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I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!

Q.   You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...

A.   2 July 2014: Hi, Sorry, this is really going nowhere. Two years is just a 'carrot' to keep you hooked. I really believe you should get out of this. It is not good for you. In two years, which will never come, he will be offering another excuse. Sorry. ... (read in full...)

Just found out that I'm 5 weeks pregnant. That father is a man who lies and cheats. Can you help me with options advice please?

Q.   I have just found out that i am 5 weeks pregnant. It came as a bit of a shock as i had broken up with my ex due to the fact that he had turned up at my house with a love bite on his neck! He told me that he was play fighting with his friend a...

A.   3 June 2014: Hi, I am sorry for your situation. I believe you would benefit from professional counselling. I feel you need to speak to a qualified person. Best wishes. ... (read in full...)

In a man's mind, why would he ask you to turn off the light to kiss him? I thought that men liked women to do the opposite.

Q.   What does it mean when a man wants to kiss you in the dark? Call me paranoid but I get the feeling that's a bad sign. I have self image related problems and far less from perfect but I'm always trying to improve the quality of my life- although...

A.   2 June 2014: Hi, It's hard to tell. I was once with a girl who I sensed was uncomfortable being 'seen' down there so I made sure the light was off. I felt her relax more when the light was off. If that is not the case with you, then it could be that he has inse... (read in full...)

Would it be bad to tell my girlfriend I want to spend time with my friends?

Q.   Is it bad to tell girlfriend I want to go meet some friends for an hour or two. Once she comes to my house she doesn't leave till weekend finishes. I can't get rid of her because she doesn't see me all week. Sounds bad but I'm a guy I like to do ...

A.   2 June 2014: Hi, I think we all like to have our choices and options. If every one of your weekends is booked with your girlfriend then it is quite understandable that you would want to meet up with friends some weekends. I'm married and we still have our own ... (read in full...)

My wife talks in her sleep about her ex fling should I talk to her ?

Q.   My wife and I had some relationship issues 10 years ago and separated for a couple months. In that time she had a fling with an older man who was her aunt's roommate. That fling took me a long time to mostly get over. The last couple weeks my ...

A.   2 June 2014: Hi, This is not nice for you. If she is doing this, then it may be time for you to have a talk to her about it. Explain that it upsets you but also ask about how she is feeling and if she is aware of these nightmares. It's not a good situatio... (read in full...)

Now I'm just a friend because it took me so long to get the courage to tell her I like her

Q.   Dear agony aunt, ive known this girl for around a year now and a few months ago she started taking an interest in me. While I was dying to reciprocate the feeling, it took me a while to pluck up the courage and tell her I like her. But now it's as ...

A.   2 June 2014: Hi, You have two options really: Let it go and accept the situation, or 'tell her how you feel.' I'm not a great fan of telling friends how you feel because in my experience, it rarely works towards a date or relationship. However, you do have the... (read in full...)

Surely he will feel disappointed that my nipples are not the way he prefers?

Q.   I have a question that may seem so trivial but it's worrying me . The man I am involved with has a thing for and a preference for large nipples. He really prefers them and they turn him on a lot but the problem is I have reasonably sized breasts but ...

A.   2 June 2014: Hi, I don't think this will be a problem for you at all. I really don't, it is probably 'starting out' fears. In the past I always feared that being circumcised would seem strange to girls. (Being British it was being in the minority.)I feared them... (read in full...)

I found out he has another girlfriend but he wont admit it!

Q.   Me an my boyfriend have been toghter 16mnts an I recently found out he's been seeing another women.Although he still tries to hide her she makes herself well known around da neighborhood DAT they are toghter my problem is he will not admitt it an ...

A.   31 May 2014: Hi, Walk away. He is cheating and no good. There is no future er for you. ... (read in full...)

He seems interested since I said I was getting a divorce

Q.   There's a guy I am attracted to we talk every once in a while. Last December he introduced to the very close friend who is now his girlfriend. Only last month I told him that I will be getting a divorce. Now he seems interested in me but I am ...

A.   26 May 2014: Hi, Don't start anything now. Divorces can make you feel lonely and the need to be wanted. The need to be wanted can really take you into some dark places. I would get through the divorce first and wait until you can feel better within your... (read in full...)

He goes limp! Is it my fault? Is he cheating?

Q.   Me an my boyfriend have been tighter 16mnts an our sex life was normal nothing freaky or spontaneous but here in da last4 months or so our sex has come to a complete hbought.He can't maintain an erection or when he does it will go limp inside of ...

A.   23 May 2014: Hi, Firstly, no I do not think cheating is the issue. I am in my 40's, met a lovely divorced mum of 3 children and after about 10 months into our relationship, I experienced similar problems. I was still in love with her, still mad about her... (read in full...)

Is he playing games with my head and heart?

Q.   HI all I am sorry if this is a bit long but I need to get this off my chest and hope to understand a bit better. I first started dating my partner a year ago next week. In the begining he told me he was with someone but has not seen her for...

A.   22 May 2014: Hi, This is not good. It is just too complicated and full of weird things. Its not a good relationship for you. Sorry. ... (read in full...)

He cheated and I can't move past it

Q.   It's been over 3 years since my partner cheated on me and I can't move on from it. It sounds silly but I can be having a good time with him and it will crop up in my mind It always comes back to that and I throw it in his face all the time. He did...

A.   22 May 2014: Hi, Perhaps he has changed. However, you cant get rid of the cheating and I doubt you ever will. Sadly, this could be with you forever. The problem is that your mind will not forget it and will keep playing it out in the present. I still play out ... (read in full...)

I don't know if she isn't interested or just waiting awhile to reply or what?

Q.   Hi guys I just need some basic advice. I met a girl, we got along really well. i visited her city and we spent two days together, although we met just as friends the days were very romantic, it went perfectly and she said they were the best days ...

A.   22 May 2014: Hi, She seemed keen when you met. I would say, wait a couple of days and then suggest another meet up. Once you've sent this message, wait for her to get back in touch. I think that sounds reasonable. Thanks. ... (read in full...)

Found out I was pregnant after we broke up

Q.   I have a lot to deal with right now. Some days I'm fine just going about my day, then everything comes back to me and i feel overwhelmed and depressed again. I'm 18 weeks pregnant with my ex's baby. We broke up before i even knew i was pregnant. I...

A.   19 May 2014: Hello, Firstly, do not think you are bad or not responsible. This is where you are now so this is the start of dealing with things. You will need to talk to your parents and family. Explain to them your present situation. (I am assuming you have... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is an amazing dad to three kids!

Q.   Hi everyone, I need some help. I'm a 26 year old woman who has recently just become serious with my boyfriend of 6 months. He's 35 and has 3 children from a previous relationship (aged 9, 5 and 3) although he hasn't been with their Mum since hi...

A.   11 May 2014: Hello, I think this is a good situation for you. From my experience, I dated a mum with 3 children and got serious. I was really nervous to meet her 2 boys and daughter and felt quite out of my depth with thoughts and fears. However, I tried to... (read in full...)

I accidentally sent my step-mom a sex message intended for my girlfriend!

Q.   Okay. . .I know some of you will be tempted to think this a prank message and OH BOY I REALLY wish it was at the moment. My girlfriend and I got into "the mood" and decided to send sex messages and pics to each other. We were really getting i...

A.   10 May 2014: Hello, I would let this go now and just let the situation pass on. In the future, when it is not 'current' things will just carry on as normal. As a funny story, to maybe help you feel better...I had to help my step=daughter(she's 29)and had to g... (read in full...)

How important is the look of "it"?

Q.   Help .... I'm about to enter into a physical relationship with a new man after a long marriage and I need to know . How important is the appearance of a woman's vagina to a man Most of the ones I've seen in porn look very similar and much tidier t...

A.   10 May 2014: Hi, I really do not think this will be a problem for you at all. As a man, I truly have never looked with thoughts in my mind. I just looked as I normally would do when the time came without any prior ideas. In all all fairness, I was rather occup... (read in full...)

His ex is still in the way!

Q.   Hello, i´ve been dating my BF for almost three years. And his ex is still in the way. I mean, they stayed friends after the break up, but my bf lives in another city than her, so they chat on fb from time to time..I don´t live with my bf yet, he ...

A.   9 May 2014: Hello, I am sympathetic with you. I can understand your situation and I also know that this can be a real problem for you. The 'ex' is 'in your face' and although nobody has done anything towards you, the fact that she is his 'ex' is the reason fo... (read in full...)

What might be her intentions?

Q.   Hey there, I need to make decision and might need some other pionts of view about it. Long story short. My ex Gf broke up with me, for some reasons, and she behaved pretty mean and hurtful at the end. So I decided for me to go NC and stuc...

A.   8 May 2014: Hi, I think she just wants her ego stroked that she can still manipulate her. A similar thing happened to me. I went no contact for 6 months. I received a series of one line texts, emails, a few telephone calls where the line went dead. I ignored ... (read in full...)

I've been waiting for him to get the divorce and get a mortgage with me, and now that he says he will, I'm not as excited as I thought I would be!

Q.   You may know from previous posts I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We have just had a weeks break as I could not cope anymore with only seeing him once a week. I have taken up Ho vies and made new friends but at the end of he day I still ...

A.   8 May 2014: Hi, I can understand that being in your situation makes you very vulnerable. Seeing him once a week is frustrating for you and the mind games are so hard. You have to be strong and make a strong decision which will empower you. You tell him t... (read in full...)

He said I shouldn't have "put all my eggs in one basket" after I told him what I thought about him! What should I do now?

Q.   Hi everyone I split up with my bf of four years six months ago. I'm 25. The split was amicable as we both wanted different things. For two months I've been chatting to a guy online. We chat most days and I really like him. We've spoke on ...

A.   8 May 2014: Hello, This has already been answered by previous posts. I am just adding my thoughts... It was all going well until you mentioned, 'no one night stand and taking things slowly.' This was when he pulled away. Obviously, he saved face by going a... (read in full...)

In an LDR for 3 years, we rarely see each other, and have had sex 3 times! She says she loves me but I'm not sure she wants to be with me. What should I do?

Q.   Hello.I am a 31 year old guy and I have been in a relationship with a younger woman for the past 3 years.We live around 100 miles from one another but have kept things going but I rarely ever see her and in those 3 years she has come up to see me ...

A.   7 May 2014: Hi, I'm sorry to read about your situation. I'll tell you straight...you do not have a relationship. This is a waste of time. You are not together with this girl and you seem to be doing all the worrying and mind games. It is time to get out. ... (read in full...)

How's a nice way to ask her ex in laws to get to know me so they can see I'm not a monster and how does everyone else deal with the ex dad?

Q.   Hi, I'm in a relationship with a girl that is going through a divorce and a mother of two kids. Her ex is an ass and that's being nice to the guy, he cheated on her,was emotionally and verbally abusive to her and really broke her down. She is trying ...

A.   6 May 2014: Hi, As already said, this is a long term situation and things will settle in the long term. At the moment, the divorce is going through, it's a new situation for everybody, the dad is angry, the grand parents are angry. No body wants to 'give' beca... (read in full...)

I feel like it's tarnished the beginning of our relationship and don't know if I can get past that.

Q.   I started seeing a guy 5 months ago. At the beginning we weren't serious and he took some time out when he had a few problems with his daughter. Things are now good between us but the trouble is I have suspicions he slept with 1, maybe 2 people when ...

A.   6 May 2014: Hi, I can understand that this is affecting you. I do not think it will go away by just carrying on. Therefore, you will have to address the situation with him. Beforehand, make sure you know what you would do before you hear his answers. Fo... (read in full...)

My fiancee didn't tell me that he's frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is involved!

Q.   I need help. My fiancee didn't tell me that he is frequenting these so called massage places where prostitution is going on. I am devastated. He says that he went there for relaxation but i can't see how going to prostitutes is a form of relaxation. ...

A.   4 May 2014: Hi, If he did this while in a relationship with you, then I am amazed. This is not good. There are professional massages...that is a fully trained masseuse or there are 'massages' that can include relief endings for the client. For a guy in a rel... (read in full...)

I want more from this relationship!

Q.   Hi I have been seeing my man for a year now we tell each other we love every day Unfortunately due to our work commitments we only see each other every other weekend and sometimes once in the week My problem is he lives with his 2 daughters who ...

A.   3 May 2014: Hello, I do sympathize. It seems he has you as his secret at the moment. Also, he doesn't look as if he is going to change things any time soon. I dated a lady in her 40's (47) and after around a month, I had been invited to meet her daughter and ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me and has no reason for doing so

Q.   I am so devastated, I am not sure what to think or what happened. I have been with my boyfriend for two years, we are the same age, we both have children (no children together) but out of the blue.... he broke up with me. I asked for a reason he had ...

A.   3 May 2014: Hello, Yes, as previously said. Your man has gone into his 'cave.' Leave him, wait, wait. I believe he will be in touch. Do not contact in any shape or form. Best wishes. ... (read in full...)

My sister is having an affair and I've about had it

Q.   I am 35 years old and I have three older sisters. The middle one is 45 years old and twice-divorced. She has been having an affair with a married man from her work for almost three years now. He says he has to stay with his wife for the kids but...

A.   2 May 2014: Hello, First of all, help your mom and make sure she is the priority and that she gets the transport and respect and care from you. As for your sister, I am afraid she is part of an affair and this puts her in a 'place' in life. Itcan change her... (read in full...)

Where am I going wrong?

Q.   Can someone tell me whats wrong with men today? I was dating a guy i met recently. He was a shy or quiet person anyway and when i text him i would get very dry responses and I ask him had he plans for the weekend. It seems I have offended him and...

A.   2 May 2014: Hi, Stop dating for a while. I believe you are only going through all this because the man you really want is not available. It sucks, it hurts...been there before with a girl myself. I would not react by trying to find someone so quickly ... (read in full...)

Maybe its "no more Mr. Nice Guy " time!

Q.   Hello, I met a women on a dating site, talk for two weeks, then decided to meet, she wanted to meet at a bar, three hours later it was great,we laugh ,alot hug kissed talk about everything, decided to go out on sunday, the next day she tex me an ...

A.   2 May 2014: Hello Sir, This is so similar to a situation I experienced I feel the need to reply. First of all...Don't change. Be nice, don't change yourself for anybody. I began online dating and messaged and texted and phoned a lady for 4 weeks. We met... (read in full...)

I had a threesome before I got married. Do I tell my husband?

Q.   I was involved in a once only threesome with my ex bf and another girl. Deeply regretted. Should I tell the man I married later? He has had premarital sex but not of this kind....

A.   2 May 2014: Hi, No. I believe the best way is simply not mention it. For some men, myself included, a small piece of information like this can haunt them for years and years. Some people suffer, (not their fault) with retrograde jealousy and this can be a tri... (read in full...)

I'm too afraid to ask him for help financially!

Q.   I'm 23years plus i'm dating a guy of 29years plus getting to three years now, l love him so much but despite my love for him i'm shy to ask him when i need help financially because of my two reasons my first reason is that i'm thinking its too ...

A.   2 May 2014: Hi, You should be speaking to him about your financial worries. Three years should be comfortable enough to share your worries. Don't just ask for a loan, you need to let him know what is going on. You must know him well enough to be able to share... (read in full...)

Woman I'm sleeping with is becoming weird and clingy, how do I handle it?

Q.   Okay, So I have a little dilemma. I've been sleeping with this woman I met. She's cool and everything and when we hang out we have a nice time, but she's becoming extraordinarily clingy. She texts things like "Do you miss me? What do you miss...

A.   29 April 2014: Hi, You met, she are having sex and she likes you. She likes you a lot and may want you long term as a partner and perhaps more. This I think is the serious part of the 'relationship.' Do you want more? Do you want NO strings? Does she want mor... (read in full...)

Over 30 and single - what did I do wrong?

Q.   Every girl dreams of the happy family and nice man that they will one day marry. We are taught from an early age that the Princess always ends up with the Handsome Prince. The scatty girl in the Rom-Com always finds her true love. Your best friends ...

A.   29 April 2014: Hello, I am just adding to the already helpful advice. You did and are doing nothing wrong. You see, some people simply don't meet the right person. Time, moment, chance, sometimes is denied us. It just doesn't happen for some people. For me, I ne... (read in full...)

Did I push my ex boyfriend away? Should I write to him to explain again?

Q.   I have just realised, that I think I pushed my boyfriend away. I have been mad at him for leaving for the past 6 months but it's just occurred to me that I was the one that pushed him. We were together for 4 years we really loved each other (firs...

A.   29 April 2014: Hello, Firstly, I am sorry you are feeling lousy because of this. Wise Guy has given you some great advice. Sadly, for you, he has said what occurred to me as well. When I was reading your situation, I was thinking that your boyfriend us... (read in full...)

I haven't told my boyfriend I'm pregnant yet, and now I'm back to checking his phone for texts! I need your help!

Q.   Is it ever possible to truly move on from finding out your other half has cheated on you? The reason I ask is because for the past ten months, since getting back with my boyfriend since finding out he had cheated on with a mutual friend, I have tho...

A.   29 April 2014: Hello, I deeply sympathize with your situation. I believe you were working towards 'coping' with what had gone on in a day by day, week by week manner. However, your pregnancy now makes your relationship 'long term'. In other words, it is now... (read in full...)

Have you ever found hard physical evidence of an affair?

Q.   My husband had to go to a branch office to concur with people, because the branch office was closing down. It was a day trip. When he got home from work at his normal time he changed into a t-shirt, I noticed 3 long scratches on his left bicep. ...

A.   25 April 2014: Hi, I think for the moment, it would be best for you to not mention this to him any more and just carry on as normal. However, you are now on alert, but, do not let him know you are on alert. Further, I know this may sound odd, but could he have ... (read in full...)

What next? I don't want her to lose interest!

Q.   So I signed up for eHarmony recently. It's been a long time since I've really dated anyone, and I've had absolutely zero luck finding anyone in the real world. Most of my "matches" are either girls way too far away or a bit too old for me (into...

A.   21 April 2014: Hi, I think you are ok to exchange numbers to talk. Don't fear asking, if she says no, then there are lots of others on the site. There are, I'm not just saying. In your next email, say, 'i'm enjoying our messages, how about if we have a brief tele... (read in full...)

Late life dilemma.

Q.   I have a dilemma I hope somebody can help me with. My partner and are both 61. We've been together 4yrs and are now engaged. The problem is that we live 35 miles apart and I am the one who does all the travelling. This is due to the fact that my ...

A.   11 April 2014: Hi, I would keep things as they are for the moment. In all fairness, I don't think 35 miles is a lot to do every weekend. As things stand, you get the best of both worlds. Don't sell your house for the moment. Don't move in with him. See how thin... (read in full...)

Did my B/f enjoy the anal play?

Q.   Hi everybody. Keep it simple. I've been with my boyfriend just over four years. We've always had a good sex life but never really experimented with anal play. This was due to a previous experience I had when I lost my virginity with a different...

A.   9 April 2014: Hi, I think you are best to leave it for a while. See if things move on to it on another time in the future. I'm not keen on it myself, if I'm honest. (just me!) Perhaps a tickle may be a good start in the future but not any penetration. That cou... (read in full...)

Do people tend to stick with life plans they made early on, or do other priorities start to take over?

Q.   This is a very brief question I have, but how many of you stuck to life plans that you made in your teens? I stuck to the same job I wanted in my early teens and went to the university that I wanted to go to in my teens, but I know it's highly u...

A.   9 April 2014: Hi, Life plans are good for careers, work, lifestyle. It's good to have an idea where you are going and want to be. However, don't let them 'rule' your life or become 'truths' that you have to do and carry on. Stuff happens in life, deaths... (read in full...)

Should I tell a girl I like her even though she has a boyfriend now?

Q.   I have liked this girl for over a year almost 2. I am 25 she's in her 30's. We have got along well, she has always given me those "looks" she always laughs when she's talking to me and can be touchy. Thing is I wasn't sure as she's kinda flirty with ...

A.   9 April 2014: Hi, No, she has a boyfriend and it is not for you to get involved. Let it go now and be free from this. ... (read in full...)

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