you will just probably regret not doing so and will wonder what if...?? So just go ahead an... (read in full...)

Hurting from Porn

Q.   I am in a 6 year relationship, we live together, and I just found out that my boyfriend frequents a couple of porn sites. I came across this by accident on my own computer. I came across this website by trying to understand why this is happening and ...

A.   22 November 2008: 1) Read up more answers to similar questions, and I mean lots like 10-20 answers to get the full picture What you will find is that almost all guys do it. That there is nothing wrong with porn. That he still loves you. That you dont ha... (read in full...)

We can't afford a house as big as I want!

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles, i was hoping for some advice. I am 26 and I have always lived at home with my parents and my sister-we have a gorgeous,huge house with a big garden and front drive and every bedroom has an en suite and i love it.Also as a...

A.   22 November 2008: Hi, I will be facing the same problem, not just yet, but in 2 years or so. You will just have to accept that you will have to gradually move up in your quality of life I guess, it sucks at first, but unless your families will want to help you... (read in full...)

She has feelings for her ex husband - but he is gay!

Q.   Hello, I've been marriage to this wonderful lady for 2 years. Her prior marriage, her husband ended up being gay. From that marriage, she had 3 handsome boys. Now the father has had multiple boyfriends including a relationship that lasted 2 years. ...

A.   22 November 2008: This didn't just happen overnight... Ask her whether she is keen on working out the problem. Try to explain to her that she will just end up getting hurt again. She has been there, done that before, being controlled, being humiliated, why does she ... (read in full...)

Will we get back together?

Q.   OK so two days ago my boyfriend broke up with me. He is 2 years younger than me (I'm currently 22 he's turning 21 this December) and we met at school. We have been friends for over two years and one night when he came to visit me something between ...

A.   22 November 2008: When someone really loves another person, they would do a lot to be with that other person. It takes a while to really love someone, on the other hand to fall in love is easy and can happen overnight. Maybe he will realise that he doesn't want to ... (read in full...)

My husband is obese and isn't willing to diet or exercise, what should I do?

Q.   My husband is obese and isn't willing to diet or exercise, what should I do? He is not willing to seek outside help, doctors said our sexless marriage is because of his weight, as being obese reduces a man's libido, also he suffers from sleep ap...

A.   22 November 2008: Hi Alexandra! I know what its like to have an obese partner, it sucks! Although mine did make some effort to loose weight, but not enough. What I would suggest is - have more healthy, fit men images around the house, like have Mens Health m... (read in full...)

Ladies: Would you wear a ring on your left ring finger if you're single?

Q.   This question is for the ladies. Oh man :)... crushes really are unavoidable aren't they? It's a like a slow motion car crash and it just keeps building every time you see her and there's nothing you can do about it. So she's got what looks l...

A.   19 November 2008: Hey, since I am Russian our wedding finger is on our right hand, but if I do wear a ring, it is going to be my wedding finger, just because thats where I like it to be :)... (read in full...)

To call or not to call???

Q.   Met a guy back in the summer who was in early stages of divorce. Saw each other for a while, pressure from all angles got to him and contact between us ceased. I emailed him about 6 weeks later and our friendship restarted. Been seeing each other ...

A.   19 November 2008: Contacting him shouldn't do any harm, if you get no responce you know you have to move on, if you do get an answer you will be probably happy you did contact him. If you do not contact him you will always wonder what would have happened if you did.... (read in full...)

I know its normally men that do this to women, but in my case I have been wronged. Why do women do this to men? Can woman attack men legally like this?

Q.   I was a recently engaged to a woman who i have been with for the past year and a half. Our relationship has always been somewhat turbulent, due to many extensive factors, however the majority being her unwillingness to find a job, her desire to use ...

A.   17 November 2008: Firstly I would like to say that it doesnt matter whether a man or a woman i behaving this way - it only depends on the person, her/his upbringing. You know, when someone says that genetics has a more profound effect on the persons personal... (read in full...)

She wants me to take her to meet my parents!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I need help please. I met a lady and we became friends. We exchanged contacts and on the same day she text me saying "I love you dear" I replied thank you. After a week she told me she wanted to visit me. She came and we had sweeet k...

A.   17 November 2008: Personally I think kissing is ok. Sex is totally up to you, if you are religious and want to wait until marriage then you should stick with your beliefs. Saying I love you within a week is a bit rushed. I am in love with you is more appropri... (read in full...)

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