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I feel worthless as a wife because I can't offer him more!
Q. Before I dated my husband I use to date only woman . But there was something about him that caught my eye and my heart. I started dating him and I got in a serious relationship with him and we marry. Things between us was good and we were even ...
A. 3 March 2012: "But I find myself still very attractive to woman and my husband does not want to hear about it." It's not us that misunderstood, it's you who are now changing your story. Why should any partner want to hear that your attracted to someone else,... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 3 March 2012: "Example... you are a black lady, right , Miamine ?. Suppose that you find your caucasian bf saved on his PC a lot of videos about black women being raped, battered, debased, humiliated. Supposed he has a slave market fantasy and fantasizes about ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 3 March 2012: Probably my problem is I've seen a lot of paedophiles, and spoken to abused children and adults. If I was looking for a paedophile, it would be your husbands, your brothers, the guy at church I'd be looking for. The guy holding the bible or the... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 3 March 2012: It's a big decision you have to make, one that affects your life (and his) no-one else. Just to remind you, the guy has bestiality porn, rape porn, shemale porn and carton porn of kids having sex with adults....
Paedophiles aren't turned on by be... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 3 March 2012: Here is a link I think you should read:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Legal_status_of_cartoon_pornography_depicting_minors
Child cartoon porn is considered illegal in most countries.
I am actually reading the link, and it's a bit more complic... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a pedophile for watching cartoon toddler porn?
Q. Is my boyfriend a pedophile for looking at cartoon porn depicting very young children? We've been going out for 6 months and since we've moved in together I've been secretly snooping on his laptop and have found many things that have disturbed me. ...
A. 2 March 2012: I don't think your boyfriends a paedophile. Paedophiles usually look at sexual pictures of young children (not babies) and they don't bother with shemale's or bestiality, because it's children they are interested in. Bestiality pornography as far ... (read in full...)
I have a sexless marriage and my husband is a sex addict! What do I do?
Q. I desperately need help. I have no one who I can talk to about this and I'm afraid it's going to destroy me. I've been married for 26 years. There is no question it's not a perfect marriage. There are two issues that I am fighting and feel like I'm ...
A. 2 March 2012: Sorry I made it into a weight issue and it definitely is not that, it's an attraction issue and a question of respect. Larger women do get sex and love from the man that adores them.
I really don't want to add to your pain. I would love you... (read in full...)
I have a sexless marriage and my husband is a sex addict! What do I do?
Q. I desperately need help. I have no one who I can talk to about this and I'm afraid it's going to destroy me. I've been married for 26 years. There is no question it's not a perfect marriage. There are two issues that I am fighting and feel like I'm ...
A. 2 March 2012: Sigh.. don't know about your husband being a sex addict. People like the term addiction, because it put's a medical spin on something that is just bad behaviour. If he's only having sex with prostitutes, he's only having sex 1-3 times a week, that ... (read in full...)
How come men seem to have more sexual urge than women?
Q. Do they males have more sexual urge then females.generally males show much interest on ladies and sex. similar desire is not seen in females, Is it gender variation or indidual variation...
A. 2 March 2012: It's culture and society pressure mostly. When scientist study arousal, women and men both get turned on and horny equally. But it's harder for women to get an orgasm, and women have to think about more than sex, they have to think about ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend watching porn. Does he care about me?
Q. i recently discovered my bf watches porn behind my back i found this out when i was pregnant so i confronted him about it and of course he denied it so i gave him the benefit of the dought but then whist i was in hospital in slow labour he did it ...
A. 2 March 2012: The majority of men on this planet watch pornography.
1. It's got nothing to do with if you have a good relationship or not. Your relationship could be perfect and many men still like porn.
2. It's got nothing to do with if your pregnant or... (read in full...)
I feel something for my dad's cousin! What should I do?
Q. I had been a long time with dad`s cousin I think we have a good relationship but in the last time that I saw her I started to feel something because I saw her crying for that i felt something new so the problem is that she is like my family and I ...
A. 2 March 2012: You can do nothing, it's not that she is your Dad's cousin. In most of the countries in the world (except for the USA and a few others) it is legal to marry cousins.... The problem is...
YOUR 13-15years old, your still a child and if she is 8 yea... (read in full...)
How can I stop cum leaking out after sex?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now... Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me? whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especially ...
A. 1 March 2012: If you and your boyfriend are embarrassed by the mess that sex makes, then you really are too immature to be doing it. It's as if you both want to pretend that sex didn't happen, or sex has no smells or no discharge. Sex is primary to make babies, ... (read in full...)
I feel worthless as a wife because I can't offer him more!
Q. Before I dated my husband I use to date only woman . But there was something about him that caught my eye and my heart. I started dating him and I got in a serious relationship with him and we marry. Things between us was good and we were even ...
A. 1 March 2012: Sorry, there is a big difference from your husband having problem with bi-sexual people. He doesn't otherwise he would never have married you. But bi-sexual people who think that this gives them reason to cheat and have sex with other people, of ... (read in full...)
I feel worthless as a wife because I can't offer him more!
Q. Before I dated my husband I use to date only woman . But there was something about him that caught my eye and my heart. I started dating him and I got in a serious relationship with him and we marry. Things between us was good and we were even ...
A. 1 March 2012: Your not worthless as a wife or a woman, however, you agreed to marry him and you agreed to be faithful. Just because you fancy other women doesn't mean that cheating is right.
Suppose it was him, telling you all about the woman next door who... (read in full...)
Ladies, would you go out with a guy who asked you out straight away?
Q. As the above question says, would you go out on a date with a guy who you had only met on that occasion asked you out at the end of the evening? If you perceive that as needy, if a guy fancies a girl when should he ask her out?...
A. 1 March 2012: If I was 18-21, and we had talked during the occasion and found we liked each other and wanted to continue talking, sure I would like a date, I'd probably be expecting one. But the date would have to be nice and safe, in the daytime, somewhere like ... (read in full...)
He has the ring. When will he find the right moment? Should I wait?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years this June. We have a great relationship and have lived together for the past 2 years. I trust him and he has never given me a reason not to. We are very close and are best friends and lovers. 2 1/2 years ago ...
A. 1 March 2012: You love him, he loves you, the ring is bought.. pity I didn't answer before because the 29th February on a leap year (every 4 years) is the traditional day for women to propose to men. Ah well, that date is gone now.
Are you two gonna stay sad... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a gangster! Should I marry him?
Q. Hiya, I'm 27 years old woman and I dated a 19 year old boy for 5 months last year. The very first time that we met, I doubted that we would ever got along as he's 8years younger than me, turned out, it was like love at the first sight for us both ...
A. 1 March 2012: You got a wild animal on your hands, it's not particularly the drug selling, although if he's doing that you will get involved with police and you will eventually have a husband in jail, nope, it's the hitman thing, he has killed and that will do ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to wear my most slimming outfit 2 times in a row?
Q. I met someone from online about 2 weeks ago. We spoke for 2 weeks prior to meeting as well. We met and the date went pretty well and we seem to like each other. He doesn't live very close and I am going to go visit him this weekend and it will be ...
A. 1 March 2012: I'm not to crazy about you wearing the same thing twice in 2 weeks, only because the relationship is new. I know guys don't notice much, but I'm worried, maybe he thinks your really poor, or maybe he thinks you wear this outfit and aren't that good ... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to give me compliments again?
Q. I have scared my husband away from giving me compliments because as he says he would give one and i would question his answer or get upset cause it wasn't what i wanted to hear. i guess i did do that and i guess i did it for a long time. Long enough ...
A. 29 February 2012: The thing about rejection, it's like kicking a dog, a dog will love you and take lots of kicks, but eventually it gets frightened and won't come near you again. How do you show the dog that you are now friendly and won't kick it again. It's a ... (read in full...)
Should a married woman accept a drink from a man at a bar?
Q. Do y'all think it's OK for a married woman to accept a purchased drink from a man at a bar? My wife often goes out with her girlfriends. Sometimes they sit around a table like a bunch of hens cackling for hours - men run for the hills. But other ...
A. 29 February 2012: Thanks for the update.. the no dancing with men, is stricter than I would like personally, and the guys I date don't show your type of jealousy.
But everyone is different. You and your wife have talked, and everything on your list sounds like a f... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: "I'm not going to be able to get over this betrayal. What do you think I should do?" If you don't feel you can every forget/forgive this betrayal, then the only thing you can do is leave him. It's not possible for you to continue this relatio... (read in full...)
Should a married woman accept a drink from a man at a bar?
Q. Do y'all think it's OK for a married woman to accept a purchased drink from a man at a bar? My wife often goes out with her girlfriends. Sometimes they sit around a table like a bunch of hens cackling for hours - men run for the hills. But other ...
A. 29 February 2012: Accepting a drink from a man who only choose you, is a bit bad mannered. Your giving him hopes and taking the drink under false pretences (your pretending to be available and single) she should say no. A guy buying a drink for you and your fri... (read in full...)
Can a woman propose to her boyfriend?
Q. In this day and age, is it completely out of line for a woman to propose to a man?...
A. 29 February 2012: Did you do it traditional "29th February every four years", or are you a modern woman "I'll ask the guy whenever I want to, because that's my right as a human being"
Did you, did you, not meaning to push, but if you ask him, don't forget to come ... (read in full...)
If your partner watches porn is it natural to get turned off and start looking elsewhere?
Q. My partner watches porn and masturbates. I have found that this has turned me off of him both sexually and emotionally. My question is this: If it is just natural for men to look at other women and have urges towards them, is it just as...
A. 29 February 2012: Absolutely natural. It's very common for men to look at porn, and it's very common for women to become disgusted with them and find themselves falling out of love.
As one woman said, "the thought of him looking another girls vagina with his dick... (read in full...)
Can a woman propose to her boyfriend?
Q. In this day and age, is it completely out of line for a woman to propose to a man?...
A. 28 February 2012: Eeek.. do it tomorrow, it's the leap year, traditional day for women to propose to men. ... (read in full...)
I am worried it is over.
Q. I feel so helpless and depressed and lost. I started dating a guy and we went out on a few dates..everything was going well now he has stopped calling. Before then we emailed each other a lot for a few months before we met (we had met online). ...
A. 27 February 2012: You texted, he texted, he even texted back the next day. That's contact, nice, polite and friendly. You aint done nothing, he aint avoiding you, but he doesn't seem that interested in taking it any further.
Will he ask you for a date. Nope I d... (read in full...)
I had to leave my daughter with my ex in order to get out of the relationship and now it is so difficult to get to see her, is my ex's behaviour normal?
Q. i was with my ex for a year and half. we went through a lot together. we had a baby girl few months ago. i eventually realised that i have no friends left due to him alienating them all and few family members too. he always kept hold of my bank ...
A. 27 February 2012: Why couldn't you take your child, in cases like this, you have a lot more rights than him. Do you have no safe home to give her, are you working/college and will have to leave her unsuppervised. Are you still under a health visitor.
You need bet... (read in full...)
I feel like I should go farther with my 18 y.o. b/f
Q. I just started dating this guy I've liked for a really long time. He's 17 turning 18 next month and I'm 14 turning 15 in July. I know it's a huge age difference but I do really like him and according to his friends (who are also my friends), he ...
A. 27 February 2012: Your not a bad person, and yes you can date an 18 year old, but you can't have sex until you are legal. He will get in trouble and you will feel bad when you are older. Many women who have sex young later regret it, as SoVeryConfused points out.
... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 27 February 2012: His culture has arranged marriages, so I'll assume he is Asian. He's already making demands about babies that don't exist, he will get worse if you actually decide you want to have children. You will find it hard to have any say in how they are ... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 27 February 2012: I don't know, but my idea of love is "I'm with this guy because I absolutely love him, adore him and he makes my life better"... his idea is "I'm with this woman because she will do what I tell her to do and she's not allowed to run away".. and your ... (read in full...)
Are women like this even worth my time?
Q. My girlfriend of 2.5 years is difficult to deal with. We have a 22 month old son together and argue all the time but talked about it and both agreed work on it. Yesterday, she was flipping out about her sewing machine not working. I asked her if she ...
A. 27 February 2012: "I actually supported her the whole way through her schooling, paying all the bills, parenting my son by myself mostly, doing most if not all the chores, and going to school myself to better myself."
You sound like you have brilliant time manageme... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 27 February 2012: "The ENTIRE base of your arguments rests on the idea that prostituted women choose to be there"
People can read for themselves, that I'm very careful not to generalise like this. For instance, I don't think all "johns rape and murder their cl... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 27 February 2012: "The 68% isn't wrong, similar studies by governments have found similar numbers.... " I don't know about similar studies for which you don't provide details... I am directly challenging this figure and the original work the research came fr... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 27 February 2012: "So he wants to start trying soon, so Ill graduate pregnant basically, and give birth soon after." (Anonymous 22-25) "I feel like he will break up with ne if I don't want kids as soon as him." (Anonymous 22-25) "...but I didn't plan on gradu... (read in full...)
Are women like this even worth my time?
Q. My girlfriend of 2.5 years is difficult to deal with. We have a 22 month old son together and argue all the time but talked about it and both agreed work on it. Yesterday, she was flipping out about her sewing machine not working. I asked her if she ...
A. 27 February 2012: Do you think you're depressed?... (read in full...)
Are women like this even worth my time?
Q. My girlfriend of 2.5 years is difficult to deal with. We have a 22 month old son together and argue all the time but talked about it and both agreed work on it. Yesterday, she was flipping out about her sewing machine not working. I asked her if she ...
A. 26 February 2012: Interesting update, the woman didn't sound like she needed treatment for mental health problems. But you do sound like you need to talk with her about some of these emotional issues. It's not because she's tells you to piss off when she's in a ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 26 February 2012: I can't argue with your campaign to wipe out prostitution because it is impossible. Rape is forcing someone to have sex against their will and it is illegal. Prostitution is a contract to have say for gain and financial reward and in many ... (read in full...)
Are women like this even worth my time?
Q. My girlfriend of 2.5 years is difficult to deal with. We have a 22 month old son together and argue all the time but talked about it and both agreed work on it. Yesterday, she was flipping out about her sewing machine not working. I asked her if she ...
A. 26 February 2012: To me she sounds like someone who doesn't know how to deal with stress and gets into a great panic. No she shouldn't talk like this to you, but I don't think at that moment she's actually aware of that you are there, her mind is overcome by ... (read in full...)
Every conversation with husband turns into an argument!
Q. My husband of four years is a generally nice and kind man but has very firm views about things. I have tried over the years to put my views forward on things that I am not happy with in the relationship but my views are always walked over or ignored ...
A. 26 February 2012: Opps, just saw your follow up. Oh those kind of arguments. But in your example you won, you didn't see auntie, you went home. You are two completely different people, you sound like total opposites. Really not much you can do about this, it h... (read in full...)
Every conversation with husband turns into an argument!
Q. My husband of four years is a generally nice and kind man but has very firm views about things. I have tried over the years to put my views forward on things that I am not happy with in the relationship but my views are always walked over or ignored ...
A. 26 February 2012: "What we have here is a failure to communicate" (Cool Hand Luke, staring the greatly loved and always missed, Mr Paul Newman) First let's get the big stuff out the way. You say your husband is generally nice and kind, but then you go on to say... (read in full...)
I didn't enjoy seeing my wife kiss another woman. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I'm a guy. I've been married for 2 years. Tonight my wife was out at a friends. I know she's dabbled in lesbian sex, and I'm ok with the idea, or thought I was. Tonight her friend was with kissed her while I watched. (I was at home we were on cam) ...
A. 26 February 2012: Nope, this is the dangers of inviting other people into your bedroom to play sex games. It doesn't matter if your wife is bi-sexual. She decide to get married, and if you two don't want to have these jealousy issues, it's always best to remain ... (read in full...)
Should this change how I feel about my husband to be?
Q. My Fiancé is a very inspiring person: born very poor single mother who had troubles with "the drink" (one Christmas he told me all he got was a black eye). Yet, he's now finishing a medical residency and has put everything behind him from his past, ...
A. 26 February 2012: "I have a Master's Degree and use to beat droves of boys off with sticks in college." - And she is cold and dead and lying in her grave. I think your the one who is better off at this moment. If it was a close friend that died young and unexpe... (read in full...)
I am worried it is over.
Q. I feel so helpless and depressed and lost. I started dating a guy and we went out on a few dates..everything was going well now he has stopped calling. Before then we emailed each other a lot for a few months before we met (we had met online). ...
A. 26 February 2012: You don't want to call him, you don't want to email him, you don't want to text. You just want to sit there wondering why he left. For some reason the ball is in his court. He stopped calling, so you decided to do the same thing. I have no idea... (read in full...)
My boyfriend gets upset when I don't answer the phone
Q. i am 46 single and live in uk and my muslim boyfriend is 26 years old, we met on a dating site. I look much younger than my age,we are planning to get married. My boyfriend gets really upset with me, when he cant get hold of me on the phone. He se...
A. 26 February 2012: It might not be his religion/culture that's the problem, but the differences in ages. You say that you look young for your age, so, good looking, youthful, with experience of life, he looks at his inadequacies and flaws and keeps asking himself ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 26 February 2012: "There is no way to make prostitution safe." - There are statistics and then there are statistics.
Prostitution exists in every single society, at every single point in history, it is as old as human beings. Attempts to ban prostitution througho... (read in full...)
Is it possible my boyfriend is too interested in my mom?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been dating this guy for about 10 months now and recently I'v noticed something peculiar. Whenever he meets my mom, he really 'looks' at her when her back is turned. He even asked me about my parents sex life once when we wer...
A. 26 February 2012: Display text Sorry, but I would find this creepy. Now I know it's normal to find other people attractive, and that includes my mother or some stranger on the street. Guys look at women, women look at guys, none of that causes problems for me. Mo... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 25 February 2012: I'll derail the thread as well quickly... sorry it's about legalised prostitution... I'm unsure.. I want women safe (and of course it's more secure to work in a house with bodyguards rather than on your own in a house or in the streets) But, the ... (read in full...)
Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix? Any thoughts?
Q. OK here's a question up for debate, not asking for help just your views on the subject. Random I know lol. DOMINATRIX Do you think it's prostitution to be a dominatrix woman/man. ( for anyone who dont know what that is, it's where someone...
A. 25 February 2012: A Dominatrix is a sex worker, just like a stripper is a sex worker, so are women and men who do nude shots. None of them get touched, however their jobs are based upon their ability to give sexual pleasure. Beating men, pissing on men, giving them ... (read in full...)
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