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Husband seems unattracted to me only after 1 1/2 years of marriage. :(

Q.   I need help with my marriage. I've only been married for 1 1/2 years and I feel like my marriage is already getting stale. My biggest problem is my insecurity with my body. I've always had high self esteem until I got married. My husband LOVES big ...

A.   19 March 2009: Don't get hung up about this. All men like to look at other naked women - its in their blood. But he's not nagging you because you don't look that way - after all, he married you with the body you have now. I love to watch XXX films with girls... (read in full...)

I just want a bit of excitement in my life! What do I do?

Q.   I have been with my current girlfriend for 4 years. I still love her but the thrill I used to get from being with her faded some time ago and I really miss it. Recently, I've been noticing this really cute girl in my college (went back to college ...

A.   13 February 2009: Every man in the world feels the way you do. After 4 years with one woman, the old thrill is gone. If you would have gotten married, you would have the new thrill of anticipating a child, buying a house, or building your future together. Those ... (read in full...)

I'm not happy here and can't make a future here. Should I leave?

Q.   I've been with my boyfrienf for ten and a half years. While we are polar opposites in terms of personalities - he is quiet, gentle and throughtful and I am outgoing and quite tempermental. he is also eleven years older than me. We fight like cat and ...

A.   13 February 2009: Some men are great boyfriends, and some men are great husbands - but many men are not both. You must dump the old boyfriend - and dump the already called for husband. Get rid of all the old freight and find a man who can be your true love and ... (read in full...)

Am I gay or not? I really need an answer.

Q.   I am 14 years old and I wanted to ask a question as I think I could be gay because I get on when I think of a mans penis. I was thinking about it for a one and a half years. But I don't get on when I think of women, I get a nice feelings but not an ...

A.   10 February 2009: I can only tell you this.. heterosexual men are totally turned off by the thought of touching, looking at, or even thinking about another man's penis. Yuck. You are pretty young, so it is impossible to give you a final answer. You'll just have to ... (read in full...)

In love with 2 guys and I'm totally confused.

Q.   Am in love with 2 guys! My son's dad and the guy am seeing now! and they both love me. What should I do?...

A.   10 February 2009: I disagree. Life is short. What book says you can't be in love with two guys? Lots of women have that fantasy, lots of women act on that fantasy. Recent genetic studies have concluded, beyond doubt, that over the course of history 10% of the ... (read in full...)

My hubby cheated on me 20 years ago, how do I cope with the revelation?

Q.   My husband received a christmas card from a woman he used to work with many years ago.She said she wanted to meet up with him for old times sake.When I questioned this, he admiitted that he had a fling with her 2 years into our marriage when I was ...

A.   5 February 2009: Most wives are lucky to hear bad news like, "I met a girl 20 years ago". He sounds like a perfect husband to me. Read some of the other posts on this forum and you will realize just how lucky you really are. What if he said, "I re-met the girl I ... (read in full...)

We kissed but he didn't ask for my number, any idea why?

Q.   I've known this guy for a few months, I liked him when we first met though nothing happened, next time we met out in a pub we were flirting with each other but I was with another guy that night so nothing happened, then we met again and this time we ...

A.   5 February 2009: Let me tell you, most guys are shy around women they just meet. On top of that, bars and pubs are places where women just love to play games - you know, lure a guy, then dump him. I think it is an ego builder for some women. As time passes, guy... (read in full...)

Opinions on using birth control AND condoms!

Q.   My girlfriend has been on birth control for over two years and takes it exactly on time, every day, religiously. She has been tested several times and is 100% clean of diseases. I am also 100% clean of diseases because she is my first and only s...

A.   4 February 2009: Who knows what feelings linger inside a man (or woman's brain). Sex is a strange and intimate thing the idea of another man having sperm inside of her is clearly bothering you - and it continues to bother you. In the past my girlfriend was u... (read in full...)

I like to watch gay porn

Q.   I'm a 17 year old girl.. Is it weird that I like to watch gay black male porn.. i'm far from being gay (trust me!) But its something about that type of sex is fun to watch.. Help?...

A.   2 February 2009: One word of warning... I drank alcohol in moderation early in life, but then in bad times I drank more and more until I was an alcoholic. I didn't think I was heading in that direction, I didn't intend to become an alcoholic, but it happened and I ... (read in full...)

21 year old dating a 15 year old?

Q.   So I recently have been attracted to a younger gal. The thing is shes 15, and I'm 21. I've been to dinner with her family many times, and they like me a lot. They invite me to a lot of occasions, dinner and drinks every week or so. But I'...

A.   1 February 2009: In most countries in the world a 21 year old guy dating a 15 year old girl would be be considered absolutely normal - almost encouraged. The problem is you American society has a serious problem with this idea but no one can give you a good reason ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid if he leaves I'll go back into depression

Q.   I love my boyfriend a lot and we've been on and off for almost 3 years in june. The problem is we are living together now and we constantly fight. We both cut each others throght out. I've tryed to communicate shoot I even tryed to get him to do a ...

A.   1 February 2009: Yes, there is something wrong with this picture. My guess is your emotions have as stronger grip on you than your logical brain. A woman should not become depressed to the point of suicide because a man leaves her. Everything being equal, I... (read in full...)

Handling dogs & disease?

Q.   HI. I want to know if anybody here knows if having/ handling dogs transmit any kind of diseases that could affect female health and/or pregnancy. I've been having this doubt on my mind for years and have not find an answer. The thing is years a...

A.   1 February 2009: Since almost everyone in America has a dog, wouldn't you think the entire population would be aware of a disease that could be transmitted from dogs to humans? There is only one such disease: rabies... (read in full...)

I like to watch gay porn

Q.   I'm a 17 year old girl.. Is it weird that I like to watch gay black male porn.. i'm far from being gay (trust me!) But its something about that type of sex is fun to watch.. Help?...

A.   1 February 2009: The faster you learn that everybody is different in what arouses them, the better. There is no "normal" when it comes to sex. If whatever turns you on is getting in the way of a your non-sexual life, then you may be reaching the danger zone. But ... (read in full...)

What would be the best way to make friends?

Q.   Hi, i really need some help here... Im a really shy girl and have a really weird way of doing things, its difficult to put into words, i can talk to someone via sms or email, even writing them a letter but face to face i cant talk, even if it is the ...

A.   1 February 2009: I read recently in the news that scientists have discovered that shyness is an inherited trait. So you were born with this tendency to be shy in your genes. Knowing that you have this weakness should tell you making friends is always going to ... (read in full...)

Sh'es gained weight & I don't want sex

Q.   I really and truly love my wife and she is also my best friend and i'm not a jerk but over the past few years she has put on some weight enough to shut down my sex drive i would never tell her to lose weight and i would never stray but i am also wor...

A.   1 February 2009: Well, you don't want to "stray", an you don't want to tell her to loose weight. And you don't want to have sex with a fat wife. It looks to me like you are stuck. In my opinion, a husband and a wife are suppose to communicate and sometimes the su... (read in full...)

The age difference is freaking me out! How do I forget him?

Q.   There's been this guy that I had been asking questions about lately. He and I have known each other for about five years; have become really close friends for 2 1/2 to 3 years and have started really flirting back and forth since last summer. He w...

A.   31 January 2009: The big question here is whether you are ready to challenge the traditional norms that our society has set up. In many other countries women and men marry each other with a large age difference. Since it is normal in the country where they live, ... (read in full...)

Why do you think my husband has a preference for looking at girls with small or no boobs?

Q.   I read on here alot about husbands looking at porn girls with BIG boobs coz their wives have small boobs. Mine is opposite I am medium but all my hub looks at is girls wth no boobs or flat chested..why??? Doesnt he like boobs??? I cant understand ...

A.   31 January 2009: Breasts are an evolutionary feature that seemed to developed on human females after she began walking on two legs. With the primary sex organ now out of sight, breasts became the prominent feature which attract a man's attention. Should one typ... (read in full...)

I want to continue this!

Q.   Me and my sister were drunk and horny and had consensual sex. How do I tell her I want to continue having sex with her?...

A.   31 January 2009: Only a few posts on this forum have a clear, positive, no question about it, answer. NO, YOU CANNOT HAVE SEX WITH YOUR SISTER, AGAIN - EVER!... (read in full...)

I need an ex-porn sex addicts opinion

Q.   I am directing this question to porn / sex - ex-porn /sex addicts. My husband, although in complete denial is one. I have already going throug hell and back with him when we were dating. He cheated in lied so much and in between there was always ...

A.   30 January 2009: Every man chooses his lifestyle, his likes, and his dislikes. I think a lot of this is genetic - his father and grandfather may have had similar behavior. I can relate a little to his life, because I have always felt the same way about women (and... (read in full...)

Opinions on using birth control AND condoms!

Q.   My girlfriend has been on birth control for over two years and takes it exactly on time, every day, religiously. She has been tested several times and is 100% clean of diseases. I am also 100% clean of diseases because she is my first and only s...

A.   30 January 2009: I personally don't like condoms for many reasons. I know women who use IUDs (Inter-uterine devises)and they love 'em. It is not changing the chemical balance in a woman's body. If she wants to "double up"... which is understandable, ... (read in full...)

Drank too much and it's been 3 days and still feel horrible!

Q.   I am 25 years old. I drink used to drink every weekend when I would go clubbing (like for 3 years), but for the past year... I drink on occasions only! (probably once every other month-moderately as well like 2/3 drinks that night-slightly mixing ...

A.   29 January 2009: No question you did some damage to your body - good chance it will heal by itself. The alcohol should be out of your system in 2 days, so the symptoms may be something like a bad cold, an infection like bronchitis in the throat - or must damaged ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend called me fat and repulsive!!!

Q.   Ok I need some advice please, I have been going out with my boyfriend for around four years... he can be controlling with me and mean but I never feel like I have the strength to leave him. I suffered a bad eating disorder last year and lost a ...

A.   29 January 2009: Everyone else said how bad your boyfriend treats you - so I won't repeat. But you personally are a walking time bomb. If you put up with this with one man, you will do it with a second. You may even seek out a dominant male again - or never... (read in full...)

Husband needs space, moving out, is there hope?

Q.   I have been married for 12 years. We have two kids 8 and 3. I have been a stay at home mom since the eight year old was born. We built a house in 2004 and moved in right before the 3 year old was born. So, I haven't done a whole lot around the house ...

A.   29 January 2009: Ok, I will give you a man's perspective. American men don't like lazy people, and they don't like people who don't keep their promises because they are lazy. So you have given him some real good reasons for him to be bitter. Age 35 is a h... (read in full...)

Extra skin "there" is it normal?

Q.   Hi, I've recently noticed that theres quite a bit of extra skin around my vagina. If i try to put my finger up my vagina i can feel flesh around the opening that sometimes slightly blocks it. Is this normal??? Will it make things difficult having s...

A.   28 January 2009: I suggest you get a little more familiar with your own body. Here is a website that gives a lot of good information. Most of it will not apply to you, but at least you are better educated as you get older. ... (read in full...)

Why do all guys go "off me"??

Q.   I started seeing this guy but i still had feelings for my best guy mate, he spent lots of money on me over xmas and took me out for meals etc. suddenly he just text last night saying we are "too different".. and thats ok, i was a bit gutted but I...

A.   28 January 2009: Could be several things. If you indeed are pretty, then take a look around at your image. You may give off signals that your are either desperate and/or a quick lay. Men will spend money on a girl if he thinks the girl will go to bed with him ... (read in full...)

B/f joining the army. Shall I stay with him?

Q.   My bf said he is joining the army and that I will leave him. Shall I leave him??? I love him but I will never see him I don't know what to do because I know that if he goes then I will never see him n I havent seen him in over a week and I miss him ...

A.   28 January 2009: I was in the military with a girlfriend back home. I know what he is thinking... you are young, and doesn't want you "being true" to him while he is off doing what soldiers do best: live hard, play hard. He's a young stud and you can't expect him ... (read in full...)

Irrational fear about the male body?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and we are very close and open with each other and get on really well. I'm a virgin and he's not, though he has been very understanding about my not being ready to have sex yet and has never ...

A.   28 January 2009: As a man I can tell you I have been in several relationships like the one you describe. Usually, the woman has a problem with birth control methods, and I hate condoms. If I am typical of most mature men, I will tell you the fear is all in your ... (read in full...)

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