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... Send *ucky786 a private message | | | *ucky786's profile:I live on my own in West Yorkshire in my lovely house. I work in the legal sector and love spending time in Starbucks with my friends.
I am currently single and enjoy my freedom and independence. I love reading walking and watching films. My job is quite stressful so I enjoy activities that serve as an outlet for relieving all that stress.
I've been married, divorced, suffered child abuse and self-harm but I survived all of that! I think that's what makes me the person I am. I've learnt many harsh lessons in life and the most important one is that life is too short to hate those that have wronged us. Instead I thank god each day for his blessings.
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How do you truly know if this is the person you should spend the rest of your life with?
Q. Hi i was hoping to get advice on how do you know if the person you are with is The One!! i'm in a relationship, in fact living with my boyfriend for the past year and a bit. we have talked about the future, marriage, family etc i do love him and ...
A. 16 May 2012: The only person you need to worry about spending the rest of your life with is you.
This issue isn't about him it's about you and your own view of yourself and how you see yourself in this relationship. You won't ever truly know whether this man... (read in full...)
I know I'm in the wrong and I can't stop!
Q. Hi there, I think I really need help, maybe professional.. I have an irresistible urge to snoop in my boyfriend's e mail and facebook. its bigger than me and I cannot stop it, its like satisfying an urge. I never found anything suspicious on his ...
A. 8 May 2012: The problem with snoooping is if you do find something incriminating, how are you going to challenge him about it without letting on that you snooped through his e-mail?
Why are you sabotaging your relationship like this? Look if he's going to... (read in full...)
Is it bad if the person you're dating is the type of person who breaks the no-contact rule after a break up with an ex?
Q. I know that past dating behavior in a person is important to look at, and if there are extreme behaviors, that sometimes you might just want to walk away (like abuse or lying or cheating). But if a person is the type to break the no-contact rule ...
A. 7 May 2012: I think it's normal to want to keep in touch with an ex after a decent amount of time since the break-up. Chasing someone down to make the friendship work tells me that clearly he is not over his ex and maybe has hopes of re-kindling the romance.
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Why am I attached to him?
Q. Why...Why?? I cant let this one go...my current boyfriend is an alcoholic,does not keep promises(says he will stop by but doesnt,says he will call but doesnt!),spends more time with his friends than me, dissapears on me from time to time when he ...
A. 4 May 2012: You want to fix him but you can't.
You say that despite all his issues he has the potential of being the perfect partner. You hang on to this idea, hoping that he will suddenly realise one day that his behaviour is wrong, he'll stop drinking, get ... (read in full...)
She hasn't called, is this a bad sign?
Q. my girlfriend told me she will call back me, but from one month she didn't call me what can I do. I want to talk with her...
A. 4 May 2012: If you know she hasn't been physically hurt or ill for the last month then this is a bad sign.... (read in full...)
Found out g/f sleeps with men to support herself. She says she'll stop if I can support her. I can't. What to do???
Q. OK folks, I have a real dilemma. I am hoping you can help. There is this girl I know who is from a middle eastern country. She is here on a visa. Very pretty, sweet. We started seeing each other, and then got involved. I thought things were perf...
A. 4 May 2012: If she REALLY wanted to stop sleeping with rich men she would without having someone else support her instead. I can't help but wonder about her timing.
Call me cynical but I think she waited until she was sure you had feelings for her then tol... (read in full...)
The power of pride or call?
Q. Hey, i have dated for 8 months and i've got along with him pretty well. The only thing that bothered me was that i had always call him or text him if we should meet. He always answered, but never called or texted me first. I asked him about that a...
A. 2 May 2012: Definitely wait for him to call you. ... (read in full...)
I'm confused by my ex boyfriend's behaviour. What does he want?
Q. I'm confused about my ex boyfriends behaviour. We were one anothers first loves and were together little over 2 years. We broke up as he cheated on me. Anyway, 2 years down the line he is still talking to me every week, calling me, ringing me. ...
A. 1 May 2012: What do you want from him? He worms his way back in because you stay in contact with him. Sounds like you still have feelings for each other but feelings aren't enough to get back together. You're both trapped in this vicious circle where you never ... (read in full...)
He cheated, prom is only a week away and the dress is paid for. What to do?
Q. Help! I just found out my my boyfriend of 7 months has cheated on me. He kissed another girl while he was wasted at a party....and Prom is a week away. We already have tickets and i bought a $500 dress. My family is super excired to see us go. Im ...
A. 30 April 2012: I would wear the dress, get my hair done and go the prom with him. I'd smile sweetly, laugh with my friends, enjoy the music and have a good time.
At the end of the night, I'd hug him and whisper in his ear "thank you for a lovely evening.... (read in full...)
I stole money from my ex girlfriend and gambled it away. I regret my actions now, how can I win her back?
Q. Hi I just want to know if I can get my ex back, we were together for 3 and a half years and broke up in november because I stole money from her the second time, we owned a house together 2 years ago and I stole money from the account and gambled it, ...
A. 30 April 2012: I think you got off lightly. I would've reported you to the Police.
You don't deserve her. Stop being selfish and listen to what she is telling you.
They say a good gambler knows when to quit. Maybe you should cut your losses and walk away fr... (read in full...)
Does a lack of sex justify cheating in a committed relationship?
Q. Could the lack of sex in my relationship have caused my boyfriend to cheat? We were together for 2 years and we both live at home with our parents. We both come from very strict households which made it hard for us to have that "quality time" to...
A. 29 April 2012: No a lack of sex does not justify cheating in a committed relationship. If he was unhappy he could have spoken to you but instead chose the coward's way.
You haven't done anything wrong. You tried to make the most of an impossible situatio... (read in full...)
What are the top reasons for cheating?
Q. hello, thanks for ansewering me... i appreciate all advices. one question. Why girls/woman cheat? What are top reasons? Thank you....
A. 23 April 2012: Cowardice, boredom, greed, lack of communication, resentment, lack of attention, betrayal, lust take your pick.... (read in full...)
Should I appologise for these drunken antics?
Q. I was with my friend 'A' shopping in town after a catch-up over lunch. I had to go to the fancy dress shop as I needed to get a whistle for my costume for a night out at the weekend. When we came out, I saw this gorgeous guy and A admitted she knew ...
A. 19 April 2012: I think you need to stop drinking. These things that you find embarassing happened when you got drunk. Why not try meeting gorgeous guy when you're sober and away from alcohol?... (read in full...)
Would you trust this man?
Q. Would you trust a boyfriend with 2 kids from 2 different women? ...
A. 15 April 2012: Based purely on the 2 kids 2 different women criteria, I would trust him. ... (read in full...)
What topics can I bring up to talk to the women n the gym?
Q. Hey So I'm trying to make new friends! I go to this new gym near my place but there aren't many people of my age. It's an only women's gym. I met this girl who's a bit older to me. I don't know what to talk to her about? ...
A. 14 April 2012: Well, keep it general in the early days. Talk about the gym, workouts, exercise tips. If you both click then the rest is easy.... (read in full...)
Do I confront my wife about her cheating or just file for a divorce?
Q. i have discovered that my wife of six years is having an online affair,as if thats not bad enough the third party involved mentions in his emails about my children being as his own children and says they will all be together as a new family soon,i ...
A. 12 April 2012: When it comes to the emotional fall out from a divorce, there are no rules.
If I were you I would think about the practical things first like finances and living arrangements for you and your children.
I would then speak to a family lawyer ab... (read in full...)
How should I dress for this new job?
Q. So I start my new job in a few days and you think i would be nervous about the job or that and i'm meeting a new group of people who i'll be working with for the next month. But instead i'm more worried about my outfit! I want to make a great ...
A. 12 April 2012: I don't think I would care what a new member of staff was wearing as long as it was professional. I'd be more interested in that person's ability to do their job and be a team player.
On a personal level, I think you should wear what makes yo... (read in full...)
I can't believe he's flirting with other girls again!
Q. I'm pretty upet at the moment because my boyfriend used to flirt with girls on facebook telling them that they looked sexy, and that they were gorgeous e.t.c, I was was not happy with this behaviour as it made me feel awful, and like he didn't ...
A. 11 April 2012: He doesn't respect you or your feelings so I'd send him a tweet telling him you're through.... (read in full...)
I want to get to know this guy, but technically we've never met....
Q. My friend knows this guy and I find him so attractive. I've never actually spoken to him just seen him once in the distance which I think has made me attracted to him. I really want to get to know him, but without being stalkerish and creepy. ...
A. 11 April 2012: If your friend knows him why not ask her if he is single and if he is, ask her to introduce you?... (read in full...)
Do girls shave their pubes when they have sex?
Q. I'm a virgin still at the age of 19, I've had plenty of flings but I'm waiting for that right guy to lose it to, and I reckon it will be soon. One thing - do girls shave their pubes when they have sex? I know this sounds ridiculous but i...
A. 11 April 2012: Close trimmed is good with a hair-free bikini line.
Shaved looks a bit clinical, bit too eager-beaver. Plus the itching from re-growth is terrible and make sure you gently exfoiliate your bikini line in the shower, to avoid painful in-growi... (read in full...)
He broke up with me because he saw me talk to another guy! How do I show him it was just a conversation and that I only love him?
Q. hi dear uncle and aunts, im now in a lot of trouble and my rlationship is now on a verge of breakup. yesterday my bf sees me talking to another guy and broke up in anger .he is neither receiving my call nor coming online .he abused me and said you ...
A. 11 April 2012: You can't say anything to a person who won't listen. He's made up his mind that you have a "loose character" and nothing you say, or do, will change that.
So don't say anything. Stop ringing him and if he comes online, ignore him. Let him thin... (read in full...)
Virgin, left husband, now dating but not sure how men will react to my virginity
Q. This is a unique situation I am in. Married for 10 years. Never consummated my marriage with my husband. I am still a virgin. We are now separated and heading for divorce. This was not the primary reason for us splitting. There were other issues ...
A. 11 April 2012: Some men will care that you are a virgin and not want to have sex.
Some men won't care and will still want to have sex.
Some men will care that you are a virgin and will still care during sex. This is the guy you want to meet.
Good lu... (read in full...)
How can I get my parents to treat me like they do my siblings?
Q. Recently I passed my driving test, something which I am really, really proud of. I didn't tell my parents or anyone else that I was taking it, and when I passed, I told them. But, they just said to me that I should have been open and honest with ...
A. 11 April 2012: Firstly congratulations on passing your test first time. Secondly how is your relationship with your sister? Is there any way she could let you take her car or maybe get you to drive her places and go pick her up so you can gain some real ... (read in full...)
Am I getting myself into an affair?
Q. Hi.. am 20 yrs old and I am in a relationship with a girl for about 2 yrs. Everything was very normal until another girl came into my life. I met her 6 months back and we became very close. My girlfriend kws about me and my friend. 2 days back my ...
A. 10 April 2012: Oh and don't you just love the drama?! Two women to choose from, it's like being a kid in a candy shop when the shop owner isn't around. You've known your girlfriend for 2 years and this "friend" for 6 months and this friend suddenly propose... (read in full...)
Questions you have always wanted answering....
Q. So my best friend and I began writing a book last year answering questions that men around us have been asking about women. Why does my mum cry but have no idea why she's crying? Why do women get very defensive and angry sometimes even though they...
A. 10 April 2012: Why do men go quiet when women argue with them...?... (read in full...)
Always on and off......
Q. Hello, me and my partner have been together for 2 and a half years now and although weve had our ups and downs we get on brilliantly. there was a time when he hit me but i know he has always regretted this, neither of us are perfect, ive made ...
A. 10 April 2012: You want happiness for you both but it's obvious he's not happy. Why else would he be yo-yo-ing in and out of your life? Why do you let him do that? The first time he did that fine but this keeps on happening and you keep taking him backn and that ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me for anything other than sex. How do I end things gently?
Q. Hi everyone I really need help with this situation I have been sleeping with a man for over a year now I really like him he told me we were just taking things slowly but now I finally aksed him what was going on with us he said it is just sex so I ...
A. 9 April 2012: What a mess! This man is emotionally unavailable to you and the fact that you haven't spoken for 5 weeks would tell me it was over without anyone having to say it.
In all honesty if a man told me he was just with me for sex, that would be the e... (read in full...)
An old friend kissed me on the lips!
Q. I am in a commited relationship to my boyfriend of almost a year now. I would never even think or barely look at another man. I went to a party and an old friend of mine whom i hadnt seen in a few years, who was really drunk at the time i arrived, ...
A. 9 April 2012: It's not cheating. I think the fact that he was drunk means his inhibitions were lowered and he did something that he would not normally do if he was sober.
You did nothing wrong, just forget it.... (read in full...)
I ended it, and then I said I didn't want to lose him and he said you already have!
Q. On friday night i ended things with the guy i was seeing for 2months. He said he was sure he was ready for a relationship and i wasn't prepared to wait around. At the time i told him i couldn't be friends as i would be upset when he started seeing ...
A. 9 April 2012: He sounds a bit immature to me and it's obvious your friendship didn't mean much to him as he has let it go so quickly. Even if you said you didn't want to be friends in haste, a true friend would forgive.
I think he was glad when you ended it... (read in full...)
I cheated now he wont he talk to me
Q. hi , a couple of years ago i dated a young man for a few months , he was a good lover , was very nice to me but unfortunatley i was rebounding from my ex who was totally opposite to my new boyfriend (my ex was always on and off with his wife with ...
A. 9 April 2012: This is all his fault isn't it? I quote: "yes ok , i will admit i was a jerk , but he should of finished with me !" So you cheated on him and it was up to him to dump you? So he deserved to be cheated on? Why didn't you have the decency NOT ... (read in full...)
I feel I'm wasting my time telling him the good stuff!
Q. Hi,I would like some advice on how to really convince someone that they mean a great deal to you.everyday i don't see my guy i always tell him how much i miss him and his cuddles and kisses but he never believes me,he is always saying i just say ...
A. 9 April 2012: Maybe he's insecure and unfortunately when your partner is insecure, no matter how much you stay nice things, they won't believe it.
On the other hand how many times a day do you stay these things to him? If you say it 100 times a day on the days... (read in full...)
I say never again, but then I let her back in!
Q. hey guys i need some advise on my ex partner, we have been broken up since Christmas but are still in contact every day, she would come to my home, talk, kiss me tell me she loves me and have sexual intercourse with me, now this is very confusing ...
A. 9 April 2012: She's using you and you need to see that her actions have nothing to do with love or getting back together with you. She tells you she loves you just to get what she wants. Everytime you let her back into your life you are telling her that it's okay ... (read in full...)
Living with his parents, watching him watch football -- sometimes it feels like I'm wasting my time
Q. I've been with my bf for over 2 years now and I feel like nothing has changed or moved forward in our relationship we are stuck in a bungalow with his mum and dad and ass hole of a brother and it's starting to take its toll. All my bf is interest...
A. 8 April 2012: Nothing is going to change until you decide to take charge of your own future. Why wait for others to make your life for you?
If he isn't interested in your future as a couple now what's going to change that? For him things are comforta... (read in full...)
Why the abrupt change in feelings?
Q. Hi, so i have been seeing a guy for 2 months, everything had been going great! Last week we went out for dinner and he says out the blue " my head is all over the place, let me go to holland and have a long hard think, and when I return i'll see ...
A. 6 April 2012: You didn't do anything. I just think he has a lot to deal with at the moment and just needs to concentrate his energy on the move.
Give him space and let him contact you.... (read in full...)
Do other couples not sleep in the same bed so they can sleep better?
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend and I are happy together. We are each other's best friends, we share the same interests and spend the majority of our spare time doing fun things together. We spend more time together than the average couple, definite...
A. 6 April 2012: I can't sleep the night with my boyfriend. He does that wierd jerking thing and fidgets a lot. Also he radiates so much heat it is unbearable.
Once he is out of my bed, I sleep a whole lot better.
A good night's sleep is pure gold. ... (read in full...)
Did he find me attractive? Or was he just flirty and friendly?
Q. I went to the theatre to see a show a few nights ago, and i met one of the actors after the show in the bar area in the theatre. He gave me his autograph, and he bought me a drink. I couldn't believe it when he bought me the drink!. I would have ...
A. 6 April 2012: He's an actor...His job is making others believe he is someone else. I think he was just being friendly and may well have found you attractive but didn't take it any further.... (read in full...)
My husband sends my daughter to bed so that we can go around the house naked. Is this fair?
Q. I am a 31 year old woman and newlywed with a 10 year old daughter from a previous relationship. My new husband insists that a night, my daughter go to her room so we can have private time and likes me to go nude around the house, even if we are ...
A. 6 April 2012: I don't think it's unfair unless it happens EVERY night. I'd say as long as you spend regular quality time with your daughter on some nights there shouldn't be a problem.... (read in full...)
My husband is a rug and allows his son and ex to walk all over him
Q. I have been with my husband for 8 yrs When we first moved in together his son (who is 27yrs old) would treat me very badly, he was very abusive towards me and always used the excuse "Its because of the way last step mother treated me" I have bent ...
A. 6 April 2012: I don't think you should intefere in the father-son relationship. You can't make your husband tell his son anything. He has to do that himself (if he wants to).You can't pay your stepson to visit his own father. he has to do that himself (if he ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got me nothing for Valentine's or Easter. This isn't ok, is it?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for two months, so this valentines day was our first one. He got me nothing, all my friends were asking what I got as he should have put in an effort being the first one I felt so stupid telling them he got me nothing. ...
A. 6 April 2012: I think it depends on the kind of person he is. My ex and I had been together 20 days when Valentine's day came round and he bought me a sapphire ring.
My present beau is totally the opposite he will buy me a birthday gift but that's about it... (read in full...)
I backed off to give us space but he's contacting me again. What should I do?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for 2 months and he can't define the relationship at the moment as he has a lot going on in his life now. In the past week I have been getting a bit clingy and mental. It has been pushing him away. so on wednesday night I ...
A. 6 April 2012: I think he is just concerned for you and wants to keep some form of contact. I think you should continue keeping a space between you until you can get to the root of your clinginess and try to find happiness within yourself. I wouldn't push him away ... (read in full...)
How can I prove I don't do this on purpose? Looking at others. What should I do?
Q. So me and my hubby have been together for a year and 6 months. Weve been having serious issues over a staring problem Ive picked up out of nowhere. I seem to train myself to look at people without actually looking at them and I dont even realiZE...
A. 5 April 2012: Are you "staring" at other men or men and women? If it causing this much of a problem you need to try and stop. Everytime you find yourself staring to stare, stop.... (read in full...)
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