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Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 2 April 2012: Reader anonymous, ignoring things goes two ways... you might have missed some of what I had to say about many people who work in porn and the sex industry, because they CHOOSE to. They aren't forced, they aren't victims, and they don't like ... (read in full...)
How do I get people to be jealous that my boyfriend really likes me?
Q. short sweet and to the point : my boyfriend is extremely liked by many black females . he's mixed but looks black . i'm white . he's really good abt always holding my hand EVERYWHERE we go and good at looking me in my and communication . but ...
A. 1 April 2012: A confident woman never shows jealousy, never gets worried and never shows that she's upset. She just watches the other woman making fools of themselves and smiles at their stupidity.
An insecure woman looks upset, acts jealous and upset, g... (read in full...)
We've been together four years and I've always hoped he would change!
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for about 4 yrs. We've had our share of issues. I always hoped somehow he would change, but I don't believe he will. Sometimes its incredible he's sooo complimentive, charming, he will cook for me treat me great and o...
A. 1 April 2012: If you are scared and frightened to leave for any reason, or you do not know how to get away. Please update your post and we will provide you with information. Many aunts here have been seriously abused and managed to get away.
This guy won't ge... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 31 March 2012: If your partner is looking at illegal pornography than report him to the police.
The thing is... people who don't like pornography, never watch it and don't work in the industry, want to tell other people what to do. For some reasons lawmaker... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 31 March 2012: Question:
Why do men whose partners are given IVF treatment get given pornography to look at?
Why does UK newspapers Include a picture of a naked woman everyday?
Why do reputable doctors recommend some patients use pornography to improve t... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 31 March 2012: The harm caused by an industry wasn't the question that was asked. But yes the sex industry in all it's forms is harmful for many people involved. Likewise the rock n' roll music business and the movie industry. If an industry is found to be h... (read in full...)
My Friend will not associate with unattractive People, is this common?
Q. I'm 40, he's 22 and we've only been friends a short while. He's very intelligent - and I thought deep, until he told me that he doesn't associate with unattractive people because it badly reflects on him. He's heterosexual and his male friends ...
A. 31 March 2012: Janniepeg, highlights the important point that their world is different and their access to knowledge is immense. Everyone says that it's just this guy who is the problem, but I'm not sure. It's reflected in the things young people buy and ... (read in full...)
My Friend will not associate with unattractive People, is this common?
Q. I'm 40, he's 22 and we've only been friends a short while. He's very intelligent - and I thought deep, until he told me that he doesn't associate with unattractive people because it badly reflects on him. He's heterosexual and his male friends ...
A. 31 March 2012: Yes babes, this type of thinking is common in young people. I have argued with them about this and pointed out the flaw about only treasuring physical beauty.
They don't listen. My young cousin showed me one of them young people films, about so... (read in full...)
Do all men cheat if given the chance?
Q. Hmm, I'm getting a little cynical-do all men cheat (emotionally/physically) if they get the chance and don't think they'll get caught?? This is the impression I'm getting from DearCupid, from celebrities, from my friends, and I don't like it. I ...
A. 31 March 2012: "The odds of either of you taking additional lovers are 100% regardless of a contract."
There is no human being alive or dead has ever managed to be faithful, because we are only a bundle of chemicals...
Very interesting theory.... which... (read in full...)
I just don't want to hurt anymore!
Q. Ok well I was.with my boyfriend for two years the first year was wonderful. Then he cheated on me hurt me bad but I loved him so much that I gave him anither chance then he started accusing me of cheating the whole time ive been fathful.he dosent ...
A. 31 March 2012: Yes, you are right. He done wrong, he is the one who cheats and lies. But rather than punish himself, his ego is protected and he punishes you instead. Because he can't accept that he is a devil, while you remain an angel, he want's to cover you ... (read in full...)
We've been together four years and I've always hoped he would change!
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf for about 4 yrs. We've had our share of issues. I always hoped somehow he would change, but I don't believe he will. Sometimes its incredible he's sooo complimentive, charming, he will cook for me treat me great and o...
A. 31 March 2012: Leave him. He is abusive with possible mental issues. You are co-dependant, you allow him to treat you badly and you finance his destructive habits. He hits you, he steals from you and you forgive and stay.
Leave him before he destroys you. Fi... (read in full...)
Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection when they have a girlfriend?
Q. Can somebody help me? Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection even when they say their girlfriend is enough and is beautiful? Everybody says something like everyone has fantasies what does that mean? They are looking at the ...
A. 30 March 2012: "Why are men so reluctant to get rid of their porn collection"
Funny how this question has been re-written... perhaps the OP should clarify and add the word "hardcore" to her original sentence.
Also a bit confused about "No woman masturbate... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 30 March 2012: Correction: *I don't suggest you go with a prostitute because of your type of moral thinking.... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 30 March 2012: Ok, if you are looking for love but it must be from a virgin. Then continue to date. Make sure you tell the woman you meet that virginity is important. If you date enough girls, of the right type... you may just find one...
But again, as I sai... (read in full...)
Is wearing a sheer or see thru bathing suit OK?
Q. My boyfriend (of many years) asked me to remove the lining from a couple of my bikini's, so that when we go to the beach they will be see through. I did this to one of my darker suits, the results being not too dramatic. More noticible on top, but ...
A. 29 March 2012: Here also, we got people who dress like that and walk on the street. We do have nudist beaches and camps, but people can't find them and it's much too cold, we usually pop over to Europe when we want to walk nude.
Is it offensive. Yes, to the r... (read in full...)
Do I tell my best friend I'm pregnant by him?
Q. i ressonly lost my vaginaty to my best and oldest male freind (we have always been close and tell each other everything) i just found out that im pregnant do i tell him. we was waching dvds at mine drinking a bottle of wine with a takeaway we noram...
A. 29 March 2012: Yes of course. You guys are friends, one day things happen. Now you are pregnant, do you think he wants you scared, frightened and alone. Tell him first and if he can't help, (because he might be scared) then go and tell your mother.
As a ... (read in full...)
I just used her for sex so how do I end it and still look good?
Q. I started screwing, nothing serious, around with this chick from my job when I'm home from college. She was a rebound girl from my last relationship and i wasn't being to pick when i choose her. I'm not saying I'm a great catch but I'm way out of ...
A. 29 March 2012: Ah, your update helps a lot. Now you is not a dick. If you told her from the beginning that you couldn't give her relationship, and she was using you (an insecure kid) as much as you was using her, then everything is different. Things are much ... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 29 March 2012: It's the word "resent" that triggered a warning for me... as well as this.. " people have a stigma against men looking for virgins, they usually see them as sexist self centered jerks, because they immediately associate it with a sexist controlling ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend shouts he loves me during sex, what does this mean? And what is the difference between making love and sex?
Q. Hi All, I would like some opinions please!! the last two times me and my BF have had sex, it seems different somehow. He kept telling me he loved me when we were doing it. When a guy says this during sex, does it mean he loves you , or loves th...
A. 29 March 2012: I'm curious.. why are you more interested about love words during sex, but don't seem to value love words that come outside the bedroom.
Guys say lots of nonsense in the bedroom, I've even known some cry for their mama... but outside the bedroom ... (read in full...)
What are the biggest problems that most people have to deal with in a lifetime?
Q. What are the biggest problems what most people have to deal with in a lifetime? In my family we have so much problems , that it is hard for me to see, if everybody got problems like that ,or it is out of the ordinary to have them,like that . ...
A. 29 March 2012: How about going blind and having to have a transplant, then being hit with long term illness.. does that sound hard enough for you. Funny enough, I've never seen my life as tragic... stuff happens in life and you just get on with it. I got a f... (read in full...)
I wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin, but they are hard to find. Should I use a prostitute instead?
Q. Ok, so my situation is that I'm a virgin, and I always wanted to lose it to another virgin, but I'm almost 20 and girls like that are very hard to come by, this is very important for me, because I wanted to be able to be each other first. I kn...
A. 28 March 2012: This is "All-or-Nothing" type thinking, and it is a disaster in sex or relationships, people with this type of thinking can suffer obsession and compulsions even if they find the perfect virgin woman. I think you would benefit with a short course ... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: Thanks for your follow up. So your not willing to play games, and you don't think she'd appreciate any romancing from you, these are the subtle ways to get her attention. Your also not wanting a divorce. There is nothing left to do but to talk to ... (read in full...)
Why aren't men more loyal "til death do us part"?
Q. I know that Shakespeare writes that man always has "one foot on shore and one on sea," although he says it more poetically, and he continues that women must say, "Hey nonny, nonny!" and try to accept man's nature. However, not to disagree with the ...
A. 27 March 2012: Problem is.. should people stay married for duty, or should they stay married for love? What happens when a man or woman feels sick every time the bedroom shuts, is frightened of the breakfast table and having to smile and make conversation.
... (read in full...)
I'm his FWB is there a chance he'll leave his girlfriend for me?
Q. okay, i don't need to be judged, but 3 months ago i sent a fb request to this guy i had seen round, (drummer in a band.) well he accepted (despite the fact he only had 100 friends on his fb account, so he obviously doesn't just add randoms. anyway i ...
A. 27 March 2012: Nope not a chance. He knew from the beginning he liked you sexually, that's why you ended up in bed. If he knew from the beginning he liked you romantically, he would have dumped the girlfriend and waited for sex.
Sorry he's a lying two faced ch... (read in full...)
Met an aspiring actress, got on so well with her but found out she plans to sleep her way to the top!
Q. Right so last week met this girl a stunner at a local pub. we got on right away and i started seeing her. everything was going just fine until we started off talking about careers and she revealed that her plan is to sleep her way into roles! I was ...
A. 27 March 2012: I'm sure some women and men do have sex to get them selves noticed and make contacts. But no producer is gonna risk a million pound project on somebody who is known for the talent of her mouth. She's either right for the role or she is not, sex ... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: Opps.. almost forgot... If she ever notices how much you've changed and asks you why.. Then you must tell her..
"I had no choice sweetheart, I was losing you and I couldn't bear that, so I changed into the type of man that I thought you might wa... (read in full...)
Why on earth would a woman say something like that to her husband? Should I start playing the same game, to make her realize that I can stray if I am not getting what I want at home?
Q. My wife and I are in our mid 40's and have been married a long time. Lately she has been changing quite a bit: working out a lot, getting botox, wearing revealing clothes out with ner girlfriends, communicating with guys she used to know from high ...
A. 27 March 2012: I must be the only one, who thinks that at certain times games might help. Look, the lady is feeling old and boring and she's looking at you and feeling that you must be old and boring too. Sitting down and talking about stuff is what old people ... (read in full...)
I'm dating a girl who sleeps in the same bed as her male friend and doesn't see anything wrong with it
Q. This is a bit long winded but I just want to give you as much info as possible so bear with me. I started seeing a girl (shes 24, I'm 28) and we had been on like 3 or 4 dates. I was also seeing her most nights after work as we live very close. W...
A. 26 March 2012: I've slept in the same bed as me guy friends, and I don't have a problem with it. I'm a bit like your girlfriend. After 3 or 4 dates you two are serious enough for her to change the habits of a lifetime. But she's been told this is what she must ... (read in full...)
Why do I still feel everything is ok with us even though he cheated and we broke up?
Q. my boyfriend of 17 months broke up last thursday we have a 8 month old together. we always had problems in our relationship fighting,drama ect. we have broke up 10 but each time we always find our selves back together. like as if something more was ...
A. 26 March 2012: You seem to lack self-esteem (or maybe you have too much self-confidence) and are sabotaging your relationship and driving this guy away. You don't want to have to mature and grow up and just be in love and happy like adult women do. Nope, you ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss passionately but nothing else. Is that wrong?
Q. I am very religious and my boyfriend of 2 years is not. About two months ago he stopped kissing me passionately because he says he finds it easier to control himself because he gets carried away when the making out it gets hot and he really doesn't ...
A. 26 March 2012: No you are not wrong to want to only kiss passionately but not have sex. But he is also not wrong. He cannot kiss you and make out without feeling uncomfortable or losing control. Your guy is being respectful and not pressurising you for sex. ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 26 March 2012: How old is this girlfriend, and how long ago was she doing this wild sex thing?... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 26 March 2012: "It isn't porn that is the problem, it's the want for it and the fantasizing i don't like, it wouldnt bother me if they thought of someone else without looking at porn."
Hi, if this is you OP, then your update is unclear... I'm trying to get you ... (read in full...)
I just used her for sex so how do I end it and still look good?
Q. I started screwing, nothing serious, around with this chick from my job when I'm home from college. She was a rebound girl from my last relationship and i wasn't being to pick when i choose her. I'm not saying I'm a great catch but I'm way out of ...
A. 25 March 2012: You are a dick, no matter what happens you can't change that, you are selfish and like to use people..
Anyway how about trying, "I'm sorry but this isn't working for me, it's nothing that you have done wrong, but I'm just not feeling the spark an... (read in full...)
Why does my husband like to mentally undress my female unattractive friend?
Q. My husband has admitted that he likes to undress my female friend whom we have met on two occasions, mentally in his mind. However, he claimed that he doesn't find her attractive and is not fantasizing about having sex with her but merely her figure ...
A. 25 March 2012: You didn't ask any questions, your husband ogles other women and then comes and tells you about how their breasts look good in clothes.... your husband is ill manned, he's a letch and he is rude. A guy like that likes to undermine your confidence ... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 25 March 2012: Yes person123, I stole your term, because I thought it might describe this lady perfectly and help her to put into words what she wants from a relationship and why porn is not suitable for her. No offence meant, it's just a great description for a ... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 25 March 2012: opps, missed the other follow up...
Your a "hyper-monogamist" then... you don't want your boyfriend to have any sexual attraction for anyone but you. Is he allowed to masturbate without porn, or does that bother you too?
Instead of fo... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 24 March 2012: Thanks for the follow up, but it still doesn't answer my question.
" A lot of women see it as cheating." Yes they do, a lot of women think lots of things... but we aint talking about other women... we is talking about you.
Do you see it as ch... (read in full...)
Porn related questions
Q. A few questions.... Are there any lucky women here whose partner does not watch/use porn? Did you have to tell them to stop? Did they lose interest naturally, how long did it take? Why is it so vital to men that they get to masturbate over...
A. 24 March 2012: I'm curious.. what is it about porn that bothers you?...
You say.. "men use it because they are spoilt and ungrateful and always want more"... is this a reason to ban something, just because you want to decide for them what is enough? Right no... (read in full...)
Why does my husband like to mentally undress my female unattractive friend?
Q. My husband has admitted that he likes to undress my female friend whom we have met on two occasions, mentally in his mind. However, he claimed that he doesn't find her attractive and is not fantasizing about having sex with her but merely her figure ...
A. 24 March 2012: I really don't understand how you and him started having such a conversation. It's one thing for a man or woman to discretely look and find another person sexy, it's another thing to have a discussion that makes you feel inadequate.
I don't th... (read in full...)
Should I leave him for lying about porn?
Q. Is porn a good reason to leave after 5 years? I've been with a guy for five years and everything was fine until I got pregnant the first time. He used porn everyday although we had sex almost every night the entire pregnancy... 3 years later he h...
A. 24 March 2012: I'm confused... you say you used to have no problem with porn, and went to strip clubs, but after you got pregnant you changed and you expect him to change too.
If you kick him out, will this cure your insecurities?
If he gives up the porn will... (read in full...)
What do you think about death?
Q. I had many death lately in my family. Very close family members died, from different causes. So it is very difficult time for me, and I have hard time dealing with it. That got me thinking of death a lot generally. And its funny , but I can't find ...
A. 24 March 2012: Death has never frightened me... the lights go off and then your not there and you won't know any different. It's the living bit, the sickness, the illness, the unhappiness of life that is hard... The dead are not suffering, they don't cry, it's ... (read in full...)
Question for the guys: Why do married men flirt?
Q. I have a question from you guys. Why married men flirt? They want to get in to your pants? They want to add just a little flavor to their day? Or to see if they are still capable of attracting someone? So what is it? Why I am always a target, ok I ...
A. 24 March 2012: I think married women also flirt, it's not a gender issue. Some people flirt, (I do) and some people don't. A wink, a smile, a pretty comment, makes some people smile and feel good about themselves, and other people find it offensive.
Peopl... (read in full...)
Do all men cheat if given the chance?
Q. Hmm, I'm getting a little cynical-do all men cheat (emotionally/physically) if they get the chance and don't think they'll get caught?? This is the impression I'm getting from DearCupid, from celebrities, from my friends, and I don't like it. I ...
A. 10 March 2012: "I hope it's not true, but am I just being naiive?" Your being niave, because millions of women cheat too. When your reading Dear Cupid, please don't ignore all the women who cheat on their husbands or cheat on their boyfriends or sleep with a ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend easy?
Q. my girlfriend told me what she did before we met telling me how she let a guy fuc` her in the as` on the first night .she tell me this when we are fighting as she know it hurts me. she just told me she had 4one nightstands a guy told me she was easy ...
A. 22 February 2012: After reading a similar story, she could be called an abused and damaged woman who has suffered such terror as you have never known.... (read in full...)
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