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| | Miss C's profile:Okay well my name is Jordan and I'm a 17 year old girl from Northern Ireland who first came across this site when I was having relationship problems and the advice I received made me looks at things in a totally different perspective.
What I love most about this site is the fact that no two aunts may give the exact same answer to a problem. As I'm sure most of you know, not everything is black and white and it's really helpful to have variation in terms of advice because how one aunt may handle a situation may differ to how another would deal with it.
I do the best I can to help as many people as possible on this site but naturally, there's many occasions when I don't have the answers. I can be harsh at times if I'm adamant in what I feel but I'm also open minded and try to look at the problem from different angles and view points so my advice isn't wholly one sided.
There will probably be many occasions when I need some advice myself because ironically enough, I can't deal with my own problems alot of the time and have experienced many moments in my life where i felt like the loneliest person in the world. Despite that though, I feel past experiences have shaped me alot as a person and I've learnt a great deal from my mistakes.
Lastly I just want to say thanks to everyone who sent me welcome emails when I first joined the site and I hope to get to get to know many more of you as times goes on.
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A guy is coming between me and my best mate
Q. i adore my best friend, we have so much in common and can often finish each others sentences, think the same things at the same moment and buy the same clothes without realizing! the problem? her latest bf. they havn't been going out too long, bu...
A. 24 July 2008: Hey, from your post it seems that your friend's actions speak louder than her words but i wouldn't condemn her completely for her behaviour because it's easy to feel trapped and controlled in a relationship and she may not feel strong enough to ... (read in full...)
Friend and Boy Problems.
Q. I like this boy and his sister says he likes me but I think my friend called him up and asked him out. His mom is going to be my softball coach and he is going to help so I was going to ask him out during one of our pratices but if my friend asked ...
A. 8 April 2008: Hey again, sorry this is a bit of a late post, this is the first time I have been on in about a week.
I think you should leave it because your friend likes him as well and I don't think any guy is worth ruining a friendship. You're just 10-12 and ... (read in full...)
I fancy my friend, but my best friend is in love with him.
Q. I fancy my friend, but my best friend is in love with him. What do I do. I can't just go after him and do that to her. If she only fancied him I wouldn't have minded but she is really in love with him. What do I do - leave it or go after him?...
A. 31 March 2008: No guy is worth breaking up a friendship. It wouldn't be fair to do this to your best friend so stay away from him. There are plenty of other guys out there. Why set your heart on one person that you just fancy and lose your friend in the process? ... (read in full...)
Friend and Boy Problems.
Q. I like this boy and his sister says he likes me but I think my friend called him up and asked him out. His mom is going to be my softball coach and he is going to help so I was going to ask him out during one of our pratices but if my friend asked ...
A. 30 March 2008: Did your friend know that you liked him? Did your friend say she liked him to you before? I need some more information before i can attempt to help you out please! Miss C xx... (read in full...)
She insists on keeping her male friends! Is it "Ultimatum" time?
Q. Should I be upset about my girlfriend having male friends?She says they are just friends but I'm not sure I should believe that.I asked her a couple months back if she chatted or got messages from them.She said no then today after I pressed her,she ...
A. 30 March 2008: I'ts narrow-minded to assume that all straight guys only have female friends so they can get into their pants. Do you know this is true? Perhaps because of your past experiences, you are a bit cynical on the whole idea and assume all men are like ... (read in full...)
I am torn between two guys, who should I choose to be with?
Q. Is it true that opposites attract? My bf and I have been going out for a little over 2 years now, we are like any other teenage couple which has been going out for quite a while, and still like eachother very much even though we have both changed ...
A. 30 March 2008: It could be a passing phase for now. You say that you talk to Guy ## 2 about relationship problems but shouldn't you be discussing this with your boyfriend instead. It's okay to have other friends to talk to about relationship problems with but in ... (read in full...)
She insists on keeping her male friends! Is it "Ultimatum" time?
Q. Should I be upset about my girlfriend having male friends?She says they are just friends but I'm not sure I should believe that.I asked her a couple months back if she chatted or got messages from them.She said no then today after I pressed her,she ...
A. 30 March 2008: Oh and adding to that, I agreecwith starfairy in that as a girl I fidn it much easier to talk to thing with guys because they tend to be less bitchy than girls. Maybe your girlfriend feels the same way? Miss C xx... (read in full...)
She insists on keeping her male friends! Is it "Ultimatum" time?
Q. Should I be upset about my girlfriend having male friends?She says they are just friends but I'm not sure I should believe that.I asked her a couple months back if she chatted or got messages from them.She said no then today after I pressed her,she ...
A. 30 March 2008: You seem to have issues with trust, jealous and possessiveness if you can't learn to deal with the fact that she has male friends. You've got to realise that there is a reason she is dating you and not these other males who you seem so threatened ... (read in full...)
I've had phone sex with 3 different guys....is that disgusting?
Q. Hi I need some opinions on this . I'm 15 years old and I've had phone sex with 3 different guys in the last two years . ( not at the same time or around the same time....) Two of them it was text sex and the other one ( my boyfriend now)was actually ...
A. 29 March 2008: Everyone has different opinions on what is acceptable and what is unacceptable or in your friend's words "disgusting" so it's up to you what you want to do. No-one can tell you what is right or wrong.
I do however think that it doesn't need to be b... (read in full...)
I don't feel ready... but he does.
Q. I really need help. I recently got this boyfriend and we like each other alot. He is a couple years older and I feel that I need to be up to his standards. I feel too young to be doing anything and I don't want to but I feel pressured and I feel ...
A. 29 March 2008: Don't give into the pressure. You should only have sex when you feel ready, comfortable and happy about it. You've done well so far in putting your foot down and explaining to your boyfriend that he's taking things way too fast. I'm not saying this ... (read in full...)
Am I missing her or just missing being in a relationship?
Q. Hey Cupids. Perhaps you can help me. My ex and I started dating last may/june. She was always on/off with me, some nights telling me she never wants to let me go, others giving me the cold shoulder. This resulted in her breaking up with...
A. 29 March 2008: To be honest, by her actions she seems bipolar e.g."some nights telling me she never wants to let me go, others giving me the cold shoulder." To be honest I don't think she knows herself what she wants but that is in no a way a valid excuse for ... (read in full...)
Whenever I criticise his porn viewing he brings up my past and calls me a slut!
Q. I've been with this guy for about 4 years... at least that's how HE puts it. We hung out together for one year, have lived together for the past 3, but in my mind, have been officially a couple for maybe 1. I have always tried to make it perfectly ...
A. 25 March 2008: No you do not deserve this resentment. He has no right to continually bring up things from the past as a way of making you feel guilty. Once something has been forgiven it should be kept in the past, not forgotten perhaps but not to be used as ... (read in full...)
Do you think he's gross to like me?
Q. I'm a 13 year old girl, well I'm almost 14. Recently since I've been on msn, someone added me on their list. I accepted them because I might know the person. I asked them who they were. He said his name and that he was 26. I told him I was 13. Don't ...
A. 25 March 2008: I think the others have prerry much said at all. Ask yourself one thing. He's taking advantage of you because you're young and naive so don't be fooled by his words. Stay safe and don't believe everything you hear from people online. Miss C xx... (read in full...)
Looking for help, I want my ex back but don't know what to do and how to understand her choices?
Q. Hi, i was dating a girl for almost a year and a half and then all of a sudden she broke up with me... I was super devastated and still am since I still love her a lot. I wanna be with her still but she doesn't really wanna see me no more. I asked ...
A. 23 March 2008: Perhaps the relationship took it's course. You're still young and maybe she felt suffocated and wanted space or some independence back that she had a year and a half ago. I'm not saying this is your fault in any way! I'm just saying that many people ... (read in full...)
I've texted my ex to tell him I love him and now feel like a fool. How do I stop comparing my current partner with my ex and move on?
Q. Hey guys im pretty much after making the biggest decision of my life. I went out with a boy for over three months and as you can laugh or whatever i really love him. I know this because of the way he made me feel, the way he kissed me the way i ...
A. 23 March 2008: I don't think it's silly at all that you still love your ex. I had a similar problem not that long ago actually. I like you had my heart broken and spent 5 months wondering why things had to change and wondering what had happened to the wonderful ... (read in full...)
I've texted my ex to tell him I love him and now feel like a fool. How do I stop comparing my current partner with my ex and move on?
Q. Hey guys im pretty much after making the biggest decision of my life. I went out with a boy for over three months and as you can laugh or whatever i really love him. I know this because of the way he made me feel, the way he kissed me the way i ...
A. 23 March 2008: I don't think it's silly at all that you still love your ex. I had a similar problem not that long ago actually. I like you had my heart broken and spent 5 months wondering why things had to change and wondering what had happened to the wonderful ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but hides me from his family and our relation is very rocky...
Q. just wondering could anyone help my relationship is very rocky, my man says he loves me wants to be with me forever but yet he hides me from his family if his mum is on the phone he leaves the room and if i say anything he calls me crazy he has prom...
A. 23 March 2008: This guy claims he loves you yet he is so intent on making it a secret and hiding it from his parents so why waste your life with a guy who acts like he is ashamed of you?You deserve so much better! Besides that point, he is controlling you by not ... (read in full...)
I am 14 and PREGNANT! What do I do?
Q. HELP! I had sex with my boyfriend about 2 weeks to a month ago and i have recently started feeling weird, so i took a pregnancy test prayed it wouldnt be positive and it was-i'm pregnant, you can probably tell from my age that i'm under aged, bu...
A. 21 March 2008: Don't panic. It might seem the end of the world now but trust me, you aren't on your own. I'm not gonna sit here and lecture you about not using protection because it's not going to help you with your current situation and I'm sure you've learnt ... (read in full...)
Is my "internet guy" just after sex? Help!
Q. hiya i need help ppl... i met this boy through the internet and he seems reali nice and i know this might sound crazy but i think i might have feelings for him... but the only problem is that my mates are telling me that he is only after sex..but i...
A. 21 March 2008: Don't meet him. He could be a paedophile so don't even take that risk! To be honest, 13-15 year olds are prime targets for paedophiles because they feel they can be easily led and manipulated and take advantage of this. Your friends are concerned ... (read in full...)
I just want to feel part of a strong friendship group again!
Q. I am really lost, my boyfriend and I split up about a month ago after an 11 month relationship, as he cheated on me with his ex. I am distraught, but to make things worse I used to go see him every weekend, and my social life became evolved round ...
A. 19 March 2008: If these so called friends have decided to choose sides just because of something that happened between the two of you then they obviously weren't real friends to begin with. It must feel like the most horrible thing in the world to lose your ... (read in full...)
Hurt, worried, confused
Q. I am 19 and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together for a month and a half. Every time we try to get together something happens in his family. Like one time we were going to celebrate winning our basketball games by getting shrimp because it's our ...
A. 19 March 2008: I know how impatient you must feel and you must really like this guy to have given him so many chances. I say give him the benefit of the doubt once more. Try calling him up and say you understand he must have alot going on right now but that you ... (read in full...)
I like this boy... but I don't want anyone to get hurt! Please help!
Q. I like this boy. The only trouble is, he has a girlfriend. Plus, his girlfriends is one of my good friends. She was talking to me just only last week, saying she has stronger feelings for someone else and might break up with him soon. I felt kin...
A. 19 March 2008: This is quite tricky. Even if your friend does break up with him for this other guy, she may not be happy that you moved in on him so suddenly. I'm not saying it is wrong, but often a friend's ex is regarded as "off limits." However, since your ... (read in full...)
The thought of being without her is more than I can handle.
Q. I have been in love with this one girl forever. We are good friends. I have told her how I felt about her when she had a boyfriend. She is now single and we still hang out but I am worried that we may never work out. The thought of this makes me ...
A. 19 March 2008: I know it's gonna be a huge step but you have to tell her. What's the worst that can happen? - She may not feel the same way. Yes the pain will be horrible to start with but you'll feel much better in the long term knowing where you stand. It would ... (read in full...)
My logical side tells me to keep my boyfriend but my heart is with my ex.
Q. I'm 15 years old and I've been going out with my 21 year old boyfriend for 7 months, he loves me but I'm not sure if I feel the same. The main reason why I got with him is cause he treats me like a queen, he respects me and puts me first in his ...
A. 18 March 2008: To be honest i don't think you should be in any relationship at the moment. It seems like you're just with your current boy friend because he treats you like a queen and shows you complete respect. This isn't really a good enough reason to stay in a ... (read in full...)
I doubt anyone has ever been in such a situation with his girlfriend
Q. Before everyone begins with the "nah bro, dump her dump her" stuff, read it completely, and put yourself in my situation, and atleast TRY to understand how I feel. I'm with a girl right now, and quite frankly, she is amazing. Whether we're talking ...
A. 18 March 2008: Well firstly, I have to say that from the sounds of your letter, it seems like you're trying to convince yourself more than us that she is a good girlfriend. Yes it's possible to forgive someone for cheating once, and if you are so sure that the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to love someone unconditionally?
Q. Is it possible to love someone unconditionally? My ex says that he loves me unconditionally no matter what I say or do. I broke up with him since he was emotionally abusive, but I still love him. He says he is willing to put up with me complaining ...
A. 12 December 2007: He is willing to put up with you complaining about how he has hurt you? When you put it like that it sounds like he's claiming to be putting up with something terrible even though you expressing your hurt is perfectly justified. Perhaps it wasn't ... (read in full...)
He left me but still won't leave me alone and continue to rub his new girlfriend in my face! What is going on?
Q. Why does my ex contine to rub his girlfriend in my face, ive told him enough times i don't want to hear it, do you think his trying to still make me jealous, He knows i don't want him back and he don't want me back, he left me at the end of the day, ...
A. 12 December 2007: I agree with Baby duck. I know it's going to be tough but by keeping a hold of yourself and being civilised towards him makes you the better person at the end of the day and just indicates that he really lacks any sort of maturity.
To be hone... (read in full...)
What can I do to get her back?
Q. Hey I just tonight think i lost my wife, i have done everything to make her happy and healthy. Then tonight she tells me she wants to leave and move in with a ex-boyfriend who by the way cheated on her over 40 times in 6 months. My question is w...
A. 13 November 2007: You said you have done everything you could possibly do to make her happy. You've been taken for granted completely. I'd say she's going through a confusing stage in her life, she is unsure of what she wants. Perhaps she is bored with being with a ... (read in full...)
I helped a disabled girl-was it the wrong thing to do?
Q. I have a friend who nobody likes because she isn't fake like everyone else; she doesn't wear her hair like them, or make-up, or talk like they've never heard English before. She is very shy and only wants to be liked because she has no friends but ...
A. 9 November 2007: By the way sorry i misunderstood something in your question. I read it a few times again and realised you had said that your best friend was the only person you could really talk to. I thought you were referring to your disabled friend. But I still ... (read in full...)
I helped a disabled girl-was it the wrong thing to do?
Q. I have a friend who nobody likes because she isn't fake like everyone else; she doesn't wear her hair like them, or make-up, or talk like they've never heard English before. She is very shy and only wants to be liked because she has no friends but ...
A. 9 November 2007: No! Most definitely not! You are so brave standing up to your best friend because that's never an easy thing to do. I'm really glad this girl has someone like you as her friend and it sounds like you're lucky to have someone like her to talk to as ... (read in full...)
We dated, then broke up, now he wants me back but can I trust him?
Q. Right, well... I was going out with this guy over the summer for about 2 months, and at first it was really good, we really liked each other, but then he got very distant and cold, hardly ever texted me and avoided me like I was a walking disease. ...
A. 5 November 2007: He doesn't deserve another chance to be honest. I know what happened to his grandmother is awful and yes it excuses him for perhaps being distant with you but it sounds like a feeble excuse for justifying why he treating you terribly.
Then ther... (read in full...)
Is there a problem with me?
Q. 1. I'm 24 years old now but i can't my find true loves?...why? is there any problem with me... can you please help me.... ...
A. 2 November 2007: 24 is still a young age so don't despair! There is certainly nothing wrong with you, the time just hasn't arrived for you to meet that special someone in your life and no one can predict when or how it will happen because it's different for every ... (read in full...)
Should I take any notice of my friends?
Q. I am a in a serious relationship and I love this guy so much but whiles i am in Ghana, he is in Canada. He promise me with a ring.He is going to be there for 3years and a year is almost gone.The relationship is ...
A. 2 November 2007: Don't listen to your friends! Why on earth they would suggest cheating on him I don't know. They may have had negative experiences with guys in the past but that doesn't give them the right to assume that your guy will end up hurting you. Their ... (read in full...)
My hubbie is controlling, we have a 4 yr old daughter, if I leave it will be all my fault , or so he says, help me!
Q. I have been married for 7 years now and I must say my life with him has been a roller coaster. I have never really felt "in Love" with him.(this I think was because of my age when we got together and the fact that I was very insecure) Sex is awful...
A. 2 November 2007: He is emotionally blackmailing you into staying with him by using your daughter. He wants you to stay with him but only because he wants to have control over your life and doesn't like the fact that you want to make your own decisions without him. ... (read in full...)
How do we Kiss?
Q. my boyfriend and i just started going out a few weeks ago......and i'm pretty sure we both wanna kiss but i don't think we know when we both want to......kiss.......what should i do?.........
A. 2 November 2007: Don't kiss each other because you feel you have to but kiss when the moment feels right! The kiss will come naturally and if this is your first time then try not to feel nervous, it's fun! Good luck, Miss C xx... (read in full...)
We only met online, he tells me he loves sex to death and can't wait to have it with me. Should I be worried?
Q. I met this guy on a dating site and after exchanging photos and mails constantly,we are both in love and we will be meeting very soon.My only worry is that he talks about sex everyday and even tells me that he loves it to death. He also tells me...
A. 2 November 2007: He is using you by the sounds of it. He wants to firstly gain your trust by saying he loves you but it's probably just a trap to lure you into meeting him and then having sex with him. Internet dating is very risky and dangerous and just as Uncle ... (read in full...)
My husband is having an affair with his male boss! - and told me it's "none of my business." He lost interest in our son too. What do I do?
Q. A friend of the family told me yesterday that my husband is having an affair with his boss. I felt sick when she told me that. I thought my husband loved me and wouldn't want to go off with other women. But it got a lot worse when I found out...
A. 2 November 2007: So your husband is having an affair with his male boss and apparently it's "none of your business"? Of course it's your business! You're his wife!
If this had just been a meaningless fling based on lust then you may have been able to forgive him ... (read in full...)
Has my ignorance in bases and pulling made me look stupid enough for my interest to lose interest??
Q. ahahah please help i have messed up so badly. basically its a long story. theres this guy hu went to my old primary school. we used to fancy each other like mad. now i finally found him online and we have started talking online. everything was ...
A. 2 November 2007: Pulling means kissing with tongues.
Suggesting you're frigid is totally immature and disrespectful of him. He sounds very arrogant and patronising from some of the things he said to you online and finds fun in criticising you for your lack of expe... (read in full...)
Is this a hint that she wants to meet me again.
Q. Hi, I met a girl a few months ago whilst out one night in a nightclub and sice then i have only met her in person again 2 or 3 times but we text each other every day and occasionally speak on the phone and get on really well! I keep asking her if ...
A. 2 November 2007: To be honest, this sounds like a pathetic excuse for "I'm not interested." However, I can't be certain on that, because she may have been genuinely busy at the times you asked. I would at first give her the benefit of the doubt. Then I suggest you ... (read in full...)
I have problems with his best friend! What can I do?
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for six months and we are great. we've overcome so much and arguements are usually over little things. but his best friend is always priority and he switches days with me, to suit his best friend. sometimes i wonder ...
A. 2 November 2007: It sounds like you're being treated as last resort all the time to his best friend. If he makes plans with you then he should stick to them and not change them so that days are left convenient for him and his best friend. They have probably... (read in full...)
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