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Ready & can't make things work!

Q.   So me and my boyfriend are ready to have sex, only problem is, he cant get it in! we have tried once, and it just wouldnt go in. I know the problem isnt because im not wet enough, i know i was. i just dont know what the problem is, any help and TIPS ...

A.   10 March 2009: One very important thing is to be very relaxed. I know it doesn't seem like a big tip, but to be honest, if you worry about getting it in and are stressed over it, your body is going to have a much harder time doing it. Lots of foreplay would ... (read in full...)

I found spot of blood..did I rip my hymen?

Q.   i fingered myself and i saw a tad of blood on my fingers my period is due soon but i dont know weather i have ripped my mymen or its just period blood please answer if you have any ideas. if i have it has fot its ups and downs but......

A.   9 March 2009: Well, your mother should realize that masurbating isn't bad for you, it's natural, and as long as it's not affecting your school work or social life she shouldn't have a problem with it. Not only that, she can't expect you to be uninterested in boys ... (read in full...)

He thinks my body BELONGS to him!!!!

Q.   My boyfriend of 4 months says I'm his... therefore so is my body, supposedly we love each other. He says he does, his hands are always all over me, alone or not! Once we are in a private place and he wouldn't stop! I don't mind that but I do mind ...

A.   7 March 2009: I agree with the other posters, your body is YOURS, not his. It doesn't matter what he says or how he tries to spin it, he will never own you. And also, there is absolutely no excuse for his behavior, whether you're his girlfriend or not. No guy can ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend wants to be kinky in our sexual relationship.... But I absolutely hate it.

Q.   Hi, I love my boyfriend very much and I've been with him for about a year and a half. We have an absolutely great relationship... except for when it comes to sex (for me anyways). We first started having sex taking it slow. That kind of stuff turns ...

A.   6 March 2009: If it's that bad, you need to talk to him about it. I would think by now he knows how you feel and that you don't enjoy it, and that should be enough for him to stop. Sex should be good for both of you, and should never make you feel bad about ... (read in full...)

I don't feel I'm near ready to have sex yet... what will I do?

Q.   I am underage for haveing sex be me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 months now and I told him if we get any time alone on him birthday we can do but the thing is.. that it's the first time for both of us and I don't know what to do and ...

A.   6 March 2009: Aw, well if you love him and he loves you, then waiting should not be an issue for him. If you tell him you don't feel ready, that should be enough. If you do decide to do it, be sure to use protection to avoid pregnancy, but remember it's not ... (read in full...)

Weird to think sex is yuk?

Q.   This will sound really stupid, so if you ant to answer more important questions first like teen pregnancy ones go ahead. I am 13. I had my first kiss at 12. I have not done anything with a boy past a short make out session. I have friends that have ...

A.   6 March 2009: It's not weird at all! :) Actually, you're quite lucky, because thinking otherwise usually brings more problems than you might think. Just enjoy being your age, doing other things, you don't have to worry about that yet. If you need anything else, ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend can't keep his erection and it's not doing much for my confidence.

Q.   Hello... my boyfriend and I have been going out a year in a couple of weeks. I'm 15, almost 16 and he's 16, almost 17. We've had sex a lot but then I went away over christmas and we haven't had sex since then. We've tried but it didn't happen. ...

A.   6 March 2009: Hmm, for the record, I apparently have forgotten how to read properly. Wish me better luck in the future lol.... (read in full...)

My boyfriend can't keep his erection and it's not doing much for my confidence.

Q.   Hello... my boyfriend and I have been going out a year in a couple of weeks. I'm 15, almost 16 and he's 16, almost 17. We've had sex a lot but then I went away over christmas and we haven't had sex since then. We've tried but it didn't happen. ...

A.   6 March 2009: I am sure he finds you sexually attractive, I don't think he'd get hard in the first place and want to do stuff if he didn't. I think he may just be getting nervous, performance anxiety, things like that. Just encourage him and things should g... (read in full...)

Never had orgasm during sex

Q.   I have been with my lovley boyfriend for around a year and half and we've moved in and everything is almost perfect- however I have never "came" when we have sex. I am really worried this isn't normal. I can come when I am masterbating with a ...

A.   5 March 2009: Well, first of all, you shouldn't fake it. You should talk to him about it, and since you are very comfortable with him, it shouldn't be as hard (I hope). Try to help him know what feels good for you, because if he does things that don't feel ... (read in full...)

Watching sexy movie - what just happened to me?

Q.   hi im gonna be 14 in a couple months and something really strange happened to me. my parents were watching this movie and the man and woman were having sex in bed. i was watching and i started getting really hot and wet like i was peeing in my ...

A.   5 March 2009: Like everyone else said, it's very natural. It's just your body's way of saying you're turned on. It's nothing to worry about, even if you feel embarassed by it at times. If you need anything else, message me and I'll write back quickly. ... (read in full...)

A question strictly for the men aunts!!!

Q.   Okay guys, would you want a straight girl that would have sex with you or a bi girl that would let you have sex with her and her girlfriend?...

A.   5 March 2009: I would prefer the stright girl, I would want us to be committed to eachother, it doesn't need to involve anyone else. I don't have a problem with her being bi, I just don't want our relationship to involve someone else.... (read in full...)

Tampons don't seem to fit.

Q.   alright so i am on my period. and when i put a tampon in it seems like it curves into my vagina. like it doesn't go straight in it like zig zags sorta. and then when i pull it out it does the same thing. is there something wrong? i mean i've had sex ...

A.   3 March 2009: I'm a guy so I don't know what help I can be, I just noticed no one else had answered. Anyway, I don't think it is a problem as long as it is doing its job. Does the tampon hurt or just sex? I hope this helps some, if you are still worried you can ... (read in full...)

I get blood when he fingers me

Q.   Last weekend, my boyfriend fingered me and afterwards there was blood. I talked to quite a few people that I trust and they all said I might've ripped my hymen which I believe I did. But just yesterday, he was fingering me again and there was more ...

A.   2 March 2009: It is likely that he did break it, and it's still possible to bleed some the next time he did stuff with you again. It will likely subside. Is there pain? If there is still bleeding and pain after a bit you should talk to your doctor to make sure ... (read in full...)

I lied and told him I'm not a virgin to seem more experienced.

Q.   Hey! at the minute, i feel like ive gotten myself into a right prediciment! ive recently met up with this amazin guy, who i actually like rather a lot! but he doesnt know im a virgin, the thing is, im kind of embarrassed about being a virgin and he ...

A.   1 March 2009: You should be honest about it, if he's as genuine and good as he sounds, it won't make a difference to him. Also, he may not even know you are if you guys do stuff anyway. Just make sure it's what you want and he doesn't push you into it. If you ... (read in full...)

How far does the penis have to be in, in order to get pregnant?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex a couple of hours ago, (the worst idea we've ever had) but when he comed he didn't fully pull out but he wasn't anywhere near totally in, it was as he pulled out he did. What are the chances of becoming ...

A.   1 March 2009: You should definitely find some way of getting the pill soon. Your boyfriend does not even need to be inside you AT ALL for to get pregnant, any seminal fluid touching near there can cause pregnancy. If you need anything else, message me and I'll ... (read in full...)

When will sex feel good?

Q.   I have had sex with my boyfriend twice, the first time like a lot of virgins it was hard and I didn't really expect to climax because he couldn't get it into far anyway. The second time was a lot easier but even though we were at it for about an ...

A.   27 February 2009: It will take time for it to feel good and you have to get use to it with your partner. Make sure you communicate together and know what feels good for you so you can do it. It may just take time to find what works best for you. If you need anything ... (read in full...)

I want to have sex at 13, what do you advise?

Q.   im am 13 and i really want to have sex i just dont have anyone to do it with! who can i go to?...

A.   26 February 2009: I advise against having it right now then. If you don't have someone to do it with, and because you are still young and have plenty of time for that type of thing. You should wait til you are in a relationship with someone and trust them before you ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure... could I be pregnant?

Q.   Okay I'm 13 years old and I'm very scared of something I did. I had sex twice, one time I used a condom, the other time I didn't but it was only for like... 5-10 minutes. I don't know what to do!! He said something about he can sperm in that ...

A.   26 February 2009: It is possible that he came and didn't notice, but his precum would also have sperm in it and could get you pregnant if he touched in the area of your vagina, not even necessarily going all the way inside. The amount of time he was in you wouldn't ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to ravage me silly?

Q.   my bf is very wary of having sex with me but i am so in the mood to have it, i was wondering if anyone had any thoughts on how i could seduce him. i mean i want him to ravage me i want him so much. any ideas?...

A.   25 February 2009: I know that's difficult, my gf and I had a few of those. I just suggest you be careful and use contraception and I think just wearing something sexy or saying the right things would work. You'll figure it out :). If you need any advice on anything, ... (read in full...)

Help! The condom broke and period still not here!

Q.   My fiance and I had sex about 11 days after the first day of my last period. The condom broke and it's been almost a month and I still haven't recieved my next period. I took a pregnancy test two times, the first only one line showed up and the ...

A.   25 February 2009: Firstly, it is important that at your age at some point you do see an obgyn. Secondly, it is still possbile you are pregnant, condoms that break can not be trusted to still kill all the sperm. Some pregancy tests are difficult to read and can ... (read in full...)

Virgin & he's too big!

Q.   ok so im a virgin and have been with my nonvirgin boyfriend for a while now. i want to give him my virginity and we have tried having sex FIVE times now and have yet to make it work. im am a rather short girl and weigh 103 therfore im smaller than ...

A.   24 February 2009: Being relaxed will definitely help. I know you may feel stressed because it hasn't worked yet and because of the size, but with a lot of foreplay and lube, it will work if you are relaxed. The muscles there react to your feelings and tense up if you ... (read in full...)

Is it possible to have an orgams for everyone?

Q.   Hi, so basically I'm 19 years old, have a comfortable sex partner, who cares about my needs, but I still don't orgasm. I have never had an orgasm in my life, whether it be during sex or masturbation, it's never happened. I've felt like my body has ...

A.   24 February 2009: Unfortunately, there are some women who go though life without having an orgasm. I just thought I'd throw that out there so you didn't feel alone. At any rate, I suggest continuing to try new things, either with your partner or on your own, to see ... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant and STD's by penis up the butt?

Q.   Im a 14 year old girl. I have a Amazing boyfriend who would never hurt me, We talked about the future, and we desided to wait a longg time before we have sex. he does finger me, and i have gave hand-jobs to him only. hes the only one i been with but ...

A.   24 February 2009: Good choice :) Glad we could help.... (read in full...)

He's thinks I've been unfaithful to him because my vagina seems stretched!

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for one year, faithful the entire time. Even before we became serious, I was not with anyone else (he was). He has also spent the past few months attacking my past and telling me the most hurtful things about the ...

A.   24 February 2009: Please leave this guy. No one deserves to be treated like that, that's ridiciulous. You do not have to explain yourself to him, especially if you have already tried and he doesn't believe you. He is cruel and uncaring, no matter if he says he loves ... (read in full...)

Can you get pregnant and STD's by penis up the butt?

Q.   Im a 14 year old girl. I have a Amazing boyfriend who would never hurt me, We talked about the future, and we desided to wait a longg time before we have sex. he does finger me, and i have gave hand-jobs to him only. hes the only one i been with but ...

A.   24 February 2009: I agree with satindesire (as usual), and think that you should educate yourself more on things like that before doing them. It is unlikely you will get pregnant, but a condom is always a good idea to protect from some infections and things like ... (read in full...)

Why won't my husband sleep with me?

Q.   My sex drive seems out of control. My husband doesn't really like to have sex with me as much as I think I need. Not only that, but when I do have sex with him, I feel disappointed. He has never been able to make me orgasm. He is the only person I ...

A.   23 February 2009: A few things to consider that could help get more advice: Has he always been uninterested in sex very often, or is it more recent? It is possible that he just is not someone with a high sex drive, not ALL men are like that (despite popular belief).... (read in full...)

How to get a vibrator?

Q.   I have a question. Can somebody tell me how to get a vibrator? Because it is boring fingering myself, and i dont want to use my sisters' one. ...

A.   19 February 2009: To answer LazyGuy, in the US, not as many stores just have them around, but they are attainable if you want one. I suggest you do ask your sister to get you one. Otherwise, there are other things you can do besides fingering and other things y... (read in full...)

Sex the first time hurt so much, now he wants to do it again and I'm terrified!

Q.   Hey so me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time together it was good but became painful at some point and the pain went on for a week or two, now he says he wants to have more but I am scared of the pain and feel I can't do it now so how can I ...

A.   19 February 2009: Aw, just remember, it shouldn't be painful the whole time just so he enjoys it. If you're not enjoying it or don't want to do it, he should respect that and be okay with it. I suggest you just tell him that it's very painful for you and you think ... (read in full...)

I'm freaking out after my horrible sex experience with my BF, can you help me?

Q.   So i'm seventeen and my boyfriend and i had sex last night as a late valentines day present and now i'm freaking out. Well my boyfriend kind of pressured me into having sex at this camping trip and he didnt stop when i told him to stop being so ...

A.   18 February 2009: If he's treating you like that, you shouldn't be with him. No guy should pressure you that much, and definitely should stop if you tell him too. Anyting beyond that is completely wrong, and his fault. Sometimes after having rough sex, it is possible ... (read in full...)

How can I fix the relationship & make him see what he wants?

Q.   hi, im 16 and female. i was pregnant 4 months ago but i had a still birth i developed an eating disorder the only thing i cling to is my beloved boyfriend weve been together 2 years and he asked me to marry him on valentines day. i know were ...

A.   18 February 2009: I'm sorry that's going on, I know that is really a lot to change so suddenly. I think if he has been feeling like that he shouldn't have asked you to marry him if he's been so uncertain with things for longer. My main suggestion is to talk to ... (read in full...)

I'm always the single girl

Q.   hey im almost 15 years old, and ive like this guy who is going out with one of my sort of friends. (we arent really close or anything, but we are friends) i dont often feel this strongly about guys and now i finally find a guy i could see myself ...

A.   18 February 2009: Aw, that sounds really frustrating, I know how that goes. Don't worry, you're 14, you have plenty of time for relationships, and trust me, you'll have one sometime so don't worry :). I know it may be frustrating and not seem great now, but things ... (read in full...)

Why did he do this?

Q.   when me and my boyfriend had sex for the first time [we have been together well over a year and it wasnt so long ago that we did it] it was really good, despite being told the first time is always rubbish. it only lasted a few minutes but, just as ...

A.   18 February 2009: He may have just been nervous. As I'm sure you (and he) know, condoms are not always effective and maybe he was afraid cumming would tear it. He also may not have known if you wanted him to cum inside you, even with the condom. I'm a guy, that's ... (read in full...)

Could I have had an orgasm?

Q.   hi i am a 18 year old girl. i just wanted to know what a orgasm feels like i cant say that i have had one one before but really what am i to expect to feel in my vagina and my body. i have tried masturbating i felt a bit of tingeing in my vagina but ...

A.   18 February 2009: I know a lot of people say you will know it when you have one, but you really will. If it was just a little feeling and didn't feel that great you probably didn't have one. Sometimes it takes a lot of exploring of your body and getting used to ... (read in full...)

I was wondering can vaginas get tighter, because I have a really tight one.

Q.   I've had sex in a car before the break out bleeds, and he got his penis in me pretty easily. Then he tried a bed today and he had a lot of trouble getting his penis in me today. I was wondering if vaginas could get tighter, because I have a really ...

A.   18 February 2009: Yes, you can get tighter, and it also depends how relaxed you are. If you need anything else, feel free to message me and I'll try to respond quickly.... (read in full...)

15 and wanting a baby!

Q.   I'm 15 years old, and my boyfriend and I have been trying to have a baby for three months. My boyfriend is 18, and we both have agreed we're ready. We already live together. I don't have to worry about dropping out because I do online schoolin...

A.   17 February 2009: Maybe it's not meant to be. I know you probably don't want to hear that you're not old enough or whatever, but I just thought I'd mention that it is a lot of responsibility, and money that goes into a baby. However, it's your choice and I don't want ... (read in full...)

He couldn't penetrate me, so what could be the matter?

Q.   OH MY GOD HELP. Ive been with my boyfriend about a month and already love him so much and we both think we're ready for sex. So today he was round mine and we were getting very close and intimate and he whispered to me he has condoms. So he w...

A.   17 February 2009: I agree, you need to be relaxed, foreplay will help, among other things. Don't worry too much about doing something wrong or anything, just do what feels good and things will work out :). If you need any more advice, feel free to message me and I'll ... (read in full...)

During sex, should I put up with the pain to please him?

Q.   I'm a 16 year old girl and i recently lost my virginity to my 17 year old bf of 3 years. My problem is that i enjoyed my 1st time (and the other time after that) but i'm very tight so i experience a lot of pain during and after it. My bf luvs that ...

A.   17 February 2009: I agree, it's not your duty to do that for him. It's your body and it's a two way realtionship, not just for him to feel good. If he can't deal with having sex less then he's not respecting you. Don't put yourself through pain just for that. It was ... (read in full...)

So I squirted, does it mean I orgasmed as well?

Q.   Hey, I was doing some research on this site, looking up woman's orgasms and squirting. At first I was going to ask if it was normal, but apparently it is! I'm kind of embarssed about it, it seems so abnormal! What I am wondering is when I ...

A.   17 February 2009: First of all you're not doing something wrong if you are enjoying it. Have you had an orgasm before? That would be a good way to tell if it is the same feeling. You don't have to have an intense one for that to happen, although for many women they ... (read in full...)

If I get lost during sex, what do I do?

Q.   I'm a 14 year old female. I'm about to have sex for the first time. I'm not totally clueless about sex like I know what it is and how to do some stuff, but I'm afraid I'll be bad at it. What happens if I get lost and don't know what to do?...

A.   17 February 2009: If you are so nervous about it, I don't think you are ready to do it, but if you do it anyway (since no one on here can make you stop), it will probably come natrually to you. Also, use protection, that's extremely important. If it doesn't come ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my mother that I've been using her vibrator?

Q.   Okay so I have a major problem. It's the second time that I've had the guilty feeling this bad. But it's for really stupid things. I've done really really worse things and I've never given it a second thought and it just bugs me that I'm bothered by ...

A.   16 February 2009: I agree, you don't need to tell your mother about this. You didn't do anything wrong, you were just curious. I know it may seem weird and you feel guilty about it, but you yourself said you don't plan on doing it again. I think that she would not ... (read in full...)

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