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Quiz on guys!

Q.   I have couple of fun questions on you GUYS !!! 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more lik...

A.   14 July 2008: Sorry than ... it was ment as a fun quiz, as posted, not as something thats bothering me !... (read in full...)

Quiz on guys!

Q.   I have couple of fun questions on you GUYS !!! 1. Why do guys loose intrest in kissing after couple of months of dating? It seems to me, that first you are all into it, beeing kissed and such, and than, you just loose intrested and its more lik...

A.   14 July 2008: TO COLLAROY Hahahahhahahaha ... lol ... u made me laugh It was a fun quiz. This is usually what women talk about when they are all together so I put it up as few questions instead reading always some serious stuff like " He doesnt love me" ...... (read in full...)

I want answers from real women about parenthood!

Q.   Hey girls( andblokes without sonding too sexixt)! I'm in a dilemma at this point in my life. You see, I really think that I might want a baby. Im 26, have a great career(well okay career- I'm a family planning nurse-the irony!), loving partner, ...

A.   12 July 2008: Well I don't think you should listen to the people around you! You should listen to yourself at first place! This is your life and you have to make the decisions! Is your BF ready to have a baby? Did you talk about it? If yes, than I woul... (read in full...)

I promised my girlfriend a great gift, for her birthday, but I have no idea what to get her, please help me with suggestions?

Q.   Its my girlfriends birthday coming up and we have been together what will be 2years in November. Stupidly I said to her that I will get her something really good for her birthday, now as it's getting closer she is starting to get excited by what I ...

A.   12 July 2008: Om ... Engagement ring ? LOL ... (read in full...)

Does my flat nose make me unacceptable?

Q.   1.How do you think of a woman who has a flat nose ? 2.Will the man loves a woman with a flat nose? 3.Is it that women who has a flat nose can't be good temperament and succesful? 4.Is a straight nose so important to a woman's beauty? ...

A.   11 July 2008: Keep telling yourself this I AM BEAUTIFUL!! BTW . did you also wrote that question before about the lips? Anyway Everyone has different shape of body,shape of nose, eye colour, hair colour .. blah blah blah. It doesnt matter if your no... (read in full...)

What shape of mouth is most pleasing to European men?

Q.   Do most Europe man likes a woman with a big mouth or a cherry mouth ? In my opionion ,most men in China likes a girl with a cherry mouth ,because it accord with the aesthetics in China. And I know that a world-famous model called LuYan ...

A.   11 July 2008: Everyone likes something different. I am not a guy, so I cant speak for them .. but I am pretty sure, that it really doesnt matter what shape your mouth is as long as you have nice and healthy teeth - thats my opinion. Because to me, it doesnt matt... (read in full...)

This will be our one year anniversary of dating, and he has new job, and must be at work, do I try to get him to take off from work or plan something for another day?

Q.   i need help so badly 2mro is mine and my bfs one year anniversary and he mite have 2 work yikes! bad bad bad i need help he cant take ne time off bc he just strtd this job so wht do i do he strts work at 12 in the afternoon n he usually stays at his ...

A.   10 July 2008: Job is more important than anniversary. Do it on weekend or so...or do it the same day even if its earlier in the day (breackfast) or late at night (just hang out by the beach or wherever you are !!!) Good luck... (read in full...)

I am happy with my boyfriend, even though he is 28 years older than I am, does the age difference matter, if the relationship is working??

Q.   i am currently going out with sum1 28 years older then me ever since i've met him i've felt happy and more confident he supports me in everything i do. but then there's my dad who's telling me he's just using me and also my sister who wont talk to ...

A.   10 July 2008: Well ... Age difference doesnt matter when you are at your age .. but when you get older and you are still together, it will get harder and harder. YOu will be 40 and he will be70. You will be at your best, he will be ... sorry to say it ... almo... (read in full...)

My boyfriend said he doesn't feel the same any more. Should I break up with him?

Q.   My boyfriend who I totally love told me he doesn't feel the same anymore. We were both staying at my house on Friday and we had a small argument because he said it was weird that I had pictures of him beside my bed(there not all him - mostly friends ...

A.   8 July 2008: Ok ... Thanks for more informations. I think that he feels "stuck" .. and he feels he dosnt have enough freedom anymore, because you are at his feet 24/7. And you dont mean it in a bad way, I understand - I am the same. I think he need... (read in full...)

What can I do about my husband's porn habit? It's getting excessive..

Q.   Every time I come into the office, my husband is frantically closing windows on the computer. I was wondering about this because he accidentally left a bunch of porn site passwords on the screen one day. I asked him about it and he got somewhat ...

A.   8 July 2008: Hey listen! You asked for help, so we asked for more informations! You don't have to be bitchy about it! Yes, you are not giving him what he wants and so he is trying to find it online! Be happy that he is not going to see a prostitute to do... (read in full...)

What can I do about my husband's porn habit? It's getting excessive..

Q.   Every time I come into the office, my husband is frantically closing windows on the computer. I was wondering about this because he accidentally left a bunch of porn site passwords on the screen one day. I asked him about it and he got somewhat ...

A.   7 July 2008: Ok So ... everyone here knows... I am absoluely up FOR porn .. BUT!!! ... if it gets to certain point (like your husbands) .. than I think its too much for anybody. How is your sex life? Everything the same? Did it change? You guys talk ? W... (read in full...)

My BF has the chance to see many girls at his summer place of work... and I'm super jealous!

Q.   ok i think im just about the most jealous person my bf just got a new job workin at a canoe launch loadin and unloadin the canoes into the water and i went up thr yesterday 2 pick him up from work and the girls there are dropd dead sexy perfect body ...

A.   7 July 2008: He loves YOU! Not the perfect supermodelsexyblondebigboobed girls over at his job! He loves YOU! Tell this to yourself everytime you feel like crap ... HE LOVES ME AND ONLY ME! ... Beautiful women are everywhere .. you have to open your eyes and... (read in full...)

My husband cheated on me with a prostitute, how can I trust him again?

Q.   how do i save my marriage after my husband of 10 yrs went away "golfing" wiv guys from work and slept wiv a prostitute.i knew by the way he was when he got back and when asked he admitted it.he was drunk(though no escuse) and i belive him that ...

A.   7 July 2008: OMG ... iits "oldfool" serious? Go check for STDs .. prostitutes are not clean! These women have sex with 5 and more men per night .. do not let this go! One of my friends friend had ahusband that cheated on her with a prostitute and they all got ... (read in full...)

My husband cheated on me with a prostitute, how can I trust him again?

Q.   how do i save my marriage after my husband of 10 yrs went away "golfing" wiv guys from work and slept wiv a prostitute.i knew by the way he was when he got back and when asked he admitted it.he was drunk(though no escuse) and i belive him that ...

A.   7 July 2008: I am sorry this had happened to you! I can't tell you to leave him, since you have been together for so many years and have life and children together. But I will tell you that he knew what he was doing. I don't believe anyone that saiz " I was dr... (read in full...)

My boyfriend said he doesn't feel the same any more. Should I break up with him?

Q.   My boyfriend who I totally love told me he doesn't feel the same anymore. We were both staying at my house on Friday and we had a small argument because he said it was weird that I had pictures of him beside my bed(there not all him - mostly friends ...

A.   7 July 2008: Well ... it could be the time too ... maybe he just needs more space? How often are you together? And how long you have been in a relationship with this guy? I see my bf every day and we spend eveyr weeekend together (so its almost like marriage... (read in full...)

My boyfriend said he doesn't feel the same any more. Should I break up with him?

Q.   My boyfriend who I totally love told me he doesn't feel the same anymore. We were both staying at my house on Friday and we had a small argument because he said it was weird that I had pictures of him beside my bed(there not all him - mostly friends ...

A.   3 July 2008: I am not sure its a depression. It sounds to me, like he maigh have someone else on the side .. or not even going out with her,just maybe ... he is not into you that much anymore ... good luck... (read in full...)

How can I understand just how much I've hurt her by cheating on her??

Q.   My fiancee and i broke up about 5 months ago because she found out i cheated on her, i have changed the way i live my life and have become a great person, i will never chea t again, i have stopped drinking, and lying and living the terrible way i ...

A.   2 July 2008: I understand how you feel .. but unfortunately, you should of never cheat on her. No present will fix this. You srewed up big time and even tho you are telling yourself you will never do it again... why did you do it at the first place???? If s... (read in full...)

Am I going to die alone because I'll be single forever?

Q.   Am I going to be single forever??? I have been single for ages after my boyfriend of 8 years cheated on me. Iv been on a few dates and have made sure im not clingy, that I pay my own way and am fun etc etc (its been a while since i dated lol). T...

A.   2 July 2008: Yes they are still here! Its just very hard to find them. I was very unlucky in this area for 25 years and than I met HIM! The best guy ever. I love him sooo much. Just dont worry .. he is there! It just wasnt your time yet!... (read in full...)

My curvy Goddess is trying to slim down! How can I tell her I like her the way she is?

Q.   my girlfriend and i have been together for about 6 months and she is the largest girl that i have ever dated (shes about 5feet 6 inches and about 180 pounds. before her i only liked women with slim bodies but found myself so attracted to her curvy ...

A.   2 July 2008: aawww this is like the cutest add! I love it! You are a good guy ... and I love that you are ok with the way she looks and you are proud of her to be the way she looks. Just make sure she is happy too. For example.. i have pretty big butt but... (read in full...)

How can I understand just how much I've hurt her by cheating on her??

Q.   My fiancee and i broke up about 5 months ago because she found out i cheated on her, i have changed the way i live my life and have become a great person, i will never chea t again, i have stopped drinking, and lying and living the terrible way i ...

A.   1 July 2008: This is horrible! Even tho you have changed your life! She will never trust you again. You have done the worst thing you possibly could. How does it feel? Hard to explain .. Imagine ... your parents take you for voccation to North Dakota in ... (read in full...)

I just found out that he cheated on me...do we still have a chance of being together?

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for 14month now and we have set a date to get married wich is next year but i recently found out he cheated on me with my best friends little sister i feel so disapointed and let down do you think we still have a chance ...

A.   1 July 2008: Once a cheater always a cheater! I don't want to mess up your vission of a long happy life wiht him .. but if he could of do it, when you guys were not married ... than imagine, what he will do, when you are his "sure" thing! I don't have gut... (read in full...)

My husband complains I don't satisfy him well, please advice me what to do because I can't afford loosing him!

Q.   i am having problems with my husband of just two years. he complains i dont satisfy him well. pls advice me or give me tips on how to satisfy my man sexually coz i cant afford loosing him....

A.   1 July 2008: yes, you definetely have to know more about his "needs" .. you have to know what he wants you to do or not to do ... every relationshij once in a while just needs that lil talk about things like this ... ask him what is it that you are doing wrong ... (read in full...)

My BF doesn't work and is immature, the new guy is a drug dealer. Who do I choose?

Q.   ok i got a problem...ive been with my boyfriend for 1 year and i love him to death, but he dont work he is kinda immatuire and we fight about stupid things...well i met this other guy he is so sweet to me he is all i think about he does everything ...

A.   1 July 2008: Om .. is this a real add? You dont have to choose! You just let them both go and find someone NORMAL !!! First one is obviulsy still a child and needs to grow up and the other one is big time Looser!!!! So .. om .. its a no-brainer!... (read in full...)

He masturbates to porn--would phone sex and webcam use make him masturbate to me??

Q.   Okay. So my boyfriend has been lying to me about masturbating to other girls for about a year. I found tons of porn on his computer yesterday. I am really angry at him and I was wondering if phone sex would make him masturbate to me? And possibly if ...

A.   26 June 2008: Oh God I masturbate to porn too! Does it make me wierd or half men? Why everyone thinks that porn is only a guy think? It has nothing to do with you deal ladies! Get over yourselves. I cant take these guestions anymore! ... (read in full...)

I am 10 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend sucks!

Q.   So I am almost 10 weeks pregnant and I am dating my older brothers best friend who I have had a crush on since I was a kid. He tried really hard and was a prince when we first started dating. Well that ship has sailed and he can be a serious ...

A.   26 June 2008: I am sorry to hear that Your BF sucks (sorry) and it will most probably will never be a one happy family (sorry for beeing so open) ..drugs change people .. there is no such a "little" cocaine addiction! He is addicted to drugs! He is a loser! Y... (read in full...)

I don't want to wait to have a baby!

Q.   I am 16 year's old going on 17 and my boyfriend, that's 18 and we've been together for about a year in a half, we want to have a baby or babies. People say that were to young and crazy because we both love kids so much.. we watch my neice and neph...

A.   26 June 2008: Ok .. lets put it this way! Are you ready for Getting fat Going through many changes not only with your body but with your relationship as well (pregnancy chnges everything) Losing your sleep,freedom,tiemes with your friends, time when y... (read in full...)

I'm 13 and need to know..where can me and my bf have sex??? And are we too young to have sex?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 4 months.I'm 13 and he's almost 16. I think were ready to have sex...we've hooked up before but Ive always stopped him. Whoever awnsers this question could you please tell me *where we could have sex...

A.   26 June 2008: Do not have sex yet You are too young You will regret it later on! DOnt listen to him .. if he is pushing you into it, just say no! ... (read in full...)

Another porn problem, with a twist...

Q.   OK, so I have a problem and searched it in Google and came across a thread on this site. The dilemma was similar to mine but with some key differences. My would be husband has been looking at porn and just like every other woman poster, it hurts. ...

A.   26 June 2008: Well ... My BF LOVES huge boobs! He watches porn when I am not around or cant "help him out" and he is watching porn with only Big Boobs (sometimes quite disgusting sizes) with sometimes black women... and guess what! I am white and I have pret... (read in full...)

How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women?

Q.   How should I feel about my boyfriend looking at photos of naked women? At the moment, I feel like a) I'm not good enough for him and b) upset that he'd even want to look at these I need advice, please....

A.   26 June 2008: I am sorry you feel like this, but trust me, there is nothing much behind this. Everyone likes to look at other people .. naked or dressed up! Naked women (lets face it) are beautiful and much better looking than most naked men (No I am not ... (read in full...)

Does he really think that if he were slimmer that I would not longer be good enough for him?

Q.   I have been through heaps with my partner. The breakdown of his marriage, depression, lack of libido from him and more than you can imagine. Tonight he really upset me. We were talking about a woman who lives nearby and he said how she jogs ...

A.   26 June 2008: HOney I would just tell him ... " Well, maybe if you loose 20pounds you could get some young ass ... for me? I can get another man anytime I want without loosing weight or changing myself!!!!!!!!" Show him you are stronger and faster in shooting ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has gone to the other side of the world for a few months... Any suggestions on how to make this time go a bit faster and better for me?

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend has gone to the other side of the world to work for a few months. Where he is gone is pretty remote so he will only be able to ring me maybe once a week. I'm feeling very down about this, he only left yesterday..I am desperatley ...

A.   25 June 2008: Hi there I hear your pain! My BF is going away for only 10 days this summer and I am already going nuts. I am affraid he will meet someone or maybe will figure out that beeing without me is much better and he is happier that way etc ... its BULL... (read in full...)

Should I have a fling??! My wife has had two!!

Q.   My wife had two affairs, each one with the excuse i wasn't giving her enough attention. How can you compete with someone trying to woo her for the first time, my mysteries have all been revealed already. Ive tried to carry on in the relation...

A.   17 June 2008: No, don't do it. If you really love her and you want to stay with your family, than don't do it. YOu have to be the better one in this relationship ! Don't mess it up, just because she did.You are a better man than you think you are!!!!... (read in full...)

First time worries: I heard it may be painful... what to expect?

Q.   Okay, i'm going to have sex with my boyfriend for the first time but i'm a bit nervous. I get the idea on here that it hurts, but others i have spoken to say it doesn't? How long could this go on for? ...

A.   16 June 2008: It didnt hurt me at all ... I was bleeding just a little bit. It wasnt enjoyable at ALL! It kinda suck. Just make sure he is really the right one, othervice you will be upset later on, that you gave it up to someone, that wasnt worth it!... (read in full...)

Please help me find the strength to bin my cheating boyfriend.

Q.   I need help. I've been in a relationship for almost 3yrs on and off. We live together and have a 16 month old daughter. During the course of our time together he has been bouncing back and forth between myself and his ex gf. He has also cheated on ...

A.   10 June 2008: wow this sounds really twisted girl. I am not sure what to tellyou. ... do you really want to be with this person? It sounds to me, that even if you guys will get marry .. he will still cheat on you...with his ex, or other people. Do you really w... (read in full...)

My 15 year old daughter is pregnant, any advice on how I proceed?

Q.   well at the mo i should be called sad mommie..my daughter has come home tonite and told me she is pregnant..she is only 15..said she wants to go ahead with the pregnancy..im so confused..i cant think straight..told her we will talk tomorrow as she ...

A.   6 June 2008: Some people will maybe hate me for this ... but if I had a 15year old daughter that was pregnant, I would tell her to get an abortion, or give the child for an adoption. Either way, she would get "rid" of it. I know it sounds horrible, but let me ... (read in full...)

How can I convince her to stay with me?

Q.   Where I live circumcision is uncommon and most girls think it's disgusting. I have been going out with my girlfriend for 3 months now and we had talked about having sex soon. I know that she will find my circumcision disgusting, and I'm worried ...

A.   5 June 2008: Definetely ask her how she feels about such a thing. Maybe you will be surprised with her answer!She maight like it. Also ... people that just heard, but never saw, cant say they dont like it. She has to see it, try and than say if she liks it! ... (read in full...)

Can I forgive my husband, for the awfull thing he did?

Q.   This is the most bizzare situation I have been in and I am in the brink of loosing my mind. I have with my husband now for 9 years ( 2.5 years married) we are about to have our first child together. Unfortunately during blood work the doctor told ...

A.   5 June 2008: I feel sorry for your situation. I dont think that man that has cheated will ever change. But I could be wrong. I dont know more informations. Was he drunk? Was she a prostitute? Was she from his job? write more info, so we can help you I would... (read in full...)

Please tell me, should I stay with him for the kids or should I leave him, run away from his threats and abuses?

Q.   Hi I dont know y he treats me like hell. He says that he loves me but I can never beliv him because in my opinion a man will never have sex with another woman while being married to a woman he loved so much( as he says so).He had sex with differen...

A.   3 June 2008: LEAVE NOW! He is just threatning you. He wont kill himself. He knows that he has a complete power over you and the kids. You have to leave. He wont stop cheating on you and abusing you! You have to do something now, before he starts doing the... (read in full...)

I'm ugly and it gets me down....

Q.   Ok, so Im a 15 year old girl and I have major self-confidence issues. You see, Ive got an Ok body but my face is really ugly. I think its ugly and so do other people. Its my nose that makes me ugly - its too big and horrible and makes my other ...

A.   3 June 2008: Hallo there! Stop looking at yourself as some ugly creature from the darkness! Everyone has something that they hate about themselves! For example I have a big but and tights! But you know what? Some guys like that! I don't care what people thin... (read in full...)

My husband insists that we have a MFM! Is he gay!?

Q.   Why does my husband want to have threesomes with his long time male buddy and me? When he first tried to get me to do this by playing stip video games, I was very upset and went to my bedroom alone in tears. He continued to try to get this ...

A.   30 May 2008: I dont think he is gay .. I just think he likes seeing you having sex w someone else ... I wish my BF wanted MFM instead of MFF .. I would never do that tho . im too jealous . lol... (read in full...)

Is it illegal for a 15 year old to go out with a 30 year old?

Q.   i just wanted some advice really im 15 and going out with a 30year old is it illegal?? ...

A.   30 May 2008: I am from Europe .. and no, its not illegal over there .. but are you sure, you want to be with a 30 year old man? There is something wrong with him, if he is interested in children honey, sorry... (read in full...)

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