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Has everyone cheated at least once in their lives ???
Q. I'm curious. I jus want 2 know has every person cheated at least once in thier lifes? I jus find that alot of people on here have alot of questions about it n it seems alot of us have done it....
A. 15 September 2006: I couldn't speak for the entire world or even the entire US but I know that I am guilty of cheating on my ex. Believe me, thats something that is really not what its cracked up to be. I hurt the person I love most in the world. If you love who ... (read in full...)
I dont Orgasm every time with him, and am too worried to tell him as its not fault!!!
Q. Hi, I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 10 months (he's my first and the man I lost my virginity to) and I love him very much, but I've got a problem that I don't feel I can talk to him about because I'm scared of hurting him or making things...
A. 15 September 2006: I think that you should talk to him. Relationship is about give and take. He will be willing to do more and you can also do more to make the experience more worthwhile. Though men have big egos when it comes to sex you have to talk to him in the ... (read in full...)
Survived the break up and have moved on, but Still feel embarrased at how I acted!
Q. Last year I was dumped for someone else. I was heartbroken and it took me months to get over it. I put a few posts on here and got really good advice, the best being that time will eventually heal the wounds. And it did, I got used to seeing my ex ...
A. 15 September 2006: I agree with Camille. There is nothing you can do to take that back. In this case the good will outweigh the bad. People will see how strong you have become and notice the positives. They saw you at your lowest and now they admire the strength ... (read in full...)
I stayed for the kids now I must leave for the kids...
Q. i have been in a rocky relationship for 6 years.im 36 with 3 boys. my partner is the father of the younger 2. recently i have totally gone off sex and realise i dont fancy my partner. he is very over weight and a couch potatoe where as i love ...
A. 14 September 2006: Polly honestly I think you should leave, especially if it is abusive. You said you don't love him anymore so don't do this to yourself. I grew up in an abusive home. My step-father beat my mother, sometimes unconcious as I watched. This has ... (read in full...)
We split and now he has someone new and I want him back...
Q. hi i am 16 and I split up with my bf a month ago, i went out wiv him for 4 months but now he has got someone new, he is happy with her but this leaves me still wanting him. Everytime i see him i want him back and i think how stupid i was to let it ...
A. 14 September 2006: Its human behaviour to want what you cannot have. Do you really want him or just want him because he has someone new. The fact is if you wanted him that much it wouldn't have taken you a month after the break-up and seeing him with someone else to ... (read in full...)
Is my wife's friendship crossing the line???
Q. Is my wife's friendship crossing the line? My wife and I have been married for 7 years. She has a male friend and they have been friends since childhood. When he was in high school he had several girlfriends and was heterosexual then. During co...
A. 14 September 2006: I think............HELL YES!!! If it bothers you than she should take heed to that and discontinue this behaviour. Its not like you're being unreasonable. No man wants someone groping his wife gay or straight. I think you should strongly express ... (read in full...)
He has e-mails from other girls and says its the past but the date is recent...
Q. hi i been with my boyfriend for a year now i met him in a different provence so i dont know any of his friends one night he left his bag at my house and i found a love email letter in it dating back just a few days before so i was up set when i ...
A. 14 September 2006: I agree with soulsista he is obviously doing something he has no business doing. You should walk away from this whole thing before you really get hurt. ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue her or let her go???
Q. My girlfriend told me that her feelings have changed and she never wants to see me? Should i pursue more or let it go?...
A. 14 September 2006: I say let her go. You can't make someone want to be with you no matter how much you want them. She has said she doesn't want to see you that seems pretty cut and dried to me. You must pick up whats left of your heart and move on.... (read in full...)
He won't commit to us because I'm an American....
Q. Hi. I am absolutely crushed right now and needing advice. The guy I am in love with says we cannot be together, even though he apparently "loves" me. Why? Because I'm an American. He's living in the UK, specifically England, and he has told...
A. 14 September 2006: Personally, I think that is totally classless as I am also an American. Why would he even bring you there knowing how his family felt about Americans? This is a lack of consideration on his part. Why would you want to be with him, because thats ... (read in full...)
I have panic disorder and I'm afraid I will never have a relationship...
Q. I have panic disorder, and whenever I meet guys I can't handle it. About two months ago I moved to Florida and lived in a condo with a drug addict who tried to steal the car keys from me, but I locked myself in my bedroom for two hours trying to ...
A. 14 September 2006: I'm sorry that this happened to you and it seems to have been a very scary episode for you but my suggestion is you seek professional help. I think you need a lot more attention than anyone of us could give you. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
My gf wants to find my male G-spot by stimulating my prostate through my butt!! Is this safe??
Q. Hi Guys My girlfriend says I am missing out. She insists there is such a thing as a male G-spot and is intent on finding it. The problem is, she says it involves stimulating my prostate via my bot! Help!!! Does anyone recommend this pra...
A. 14 September 2006: I don't recommend it but to each his own. I don't know about any other heterosexual male on this site but my ass is exit only!!! If there is a "G-Spot" in there it will remain dormant until death do us part. ... (read in full...)
Does he really like me???
Q. Hi need some people's views on this one. Ok where to start off, I'm 17 and went to a concert last week. I instantly hit it off with one of the guys in the band , I shall call him A. A and I got talking all night and had some really good converst...
A. 14 September 2006: This whole thing, after reading, seems as if they are treating you like a common groupie. You kiss one, one fondles you and the other attempts to.... Personally, I wouldn't date you because you seem like you can't make up your mind. I feel like ... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 14 September 2006: The only thing that I personally suggest is to LEAVE!!! No beating around the bush and going over this thing. A man's job is to provide and protect. Leave him to his life. Even friends have more intamacy than that. Tell him how you feel and if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend works in the same company as a guy I dated and now its bothering me...
Q. hi everyone. i've been with my bf a while now . i've just come to realise that he works for the same agency as another man i met up with for a few dates a few years ago. This other man wasn't serious so the relationship fizzled out quickly. i love ...
A. 13 September 2006: I don't think that you have anything to worry about as they work in different parts of the country and it is in your past. Its not like you cheated with the guy or something. I think your worried about nothing. If you are that worried, what would ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend was sending naked pictures to another on the internet now its a big joke to everyone...
Q. About 9 months ago i was diagnosed with depression and really needed my boyfriends support. he was still living at home and to my horror i discovered he had been sending naked pictures of himself to another girl via the internet. despite it, i ...
A. 13 September 2006: First of all, how did everyone find out? How many people are in your relationship 2 or 20. This is something that should have been worked out between you 2 and no one else. You have to take it in stride. If you all have worked it out amongst you ... (read in full...)
What is he thinking???
Q. What is he really thinking? I've been with my boyfriend for the past 7 years. We're both in our late 20s and I thought we were very happy together and he was the one. However, he dropped a bombshell on me a couple of weeks ago and told me that he ...
A. 13 September 2006: It could be an array of different things. I will start from the beginning. It could be the 7 year itch were he has become bored with the whole relationship thing. Or the other I can think of is that there is another woman and he is using this as ... (read in full...)
Will his break-up affect his view on marriage forever???
Q. Quick question - at what point do you discuss your attitude to marriage in a relationship? I know it seems a ‘how long is a piece of string’ question but if before you get in a relationship one of you casually mentions they would like to get ...
A. 13 September 2006: I think this is only temporary especially if the break up is still fresh. Give him some time and he will change his view. People sometimes let their emotions override their rational thinking. He's just turned off the whole thing right now but he ... (read in full...)
My parents can't accept him because he's 25 and I'm 18...
Q. Hi, I've got a problem. I'm 18, have been single for about a year now. Got out of a bad relationship, thank god. Anyway, my friend decided she wanted to set me up with someone. She told me he was 19. Tom and I went out and had an absolute bl...
A. 13 September 2006: I know you care about your parents approval but you have to explain to them that you are an adult. I know from where I am sitting it really isn't their business seeing as how you are an adult legally. If you live with them than yes it will be ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman...
Q. Hi every one, I have read a ton of posts on here looking for advice but I still need help. I am 22 years old and have fallen in love with a married woman. We got to know each other very well as friends for 2 and half years. This past summer we kisse...
A. 13 September 2006: Why would she be furious with you?... (read in full...)
Should I confront him about flirting with "her" in my face or leave it alone?
Q. My bf and I have been together for 3 months. We're incredibly happy together at the moment, and We've both come to terms with eachother's faults and learned to accept them as part of eachother's personality. For example, he has always been a major ...
A. 13 September 2006: I think you should bring this issue to the light. To me I think to ogle someone else or to flirt with someone else right in front of me is the biggest form of disrespect. I would call him on it and tell how I feel. A person can only do to you ... (read in full...)
It shocks me that he is no longer in love with his ex-wife
Q. How long does one need to recover from a heart-break relationship? Will it be different between guys and girls? My situations is this. My boyfriend was divorced 1 yr and 3 months before we met. We've been together for 1 year as of now. He was marr...
A. 13 September 2006: I would say so. Like you said it takes people different amounts of time to get over their pain and in this case she ran off with another man so it was probably his anger that drove him there so fast. There is a thin line between love and hate and ... (read in full...)
Could this part of Oral Sex cause me any harm ?
Q. When I give my gf oral and she is sitting on my face she cums what seems like pints which I happily drink. Is this urine or femail Cum? And can it cause me any harm?...
A. 13 September 2006: I don't think its pee but for me personally I find it gross but I guess to each his own.... (read in full...)
He is unable to be emotionally on the level with me, because he's been hurt before... How can I get him to open up like he did with his ex's!!
Q. Hello! Here's my concern- My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 6 months. We temporarily live in separate cities (Philly and NYC) and both just graduated from college. We have an AWESOME relationship. However, my problem is that his othe...
A. 13 September 2006: This takes time and communication. A feeling of security because you must understand that he comes to you with a ton of baggage and you have to be willing to except that and handle it. I was in a similar situation. I went into a relationship with ... (read in full...)
He told me he'd been to a lap-dancing club - after 11 months together!!
Q. My bf went to a lap dancing club a month and half before he met me and he had a private dance from a lapdancer and she was completly stark naked and he had an erection. He told me this yesterday, we have been dating for 11 months. I was really d...
A. 13 September 2006: No you shouldn't. This is before he met you. I'm sure he could look into your past and find something you have done and hold it over your head. How would you like that? I don't think its fair for you to pass judgement on him from past ... (read in full...)
Stay with true love or gain experience ??
Q. Was just wondering what you all thought about being with your first true love forever. I know it's rare, but say you were faced with this situation. You've been with them a long time. You love them, the relationship is incredible, and they're your...
A. 13 September 2006: Getting "experience" is quite overrated and I agree with Yos 100%. Most times than none all you get is a lot of unecessary baggage that makes it harder for you to go about a normal relationship. Trust me the grass is not always greener. You will ... (read in full...)
I am a 16 yr old female and I'm falling for my teache and its a female...Help!!!
Q. Ok, so i have this huge problem, im a 16 yr old female going on to 17 in a month, and recently started college, so far im luvin it, especially 1 subject in particular, english lit!!! itz all down to a sexy teacher in there who i am absolutely fallin ...
A. 12 September 2006: The feelings that you have can't be helped but this is a person in a position of authority over you. This is an instructor. You have to supress your feelings because you will only torture yourself if you persue this. I hate to be the bearer of ... (read in full...)
Can a man be in love with his mistress and wife at the same time???
Q. Can a man be in love with his mistress and his wife at the same time? But is torn between the two....
A. 12 September 2006: Martini. You went to the bottom of the ocean on that!!! You have to also understand that yes there are variables that determine stances on your theory. Yes, lust and love have something in common. You can have either without the other. Now to ... (read in full...)
How can you tell if your boyfriend is really in love???
Q. How can you really tell that your boyfriend is actually "In love" with you, and not just strongly attached?...
A. 12 September 2006: First of all, how old are you? How do you define love? If you know how you define love than you wouldn't have to ask. I don't think you know the meaning because if so you would know when love is being shown. You could differentiate the between ... (read in full...)
How can we tell her parents the "right way" that she is pregnant???
Q. Hi.. my gf is now 6 weeks pregnant, her parents didnt even know i exist... we already want to tell them the situation to ease our burden and Im willing to accept the responsibility... Our problem is.... How to tell her parents? I mean the right ...
A. 12 September 2006: Right way? I mean thats a lot of factors left in the air. How old are you? Does she still live with her parents? I'm sure if you are underaged there isn't a right way to soften the blow of someone's little girl having a baby. You just have to ... (read in full...)
How do I act around him now???
Q. i haven't been seeing my boyfriend for 9 months now because he cheated on me twice and we felt that when we got back the second time that things were just not working out so we parted and he started going out with this girl he cheated on me with. W...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi tine. This question is fairly long and as I was approving it, I found it to be very interesting. Its obvious that he still looks for you for that dependable comfort that he has always found with you. I think that his body is with her but his ... (read in full...)
Im 20 shes 14, is it legal to touch her up and kiss her ?
Q. hiya i am 20 year old n me girl is 14 i was just wondering if legal to kiss me girl n touch her up im from the uk n need help to answer these questions i know im not allowed sexual intercourse but wondering if allowed any physical touching or ...
A. 12 September 2006: I know here in the states it is illegal and you would be charged with statutory rape and possibly sentenced to 5-10 in the state penetentiary! I will have to ask my step-mother about the UK because she is from London but I wouldn't advise it.... (read in full...)
Do boys like tall and slim or small and curvy girls???
Q. hi im 15 and ALL my mates are really thin and im jelous of them! i am thin too but i also have a lot of curves. my mates dont have many curves and i want my body to be like theres. i'm slim and curvy and quite small :( but they are slim and tall! ...
A. 12 September 2006: Me personally, I go for the small and curvy. I find it more attractive when they wear fitted clothing. ... (read in full...)
My male friend is gay, we had sex, now im pregnant!
Q. I have been in love with a male friend for a long time, but he's gay. I intentionally got him drunk and seduced him. Even though we had really great sex, he said that he still prefers men. I just found out I'm pregnant with his child. Part of me ...
A. 12 September 2006: I won't bash you like everybody here seems to have done but I will be frank. Yes, its dispicable what you have done and now a child is involved. Whether you would like to admit it or not you did it on purpose. Now you have left this man in a ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman...
Q. Hi every one, I have read a ton of posts on here looking for advice but I still need help. I am 22 years old and have fallen in love with a married woman. We got to know each other very well as friends for 2 and half years. This past summer we kisse...
A. 12 September 2006: That is the best thing and a very mature decision. You're on the right track and I commend you for your commitment to the right thing. You don't find too many people your age who can do that. I applaud you. Good Luck.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married woman...
Q. Hi every one, I have read a ton of posts on here looking for advice but I still need help. I am 22 years old and have fallen in love with a married woman. We got to know each other very well as friends for 2 and half years. This past summer we kisse...
A. 12 September 2006: Love isn't always right but opinions vary and thats what you asked for, so don't tell anyone not to leave you advise only on what you want to hear, that defeats the purpose all together.
Now, Yes you love her and yes she also loves you but keep... (read in full...)
After 6 months of no contact I called him but I don't want to hurt my new boyfriend...
Q. I've posted questions about this guy before, but now I have yet another dilemma... I became friends with a neighbour who was very keen on me, although I held off for a long time. After 3 months of friendship, I'd grown to love him, and I do be...
A. 12 September 2006: I'm sorry to tell you but the new guy is a rebound guy and you used him to fill a void left by your ex. Now that the ex is back you have no more use for him. He loves you dearly but that doesn't make you feel the same way. You have to follow your ... (read in full...)
I want to let him know that I want to be in his life, but not in his way, how do I let him know ?
Q. Hi, I've met this incredible man, he's sweet, caring, loving and is unlike any other man i have ever seen. We have been meeting whenever he is close because his work means he has to travel alot, and although the time spent together is very brie...
A. 12 September 2006: You are very welcome.... (read in full...)
My ex caused me to question if the size of my penis is good enough!
Q. Hi, well I have a wierd kind of question. i have just come out of a 3 yr realationship with a very nice girl. We still meet ocasionaly and it becomes sexual. I am 26 years old and concerned about my "manliness". I shave around my mouth and have t...
A. 12 September 2006: The cum on top thing maybe has to do with control more than the sex. Just the feeling of being in control is arouses some women to no end and this could make her orgasm more times than none.... (read in full...)
I want to let him know that I want to be in his life, but not in his way, how do I let him know ?
Q. Hi, I've met this incredible man, he's sweet, caring, loving and is unlike any other man i have ever seen. We have been meeting whenever he is close because his work means he has to travel alot, and although the time spent together is very brie...
A. 12 September 2006: Talk to him. Its that simple. I wouldn't bring up his past but I would try to coax it out of him. You need to let him know where you stand on this whole issue. If you don't it come accross as just friendship and thats were it will remain. He ... (read in full...)
My husband of 12 years told me he doesnt love me and moved out!
Q. my husband of twelve years has told me out of the blue he no longer loves me like a husband should and he does not know why this is.we have our own buisness which is in trouble finacially which is now affecting home finances he has moved into a ...
A. 12 September 2006: Give him the space that he needs and you take sometime for yourself. Financial problems can affect relationships in a very negative way because one feels bound by this burden. I think him telling you that he doesn't love you like a husband should ... (read in full...)
She cheated and now wants another child...
Q. I met and dated my wife for 3 years before we married. Everything was wonderful. She had 2 children from a previous marriage who were very young (7 months 2 1/2 years) when I came into the picture and who I adore. We do joint custody with the ...
A. 12 September 2006: You haven't given yourself time enough to heal. Now, you have moved back with the intention of making it work. Thats commendable but with that said you have to put it in the past and if you haven't then it won't work with or without a child ... (read in full...)
Can a man be in love with his mistress and wife at the same time???
Q. Can a man be in love with his mistress and his wife at the same time? But is torn between the two....
A. 12 September 2006: I don't think so. I feel like a man who has love for his wife wouldn't have a mistress. Have an affair and still love I can see because there could be something missing at home at some point. That doesn't mean he doesn't love his wife. I think ... (read in full...)
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