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Another "I need space" story.
Q. Hi, I just wanted to find out if you guys think I should worry or should just move on. I admit that we had some fights here and there. Just recently my girlfriend left for a internship for 5 months more than a thousand miles away and she prom...
A. 30 September 2009: I agree with what the last guy to an extent though im not sure if all girls go through this, im in the opposite situation, it seems to be the guy in my life having the whole need space issue. But the advice the last guy gave you was the best i can ... (read in full...)
If a guy calls a girl "babe", is it meant in a derogotary way?
Q. If a guy calls a girl "babe", is it meant in a derogatory way? I ask this becuase the following quote is found from the following website: http://organizations.rockbridge.net/projecthorizon/signsofabuser.htm "18. Disrespect for Women in G...
A. 22 June 2009: my partner refers to me as babe constantly, but he also refers to his neice as babe etc to him it is just a pet name, as it may be for your boyfriend. If he is abusive, you will know, it goes way beyond what pet name he has for you.... (read in full...)
I told my husband's friend things in confidence and he told my husband what I said word for word!
Q. My husband, "Rick," and I own a own business and decided to contract one of his friends, "Travis." During our first meeting, Travis shared personal information with me about his frustrations with his business partner on another venture. Rick was ...
A. 20 June 2009: As awful as this is going to sound who are you really more angry at yourself or travis. You answered why Travis has given all what you said away to your husband in the first breath because he was more of a friend to your husband than you, although ... (read in full...)
I'm 17. He's 25. People say it's "sick" or just "wrong". Is it?
Q. I have been seeing a guy who is 8 years younger then me, (im 25 his 17) We have been going out now for just over 6 months, but during this time we have had alot of people tell us that our relationship is 'sick' or 'wrong'. Is it really that wro...
A. 15 June 2008: I wouldnt class it as sick, or wrong, it is a bit risky though. At 17 most boys are just starting to experiment with relationships, your a lot older, and probably know what you want, where as he is still getting to know himself, never mind what he ... (read in full...)
Am I too clingy?
Q. Im finding myshelf being a clingy in my new relationship. Im trying to take up most of her free time, and I know that is not good on my part. How do I keep from being so clingy so I dont need up pushing her away? Because I have a feeling that is ...
A. 15 June 2008: I dont have any magical answer for you, but I have done this myself and know how you feel. I have a few things I can suggest that may help
- Talk to her about how you feel, you'd be suprised how much talking things out and explaining things will... (read in full...)
I want him to be my boyfriend, not someone I sleep with - but how do I calm down my worries before I lose whatever we have?
Q. i have recently started seeing an ex boyfriend again, we have been going out, talking and sleeping together, like old times, but are currently not boyfriend and girlfriend, this is his choice rather than mine, as he feels we should take it slow. ...
A. 11 June 2008: was actually him that brought the subject of me moving in up.
I have been decorating his house prior to us splitting up and the conversation had gone on to finishing it, he then suggested maybe in a few months time when i go to uni i could move in, ... (read in full...)
I want him to be my boyfriend, not someone I sleep with - but how do I calm down my worries before I lose whatever we have?
Q. i have recently started seeing an ex boyfriend again, we have been going out, talking and sleeping together, like old times, but are currently not boyfriend and girlfriend, this is his choice rather than mine, as he feels we should take it slow. ...
A. 11 June 2008: like i said in the question, i completely understand all that, in my head, but my heart keeps taking over. How can I completely relax about it, its not through lack of wanting to.... (read in full...)
I gained much weight over the past months and fear a possible pregnancy, how can I calm down?
Q. Okay, I've had back pain, breast tenderness, and i missed a period, but now my period has started back up again, and with FULL FORCE if you know what i mean. I took a pregancy test a while back, and it was negative, but i keep getting these ...
A. 5 April 2008: Take another pregnancy test, and see a doctor. It could be pregnancy but it could be any number of things and if it was pregnancy and have had a miscarrige you NEED to be seen by a gp. Please make sure you see someone as soon as possible... (read in full...)
I have a secret gay relationship with my friend, who is bisexual - and in an official relation with a girl. Scared he will eventually choose her over me!
Q. I'm 16, gay, but havent told anyone.. I recently started to get real close with my friend, he is also my age, we go to the same college, we actually havent been friends for that long, only about 3 months, but we actually became like best friend...
A. 5 April 2008: I may be old fashioned but Bisexual or not this is still cheating. Being bisexual does not give him the right to use both you and her for sex and mess with BOTH your feelings. It is not a good situation for either of you. I understand you dont want ... (read in full...)
Does jumping from one relationship to the next work? My girlfriend of 19yrs did this to me....
Q. My ex left me after 19 years together. I tried desperately to make efforts to sit down and discuss things. But she didnt want to know. Within three weeks she told me she had moved on and had found someone else.That really hurt because I turned up at ...
A. 5 April 2008: Personally no I dont think it does. 19 years is a hell of a long time and takes a lot of getting over, she is possibly using this man as an emotional backbone for a while to see her through the break up. Yes some 'rebound' relationships do go on to ... (read in full...)
When I use the toilet, I get blood. What could be the reason?
Q. I am 27 yr old. When ever I use toilet I get blood. What is the reasons for it?...
A. 27 March 2008: Could be any number of issues. You need to be seen by a doctor.... (read in full...)
Big events or being really nervous gives me diarrhoea...any tips?
Q. Whenever I get really nervous or have some important event etc I get Diarrohea. This can be extremely embarrassing and inconvenient as you can imagine if I am out attending an interview, meeting, important function etc. Any help will be appreciated ...
A. 27 March 2008: Have you tried speaking to your doctor? It is probably just nerves but stress can be a trigger for things like IBS and IBD's. Minus using over the counter stuff there is not a lot I can reccommend, minus maybe seeing someone about how to handle ... (read in full...)
He chose my best friend because she is pregnant with his baby, but he loves me actually. I can only think about how happy we could have been...!
Q. I really like my best friend's boyfriend. I have liked him for about 2 years now and never told anyone about it. We all had a few 3somes together at some point, and me and the boyfriend work together which makes me like him even more. My mate has ...
A. 27 March 2008: I'll be totally honest. If considering she has been such a nightmare he hasnt left ( regardless of the baby- arrangments can be made and its a lot better for a child to have two seperated parents that can concentrate on it than have two parents ... (read in full...)
Anyone out there who's had stretch marks and found a routine or product that helped improve the aspect?
Q. Is there anyone out there that has had stretch marks and found a routine or product that helped improve them? Can you please share it? Also please describe what your marks looked like and how much of an improvement there was. I would really ...
A. 27 March 2008: I was told to use hurrendous amounts of moisteriser to prevent them, and also when they first appear to reduce them. Minus that I don't know. I have a chronic bowel condition and as a result have gained and lost weight regulary over the past year, ... (read in full...)
There's growing sexual tension between us - but he is guy! Help!
Q. Hi. I'm really confused about what's going on between my gay friend and I. I'm a woman, and he's a man and we've always been really close. I've also always thought he was quite attractive but have never made a move simply because he was gay and I ...
A. 27 March 2008: Hmm. This is a tricky situation, you are only between 18 and 21 it can take years to realise what you really are, he may not be gay he may be bisexual, or even straight and the relationship with you has kind of 'brought it out' in him.
I had a simi... (read in full...)
I started my period in August but since I haven't come on, what is going on? Should I be worried?
Q. hii ok well august 06 started my period and now it is january 08 and i havent come on since! i dont know if its anything to be worried about but what do i do...
A. 10 January 2008: I'm 20 and I started my periods at 13,I'm still probably not regular only have been since I went on the pill a few years ago.
If you are worried maybe speak with your mum or a close family member and see your gp but I seriously imagine its just... (read in full...)
Should I be pregnant at this age?
Q. Me and my boyfriend has had sex without a condom loads off times in the past month to hav a baby because last year we found out i was pregnant but got an abortion because we was not ready but now i dont no if i am pregnant now because i hav just ...
A. 8 January 2008: Firstly, Ive never known blood in urine lead to a peroid, so you might want to get checked out. Secondly, just because you have sex without a condom it doesnt nessacarily lead to pregnancy. Thirdly and probably the thing every single aunt is g... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 7 January 2008: Hi yeah I agree thinking negatively about your ex probably wont help. Im going through this at the moment, though Im guessing my break up has been slightly more recent than yours, ( few days ago tops). I want to call him all the names under the sun, ... (read in full...)
I am becoming interested in him as he is nice and respectful, but is he too old for me?
Q. Hello, I'm 15 years old, and a 19 years old guy likes me. He's really nice and respectful. I'm becoming interested in him, But I'm thinking it's not right of me. Is this guy too old? [Added] Hello, I've posted a question here recently, But another ...
A. 6 January 2008: Just due to legality it may be wise to wait a while, he is not too old as such, as there is only a 4 year age difference between you, but unfortunatley in your teens, and even early 20's, even sometimes later, a few years can mean the difference ... (read in full...)
I wake up to having tense feelings in the chest, and miserable thoughts. What IS this??
Q. Hi. Health related question. Some time ago, I used to wake up in the morning, be very tense in the chest area and feel miserable. Recently, this has returned. What is it? Could it be stress related? It seems that lately when I try to sleep,...
A. 6 January 2008: Feelings of misery, unhappiness, and other such neagtive feelings can manifest themselves in physical feelings, be it because you stress yourself that much that you lowered your immunity and thus are more prone to feeling ill, or because your body ... (read in full...)
Should I pursue this attraction or put it down to being a silly crush?
Q. I have an issue. I am married, but I find myself attracted to one of my co-workers. We have to work close to each other everyday. He is just so sweet,really funny, super nice, and he tells me at least once a day something nice about me to make me ...
A. 6 January 2008: I agree with dr vendetta. If your marrige is going well generally and you and your husband have a good and solid relationship I would put this down to just a twinge of momentary lapse ( we are all human it happens), and remain what seems to be ... (read in full...)
Will he react the same as before?
Q. I'm pregnant. He is not my boyfriend, we used to date, he is 29 yrs older than me. He got me pregnant before and he convinced me to have an abortion, he said we could have probably babies in the future but not at that time. I haven't told him yet ...
A. 6 January 2008: None of us can tell you how he will react cos you quite simply wont know till you ask him.
A few things though, no one should ever convince you to do anything you dont want to do, if you want this baby, then have it, but be aware that it looks like... (read in full...)
I'm 12 and ready for sex but I don't know if my partner is
Q. i am 12 and are ready for sex but i don't know if my partner is what should i do? Should i just go up to her and ask her...
A. 2 January 2008: Ill state the obvious but you are way under the legal age for sex, you can have sexual activity without having sex and I think considering how young you are having sex is a very bad idea. You need more time to realise if you are with the right ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 21. I have been cheating on him with another guy who is 19. I love both but they are very different and now I'm confused, what shall I do?
Q. ok, im 14 and ive been with my boyfriend for 13 months. i wil call him A. i love him alot, hes 21 btw. i know him well, b4 u ask. i know his bestfrend, and the people who live in his flat. anyways, im kinda cheating on him with this boy who is 19. i ...
A. 2 January 2008: It doesnt matter if your not having sex with them, your still seeing two people at the same time.
You asked for advice we were honest.
By the sounds of things you need to grow up a fair bit before involving yourself in anyone elses lives, especial... (read in full...)
His ex gf is making me feel uneasy! Am I just jealous?
Q. Been with 'my boyf 3 months. We're very happy. However, his ex he split up with him '2 yrs ago is makin me feel uneasy They have a dog 2geva who she see's regularly. So they call and txt regarding that. She vivited im xmas mornin. She sent him ...
A. 30 December 2007: Right, I have been here, and I actually know someone who is in so much of a similar situation im actually wondering if its her im talking to (i showed her this site).
You have plenty of right to be jealous/ uneasy and everything else you are feel... (read in full...)
How do you 'grind' dance?
Q. Okay.This is my first time doing this sort of thing so here i go. A guy i really like is going to ask me to a dance.(at least, thats what he is telling everyone) The dance is in two weeks. my school does alot of grinding and i just don't know h...
A. 30 December 2007: I may be completely off course here but by grinding im presuming you mean hip grinding, where you get really close to someone and you pretty much move like you are almost having sex. However. due to the power of google, it is what i thought but ... (read in full...)
All I do is flirt and talk sexy for harmless fun, yet he sees it as cheating. Am I mad to be with such a man?
Q. I am horrified to find my fiance has been using aliases to make dates with me on chat sites. When he found my first profile i changed it. Somehow he found my other and strung me along. I am livid. How dare he! I feel invaded, he is pathetic. Sad ...
A. 29 December 2007: Im sorry but I agree with your fiancee, best thing to do in such situations is put yourself in the other persons shoes. If my boyfriend had himself down as single on dating sites Id be livid. I agree with mama2three it may seem like harmless... (read in full...)
Specially shaped breasts. Is it embarassing?
Q. Okay,... i find this sooo embarassing! but i have wierd shaped breasts:( i think its called tubular, but it really gets me down and i was wondering if there is anyone out there who knows what i can do to change this, or why it has happened in the ...
A. 29 December 2007: Im not sure as to why it happens in the first place, but my advice considering your age is to talk to someone your close to ( hopefully a parent) about it, and maybe suggest going to see your gp? The internet is a fine place for resources on such ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and my boyfriend is 21. I have been cheating on him with another guy who is 19. I love both but they are very different and now I'm confused, what shall I do?
Q. ok, im 14 and ive been with my boyfriend for 13 months. i wil call him A. i love him alot, hes 21 btw. i know him well, b4 u ask. i know his bestfrend, and the people who live in his flat. anyways, im kinda cheating on him with this boy who is 19. i ...
A. 29 December 2007: This sounds like a mess. At 14, you shouldnt be going round having sex, never mind sex with 3 or 4 different people at once. Minus the obvious risks of sexually transmitted dieseases and pregnancy, theres a very big one of messing with your own and ... (read in full...)
What would you say, how young is too young?
Q. Right then, I'd just like to ask your opinions on "how young is too young"? I'm 22, and have feelings for a younger girl, she's 15. I don't care about sex, I just have loads of feelings at the moment for her, I feel like she's too young, she ...
A. 29 December 2007: Yes shes too young. at 15 even 16 she mentally will be in a completely different place to you, youve done a lot of the growing up shes yet to do, and I speak from experience ( when I was 16 I went out with a 22 year old). Im now 20 and hes 26 and w... (read in full...)
He never calls and we only get to talk when instant messaging, is this really real love??
Q. I have a boyfriend, and we've been going out for around a month. he says he loves me, and will never hurt me. the problem is he never calls. i only get to talk to him when we are both instant messaging each other. he is in my science, and amer...
A. 29 December 2007: hmm, tough one. My ex was like this, didn't call and I'd only get a decent conversation out of him over msn. He was that wrapped up in his games and stuff I hardly saw him.My biggest suggestion is to voice your fears. After a month I cant comment on ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and I was devastated. I started dating another guy and now my ex tells me I threw him away when seeing this other guy and now I feel all confused and messed up, what shall I do??
Q. my boyfriend broke up with me and told me that he wants us to remain to be just friends. he broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. we dated for about 4 weeks. throughtout the time we dated he told me that he likes me alot. we were friends for a ...
A. 29 December 2007: Two things I picked up on in your question 1) the fact your ex says you threw him away is pure rubbish, he got rid of you, therefore you have the right to see who you like and if he wanted you around that much/ didnt want you seeing anyone else and... (read in full...)
Eating problems, constipation, stress. Any recommendations, please?
Q. dear cupid i am currently having a problem, when ever i eat, i always seem to vomit what i ate, this is to the fact that i do not want to gain weight and this has caused me to become constipated, and also the paranoia of my man boobs increasing...
A. 13 December 2007: It sounds like you have an eating disorder. It's not solved by simply eating better and excersising unfortunatly. The main problem is how you feel about yourself and the way you look, and this needs to be solved before you can solve the physical... (read in full...)
How likely is it be that I could be pregnant?... How do antibiotics affect the protection system provided by the contraceptive pills?
Q. I am taking the contraceptive pill and had also been on antibiotics. I had unprotected sex but when this took place I hadnt taken any antibiotics for over 24 hours so i am not sure if they were still in my system and therefore affecting how my pill ...
A. 13 December 2007: I'm not sure how likely due to your cycle etc etc but as soon as you are on antibiotics you are told it counteracts the pull so to use protection whilst on them and 7 days after, so there is a possibility and even when your on your period its still ... (read in full...)
My teacher is being mean to me for no apparent reason.
Q. i am 14 and my english teacher is being mean to me for no apparent reason she said she is going to move people down because they cant do the work and when she said this to the class she looked at me all the way through it and i can do the work so ...
A. 13 December 2007: Hi, not all personalities work well together, and despite the fact she is your teacher so should be mature enough to ignore that fact, it is still there, so bear that in mind, it could just purely be a personality clash. You have a few options... (read in full...)
I havnt been able to orgasm with my boyfriend through penetration and its become a problem in our relationship. What can I do to make our sex life better?
Q. I'm a 24 years old. Me and my boyfriend are having sex for 5 months once a week at least. I never had vaginal orgasm before, I can have clitoral orgasm on my own or with partner. When my boyfriend learned I can not reach orgasm by only penetration ...
A. 18 September 2007: I have had this problem. Ive never been able to orgasm during penetrative sex, it takes a hell of a lot of work from a man to make me come at all, and often they get too rough trying and therefore do nothing for me anyway! A lot of foreplay is ... (read in full...)
When you have to pee why do you get an erection?
Q. when you have to urinate why does your penis get hard...
A. 29 July 2007: As far as im aware this shouldnt happen unless its while your asleep. Theres theories out there to why people get morning glory's one of which is the penis gets errect so that it prevents you opening your bladder but its only a theory... (read in full...)
Am I wrong in stopping my kids seeing their dad who has a drink and drugs problem?
Q. I seperated from my partner and father of my three children 14 months ago life has been pretty hard as when we first seperated i found out that i was pregnant with my third child he gave me no support during this time. A week after i gave birth he ...
A. 29 July 2007: I'm a 20 year old who as a child my dad had a slight problem with alcohol and trust me it wasnt pretty to be around him.
I think youve made the informed choice, you have give him the option to clean up his act and if he doesnt your well within your... (read in full...)
Ever since we last had sex, he seems distant--help?
Q. Is my boyfriend right for me? I've been going out with this guy for 3 months now--we have had sex twice; ever since we last had sex, he seems to be growing more distant away from me, but when I see him once a week, (which is not enough for me) h...
A. 1 July 2007: I had a relationship like this when I was the same age as you. I was absolutely besotted with someone 5 years older than me,but he would only want me around once maybe twice a week and then it was only for sex. I would give this guy a wide birth, ... (read in full...)
He couldn't get an erection, now I'm afraid to bring it up--help!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 months and are in love with each other. The problem is, each time we have tried to have sex, he couldn't obtain an erection. He said he wanted nothing more than to 'be with me' and I could tell he was ...
A. 1 July 2007: I agree it could be down to nerves. Take the expectation out of it. You dont have to have sex straight away, start with something less and build up. Create a calming atmosphere, dont rush into anything and try building up to sex slowly.By removing ... (read in full...)
My ex is back in my life...is it possible to try again?
Q. Hoping that someone can give me some advice here. My ex and I broke up two years ago as he moved back to his home city and I did not go as I could not relocate with him. I was pretty gutted for awhile as we had been together for ten years but I am ...
A. 1 July 2007: I personally have been in this situation more than once and I can safely say from my own experience and that of others second chances dont usually work. youve already pointed out the flaws in getting back together with him in your question. ... (read in full...)
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