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Why is my ex boyfriend rubbing his new girlfriend in my face after 3 weeks?

Q.   Hi everyone, I will make this as short as I can, because I really need perspective and reassurement, and I appreciate your time. My ex and I broke up faily mutually 2 months ago. We were together for 2 and a half years, and we had a very passi...

A.   22 March 2014: Because he's not over you and he wants you back but not for the right reasons. His pathetic attempts to hurt you are just his way of saying that he's been hurt by the break up and wants to hurt you as much as you've hurt him. Personally if... (read in full...)

How much longer do I have to wait?

Q.   I met my b/f when I was 22 (after I finished university). He's my first boyfriend. We have been dating for 3 years now. We started having sex during our first year of dating. It's now bothering me that maybe if I didn't have sex with him, he will...

A.   22 May 2008: Well you believe 'The Rules' then sleeping with a man too quickly will mean that he won't be in any hurry to marry you. However, in the real world it makes very little diffence. Some men wouldn't have stayed the course if you hadn't slept with the... (read in full...)

I'm in love with a guy that's about to get married, I don't want to see him anymore, but it's hard to let go.

Q.   I'm in love with a guy that's about to get married in 3 months. We've been kicking it for 5 years. He tells me that he is getting married because of his 11 year old son. I don't want to see him anymore, but it's hard to let go, what should i do?...

A.   22 May 2008: Honey. Nobody gets married because of their 11 year old son. Can you imagine condemning yourself to a life of unhappiness just because you have a kid? Plenty of people co-parent, they don't need to be married to do so. Men get married because ... (read in full...)

If he loves me, shouldn't he talk to me?

Q.   I was in a relationship with a 47 year old man and everything was going well at first. I did things wrong and so did he. There was no cheating at all. I brought past relationships into ours and he did to because our communications with each other ...

A.   21 May 2008: Age has nothing to do with it. A 'real man' doesn't talk about his feelings period. Unfortunately men are not great at communicating their feelings at any age. But "men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" byg John Grey and although it ove... (read in full...)

Does he have feelings for me but is just confused?

Q.   me and my ex boyfriend broke up a couple months ago...i asked him if he wanted his things back that he gave me and he told me to keep them then he told me that maybe there is a chance of us getting back together but he has a girlfriend and is still ...

A.   21 May 2008: Oh. This very much sounds like me and my husband. He's keeping his options open. He doesn't want to sever all contact with you but also wants to see how things work out with this other woman. He is confused, and the answer to your question ... (read in full...)

He hugged me tight before he let me go..and cried.

Q.   I've been with the same guy for 9 months. Sunday, he decided to break up with me out of the blue. I was and still am in love with him. He said he loved me and cared for me but something didn't feel right. He hugged me tight before he let me go.....

A.   21 May 2008: What can you do? Get on with your life. You're too young to worry about this man. There are loads of men out there.... (read in full...)

Quick!! I want to do something fun and cute and romantic all in one, and I want it to happen tonight!!

Q.   Anyone help me quick, i want to do something fun and cute and romantic all in one, and i want it to happen tonight. Any advice please help me. Thanks so much. ...

A.   21 May 2008: Ah well. What I used to do was say goodnight to my husband, go to bed taking my mobile (cell) phone with me then I would put on my sexy nightwear, phone him whilst he was still downstairs watching TV and 'invite' him up to bed for some 'romance'. ... (read in full...)

Should I let go of all the feeling I have for her? It's very difficult and I don't think I can.

Q.   Hello im 16 years old and i am in love with this girl. i cannot stop thinking about her and she literally means everything to me. we are good close friends, and i want to go out with her. however there is one problem; she is 18! a two year gap...is...

A.   21 May 2008: Well I suppose at 16 a 2 year age gap is massive. However, I have been married to my husband for 14 years and he is 3 years younger than me. There are many relationships that work where the age gap is greater still Demi Moore and Ashton Kutch... (read in full...)

What happens to your vagina if you don't have sex for years. Does it tighten back up??

Q.   I need to know what happens to your vagina if you dont have sex for years. Does it tighten back up?? Does it hurt when you finally do do it again?...

A.   21 May 2008: No. Pelvic floor exercises will tighten it up but sex will never hurt again becasue the hymen has been broken. The vaginal wall becomes slacker the older you get, without pelvic floor exercises.... (read in full...)

Should I stop getting involved with this new guy?

Q.   at the moment i am getting divorced from my nasty husband who i have been with on and off for 20 years. im not at all used to the dating scene but i have been getting involved with a guy who is ten years younger than myself. the only thing i like ...

A.   21 May 2008: You're coming out of a difficult relationship and are therefore vulnerable (although I hate that word myself). What I mean is that your judgement with men may be clouded. As someone who has been in your position a long time ago it is so easy to ... (read in full...)

Why do I have these feelings? Will I ever have them with my boyfriend or any other man?

Q.   Hi there i'm in a bit of a mess, any advice would be greatly appreciated. Okay I will start from the beginning... There's this guy at work, and i slept with him (my boss) and yes he's married, and yes i have a boyfriend. So please, I know it was ba...

A.   21 May 2008: First of all. You are not a bad person. You have done soemething unwise but that doesn't make you a bad person. You recognise that what you are doing is worng so that means you know the differnece between right and worng and are trying to stop ... (read in full...)

He uses a wedding ring... is he married?

Q.   Started seeing a guy lately and whilst we have been flirting with each other I have noticed he has a wedding ring. I asked him if he was married, and he said he was separated - why then would still wear a ring?...

A.   21 May 2008: I'm separated. I still wear my ring. However, I am still trying to save my marriage even though my husband has been seeing another woman and is telling me he can't make up his mind between me and her. So I'm still wearing my ring becasue I a... (read in full...)

My friend found a condom wrapper. Did he cheat when she was in the hospital having his son?

Q.   My friend is dating a guy and they just had a baby a couple weeks ago. He cheated on her with her "best friend" last summer, they were all drinking at her house, and her 6 year old daughter woke her up and asked why was Jeremy and laci naked ? ...

A.   21 May 2008: It sounds to me as though he's cheated on her. However, she should consider her position. He's now saying he doesn't remember. Therefore, he doesn't want their relationship to end (becasue if he did he'd be more than happy to admit to it and e... (read in full...)

Can I go on with my boyfriend if I'm falling for someone else?

Q.   My boyfriend is in love with me. I love him too. But I know there is someone else out there for me. I am beginning to like his team mate who told me he likes me and would like to go out with me. But, I don't want to hurt my boyfriend. What should I ...

A.   13 May 2008: "You know there is someone else out there for you???????" How? I mean I'm not being funny but there's no such thing as a one and only true love. We're all capable of loving many different people. The secret of true love isn't finding the r... (read in full...)

My lover says he wants his wife to know about us but is too afraid to tell her, should I tell her?

Q.   My lover has said he would like for his wife to find out about our affair. He is too afraid to tell her, he's afraid of losing his kids. Should I tell her? ...

A.   13 May 2008: If you want to end your relationship with him, that's a good way to go about it. At least it will stop him messing you around and will get all the cards out on the table and then you'll find out why there's a saying that married men never leave ... (read in full...)

My husband had an affair which resulted in the other woman falling pregnant. The child is almost due, what is the best way to handle this?

Q.   This is complex - and difficult to write about succinctly...I'll give it a go! My husband had a year long affair. He tells me he tried to "end it" many times prior to me finding out - but felt guilty and like he owed the OW something. To make mat...

A.   13 May 2008: I cannot imagine what that must be like for you. I would guess it must be very hard? The situation isn't that disimilar from a second marriage where there were children from the first marriage (of course the timing is different). O... (read in full...)

Should I have affair with the hot 21 year-old or stay faithfull to my wife who has recently gone off sex?

Q.   I will make this short and sweet.My wife and i have not had sexx in over three months and all we do is work come home eat and go to bed with some ammenities in between.We work at the same place but we don't see ach other till the end of the day. ...

A.   27 April 2008: It all depends on whether you want to wreck your life or not. As the wife whose husband chose the woman at work all I can tell you is it hurts like hell. It cuts like a knife and you feel like your guts are being ripped out. If you love your wi... (read in full...)

Do you believe a married man when he tells you what a witch his wife is?

Q.   To women who are having an affair with a married man. Do you believe your married man when he is telling you what an evil B*tch his wife is and how you are so much nicer and how much he loves you?...

A.   25 April 2008: We arenot living together at the moment. He walked out last October but although he says they weren't sleeping together before I know he has been involved with her since last August. This is the same woman he had an emotional affair with 3 years ... (read in full...)

What should I do about his complaining when I fulfill all of my domestic responsibilities?!

Q.   I work, I study, I clean/cook the house, I care for 2 kids, I'm 27 and he still complains? What should I do Please help!...

A.   25 April 2008: Hun I hear you on this. But I hear Lonelytwo too. The answer doesn't lie outside your marriage it lies within. You cannot change your spouses, only they can change themselves, and they will only change themselves when they feel motivated... (read in full...)

Do you believe a married man when he tells you what a witch his wife is?

Q.   To women who are having an affair with a married man. Do you believe your married man when he is telling you what an evil B*tch his wife is and how you are so much nicer and how much he loves you?...

A.   24 April 2008: To clarify. I'm not the other woman. I'm the evil B*tch that has been making my poor husbands life such a misery that he has turned to an other woman who understands him so much more than I do. Only I'm not, and I understand him perfectly. ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my husband's mistress he's still seeing me? We are working on our relationship.

Q.   Okay well here we go. My husband left me in October last year. At the time he told me he was unhappy because of certain things I was doing (which I either wasn't doing at all or he had exaggerated out of all proportion). I subsequently fou...

A.   23 April 2008: I'm not changing me for his sake per se. I am changing myself because whilst most of his criticisms are unfair there are some that have validity. For example, I can be very sarcastic to the point where I'm so cutting that I draw blood (figuritivly ... (read in full...)

I know I need to walk away but I'm In love with a married man

Q.   I have been seeing this man.. who if truth be told is married. I have been seeing him for almost two months now. When I first started seeing him it was just for sex. I told him prior to us being together that there were rules so that I didn't become ...

A.   23 April 2008: Choose a foot, then move it, then follow it with the other one. Left foot, right foot, left foot and so on. Seriously, falling in love is a process. It is a conscious choice. Contrary to popular belief it isn't something that 'just happens'. ... (read in full...)

I was his mistress and now we are together. Why am I still competing with the wife?

Q.   i am a 21 yr old who is dating a 33 yr old man. He left his wife for me and i believe he loves me very much as do i him. He has 3 kids who absolutely dispise me as well as alot of financial stuff from his past with his wife.I know his wife is still ...

A.   23 April 2008: Not a chance. There's a reason why they say a married man never leaves his wife. Because he doesn't. Even if he physically leaves her he will still have an emotional attachment for the rest of his life. And whatsmore, as he hasn't even made... (read in full...)

My husband left me for his young mistress. Will they work out in the future?

Q.   i am the typical story of the wife whos husband left for the young mistress. im sick of hearing that a husband never leaves in those circumstances because im proof that they do. He was happy until she came into the equation and then he completely ...

A.   23 April 2008: Oh Dear. I really do empathise with you as I seem to be in exactly the same situation. Here's some insight. Some men reach mid life and suddenly realise they're unfulfilled and go looking for something to fill the emptiness in their life. ... (read in full...)

Threesome gone wrong!!! He's always told me he could never be with another women, yet when given the chance he chooses her over me!

Q.   Hello, I have a major problem with sleeping all of a sudden due to something that my husband and I did in the past, about a year ago. My husband has always wanted a threesome with another girl, and being sexually open, I thought , what the heck...

A.   23 April 2008: Hun that must ahve been horrible for you. My husband cheated on me and I am haunted by images of him sleeping with this other woman and I didn't even have it happen in front of me. However, you are going to have to be an adult about this. You ... (read in full...)

We divorced our spouses in order to be together, then my past became a problem! How to explain him my past so that he understands?

Q.   ok everybody i need advice...i was married and met the man that i am with now. he was also married when we met. i was living an open marriage with my ex husband at the time and he had been cheating on his exwife from time to time. we met and my ...

A.   23 April 2008: The problem isn't your past honey. The problem is he doesn't trust you. This is one of the best examples I can think of for you to end one relationship before starting another. If you don't it makes a statement about your moral values and your... (read in full...)

My soul mate is married to someone else!

Q.   Help! I've been searching for a while and I've finally found my 'soul mate'. She's perfect! Only problem is...she's married. I know I can't tell her, (I shouldn't have told anyone really but there you go), but it's affecting my life pretty badly. I...

A.   14 April 2008: Okay well here's what you do. Get rid! No 'but she's my soulmate'. She's married. She already has a soul mate. Her husband. Why do you think she married him? True. She may not be experiencing the connection she had when they fi... (read in full...)

How can I stop her her from going out with friends. I am afraid she'll cheat!

Q.   I have a girlfriend i have been dating for 7 years.We love each other so much.we live on different continents but travel to see each other twice a year. We are not yet ready for marriage because we are still below 25.It hasnt been easy on us but we ...

A.   22 January 2008: You can't! If she's going to cheat, she's going to cheat and that is irrespective of whether you live on different continents or under the same roof. I am married to a man like you and nothing hurts more than knowing that he doesn't trust me. He d... (read in full...)

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