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I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!

Q.   I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...

A.   9 May 2016: I am really happy for you. Please ensure you share contact your ex tries to have with your new love, to present a united front, and tell her to jog on! She just wants what she cant have....you were heartbroken - she is having a dose of karma ... (read in full...)

I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!

Q.   I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...

A.   9 April 2016: Hello again...aunt honesty is right in afraid. She is being really insensitive and thoughtless. Unless its a real reach- like I miss you sp much and I've made such a mistake, you really need to get on with your life. Are you responding to any of ... (read in full...)

She can’t have a simple argument, she blows everything out of proportion! I’m in a pickle!

Q.   I have been in a relationship with a woman for the last three years. Throughout that time we in the main have been really really happy. We don't live together but have spent a lot of time with each other. When we do occasionally have the odd ...

A.   7 April 2016: Hi. Mate this is bad news! You have to ask yourself, if she knows how it affects you, yet still does this sulking, recoiling, immature responses over and over- does she understand you or love you here? Leaving you 100 miles away, no transport home ... (read in full...)

I’m not sure I want to hear why he dumped me by text!

Q.   Dear aunts, please can I have some advice. My boyfriend broke up with me via a short text after an argument. We were together over a year. Ww have split twice before, both my doing and both times I connected with him again. This time I messaged him ...

A.   6 April 2016: ' your heart is not aching for him.... It's aching to have the right person love you back' possibly one of the best lines I've ever read....... (read in full...)

Love triangle. Should I just leave him? He says he loves her, but he also loves me.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for two years now. While I was pregnant I checked his emails and found that he had been talking about how much He loves and misses his ex. When I confronted him he calls and tells her he's going to be with...

A.   4 April 2016: This sounds absolutely awful, and even more so as you have just given birth! I truly hope you have family and friends around to support you both practically and emotionally right now. This is so vile of him- what a spineless man. He head no busi... (read in full...)

Am I potentially getting myself tangled in something too big for me to handle?

Q.   I met a guy online about a month ago. After our 2nd date he started telling me some really personal stuff about himself. I got a run down of all the problems he has ever had in his life including an 8 year relationship that ended badly and his suff...

A.   4 April 2016: Just to confirm what the other aunts are saying really, and any further aunts that are likely to comment here too- absolutely get rid of this...whatever it is! You are after a relationship with a man who you are attracted to, that's the deal with ... (read in full...)

I like him a lot. How can I show him I'm worth a chance?

Q.   ive joined a dating site about a month ago i got chatting to a lovely guy we met up had a great date and made plans to meet again. I took my profile off public so i wouldnt get messages off anyone else , but this dating site is saying I'm online w...

A.   4 April 2016: Hi. I wonder if after one date you should even be having such conversations? Id be frank with him and say you've hidden it, if he doesn't believe you on this then there will be bigger issues ahead for you with this guy in telling you now...plus you ... (read in full...)

So many decisions. I need help. Do I consider the guy who wants children or the guy who only wants one child?

Q.   I'm 23 next month and my boyfriend is 22 next month, been together for two years this September. Issues - has only met my friends once, doesn't really show an interest in them but says they can come out camping....shows an interest in 4wdi...

A.   4 April 2016: Really? Have you read back what you have written here? Is there more that is important that you've missed out? I ask this because what I read is basically, you are in a relationship that you are unhappy with, been texting an old flame and have had a ... (read in full...)

Should I respond to my ex? Do you think I would look like a fool if I did? Or should I leave it and just delete his number?

Q.   3 days ago, my ex boyfriend texted me out of the blue and asked if I wanted to meet up for lunch and catch up. I decided to ignore the text completely, but honestly it has been on my mind constantly ever since. I think the reason this is botherin...

A.   4 April 2016: Hi. I totally agree with no nonsense here. To satisfy your curiosity, he's suggestion is on the money. A simple text back mirrored in the same vein as his message, so however he's addressed you use that word (eg I'd he said hi, you do the same) then ... (read in full...)

Men, can you get past imperfections?

Q.   I'm trying to not feel sorry for myself in this question but I'm having problems with my self esteem and I don't know what to do. I was taking a bath earlier and my boyfriend came in to the bathroom and he saw everything. I don't really like my s...

A.   3 April 2016: Hi. How long have you been together? Has he seen you naked before? I have a babies belly and I've had mixed experience. When I was younger I was with a guy that found it off putting, but that was in my twenties. Through my thirties and forties now, ... (read in full...)

I think a guy finally likes me !! Am I exaggerating? What are my options?

Q.   I've known Jon for a while now and we are friends. I was passing by his desk one time and he was talking to another co-worker and then he saw me and he was like "Oh, I like your shirt. The colors on it." And I just said thank you and left. I ha...

A.   2 April 2016: Hi there - he definitely sounds like he likes you to me! And to him you would appear to be playing it cool, not inexperienced. If you are now on social media together, don't go mad and like or comment on all his stuff! Instead maybe give it a day or ... (read in full...)

Am I a woman who just can't help herself? I've fallen in love with a married man

Q.   He is married, I have fallen so deeply in love with him I can't let go. My feeling is since we both can't and don't want to let go we should just ride the situation that we are in and see where it takes us. Every man who is single only wants to sl...

A.   1 April 2016: Not sure how long this has been going on for, but you must know its not going to end well for you I'm sure. Are you hoping he will leave his wife? I have to wonder what sort of man says he adores his wife then does what hes doing with you....t... (read in full...)

I'm still having a tough time moving on from my previous relationship!

Q.   I posted something a couple of months ago about my now defunct seven year relationship with this woman that started out as as a FWB arrangement, but progressed into a relationship. My social life has been packed to to hilt with activities in or...

A.   29 March 2016: Oh my good man...she is lonely and wants her ego massaged...nothing more. She is being very selfish and self absorbed, and disrespectful to you. She's been clear for you to move on- why are you both going to the same gym even? Go out with these ... (read in full...)

Dumped by a cowardly text!

Q.   Hi I am hoping for some guidance with something that has happened to me this week. My boyfriend of a year dumped me by text. It was literally a line saying lets call it a day, following a couple of harsh texts between us. Ironically, I act...

A.   26 March 2016: Hi. What an awful way to end a year together! Yes it is cowardly. I'm not sure I would jump to the conclusion there is someone else, but you said there was difficulties twp weeks back when you were going to end it, and it was him that wanted another ... (read in full...)

I lost 42 pounds and gained confidence. Why are people now so mean?

Q.   Hi guys. I'm struggling at the moment as I'm quite a sensitive person and I've always wanted to be liked by everyone. This means that sometimes I give people more effort or time than they would give me and I take comments people make quite perso...

A.   26 March 2016: Dear lady, you sound awesome! There is just one piece of advice that I have, and there is no doubt in my mind that the other aunts will share this piece of advice...here it is!! GET RID OF ANYONE FROM YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA AND YOUR LIFE THAT EVER MAK... (read in full...)

Is it right to stay in a relationship when your partner indicates that someone before you was his ''perfect match''??

Q.   I would really like some opinions about my situation and I'm not sure if I'm being an idiot staying with my boyfriend or if I should leave him. I've been with him for three years and from the second date he started talking about a female friend qu...

A.   22 March 2016: Yep that quote is too odd given the other circumstances you have described. Texting her while you are out together? What's her story? She with someone else and happy? Have you met her? Sounds to me like you are in her shadow and I wouldn't be happy ... (read in full...)

Why isn’t she wearing her bra in this instance?

Q.   OK I don't mean to sound creepy or pervie, but what does it mean when my economics tutor at uni doesn't wear her bra when I was alone with her? Does she like me? Because during class in the morning I noticed her bra straps but later in the afternoon ...

A.   22 March 2016: Ummm...you have a crush I believe and are hoping for some form of validation from us...its not happening. Stop stalking your teacher and considering why/when/how she wears her underwear, its creepy. Likes you? Doesn't like you? She knows your name? ... (read in full...)

My wife refuses to accept my wish to be a woman.

Q.   I would like to know why, my wife cannot understand that I want to be a woman. She see's me every day for the past 2 years dressed as a woman, she knows I pluck my eyebrows and have my ears pierced, she has even caught me more than once being with ...

A.   22 March 2016: Umm....i am wondering if this is a hoax message to be frank. Some of the content is over-egged I think! You want to be a woman...fine, then as aunt Tisha says, go get yourself your make it happen team. The other things here, which lead ... (read in full...)

Can a man be too romantic? That's why my girlfriend broke up with me

Q.   Hi,am thirty five,an my girlfriend just broke up with me,after six months,I treated her really good, she said the reason for breaking up with me is, am to romantic,am not a challenge, should I just move on,or try to win her back....

A.   22 March 2016: What an amazing quality you have there! She didn't appreciate you- another girl will! Move on and don't look back! Some girl will be thrilled to receive such a quality in a man ... (read in full...)

Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.

Q.   I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...

A.   20 March 2016: Stephanie, what is it about this guy that keeps you seeking his approval to validate yourself? Is this your usual pattern in relationships? Do you keep blaming yourself and try and win their approval in order for you to feel ok? ... (read in full...)

Blocked by my ex and his new girlfriend. How do I make things better?

Q.   How do I make this situation better? My ex and his new girlfriend fell out with me big time. I tried to talk them round - but they didn't want to know. So I got annoyed and sent them 1 or 2 nasty anonymous text messages - but they guessed it was ...

A.   18 March 2016: Really? Nasty texts anonymously...why would either of them entertain you? Why do you want a connection with them at all anyway? Leave them be now because you are looking a bit desperate and a bit psychoish....stop doing this to yourself - where's ... (read in full...)

Would it be a bad idea to text him? There was no formal goodbye to our relationship

Q.   I dated someone for a month, which ended two months ago. There was no formal goodbye. The communication just faded on his end. I never reached out again but I find myself thinking about him all the time. I was very attracted to him physical...

A.   18 March 2016: Hi. Do you know what, just do it! Why not! It likely won't get a response so be warned of that...if you can accept that he has every right not to text back and your intention is to just send one text to see (no more than one! Gives him opportunity ... (read in full...)

Is it worth the try or should I call it quits?

Q.   There is this guy we met on facebook and started texting a lot... He keeps making plans but then he cancels some times he is cocky but then other times he is nice. Yesterday I told him to stop texting me and he said ok. but I missed him so much I ...

A.   18 March 2016: Hi. So you haven't met at all? How do you know each other? Does he live near by? Is a future even realistic? When we are emotionally involved we have a physically dependency, hormonally. These days of easy access to social media and texts and phon... (read in full...)

Do I let him go after he basically said I was fake?

Q.   Im in a new relationship (3mths), we had our 1st big agrument Tue. Long story short, he was MIA for 5 hrs (phone dead) but I have expressed the need for communication and being accessible for each other (kids). Next day phone dead all day while he ...

A.   17 March 2016: Hi. I'm rather with the other aunts here...three months of dating or not actually, we are all too glued to our phones. What would happen if it he was working and left his phone in the car for the day? Would you be having a go about that too? I'm not ... (read in full...)

We’re back together so why is he on a dating site?

Q.   I decided to dump my boyfriend but afterwards realised i didnt want to do it i was feeling low im much happier now , The thing is 2 week ago he said he wanted to give it another go and we made plans to meet but i was ill with tonsillitis so ...

A.   17 March 2016: Oh dear... Ok so I'm hearing that you finished the relationship, then decided you had made a mistake, and then both of you wanted to try again. He had turned to a dating site quickly after you broke up, so it isn't clear why this was but my ... (read in full...)

Would it be too forward if I got my crush's phone and put my number in it?

Q.   i have a crush on this guy that works at my local coffee shop and I'm pretty sure that he like me too. every time i go in, he would give me compliments and ask about my day. for example yesterday he gave me a hug and told me i smelled really good ...

A.   17 March 2016: Hello! I love this question! How lovely for you to ask us such a lovely question! Thank you! So I would advise to ask straight out if you are the type of girl who can then put it behind you when you see him each day if he says no....which hope... (read in full...)

My friend slept with my FWB gal. Do I have the right to be upset?

Q.   So I would like some opinions on this topic. This is an area I've never treaded into before and would like some perspectives. I've had a friends with benefits relationship for the past 5 months. We have a bit of a different style relationship than ...

A.   16 March 2016: Hi. I have never done the friends with benefits thing, it isn't for me so it is hard to advise with a head that understands from your perspective, although I think if two people are happy with such an arrangement fair enough. From my perspect... (read in full...)

Why does my on-again, off-again BF behave this way?

Q.   I am here to try and understand why my on-again, off-again BF behaves this way. After months of trying to talk to him about issues, I gave up, stepped back and started doing my own thing. Issues ranged from how we would see each other once a mon...

A.   16 March 2016: Hi there. Sounds from what you relay here that he likes the chase more than anything. He likely won't identify this consciously, but that's what it looks like. The minute you appear not too bothered, he's there trying to win you again... Yet when... (read in full...)

Why? He hates when I become sexy and flirty with him.

Q.   I'm normally like this but he seems to have a go at me when I've been drinking. He hates it. Like even if it's behind closed doors and only to him, he would hate when I dance for him sexily and strip so to speak. I don't drink much and never g...

A.   15 March 2016: Hi Stephanie. I have read all your posts. I am concerned with how you view yourself more than anything to do with this man.... You seem to be a 'pleaser'. You are doing things thinking it will please your partner, but not in a healthy way... I... (read in full...)

I am in a lifeless relationship!

Q.   I feel as though I'm in a lifeless, passionless, boring relationship with my long term boyfriend. I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years. At first it was exciting and very passionate. But time took its toll and that passion has been lost. Ou...

A.   15 March 2016: Hi. I'll just bet that you don't live him like you used to do, but think you do. This isn't the men you fell for. If you met this man three years ago you wouldn't look twice would you? You would have been bored out of your brain... Who you fell for ... (read in full...)

After cheating on me 3 weeks ago, why is my Bf not doing everything to regain my trust?

Q.   My boyfriend has cheated on me recently(three weeks ago). I ask him to delete the woman on social media, block her number etc. He did. However, she still pops up in different messengers and such. when i ask to for the passwords to his accounts he ...

A.   14 March 2016: How dare he treat you so poorly! Please don't put up with this disgusting behaviour! He doesn't respect you or value you, and I see no evidence therefore of him loving you. This will continue and get worse I have no doubt. Have better for yours... (read in full...)

He's not hit me. But could the other things he does be called abuse? what should I do?

Q.   To be blunt and simple, when my year long boyfriend and i argue, he pushes me around. He'll grab me and squeeze my face, throw me down, he'll push me in front of almost anyone.. All throughout the year, he's never hit me though. He will punch...

A.   13 March 2016: Hi. Absolutely this is abuse. There is no doubt, you are in an abusive relationship. This will only get worse, please know this. I've been where you are now. Leave him, yell someone, get away.good luck.... (read in full...)

Am I right to feel offended my friend has been ignoring me?

Q.   I am so angry and very hurt with my so called "best friend". We have been friends 30+ years, since grade school. She is an intensely private person who hates phone calls, she NEVER calls, when she can be bothered to get back to me she texts. S...

A.   13 March 2016: Hi. I can really sense the hurt and anger from you here, but like the other aunts I cant understand why you are persuing this Friendship with someone who clearly doesn't care as much as you? Your choices are thus as I see them: Carry on conta... (read in full...)

Is this the sign of a break up? Should I text him?

Q.   Dear cupid...my boyfried and i have been together for 3 year we were so in love we do every thing together, at least we use to until his ex gf came back in town. He speaks to her and ever since she has came back he and i do not comunicate at all. ...

A.   13 March 2016: Hi again-its always good to have the original poster back! So he contacted you, and you let him have it both barrels by the sounds of it....this is because you are hurt and angry, and have been waiting for him to contact you for quite some time ... (read in full...)

Is this the sign of a break up? Should I text him?

Q.   Dear cupid...my boyfried and i have been together for 3 year we were so in love we do every thing together, at least we use to until his ex gf came back in town. He speaks to her and ever since she has came back he and i do not comunicate at all. ...

A.   12 March 2016: Hi. We only have the information you give here of course...however if this is right, there is something very wrong in your relationship which appears to have been triggered by her return. Do you live in the same town as him and her or is thus a L... (read in full...)

Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?

Q.   I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...

A.   12 March 2016: Ok, so I have read your post again and your update. Some questions for you: What are you expecting here? He has behaved disgustingly. You have discovered this, he was talking with her before you broke up, he likely broke up with you to be with her ... (read in full...)

Heartbroken over my ex. Why is his new girlfriend taking revenge this way?

Q.   I am so heart broken right now. I was with my ex for 3 years. We've been through a lot together, we loved and sacrificed for each other. We were there for each other through thick and thin. The only thing was we always argued about every little t...

A.   10 March 2016: Hi. Firstly, I want to say I am so sorry that you are hurting sp badly right now...your ex partner has behaved disgustingly towards both you and his fiancé. Its sad to read the adoration and love you still have cor him, and the hope you harbour... (read in full...)

Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that my husband occasionally sleeps with other women on side?

Q.   Is it possible to live happily ever after knowing that husband sleeps with other women on side occasionally(paid sex with high end escort/companions)? He always use protection and is very hygienic. I've got him n myself tested few yrs ago when I i...

A.   7 March 2016: Hi. You've read a lot and concluded some people cant be monogamous...you just want to accept this is your fate and enjoy life... Sweetheart, the reason you are reading a lot about it is you are attempting to justify it because you are desperat... (read in full...)

I don't feel like I'm in a relationship! What should I do?

Q.   I am not sure as to how to describe my current circumstance. I do not feel as if i am in a relationship. I have 3 children, 2 have left home. My youngest is 13. His dad and I have know each other for over 30 years. He has been a great dad to a...

A.   7 March 2016: Hi. We need more detail here to help you I think, because what you describe doesn't sound like a relationship at all my dear - sounds like you have a child together and get on as separated parents...what time do you actually spend together? What do ... (read in full...)

I'm speechless after my husband's reaction to my wearing my mother's ring!

Q.   Hello! My mom, who was my best friend and to whom I had the closest relationship you could possibly imagine, passed away 5 years ago. A few days ago my dad gave me her engagent ring telling me she has always wanted me to have it. So- I have been ...

A.   7 March 2016: He has a stupid point here, in my opinion. However, depending on how he generally is and only you would know this, and if this is therefore unusual for him to react in this way, maybe he feels guilty that you don't have an engagement ring, or maybe ... (read in full...)

I just don't feel involved in this relationship anymore. Is this normal?

Q.   I need some advice regarding my LDR. During the first 2 years of our relationship, I was very eager and excited to visit him and for him to visit me. We saw eachother every month. I looked forward to our phone calls every night. I loved to see him ...

A.   7 March 2016: Hi. Unless there I more to this than you are telling us here, why have you not finished this relationship? Are you scared to? And why? Is it familiarity? Are you worried that you may lose the possibility of how you were together for the first two ... (read in full...)

Would you ever be friends with an ex bf/gf who 'broke your heart' ?

Q.   Would you ever be friends with an ex bf/gf who 'broke your heart' ? I was in a relationship for 3 years with a guy who I was really in love with and saw myself marrying one day. We talked about marriage and kids in the future, it was a pretty ser...

A.   6 March 2016: No darling, no...no...no... You have done amazingly to get through seven months of healing and are in a stronger place. It all sounds so raw to you still...how dare he stir you up by contacting you at all after breaking your heart and leaving you ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure its healthy for him to be in contact with me when he has decided to try again with his LDR ex!

Q.   For the past 2 months I've been in a primarily texting friendship with a guy I met when I was visiting friends on the other side of the country. We've become very close, and it's basically been a never ending marathon of instant messaging, voice ...

A.   4 March 2016: Hi. Hes keeping his options open, having his cake and eating it too. His partner will not know about you and all the contact you two are having. He is cheating with you. You describe all the long distant things that happen in a relationship that is ... (read in full...)

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