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There is nothing between us and we are still mates but I want something to happen again!!
Q. hey all cupids, A few months ago me and one of my best friends were out down my local area when we met one of my male friends mr x. we walked around for a while and me and mr x got very close we were holding hands and touching. when my friend w...
A. 23 October 2006: My suggestion would just to talk with him and see were it leads. That maybe all he wants or he could want more also. You don't know until you actually have a conversation with him. Just continue to be friends and see were it leads. Don't let ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to be with me but he doesn't want anyone else to have me!!!
Q. I want to get back with my ex boyfriend (lets call him S). We're good friends and we have sex, but he's made it clear that he want's to be single for a while, and doesn't know for how long. He wanted me to be exclusive to him because he got ...
A. 23 October 2006: Excuse me!!! For the anon who responded. Women do the same thing and since me are the pigs what does make the women???... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to be with me but he doesn't want anyone else to have me!!!
Q. I want to get back with my ex boyfriend (lets call him S). We're good friends and we have sex, but he's made it clear that he want's to be single for a while, and doesn't know for how long. He wanted me to be exclusive to him because he got ...
A. 22 October 2006: Anon,
I have been that person caught in "limbo" before. I turned down dates and ignored beautiful women, waiting for my ex to want me again. Trust me its a waste. She called me and cried to me about how much she loved me and she couldn't... (read in full...)
My fiancee or my ex bf?? Whom do I choose?
Q. My fiancee and me are great together 95% of the time and I love him. Recently however, I've been talking a lot more to my bestfriend who happens to be my ex-boyfriend and he told me he still has feelings for me... the is problem is that I still have ...
A. 20 October 2006: Personally, I believe that once a person has met "the one" than thats just what they are "the one". If you had met your current fiance before you met your ex who would you have been with??? I still love my first love and think that she is the only ... (read in full...)
my boyfriend plus his ex - something doesnt add up !!
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 1/2 years and he has a child that is almost three with another woman. She is still "in love" with him and has already told me that she believes they are destined to be together. In august he went to court for ...
A. 19 October 2006: First of all, Why are you talking to her??? THEY have a child together and you know the situation. Secondly, you should tell him what she said. He will more than likely deny it whether its true or not but you don't need to talk to her AT ALL!!! ... (read in full...)
How many guys have taken back their girlfriends after finding out they cheated? If you love someone, you wouldn't cheat...right?
Q. pliz help!!! How many guys have taken back their girlfriends after finding out they cheated? my girlfriend cheated on me 6 months ago I found out 1 month ago, we are in a long distance relationship. I want her back but I'm battling with my pride, I ...
A. 19 October 2006: Irish you and I have debated this and I have had extensive conversations with Ariel on this subject but I think that everyone deserves a chance and its up to them to prove themselves, whether it takes 2 hours or 20 years. The thing is you can love ... (read in full...)
I broke his heart because of what people thought. I still love him, but he won't get back with me.
Q. i broke up with my ex because what people thought and i broke his heart, i still love him and he still has feelings for me but doesn't want to get back with me. does he still love me and will we get back together? i love him so much it hur...
A. 19 October 2006: Anon, that is some great advice!!!... (read in full...)
Trust is an issue with us because she's good friends with 3 of her exes!
Q. So, my current girlfiend and I have been together for 9 months, and been living together for about 7 months. It's been very good except for one HUGE problem. TRUST. I have almost no trust in her, mainly because of things that have happened. My m...
A. 19 October 2006: Maybe, she's just not ready for a serious relationship. I would go my own way for awhile. You can't go on not trusting her. This will eat you alive but you have to leave the past in the past. If you have reconciled than you should say whatever ... (read in full...)
My husbad had an affair with our 17 year old babysitter!
Q. my husband and i were married 2 years when he cheated on me with our 17 year old babysitter. this affair was on going 6 months before i found out. we went to marrage counciling to save our marrage. now almost 2 years later i still can not de...
A. 18 October 2006: The whole thing starts with you and your time. You have been wronged and you have been cheated on. Screw that talk that once a cheater always a cheater. People have had serious drug addictions and alcohol addictions and quit will they always be ... (read in full...)
I love him, but his ex is still a big part of his life.
Q. hi, i have been seeing a guy for the past four months, everyhting was going great for the first month, then his ex got in contact with him telling him that she absolutely loves him and wants him back, he told me that he doesn't want her and that ...
A. 18 October 2006: Well, if its affecting you this much and you are bothered like this, I say finish with him again. There is no reason for you to go back and forth with this. Let him go and think of what he wants to do. His relationship with his ex is a factor, ... (read in full...)
Feeling very low that we dont have sex so much, what can I do to make him see how much this means to me!?
Q. Hi, Im really concerned about my relationship. We are both in our 30's and have been together 3 years, We are very much in love and do anything for each other but.... Things feel like they get worse rather than better and I dont know how to fix...
A. 18 October 2006: Why would you drive yourself insane??? Its obviously him with the problem. Maybe you need to take a break from the whole thing and get away for a bit. This kind of situation leads to infidelity. I know you love him and you wouldn't dream of it ... (read in full...)
I want to wait for him and prove to him that not all women are the same...how can I do this???
Q. Hi ya, Im after a few pointers on how to show a guy that you love him. This guy is my best friend, he knows I love him and it hasnt scared him away or given him a huge ego. He isnt ready for a relationship and thats fine with me because I would ...
A. 17 October 2006: The one you love is worth waiting for but you can still date casually because every date isn't a life time committment. Continue to be there for him and be his friend. Seeing you date other people will spark more of an interest. You have to let ... (read in full...)
Feeling very low that we dont have sex so much, what can I do to make him see how much this means to me!?
Q. Hi, Im really concerned about my relationship. We are both in our 30's and have been together 3 years, We are very much in love and do anything for each other but.... Things feel like they get worse rather than better and I dont know how to fix...
A. 17 October 2006: There has to be some explanation. Have you suggested couples counseling to him. Maybe even sex therapy. Have you tried lingerie and things that he likes? Its hard to feel undesired especially by the one you love but there is something you can ... (read in full...)
I feel sick about what I've done! I just want him back..what should I do?
Q. this is a really lobg story but i need to get the point across im 19 yrs of age just last summer i was going out with this guy (20), he was nothing but nice to me he treated me like a princess and made me laugh every day and i treated him really ...
A. 17 October 2006: There is hope. You just have to give him the time he asked you for. There is really nothing you can do at this time but move on. You screwed up and its perfectly okay. People make mistakes because were human. You have to learn from it so if and ... (read in full...)
She tells everyone I am gorgeous...do ya think she likes me?
Q. There is this girl who pulled me up to dance (repeatedly!) at a party recently. She kept looking at me. She is now trying to phone me and she seems quite desperate and tells everyone that I'm gorgeous. Does she fancy me or not? Thanks...
A. 17 October 2006: UUUUUUUUHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH yes I would say so.... (read in full...)
We broke up and decided to stay friends. Now he's over attentive and flirting with me like crazy! What's up with this guy?
Q. hey... i'm a bt confused about my ex. i'm really good friends with him still... we work together. we split about 2 months ago now on a mutual thing cos things werent the same anymore. recently he's started acting different...just like he did befo...
A. 17 October 2006: I say just tell him. What can it hurt? The thing is you say you were 100% over him. Now you are starting to like him again. If you want to get back together than just see were it leads if not have that convesation and let it be done.... (read in full...)
He had sex with me and when I went to a party..there he was kissing a girl in front of me! What can I do to make him want only me?
Q. what shoudl i do? i've been going out with a guy for about 6 months, we're not oficially dating, but kind of, the thing is that we broke up because he was not ready for a serious relationship, the worst excuse,, i know but every time we meet (on...
A. 17 October 2006: He doesn't care. To him you're just a hit and run. You're being used. Get out before you really get hurt. If he wants you then he will let you know. Don't be a fool he's an ass.... (read in full...)
While hubby is in Irag, the old bf shows up on the scene and old feelings have come back. What on earth do I do now?
Q. Ok my storys kinda complicated... Before I got married to this guy Ive been with for four years, we were having problems and we started seeing different people. At the time my girlfriend had introduced me to her brother who is still currently i...
A. 17 October 2006: I think everyone here agrees that this is a terrible idea. He's not going to leave her for you. He's shown you that and is continuing to show you were his heart really is. How blind can you be??? You are a breath of fresh air when he needs one ... (read in full...)
Dating an Asian-Muslim girl..what kind of barriers and problems could arise from that?
Q. Can anybody help me with problems arising from having a relationship with an Asian Muslim girl?...
A. 16 October 2006: Well, I am a Muslim and this is a very difficult situation. Like anon said a Muslim woman cannot marry a man outside of her religion. In Islam she is not to be touched by anyone except her husband. Fornication is strictly prohibited. These type ... (read in full...)
Can a fulfilling relationship between 2 people work, and be successful with a lasting future if there is limited or no sex taking place?
Q. Hi, I have a question that id like to ask of those that would know or have experience of out there. Can a relationship between 2 people work and be successful with a lasting future if there were limited or no sex taking place? We are both in...
A. 16 October 2006: Irish is right but like she said you both have to be in complete agreeance about this if not there will be major problems.... (read in full...)
Do I cheat on my wife to get the extra sex that we are not having??
Q. I have been married for over 25 years and I love my wife very much. Our sex life has slowed to maybe a once a week and I am not sure why this has happened. I still have the inclination but she is always too tired. Now for the complication: A woman I ...
A. 16 October 2006: I with everyone else. Don't ruin your marriage for lust. The trust is shot and it is hard as hell to get it back. Do yourself a favor and talk to your wife. Just don't jeopardize what you have for sex!!! Its not worth it.... (read in full...)
He tells me everything I want to hear then disappears after we sleep together!!!
Q. hey there im a 17 yr old chik and i got a problem a yr ago i had sex with a boy.. he said that he loved me and all this other romatic stuff so i falled for it.. then after it happened he went cold and didnt talk to me. just recently we had ...
A. 16 October 2006: I agree with Martini. Just stay away from him. Don't answer his calls and don't allow him to talk to you.... (read in full...)
What does the saying..."dont wear your heart on your sleeve" mean?
Q. when this thing happened between the guy i like, in my catering course, two weeks ago, he found out that i like him and somthing happened, as the guys mate, who is also my mate. well the guy i like his mate came over and said stop staring at him, ...
A. 16 October 2006: From my reading I found that sometime in the earlier centuries in Europe. Men would pin the name of their lovers or the woman they loved on their sleeves. Therefore thats were the original statement comes from but I agree with Pete it does mean ... (read in full...)
I'm 21-she's 13. I fallen in love with her and I think she likes me. She's self-harming to get my attention! What should I do?
Q. Hi, I’m a 21 year old lad who has fallen deeply in love with a 13 year old girl! I asked for advice on here a couple of months ago, read what people said and tried it but with no success and now the situation has got worse! Some people sa...
A. 16 October 2006: Anon. I think you need to seek some kind of counseling. First of all this is not normal. She is a child. A CHILD!!!!! You are an adult. ADULT!!! I don't know the situation revolving around this poor girl but you need to take care of yourself. ... (read in full...)
Fallen for my best buddy's girl! I don't know what to do...any suggestions?
Q. I have just fallen in love with my best friend's girlfriend, they really love each other and dont look like they will ever break up. Shes told me she fancys me 2 and i dont know what to do, what can i do??...
A. 16 October 2006: Like everyone else has said you do nothing. Thats your best friend. I would never even consider one my friend's girls. Just leave it alone.... (read in full...)
This girl has a BF but she sleeps with me and tells me she loves me!
Q. I love this girl who says that she loves me but she has a boyfriend. She says that she loves him too but why would she say that she loves me as well? We've had sex already and that makes me believe that she loves me but then again why is she stil...
A. 13 October 2006: I think she loves both of you she is just in love with him. I don't think the kind of relationship you have with her is what you are looking for because what makes you think that she will treat you any different than she treats him now and you WILL ... (read in full...)
Do men generally wear engagement rings?
Q. Is it true that men don't usually wear their engagement rings? ...
A. 13 October 2006: I've never known a man to wear an engagement ring but I would if my fiance asked me to.... (read in full...)
She broke my heart but still flirts with me!!
Q. So what do you do when your girlfriend broke your heart, but still flirts with you a lot ...
A. 13 October 2006: If you don't want her back then just stay away from her and don't say that it is hard to do. If you don't want to be around someone you will find a way just like if you wanted to be around someone you would. Thats only if you don't want the ... (read in full...)
I've broke it off with my lover but how do I now behave around him as we see him all the time!!
Q. I've broken up with my lover, of more then a year, to stay with my boyfriend. Don't know if I did the right thing. When I started having an affair I was in a very rocky stage of my relationship, we were broken up. I got support and friendship from ...
A. 13 October 2006: The situation in itself is a difficult one. Its obvious that you took a friendship to far. I think that HE has his own issues and you shouldn't feel guilty for the way he treats his girlfriend because she shouldn't allow him to treat her that way ... (read in full...)
He cheated...what next?
Q. i've recently found out that my boyfriend of 4 years was cheating on me,he appologised though and wants me back in his life. we;ve been trying to work aorund it but now i feel like im forcing things because sometimes he seems like hes not interested ...
A. 13 October 2006: I don't think you gave him enough time to realize how much you mean to him and how much his life would be affected without you in it. Tell him you need time to get your feelings together and go out and have fun and make new friends, try new things ... (read in full...)
He spends time with his ex and round her mom's house!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been been together for a year now. But when we first started seeing eachother, he was in a relationship with another woman. He stopped seeing her so that he could be with me. Everything was going good, or so i thought, a ...
A. 11 October 2006: What should you do??? Well that depends if you want to stay in the relationship or leave the relationship. If you want to leave then just give him the boot and be done. If not tell him you won't tolerate anymore of this behavior and he has to ... (read in full...)
His ex gf says she wants him back! He doesn't know what to do. Should I leave or hang in there?
Q. My bf is in a dilemma he went to meet his ex to clear the misunderstandings now she says she will die if he leaves her.he dont know what to do.as far as iam concerned i dont think i cant think of anyone other than him should i leave him to decide ...
A. 10 October 2006: I think you should. I would tell him how I felt and leave it there. Its obvious he has feelings for her or it wouldn't be a dilema. In the end the decision is his and no matter how much you want him, if he wants her you will be left behind ... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me how to gain muscle mass without taking protein supplements?
Q. Hi! i'm 16 and work out 3 times per week can anyone tell me how to gain muscle mass without taking protein supplements? i take high protein foods and have no results in my 12 inch arms....
A. 10 October 2006: I work out and the thing that gave me the most mass was protein supplements but thats only when I was able to afford it because it can be pricey. I went from 135 to 175 in 4 months. I'm now 180 but I don't want more mass. Your work-outs must be ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to date a someone 8 years older than you?
Q. is it okay to date a someone 8 years older than you?...
A. 10 October 2006: I don't see anything wrong with it unless one of the people involved is a minor.... (read in full...)
I am 13 and in love with a 43 year old.
Q. i am 13 i am in love with a 43 year old we are getting on well we have been in a relationship for ten months i have asked him too always be honest with me and he is. to day he told me that he is in love with a woman 50000 miles away but he says ...
A. 9 October 2006: This is just sick. Sweetheart go and tell your mother or your father about your relationship. They will advise you on what you need to do.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be suspicious?
Q. hi--been with my b/f for a year and a half. He dropped me off last night around 10 or so..we spent the day at his house with his family for a relative's birthday--i said in the car--we will talk later and he just says maybe--and i guess he was joki...
A. 9 October 2006: I think it does look suspicious. When someone changes their habits its usually something fishy but not all the time. I think you need to find out a little more before you can make a wise decision.... (read in full...)
What does not being "in touch" indicate?
Q. If a person that you have a relationship with, apologises for not being "in touch" and the reason is that they have been absolutely swamped at work. Does this mean that they are not interested in you anyomore or do not want to speak to you for some ...
A. 9 October 2006: To me this indicates that the person is not that into you, because if a person is into you they will make a way to call you, if only for 5 minutes. ... (read in full...)
I am 16 and my parents are trying to stop me from going back to my abusive ex. Do I have rights?
Q. Me and my boyfriend split around .. 2 months ago he cheated on me alot and hit me and treated me bad. I was ok we didnt see each other or speak, i met osmeone and was happy. My ex rung me crying saying he missed me and never realised how muc...
A. 9 October 2006: I can understand how you feel as far as the wanting to try but I also see your parents point because he did hit you. They don't know if he'll do it again and how far he will go the next time. You are still a minor and you live with your parents ... (read in full...)
My army bf says he's changed his cheating ways..do I believe him?
Q. My boyfriends in the army,he's cheated on me before,but said that his changed now and he wants to get more serious,what should i do?...
A. 6 October 2006: Some people don't realize what they did to make the person cheat in the first place. Sometimes its nothing but most times something is missing in the relationship. You have to search your soul and find out what it is to cause him to cheat and nip ... (read in full...)
Gf broke up with and I want to sort things out. Who should make the first move?
Q. hi, if your girl friend breaks up with you and you want to sort things out who should approach each other first...
A. 5 October 2006: I agree with pica. She broke up with you so she should call to work things out because she messed them up. I know you want to call her but you could take the chance of her hurting you even more. Your decision but I definitely wouldn't.... (read in full...)
When you find the right girl, will you always feel like that towards her, dispite dating others ?
Q. hi everyone, If you have say your 1,2,3 g/f when you find that right one will you alwayz have feelings for her weather it's your 1st,2nd or 3rd one ...
A. 5 October 2006: You never forget "THE ONE". You will always think of them and you will always have them in your heart not matter who you are with. Your feelings might be less intense but you will always have that feeling for them. Even if you don't see them for ... (read in full...)
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