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My ex-girlfriend is trying to get back to me, am confused!!!

Q.   My ex girlfriend that we dated for four years left me for another guy, four months later she started sending sms to me just for us to get talking.I ignored all, recently she sent this one which got me very confused . She sent this " hello, how ...

A.   19 June 2013: She is definitely trying to get back with you. The real question is, why? Did the other guy dump her and she's running back to you? And, if you do get back with her, is she going to leave you again? I would proceed with extreme caution ... (read in full...)

Why Is His Interest in Me Inconsistent?

Q.   Last summer I met this guy. He had a girlfriend at the time, so I certainly did not put myself out there. Nevertheless, we hung out in a mutual group of friends and I couldn’t help noticing that I did find him attractive. In addition to that, we did ...

A.   14 June 2013: Ok, not to be mean, but have you ever read the book, "He's Just Not that Into You"? I know, I know, that's mean to say, but go get the book. The first two chapters are: 1) He's just not that into you if he's not asking you out; 2) He's just no... (read in full...)

My wife spent over 37 hours talking/texting/sending nude photos and says I'm selfish because I can't move past it!

Q.   My wife and I have been married for 10 years. 6 months ago I caught my wife talk to a guy she meet on a online poker game. She told me they're just friends on a game but when I checked the phone bill and it was more than talking. In a month they ...

A.   11 June 2013: She has to realize that what she did was a huge betrayal of trust. And if it takes you six months or six YEARS to get over it, then that's how long it's going to take. My question to you is, when you first confronted her about it, did she beg you ... (read in full...)

Should I be concerned that my boyfriend is familiar with a website snapshot nude?

Q.   Not sure how to react to finding my fiance using a nude chat twitter feed and need your views please! we've been together 3yrs, living together 6months and have a 3month old baby. He was showing me on his mobile how to use Twitter today. he'd asked ...

A.   7 June 2013: Oh my gosh, tell him to shut that off right now. Contrary to what he said, it isn't just "boy's stuff" as if it was harmless fun, like talking about sports all night with the guys. This is a site where people post naked pictures of themselves and ... (read in full...)

I met my ex after our break up and found his behavior rather strange. Am I just overthinking?

Q.   I broke up with my ex about a year and a half ago, and I hadn't seen him again until last week when we were both staying for the weekend with the same friend. I thought about him for a very long time after our break up and even though I think I'm ...

A.   7 June 2013: If he calls you to ask you out, then he's seriously re-thought the break up and wants to try again. But I doubt it. He hasn't done it in a year and a half, why would he do so now. It's not like he saw you and realized how beautiful you are. He... (read in full...)

Can a relationship progress if you see each other only on weekends?

Q.   We usually get together Friday evening, spend all day Saturday, and then I go home Sunday afternoon. He's a self-employed lawyer and has had a habit of going into the office Sunday afternoons to prepare for court Monday. (He goes to court Monday ...

A.   7 June 2013: Ok, listen up. You've been accommodating HIS needs for an entire year and a half and things are about to CHANGE around here. #1 I don't care if he's been divorced 19 years and you are the first woman that hasn't made him want to "run". And wha... (read in full...)

Am I married to the most selfish man alive?

Q.   Is it just me or is the man I'm married to really selfish? We've been married for almost 2 years and together for 3 years. Last year for Christmas I spent $2000 on him. He bought me $100 worth of junk that to this day I don't use. For his ...

A.   28 March 2013: I have a happy ending to my story! On January 10, 2013 - MY DIVORCE WAS FINAL. Almost throughout my entire 7-year relationship with him I felt un-cherished, un-loved, un-appreciated, and now I'm un-married. I wish him the best, he will always ... (read in full...)

I think it's a mans duty to be the breadwinner!

Q.   I don't only date men who have a good bank account, personality is what matters most to me. I don't depend on men to buy me things, I work and make my own money. BUT is it wrong for me to think that it's a mans duty to look after his women. I want ...

A.   2 July 2010: There is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting the man to be the breadwinner. Set up your boundaries in the very beginning so your future mates - whomever they may be - will know right off of the bat what is expected of them. Don't end up being ... (read in full...)

Emotionally abusive daughter in law

Q.   My daughter in law in emotionally abusing my son. I stepped back from their relationship some time ago as they were having problems. My support or advice was not required by his wife. Her mother and I started to contact each other by text or email ...

A.   29 September 2009: WOW. It sounds like he really is being emotionally abused. May she rot in hell. But I digress. Your question, specifically, is "What can I do to help WITHOUT INTERFERING?" My answer is this: Love your son. That's it. It sounds overly simple ... (read in full...)

I need to better myself, should I stay in this situation or go?

Q.   Should I stay or should I go? I'm a 29 year-old, divorced and a single mother of a toddler. I've lived in the same city for 10 years where I've worked many jobs and received a bachelor's degree. I have close friends with children and a couple fam...

A.   6 August 2009: Working towards a higher education is always the right answer, in any situation. I say stick to it, perservere, no matter what the challenges, and go on to graduate school. You'll be happy that you did it. You're also setting a great example for ... (read in full...)

I just feel everything has been left to me...

Q.   I've been married nearly 25 years. We met when I was very young and I loved him from the first time I saw him. We've had some really bad times. We have a disabled son, we've lost a daughter and a grand-daughter, who my daughter had when she was 16. ...

A.   27 May 2009: My heart goes out to you. You asked for any advice so I'm going to give it. Pray. Pray for guidance, pray for wisdom, pray to understand your husband of 25 years. I don't think leaving is the answer. Yes, everything has been left to you, ... (read in full...)

I think my "soft" approach has backfired and she's gone back to her ex...

Q.   well i have been "dating" this amazing lady since March - we are both in out late 30s. Everything has been perfect. Our emails and texts have been out of this world and we both agreed that we can't get over how much we click. Recently we started ...

A.   27 May 2009: Wow, that's tough one. My honest answer? Tell her that if she only wants to be "friends" then you'll have to continue on without her because you are looking for "the one" not a "friend". Tell her if she doesn't feel about you the same ... (read in full...)

Why is he acting this way?

Q.   Ok so I met this guy a month and a half ago!!!! The weird part is I met him at church with mutual family and friends sitting all together after mass. I noticed he liked me b/c he said hi to me twice!!!!! After a week or so he kept on calling my mo...

A.   27 May 2009:  Don't worry about it. He's peeved that you didn't pick up the phone (why didn't you?) but you texted him and asked him to call and now the ball is in his court. If he likes you, which he does, he'll call. Don't sweat it.... (read in full...)

Useless husband doesn't show any appreciation to me

Q.   Hello Everyone, I do everything for my husband. I get up before him to make him breakfast, I make sure the house is tidy I fold his laundry, I run him baths, I shave him sometimes as he finds it tedious. As well as household duties I also wr...

A.   27 May 2009: Oh honey, stop. What do you get when you give a child everything in the world? A spoiled brat. And what you have on your hands is a grown up spoiled brat. You shave him because he finds it tedious?? Stop, I can't take it. Stop doing anyt... (read in full...)

On line fantasy may become a reality.... But I am married!

Q.   I have been married for five years and we have a child. I recently "ran into" my first love (middle school/highschool) on the internet. We started swapping messages and then we started texting. It started as casual chit chat, then a little flirty, ...

A.   27 May 2009: Kellyxxx hit the nail on the head. STAY AWAY FROM HIM. You shouldn't have even started the flirting and texting but its not too late. STOP IT NOW. END IT NOW. No more communication. Period. You will lose whatever self-respect you now hold. ... (read in full...)

I feel inferior all the time!!

Q.   I feel inferior all the time. I don't know why. I mean, I've always had some issues with my self esteem, but usually I did pretty good and was fairly happy with myself. Of course in high school this was normal, as I wasn't pretty or popular, so I ...

A.   27 May 2009: I suffered from the same feelings, honey, let me tell you! My sister is a talent goddess. She sings beautifully, she plays 4 or 5 instruments, she's funny, she's charismatic, everyone who knows her loves her. When she was around no one paid any ... (read in full...)

What can I do to improve my self-esteem, and to stop caring so much, what other people think of me?

Q.   Hi. I feel a little lost at the moment. All my life, I've tried to fit in with people. I've never been great at it and I'm not sure why. People tell me all the time that I'm a nice guy, and I think that they are right to think that. I never tr...

A.   22 May 2009: You sound very much like me when I was younger. I want to tell you a story of myself that helped me overcome my thoughts of hopelessness. I was in the Airforce when I was 18. Coming from an abused childhood, I didn't think very much of myself at ... (read in full...)

Whenever I try to talk about him coming to the doctors with me for a pregnacy test he just changes the subject to sex! What gives?

Q.   My boyfriend is acting really odd. It all started when I told him I missed two periods and told him about it. For then on all he talks about is sex and not just normal things he talks about how he pees on himself and licks his own cum. Hes nev...

A.   21 May 2009: This is my honest answer. In my opinion, he talks about really weird things when you bring up your missed periods because subconciously he wants you to be so turned off/grossed out that you dump him. Voila! He is then off the hook. I say to ... (read in full...)

I have a crush on a student.

Q.   I just need to vent!!! I'm a male teacher in his late 20's and I have a crush on one of my female students who is about to turn 18. It's not lust.... I just think she and I have many things in common and we seem to have a great connection. She is ...

A.   1 May 2009: If you were meant to be with her, you would have met her in a different setting. You would not have met her while you were her teacher and she were your underage student. It is not meant for you to be with her and for you to even look at her i... (read in full...)

My husband's new hobby is taking over his life leaving no time for me!

Q.   My husband has started becoming obsessed with eating and drinking to the exclusion of everything else (excluding personal hygiene matters). He's spending time with a new group of friends who like to go round the city and eat at all the restaura...

A.   1 May 2009: I had a friend who became a very bitter golf widow and she complained that she would take up a hobby and never be home either and he can see how he feels about that! Until a wise person said, "Why don't you just take up golf as your hobby?". Bam, ... (read in full...)

Do you think this guy deserves a second chance? I am very hurt, I don't need him in my life any more.

Q.   I have been in this realationship for the past 4 years. I have given my all to this guy, I had to change my ways just so we could be happy. He has been everything I ever wanted in a man. Last year I caught him cheating with a girl from outside ...

A.   21 April 2009: You answered your own question, honey. You don't need him in your life anymore. Those days when he was "everything you ever wanted in a man" are gone. You'll be tempted to want to stay with him so everything will go back to the way it was. It w... (read in full...)

Is understanding necessary for forgiveness?

Q.   Is understanding necessary for forgiveness? In order to completely forgive someone for something they have done or said (which may have hurt us), must we understand the person first, how the person thinks, feels, what might have lead the person to ...

A.   21 April 2009: Understanding is not necessary for forgiveness. If we all waited until we "understood where the person was coming from" before we forgave them...there would be a lot of unforgiven people walking around. The reason why people do what they do ... (read in full...)

Am I married to the most selfish man alive?

Q.   Is it just me or is the man I'm married to really selfish? We've been married for almost 2 years and together for 3 years. Last year for Christmas I spent $2000 on him. He bought me $100 worth of junk that to this day I don't use. For his ...

A.   26 December 2008: I think I agree a little bit with all of you. I'm making myself out to the a martyr and I shouldn't. I DO go over the top and expect the same back and I shouldn't. And to comment on the last guy, even if we did fall on hard times, I would've ... (read in full...)

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