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How can I get alone with him???
Q. hi! i was wondering, if you've never kissed a guy but you really want to, how do you get alone with him? my parents are always watching me like a hawk and always have their ears open for anything. they don't agree with me calling boys, much less ...
A. 22 February 2010: Well I would have said a dance but I'm not sure if your church does that. A quick peck on the cheek would be a good way to start (when everyone's head is turned).
But the most important thing is that you choose one boy and you get to know him... (read in full...)
Are his dreams normal?
Q. so ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and every night i wake up beacuse the bed is shaking. its shaking because my boyfriend is having a sex dream, hes fully erect, and he is acting exactly like we are having sex i mean hes ...
A. 28 January 2010: sexomnia! I am watching "Strange Sex" on TLC (The learning channel). This could develop into a serious problem.
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/1203118/sexomnia_one_of_the_less_common_sleep.html?cat=5
Good luck!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend no longer loves me. Is it over?
Q. My boyfriend of six months told me yesterday that he thought we were going to to fast. In myself I knew we were, I mean he asked me to marry him a day into our relationship and we were having phone sex before we knew each others name (we met ...
A. 14 January 2010: Never stay with anyone that says they are unsure in the love you. Let them have there space for a long period of time for them to figure it out on their own.
I learned this from a lot of years and a lot of heart ache. Save yourself the pain and... (read in full...)
Are his dreams normal?
Q. so ive been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years and every night i wake up beacuse the bed is shaking. its shaking because my boyfriend is having a sex dream, hes fully erect, and he is acting exactly like we are having sex i mean hes ...
A. 8 January 2010: I woke up to my ex jerking off in his sleep a couple of times. It happens. If that is what you mean by normal. At the time though we weren't really having sex and it really pissed me off that he was jerking off.
If my boyfriend now did it we would... (read in full...)
He was out of order for reading my messages, now I'm so confused.
Q. So ive been chatting to this lad for about 4 months now, we have history but lost contact. We started chatting and getting very close, and i was confused at where we stood with each other, i asked him, he told me he wasnt able to commit to anything ...
A. 7 January 2010: Listen not everyone looks through your private accounts or things. My boyfriend handed me his phone and turned his back and did whatever. I so badly wanted to check his texts for this girl he is friends with that used to be his f-buddy who has been ... (read in full...)
My ex was sick and I ignored him was that bad?
Q. My ex and I had just started being friendly after months of being bitter to each other after our break-up. The other day, I asked him thru text about the shop where he bought his car. Then he replied to explain a few things then said to me he is...
A. 21 October 2009: haha wow just like I wrote! It was an attempt to get your attention. Ignore it... this is his way of getting you vulnerable. Just take my advice... my friend did after his breakup and now he is kissing my feet in gratitude. Just tell him he will be ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex-girlfriend happy birthday?
Q. Hi this is Zahir Yousafzai from Pakistan. It’s been two months since I broke up with my GF. Her birth day is around the corner and im in a fixed whether to wish her birthday or not. if yes, then I would be more than obliged to hear from u guys that ...
A. 28 September 2009: Leave her alone. My ex and I broke up 2 months before my birthday and nothing you say, give her or do will make-up for the fact you two are not together. I wish my ex didn't send me a birthday card and other messages to me for not only my birthday ... (read in full...)
My ex was sick and I ignored him was that bad?
Q. My ex and I had just started being friendly after months of being bitter to each other after our break-up. The other day, I asked him thru text about the shop where he bought his car. Then he replied to explain a few things then said to me he is...
A. 28 September 2009: I do not believe you have done anything wrong. My ex had someone die in his arms when he could not resuscitate a man who died suddenly from a heart attack right after our breakup. He sent me a text right after asking me if I was awake but I ignored ... (read in full...)
Should I stay and be with number 2 or go home and be with number 1???
Q. My problem is that, About 4 years ago I was with a great man who adored me. We were together for 2 years but I really wasn't ready for the relationship at the time and made the worst mistake and cheated on him near the end of the relationship (which ...
A. 27 September 2009: You clearly have a problem with selfishness. If you think I'm being mean then no amount of advice is going to help you. I used to have a serious problem with selfishness and I grew out of most of it. You should start thinking about growing up a ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have a passionate kiss on a first date?
Q. Is it ok to kiss a guy on the mouth the first date or will he think I'm a whore ? Thanks for any input you can give I have an upcoming date with this guy I have only met once and he is really cute. So naturally I want to kiss him lol ! ...
A. 24 September 2009: I had the same question after I shared a passionate kiss that ended up turning into a serious make-out session on my couch, in the hallway, in the elevator, in the lobby, and at the front door. We kept dating and eventually all the guy wanted from ... (read in full...)
Where does the cum go during sex?
Q. Okay im just curious and just a lil confused. When a girl has sex with the guy, withought a condom where does all the cumm go? does it stay in or does it come back out. And when girls clean their genatalia waht/how do they do it ive heard of...
A. 24 September 2009: I remember the first time I was going to let a boyfriend cum inside me without a condom. I called a friend and asked what happened. For all I knew it was absorbed.
Well it doesn't. I have to say its pretty gross. Think of it as someone cumming ... (read in full...)
I need some tips on anal sex!
Q. Hi Aunts. I hope no one will be offended by my question. My boyfriend and I would like to try anal sex. I like the idea and am excited about it but I am just secretly worried that there will be p** on him or that it would smell or there might be ...
A. 20 September 2009: Okay so I have done it a couple times and I HATE IT. But I loved my boyfriend at the time so here are tips I did to hate it a bit less. Poop First then follow these steps. Lube: It HAS TO BE USED! Get silicone lube because water soluble lube ... (read in full...)
We're both married, having an affair, living in different countries..how do I make this work?
Q. I am married and I have three young kids. Over the last six months I have been having affair with a woman abroad. I have known this woman for almost 20 years, going back to College. Since our affair began, we have seen each other three times. The ...
A. 17 September 2009: I have. Except I have known the guy for 6 or 7 years now. We spent 8 weeks together in college then he went back to england and I haven seen him 5 times since then. I was madly in love with him but ended it because I realized he was acting as an ... (read in full...)
Met up with ex girlfriend, please please!
Q. hey guys, so basically tonight, me and my friend went to see a show and my ex from 3 years ago was there, we bumped into her and ended up hanging out with her and her friend all night. however, my ex was just hanging out with me most of the nigh...
A. 15 September 2009: I think you might want someone to tell you something could still be there. But the truth is you shouldn't even be thinking about that as much as thinking about how your significant long term partner would feel about the situation. If you are ... (read in full...)
My father is molesting me and my mother has cancer. What can I do?
Q. It was a few days ago when my mom took me my dads house for the first time after they were divorced. She had to work late that night so i had to stay there until the next day and my dad came in to my room n started talking because he wanted to catch ...
A. 8 September 2009: I am so sorry this happened. I tried my best to advise you against going to the police without solid evidence. The courts do this all the time. My poor friend was called a liar in court as well and they made her go to a psychologist like she was a ... (read in full...)
He wants our relationship a secret!
Q. My boyfriend wants our relationship to be a secret and freaked out when my friend put up pictures of us on facebook, what should i do?...
A. 3 June 2009: He might have another girlfriend. You're young enough where you cant just stop by his place or meet up last minute to where he is. I hate to break it to you but this is classic in high school.... (read in full...)
What's it mean when you have a period an extra day after you're supposed to be done?
Q. What's it mean when you have a period an extra day after you're supposed to be done? I usually have my period for 7 days, and yesterday was my 7th day, but today i'm still having it. Is something wrong with me?...
A. 24 January 2009: That means it was a heavy flow and not only that there really isn't a certain amount of days. Every woman has a different amount of days that they bleed. I used to bleed for 11 days! Can you imagine. Depending on your hormones will be the amount of ... (read in full...)
How do you terminate a toxic friendship?
Q. Hoping someone can help here. I have a friend who I am trying to end the friendship with as I have had enough. There are plenty of articles on how to end a relationship but not much on terminating a friendship. This girl tends to be really rude to ...
A. 23 January 2009: Its just like breaking up with an abusive boyfriend or girlfriend. You stand up to them and let them know that you don't believe some of there behavior has been appropriate or warranted (don't go into to detail, that is a trap to continue an ... (read in full...)
She said she wants space, but is still talking to me?
Q. She said she wants space, but is still talking to me? So basically she said she needs space to figure her self out, because she still hasn't completely grieved over her ex of 3 years, so i think shes goign to use this space time to do that, while th...
A. 16 January 2009: Listen I'm still getting over my ex of 2 years and its been 7 months since the break up. Guys have been trying to date me and the one's that last the longerst are the one's that give me my space. Eventually when they start getting closer with me ... (read in full...)
How do women feel about a foot fetish man?
Q. Hi, I'm 32, male and I have a foot / leg fetish. Not every pair of feet, you'll be relieved to hear, but the first thing I notice in a woman is her feet, shoes, whether she's wearing stockings/tights, etc. I know it sounds weird, but I was wonder...
A. 16 January 2009: I have to be honest it freaks me out a bit. But I would try to be supportive if I was already in love with the person. Maybe waiting until you're more secure with the relationship before you tell anyone. There are umm negative stereotypes out there ... (read in full...)
What sort of physique do girls like in a boyfriend?
Q. Hi, happy new year. I want to know this from girls. Girls, what sort of physique u like in ur bf? Tall, short, fat, skinny, muscular, anything. Feel free to give me ideas on wot u actually look for. Thanks. Pls. ...
A. 31 December 2008: I used to like tall slim guys. I still like tall but since my last boyfriend was such a great guy and so muscular (body builder)I now have a preference for very fit men (not necessarily as built as he was). All other guys just look so helpless to ... (read in full...)
Will this argument have a negative effect on our relationship?
Q. Hello aunts, uncles! My bf and i recently had a fight about my family and its really bothering me. 2 months back my dad found out that my bf sometimes comes over to visit me and he made it clear that he doesn't want to see him around his house......
A. 30 December 2008: I've had a similar problem as your boyfriend he feels ultra sensitive and probably wants you to go against your family to be reassured that you would start your own family with him. It sounds like your boyfriend knows how much your whole famil... (read in full...)
How can I convince him to give me my files back without putting myself at risk emotionally?
Q. My ex of 5 months has all my computer files on his external hard drive. My computer was about to crash so we put it on there for safe keeping months before we broke up. Well I kept asking him to find a way of giving them to me beforehand and like a ...
A. 26 December 2008: Good point I did have to almost threaten his things for him to come get it two months after the break up. I'll think about it. I'm just too emotionally exhausted right now for it though.... (read in full...)
I'm all alone in an unfamiliar city with no friends!
Q. It's taken me awhile but I am totally lonely. My friends all have boyfriends that they moved in with and I feel like the black sheep because my relationship went sour. Everyone's was going in a direction but mine and right when we were supposed to ...
A. 25 December 2008: That was very mean and unnecessary. "No wonder you have no friends" why would you write that?... (read in full...)
My wife has hacked into some of my web pages and done very juvenile things. Are there any repercussions for this?
Q. My wife (In the middle of a divorce) has hacked into some of my web pages and done very juvenile things. Are there any repercussions for this? How can I get her back without breaking the law? I have the evidence, but I don't know if what she did was ...
A. 25 December 2008: Cyber bullying, they just changed the law this August. Consult a lawyer you've got a case.... (read in full...)
How can I convince him to give me my files back without putting myself at risk emotionally?
Q. My ex of 5 months has all my computer files on his external hard drive. My computer was about to crash so we put it on there for safe keeping months before we broke up. Well I kept asking him to find a way of giving them to me beforehand and like a ...
A. 25 December 2008: I appreciate your advice but threatening him about small claims court sounds dramatic. I already Emailed and left a message on his cell. I don't want to turn this into a bitter battle. That is why I'm asking advice. Maybe a guy's advice would be ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him to give me my files back without putting myself at risk emotionally?
Q. My ex of 5 months has all my computer files on his external hard drive. My computer was about to crash so we put it on there for safe keeping months before we broke up. Well I kept asking him to find a way of giving them to me beforehand and like a ...
A. 25 December 2008: That is a great suggesting BUT he moved 2 and half hours away to Boston. There is only one friend that I have who lives there and she does not have a car. So getting to him walking or public transportation would be a HUGE hassle (he lives just ... (read in full...)
I'm all alone in an unfamiliar city with no friends!
Q. It's taken me awhile but I am totally lonely. My friends all have boyfriends that they moved in with and I feel like the black sheep because my relationship went sour. Everyone's was going in a direction but mine and right when we were supposed to ...
A. 24 December 2008: No offense but can someone over 20 years old answer my question? Someone who has moved out on their own.
My friends all moved far apart after college and yes obviously I have asked them to come visit me but they are consumed with their boyfrien... (read in full...)
How is it cheating if we're not 'official'?
Q. I am talking to this new guy, we are not official nor are we really exclusive, he still talks to she friend girls as I do my guy friends...however we spend most of our time talking to each other, we love each other, but in october I had sex with my ...
A. 23 December 2008: Oh, my pleasure! I'm glad I could help you. Try out making it official. He might just feel hurt over it because it reminds him of how easily he could lose you (and how he almost did). Some more security would do you both a lot of good.... (read in full...)
How is it cheating if we're not 'official'?
Q. I am talking to this new guy, we are not official nor are we really exclusive, he still talks to she friend girls as I do my guy friends...however we spend most of our time talking to each other, we love each other, but in october I had sex with my ...
A. 23 December 2008: Well with my ex we were pretty much dating for 4 months before we made it official. Then thing is up to the last month and a half before we became official he would have KILLED me if I was with another guy... even KISSED another guy let alone got ... (read in full...)
I can't function like this much longer. And sooner or later I'm going to break completely.
Q. Hi, I'm new to this forum and I only registered because I have run out of ideas. I am a 24 year old male, soon to be 25, and I work as a Graphic Designer. I hate my job so much that I am actually getting sick just thinking about it while typing t...
A. 21 December 2008: Go join something vocational like the army, job-core, peace core, teach english in china for a bit. I don't know but there are programs where you give your life away for a year to be somewhere else (usually a big city or an exotic place)and have ... (read in full...)
His mixed signals confuse me
Q. Hi, I was seeing this guy. Things were going well. But he seemed to get distant a bit but when i actually saw him, he was fine (all over me). The sex stuff start very quickly (not good). He said that he is scared to get close to anyone. He felt ...
A. 21 December 2008: Just leave it. The point wasn't to tell him to his face quit the mixed signals. The guy I was with just HAPPENED to be in my car at the time. Don't worry about it. Give him space, peace out. Do your thing, thats the point.
You have to mentally... (read in full...)
His mixed signals confuse me
Q. Hi, I was seeing this guy. Things were going well. But he seemed to get distant a bit but when i actually saw him, he was fine (all over me). The sex stuff start very quickly (not good). He said that he is scared to get close to anyone. He felt ...
A. 21 December 2008: Yeah goodluck! and remember it only works if you kick his ass to the curb for a day or so. Make him think its real ;P... (read in full...)
If he was in love with me then how can he talk like that?
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me a few days ago. And I don't really know what to think. This is a short summery of what has happened: A few weeks before my birthday (my birthday is oct. 10th), (let's call him) Dave (bf) had been tex...
A. 21 December 2008: I'm in the same boat well... kind of was. My ex and i were together for 2 years and he moved to Boston after a getting a job there. At first it was our plan for me to find a job then move in with him. Yeah well I'm sure you know how that ended. He ... (read in full...)
How can I meet men outside of college?
Q. How can I meet men outside of college? Not for hook-ups! So I don't want to hear about bars. I am also very wary of online dating. ...
A. 19 December 2008: That was awesome advice its just that the adults around me aren't very reliable or have healthy relationships. So that isn't really... err probably not the best option for me.
Your advice was great I'm just in a unique situation. I'm 24 I work in ... (read in full...)
His mixed signals confuse me
Q. Hi, I was seeing this guy. Things were going well. But he seemed to get distant a bit but when i actually saw him, he was fine (all over me). The sex stuff start very quickly (not good). He said that he is scared to get close to anyone. He felt ...
A. 19 December 2008: Haha sounds like my last relationship. So cute I remember that. It happened almost the exact same way. Except when he was in my car I pulled over and told him to get his mixed messaging behind out of my car. He gave me an upset look and tried some ... (read in full...)
What is wrong with me, any advice?
Q. I am a guy, a few weeks from being twenty years old. I have never wanted anything more in my life than to meet a girl who wants to spend time with me. So far, I have never had anything close to a relationship, I have only held hands with three ...
A. 19 December 2008: Student of life is right. I just moved to a new city and no one would even make eye contact with me and when I smiled at them they gave me dirty looks. Eventually, I started to give less than two shits about being alone in this city. I put on my ... (read in full...)
Is it even really a friendship if I can't even talk to her in person?
Q. I happen to really really like one of my friends, or at least I think I did, or I still do, I don't really know. All I know is I had a really deep kind of affection for her, I would always enjoy her company and just generally thought she was a ...
A. 19 December 2008: Well buddy let me tell you something. I was that girl. My best friend was a guy and the same thing went down between us. I kept saying no way to him and as time went on it got more awkward. I don't know how your lady friend is going to react to this ... (read in full...)
I felt hurt and humiliated - is it normal to think that my marriage could be in trouble?
Q. I would like to know if I'm just being over sensitive or would you also feel real hurt if it's your birthday and you invite a couple of your close friends to have dinner with you and one of your husband's female collegues was also invited and he ...
A. 19 December 2008: I cannot give marriage advice but I do not agree with bugs. I tried crap like that with my ex (long term relationship) because he was starting to give me attitude and telling me to try harder. I went bough an expensive outfit he picked out to please ... (read in full...)
Do I wait 6 months to get back with ex?
Q. My ex broke up with me 6 months ago, won't go into detail, but it wasn’t because he didn’t love me, but because he thought at the time we wanted different things. He has just contact me and apologised for being stubborn and said he feels really bad ...
A. 1 December 2008: Don't do it! I was just ruined by my ex of two years who was saying the same thing he came back 4 months later, laid it on thick. When I began to come around to the thought of him and I together he began fooling around with other women and made it ... (read in full...)
My father is molesting me and my mother has cancer. What can I do?
Q. It was a few days ago when my mom took me my dads house for the first time after they were divorced. She had to work late that night so i had to stay there until the next day and my dad came in to my room n started talking because he wanted to catch ...
A. 1 September 2008: Get a digital camera or borrow one. Hide it so you can capture this monster. You'll have undeniable proof. I had a friend whose father was raping her. When she told her mother she wouldn't beleive her. Finally, her mother saw condoms in the trash ... (read in full...)
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