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My sister is aggressive and opinionated. Would it be OK if I skipped Christmas this year and stayed home to avoid my sister?

Q.   I'm having a dilemma over Christmas Day and I could do with some advice. I have a small family consisting of my sister, mother and grandmother. i didn't get on particularly well with my sister- we only see each other three times a year at family o...

A.   28 October 2016: I'd personally go, wait till your darling sister starts then serve her one back just for the entertainment factor, let all hell break loose, cop the blame for ruining Christmas then storm out after throwing a witty 'I didn't want to be here anyway' ... (read in full...)

Trust ring--what should I have engraved on it?

Q.   I lied to my boyfriend, and I made many mistakes. I'm getting him a promise ring and I want it to make up for all of that, to show him he can trust me and I won't ever make the same mistakes again. What should be engraved on the ring? ...

A.   28 October 2016: If you have to ask, perhaps your not putting in enough effort to make up for all of your mistakes, whatever you have engraved should be personal and from the heart! NOT from someone else on a website!!!... (read in full...)

Is my brother in law attracted to me?

Q.   I've known "BIL" (long term bfs brother) through a friend for a long time but we've never got to properly know each other as I'm quite shy but I have became more outgoing through the years. I also think this is to do with his wife as she is very ...

A.   28 October 2016: I've had some experience with this, at a family function of my then Fiancé's family, we entered and greeted the various family members with the usual hugs and cheek kisses, however Fiancé's recently divorced half brother planted the softest most ... (read in full...)

How do you get over someone who is sexually gratifying and stunning?

Q.   I was dating a guy but know now he's not right for me. I ended it with him. He's dating other women, not exclusive though. I liked him and he was the first guy I had sex multiple times with. However, I just know deep down he's not for me because ...

A.   28 October 2016: There isn't a way of getting over someone your in love with! It sounds as though you are more involved in this relationship than you are admitting to, anyone who's ever been in love finds their partner sexually gratifying and stunning and a lot ... (read in full...)

Husband going to be alone for a week at training. He told me I couldn't go but I don't trust him. What can I do?

Q.   Hello Everyone, I have wrote here before and expressed that I have trust issues with my husband. He has done things in the past to earn my distrust. Anyway he is going out of town for a week for training for work. He at first told me that I could ...

A.   28 October 2016: I think we are all skirting around the real issue here, you don't believe that he will be faithful to you! That's a huge deal, wether or not he's left alone in a room is simply semantics, if he's a cheater then he will find the opportunity sooner or ... (read in full...)

How should I deal with my wife's kinky up and down thoughts? ?

Q.   Hello everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read this and offer advice if able. My question is how do I deal with my wife's constant changing thoughts on sex and her naughty behavior. For some backstory, we're both mid 30's, been mar...

A.   28 October 2016: You might want to try being honest with her both when she's drunk and when she's sober, tell her repeatedly how her Jekel and Hyde behaviour makes you feel, tell her how confused and upset you are about the whole situation and consider halting ALL ... (read in full...)

Was this a marriage proposal?

Q.   I'm not sure if I got a marriage proposal last night or not. I know that sounds strange, let me explain. It was a spur of the moment kinda thing, no ring or anything. We were walking around our local park which is decorated in christmas lights i...

A.   25 October 2016: I would have said "I'd marry you now, in an instant" was that not the response he was hoping for, was that not what you meant ?... (read in full...)

He has gone cold on me and appears to be upset with me. Any helpful advice?

Q.   Dear Aunts There was a guy pursuing me and flirting with me for weeks. I did not notice the attraction initially. I then returned the flirting. We have exchanged numbers and we have spoken a little. He has now gone cold on me. He still lo...

A.   25 October 2016: You might have to brace yourself for the fact that you might never know, but consider this, did someone else say something to him to scare him away? I once worked in an office where the floor supervisor clearly liked the new secretary, he was ... (read in full...)

My dad seems suspicious of me and I'm afraid he'll have my aunt restrict me!

Q.   Hi everyone I really need some advise.. I recently moved to a different country to study and even though I'm living my aunt, my dad keeps on calling me everyday and honestly, it's a very intensive course and sometimes I don't pick due to the fact ...

A.   25 October 2016: Tell your father his constant upsetting you is interfering with your ability to study, that you have a lot to try and cope with at the moment, a new country, an intense course, trying to adapt and sometimes feeling homesick, tell him that the added ... (read in full...)

Dating but can't hang out. We text and he gives me butterflies. Why is this happening?

Q.   I have been dating this guy who ive know most of my life for about 3 months and were both 15.. The relationship is going good but we never can hang out because im busy and my parents wouldnt allow me. weve met a couple of times while at a mutuals ...

A.   25 October 2016: Why do people patronise us when we are young, I was physically ready for a relationship when I was only fourteen and thankfully managed to get help in reigning in my hormones until I was emotionally ready at the age of eighteen, your not a child and ... (read in full...)

My guy friend held my hand what does it mean?

Q.   Dear Cupid, Me and and one of my guy friends were on a group trip last night and he started to hold my hand. What does this mean? What do I say? What do I do?...

A.   24 October 2016: I would simply try to return the gesture next time I had the opportunity, but perhaps a little more privately if possible! That way if he does want to talk about it he'll be able to discreetly.... (read in full...)

These are the facts. Is it the end?

Q.   HELP! My decision to end a relationship depends largely on your advice. What would you do if you found out your boyfriend went to a medical appointment in the city and then visited a hotel before going home? And he did not tell you he was a...

A.   24 October 2016: Lying is a deal breaker for me personally, no matter the reason, no trust no relationship, but the fact that you think it's ok to see a married man then obsess about the idea he might see a third woman strikes me as hypocritical!!!... (read in full...)

I want to date him but I'm almost 18 and he's 9 years older

Q.   Hi I'm a 17 year old female (18 in November) from the UK. I have a male "friend" who I want to date but he's 9 years and five months older than me, he knows I like him and feels the same way. He feels guilty about his feelings for me and is ...

A.   24 October 2016: There are nine years between my husband and I so I don't see any issues here, it's all down to how mature you each are, my mum told me at sixteen (the legal age where I'm from) that she'd have been happy for me to have gotten engaged had I wished ... (read in full...)

We are room mates that want to date but her ex is our room mate too!

Q.   Hello, just looking for some advice at to what to do as I'm currently in an awkward situation... I'm a university student in my final year and currently living with a girl who I really like. We feel the same and have spoken about it before, the only ...

A.   24 October 2016: Unfortunately Jeola this one is simple, you have to choose, you can't have your cake and eat it on this one, which relationship is more important to you, your friendship or a potential romantic connection, either way I'd suggest finding alternative ... (read in full...)

How many times can I keep bringing this to his attention before he gets that he's hurting me?

Q.   I've been going out with my b/f for 3 years. He makes plans to do things with me then changes the plans if something else comes up. He'll say I don't do it on purpose but I feel like i'm only good enough if something else doesn't come up. When I ...

A.   24 October 2016: Honey pie has very good advice on this situation but can I suggest going one stage further, Forget him altogether! This will seem very harsh I'm sure but I personally wasted 11 years of my life with a man Exactly like this, they are narcissistic and ... (read in full...)

Sex has diminished should I worry?

Q.   Me and my girlfriend moved in together a month ago having been together for 5 years (we lived apart due to work as I lived in another part of the country for 2 years hence the late move in and she was at uni). When we have sex it is great but I'm ...

A.   24 October 2016: Give her a break, literally, don't seek any for at least a month, there's nothing worse than being pestered for something when you haven't got the energy, wether it's sex, housework or just simply travelling to visit family. I'd also suggest upping ... (read in full...)

Crushing on my best friend for 11 years!

Q.   So I've had a strong connection with a friend ever since we met in the first year of high school,(11 years old) let's call him Matt. Unfortunately my older brother died shortly after starting high school, and when I returned after a 3 week break I ...

A.   24 October 2016: I personally couldn't have any sort of crush on an individual who likes to go out at weekends and "get with other girls", or someone who judges others on their body shape, but they don't say love is blind for no reason, that aside I wonder if your ... (read in full...)

How can I start a conversation with someone who hasn't directly interacted with me?

Q.   I was at the pub last week and I saw this bar made who was gorgeous but I had no direct contact with her so it didnt seem natural to talk to her. She was collecting plates and empty beer mugs. What would be a good way to talk or strike up a ...

A.   23 October 2016: Be honest about your attraction, she will be extremely flattered whatever the outcome you will have helped to brighten her day, go to the bar when you know she will be on and it'll be quiet, stand at the bar and wait for her to serve you, if someone ... (read in full...)

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