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... Send *ULU'S Advice a private message | | | *ULU'S Advice's profile:I have quite a few ife experiences.I have dealt with cancer,pregnancy,death, miscarriage,divorce,and being left by my husband of sixteen years for one of my so called"friends".I have also dealt with other personal issues which I can't talk about here.I find that getting on with life and trying to be positive (after a little wallowing of course)is the best policy.It certainly helps when you have children and grandchildren to carry on for,(yes I have also been on the brink).I live in Taunton in the beautiful county of Somerset.I was born and brought up here but moved away when I was sixteen.I've been back on and off but moved back permanently last Aug (06).I really dispise injustice of any sort and will always back the underdog.I think I'm a really nice,easy going type of person.I'll always do my best to help someone out but I won't be taken for a mug.Well thats about it for now so take care and if I can help with any of your problems just let me know.
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I've never been with another woman before. Nervous about satisfying her, sexually.
Q. i,m a female that has never been with a female before and now i have a girlfriend .the time for sex is so so very close and i have no idea how to satisfy her and realy don't wish to dissapoint her help me please i'm very afraid....
A. 24 January 2008: Ask her what she likes and don't be afraid to ask her to show you.This is all part of what makes a new relationship special. xx... (read in full...)
Why do so few women masturbate?
Q. OK, so I know the question I'm going to ask doesn't apply to all women but... Why do so few women masturbate? I was doing an interveiw on facebook, and with each new question it shows you the answer given by the last 10 participants. The que...
A. 11 January 2008: I think a lot of women are either very prudeish or they tell fibs xx... (read in full...)
Have been trying to lose weight but my partner is unsupportive!
Q. I have been desperately trying to lose weight since the birth of my son 5 years ago, when I gained a hefty 30 kgs. I have lost 12, but have struggled to lose anything else. Recent blood tests revealed that I have Insulin Resistance and a sluggish ...
A. 11 January 2008: I have struggled with my weight for the last 17 years.Join a weight watchers club and you'll have plenty of support.I know it would be nice to have your husbands support but it doesn't sound like your going to get it.Prove to him and more ... (read in full...)
He jokingly said I am not active whilst in the missionary position, when HE is in charge. Any suggestions - to surprise him?
Q. Usually, me and my partner have sex in the missionary position. I'm not sure I like this as much as I did to begin with though, for several reasons. 1) It's hard to change into other positions, as he is in charge. 2) He jokes that I don't do much ...
A. 11 January 2008: Just turn the tables my love.You sit on top of him and then your in control.That should surprise him.Also,one of my favourites is doggy style.If your not very experienced,positions wise,you can always use the internet,or the library.Just learn to ... (read in full...)
My husband is a lovely man but we have become... companions. Facing a new start at this age is frightening, what alternatives do I have, you think?
Q. Am in the middle of a divorce have been married for thirty years to a lovely man. However we have been just friends best mates now for apprx 5 years. I cant imagine what life will be like without him but also know if we dont end this now I will ...
A. 11 January 2008: I think this happens to a lot of married couples nowadays.If you've tried everything to revive it then perhaps it's best to part while you are on friendly terms.It sounds as though he has settled and your now restless.You've done the ... (read in full...)
Why Does My Mum Blame Me For Losing The Person She Loved?
Q. why does my mum blame me for the person she loved going to prision? i know what he did was wrong, and i know my mum loved him, and i know she'd choose her childen over him, but why does she still blame me for losing the person she ever loved? ...
A. 24 December 2007: If you told the truth and thats why he went to prison then obviously what he did was wrong.You should try telling your mum how you feel.She may not even realise she's making you feel this way.If you've already told her and it's not any better,then ... (read in full...)
How can I make it tighter without stressing??
Q. I have a problem. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 and a half months now. Our sex life was awesome in the begining, but lately not so much. We have sex almost everyday, but I feel like i'm getting loose down there and I don't think he...
A. 24 December 2007: The best exercise for tightening the muscles down there is to practice pulling the vaginal muscles up.You do this by stopping yourself from peeing,just hold and count to ten,relax and do it again.You can do this any time cos no one can tell.xx... (read in full...)
Happy Xmas from DearCupid
Q. Happy Xmas everyone :-) The aunts who share their wisdom, the people who share their questions and the team of moderators who keep everything flowing onto the site! Plus the 350,000 people who visit each month Have a great Xmas! Feel free t...
A. 24 December 2007: Merry Christmas to everyone out there.I know this can be a difficult time for a lot of people,just remember,you are not alone.Time heals and bridges are always being built.Stay positive for the future and make 2008 your year. xx... (read in full...)
I had brief intercourse with a stripper during a lap dance... should I tell my wife?
Q. I’m felling real guilty about what happened to me at a strip bar. I’m a happily married man, ten years married with two kids. I go to strip bars, my wife lets me and its never been an issue. She goes out with her friends too, and admittedly been ...
A. 21 December 2007: First of all,yes you could have pushed her off you,got up,pulled up your trousers and left.Second,if you had been raped,you definately would have known about it.I think this time you've over stepped the mark.It's entirely up to you whether you tell ... (read in full...)
Help! I'm 14 and my girlfriend is pregnant!
Q. Hi ,i am 14 years old and i am concerned that my girlfriendis pregnant. she was a virgin as i had sex before. We dident use protection and now she is 3 months pregnant. Web dont know how to tell our parents as they will both go mad with us. She has ...
A. 21 December 2007: You must tell some one my love.Preferably your parents.If this realy isn't possible is their some one you can confide in who could be a go between.Some one who could tell your parents for you while your not there and then your parents can take it ... (read in full...)
I've been cautioned for assault and am terrified!
Q. I have been cautioned for assault!!!!and I am terrified!! I need to add some background. I am 52 and my fiancee of 3 years is 46( we have been together for 3.5 years). WE have had problems before that I have sought advice on here about before. ...
A. 21 December 2007: I think you really should get proffesional help my love,the drink isn't just her problem,it's every one thats around her as well.It's good that the police believed your version of events as I'm sure your daughter did.If she admits to having a ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and a virgin, and feeling very pressured by my friends
Q. i am 14 and there are not many virgins in my year i am a virgin and i feel presured into having sex all my freinds have either been fingerd or wanked of someone i havent. am i a freak? or are "they too youg too soon" is it me or everyone else? a boy ...
A. 20 December 2007: Do not take any notice of what every one else is saying.You are your own person and if your not ready to have sex then don't.So many young people these days think it's a race to lose their virginity as soon as possible.Think how special it would be ... (read in full...)
I regret my revenge kisses with other guys, that my boyfriend knows nothing about!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for a year now and in the first few months i used to go out and get drunk with mates. i then found out my boyfriend kissed a girl so i fort id get revenge and i kissed 3 guys which he never found out about. a year has ...
A. 20 December 2007: If this is affecting your relationship then perhaps you ought to come clean and tell him.I don't think it is such a serious thing,you had only been going out a month and as you say he kissed another girl.I think you should put it in the past and get ... (read in full...)
The guy I fancy, fancies my friend, but she doesn't fancy him back. What do I do?
Q. I have really fancied this guy for ages and i thot he liked me too so i asked him out he sed no but still wanted to be friends.We became really good friends and he sed he had somthing he wanted to tell me.He told me he fancied Lauren my best mate ...
A. 20 December 2007: If this guy has been honest with you then I'm sorry my love but you'll just have to accept your only going to be friends.Is your friend saying she wouldn't go out with guy because she knows you like him?I think you both need to sit down and have an ... (read in full...)
Please help, pregnancy scare...!
Q. The first of December was the day I was ovulating. Im not on BC and I had unprotected sex that day(12/01/07). I always get my period the 16th of everymonth...I haven't gotten it yet making it 4 almost 5 days late. Today (12/19/07) I took a first ...
A. 20 December 2007: Pregnancy tests are pretty acurate these days.Most can tell if your pregnant before your even late.I think your worring about it is not helping the situation as anxiety can make you late.You don't say why you don't use BC but if you don't want ... (read in full...)
I'm worried he is too big for me if we have sex. What can I do about a potential incompatibility relative to dimensions?
Q. I been with my boyfriend for a year now. We have never had sex yet because we were taking this relationship slow. Now we are in love and we are ready to express that love to each other. Iam worried about one thing. Iam afraid he will not be able to ...
A. 16 December 2007: He certainly is blessed,and so are you to have him.If your anxious about making love then it will hurt because you'll be too tense.Make sure you are both ready,plenty of foreplay and baby oil or some other kind of lubricant.If you are both relaxed ... (read in full...)
I've got piles but he wants anal sex!
Q. i constently have piles and nthing will get rid of it and mi boyfriend is reall discusted by it he keeps askin for anal sex but it would really hurt and every time he sticks his penis up my virgina it reall hurts and stings wot should i do he will ...
A. 16 December 2007: If I were you I'd get to the doctors,there is cream to help this problem.You should read up on the dangers of having anal sex,which at your age shouldn't be happening.If he dumps you because of them,then all I can say is your much better off without ... (read in full...)
How is the right way to push out the squirt??
Q. I have been trying to squirt during sex and oral stimulation I just cant figure out how to push out the fluid. I get to the point of feeling the sensation to 'pee' then i push but get nothing. Some people say push like you're going to pee and ...
A. 15 December 2007: Well my love,you have me stumped.I'm 47 with a very healthy sex life and I don't think I've ever "SQUIRTED",if I have then I haven't known about it.Why is this important,is it supposed to add to your orgasm or something.Perhaps I'm just out of touch ... (read in full...)
My wrists have been getting worse lately and it's affected my writing and fencing ability, is it family arthritis and how do I help myself?
Q. I have had terrible problems with my joints. They crack and crick really easily, all I have to do it move them a tiny bit and I have days when I cant even move my neck because it's so stiff. Occasionally I will have around a week where my neck is ...
A. 15 December 2007: The first thing you have to do my love is see the doctor.You sound quite nhealthy in general but at 15 you shouldn't be having achey joints like that. have you spoken to your parents about a family history of this sort of thing.There are supplements ... (read in full...)
My long term boyfriend's mother can't accept me and won't clarify why. Any ideas on what I can do?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years,on and off. We got back together on a serious basis in June. I am very frustrated cos his mum doesn;'t want to accept me.I am not allowed to go to his house. I feel humiliated by it, as I have never met the ...
A. 15 December 2007: I haven't been in a situation exactly the same as yours but my first mother in law wouldn't have anything said wrong about her little boy(he was 26).It seems to me to be a typical case of her not wanting to lose her son.Where he has relied on her to ... (read in full...)
Should I start sitting like a man with legs wide even though it makes me embarrassed?
Q. i am a 13 year old boy. i have recently noticed other boys in my classess sitting like men. - legs wide open - and am wondering weather i should start, but it embarrassess me whenever i do. i also fell dead self-conciouss when i dont. also when...
A. 15 December 2007: You should sit which ever way your comfortable my love.You don't have to follow anyone's lead.They say that when you sit with your legs wide open your available,if you know what I mean.As for holding back your erection,I shouldn't worry too ... (read in full...)
I just want to be a better girlfriend....any ideas?
Q. I need help. I am 18. I have trust issues i think. My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and we love each other so much and all the rest, we are with each other all the time. Around about the 1 year mark, i just changed. After we...
A. 8 December 2007: The old green eyed monster is so ugly.You sound as though you have very low self esteem.I know you won't want to hear this but you do need some outside interests.You seem completely consumed with your boyfriend to the point that there is nothing ... (read in full...)
How can I get other people to listern to my worries??
Q. I really have feeling im comunicating with my comp.or books..Its not that im not trying to do it with people,i have much aquantiances and friends but every time I want to express my feelings thoughts or whatever,im put in the position of listening ...
A. 8 December 2007: Do you have any close friends or just a lot of aquaintances.You could try joining a group of some sort or maybe even starting a group yourself.It does seem sometimes as though no one hears you but I suppose people are so tied up in their own ... (read in full...)
To boys: are you afraid of being turned down by a very pretty girl, therefore prefer someone "in your league" ?
Q. Guys please help me. Is it true that some guys are scared of being knocked down by a very pretty girl and that you go for someone who is slightly more in your 'league' ?? I have friends who are told they are pretty the whole time and are not s...
A. 8 December 2007: Boys and men are a very strange breed.They say women are complicated but I think we are easy to understand.I think some boys are afraid of very pretty girls,not just in case they get knocked back but also because of their mates,it's easier to just ... (read in full...)
How often should I change my pad?
Q. I just got my first period 3 days ago i was wondering how often should i change my pad?...
A. 8 December 2007: The best thing to do is go to the bathroom regularly and just keep checking.You'll sometimes be able to "Feel" when you need to change.It's a good idea to keep some baby wipes in your bag as well,just for freshness and peace of mind.Hope this has ... (read in full...)
I found sexually explicit messages on my young brother's phone. Do I tell my parents, or talk to him firstly?
Q. I recently found some sexually explicit messages on my younger brothers phone not only from him by a number of girls some even younger than him. I am really worried about his emotional and physical state as he has been really agressive lately. Is ...
A. 8 December 2007: Firstly,should you be looking at your brothers messages.You don't say how old he is.If you can talk to him then you should,but be prepared for a bad reaction.He's going to know you looked at his txts.... (read in full...)
What do I do if he left without explanations, even if he promised he would not?...
Q. what should i do if someone whom i love dearly, just left me with out even saying goodbye, i just do not know where he is, no calls, no messages, nothing. i was left all alone and seems he doesnt care anymore and it hurts me that much. i love him so ...
A. 4 December 2007: Dear anonymous,I feel for you so deeply.Three years ago my husand of sixteen years did the same to me,only he left with my friend. He is in the air force and at the time was in cyprus and she was with him.You must be beside yourself at the moment a... (read in full...)
Should I go on and hope she changes her mind or is she just playing me??
Q. Hey there, I'm pretty new to this type of thing, but I really need some feedback on a situation I am in from some people not involved. There is a girl that I work with, and we've been working together for about half a year now, that I've been get...
A. 4 December 2007: Dear darkeyeddrgn,
I think at the moment you should take on board that you are only going to be friends.This lady has been honest with you so far and honesty (while not always being the best policy)is a good basis to start a relationship.Have you ... (read in full...)
He said he would wait for me but the way he is acting I am not sure he will.
Q. Just to recap: I was in a 3year relationship with a man I loved dearly and with all my heart. However, we fought a lot and he never understood the things I needed and I was always wrong which frustrated me a lot and was always unhappy. He is a gre...
A. 4 December 2007: Dear Alicia,you sound so confused my love.The best advice I could give you is to first of all sort out in your own mind exactly what YOU want from a relationship.Until you know that you won't find the one man who is right for you.Guy three worries ... (read in full...)
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