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Found a condom in my car, boyfriend cheated, do I need to know who?

Q.   My bf cheated on me in my car! I was at work and later found the condom wrapper. We split for a couple of days and I really want to know who it was. Is it better to know or not know?...

A.   24 May 2010: Just move on ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend lied and cheated, can I do the same?

Q.   Okay so I am new to this asking the world sort of stuff, so before i pose my question i will give you the backstory. I have been dating my girlfriend now for 16 months. 10 months in to this relationship i left for vietnam to spend time with my dad...

A.   23 May 2010: Well what can she do when your away how is she supposed to take care of her need when your gone off to war so i say she did what she had to do its all about how u take it. ... (read in full...)

Strange health condition, can you please give me advice?

Q.   Hello everyone. I woke up this morning and went to the bathroom to urinate and it was going two ways. Then I noticed that there was some kind of scab on the tip of my penis. It was not crusty or anything it was like rubbery. All comments ar...

A.   22 May 2010: Could be anything but I wouldn't worry as long as u haven't been using unprotected sex with anyone but go to that doctor anyway ok. Good Luck!!!... (read in full...)

Major trust issues on both sides, what do I do?

Q.   Hi, I have been in a relationship for two years with my boyfriend. He wants to move in together, and get married. I'm not sure if I want the same. He's very expressive, affectionate, but also, demanding, jealous. He always texts me and asks "whe...

A.   22 May 2010: If u all can't trust each other u don't need to be together.... (read in full...)

I need to get away from my boyfriend!

Q.   My boyfriend (Since October) is becoming increasingly controlling and passive agressive. I am scared of things getting wrose and as i have already started to have anxiety attacks I think it's best to end it. Problem, I don;t think i have the ...

A.   22 May 2010: Get rid of him before he gets rid of u!!! Good Luck... (read in full...)

My father is disgusting

Q.   Recently I accidentally came across my dad's pervert folder. No, this is not normal, this isn't just a few X-rated videos. Let me put this in perspective for you. My dad is the nice guy of the family. He's everyone's favorite relative. I fou...

A.   22 May 2010: Your father is sick minded he needs help ... (read in full...)

Do men think like women?

Q.   Hi! Everyone help me out here I've liked this guy I've gotten so to the point that I've feel in love and we've been friends for about 5 years every since I was twenty we've past the sex thing I've done a lot for this person but when we first started ...

A.   21 May 2010: It may seem like I'm chasing him but I'm not cause after the whole incident he tried to call at times but I just couldn't talk to him at that time cause I was upset at the fact to how are u willing to ask for a relationship when all your things ... (read in full...)

Could a relationship like this work out?

Q.   My boyfriend of 4 yrs broke up with me and left me pregnant with our 2 kids and me being pregnant again. He is now seein a girl that is known from being in the same gang. But she is also a girl that gets with everyone(even having sex) in the ...

A.   21 May 2010: He's not a real man cause if he was he wouldn't have left in the first place u can find someone that will except u and your children. ... (read in full...)

My so called best friend has stolen the guy I like

Q.   There's a big problem. My 'best friend' is making her move on the guy she knew i really liked. First he liked me and there was definetly a connection, then i didnt see him much, but when i did next see him my friend was flirty with him, and he...

A.   21 May 2010: She's not your friend then.... (read in full...)

I feel like I've become a bitch towards men...because the treat me as if I have no feelings, help!

Q.   So, lately I've been having some problems with relationships and stuff like that in general. My first boyfriend cheated on me, and so did my second. My last boyfriend and I recently broke up because we needed a break because things weren't wor...

A.   21 May 2010: Its not your fault u are that way towards men u are just tired of getting hurt we as females know that so I would have a mean streck also if that happened to my wrong but I want u to ask yourself what I'm I doin wrong for the have to cheat like ... (read in full...)

I had unprotected sex a month ago and now I seem to have pimples on my penis, what could this be?

Q.   Hello everyone... I was not being smart and I had sex with a girl without a condom. It's been like months but now I'm starting to see some stuff on my... Penis. It looks like pimples but there red. I have a few little ones around my genita...

A.   21 May 2010: Go get checked because everytime I go to my obgyn I read the posters on the wall but make sure its not genital herpes ok if it hurts when u wash it then that what it is but they will have to do a blood test on u. Good luck ... (read in full...)

Are we doing the right thing by temporarily being apart? Or should I call it quits?

Q.   Sorry if this ends up being long. So, I've been in an ongoing issue for the past month or so. My boyfriend cheated on me(more info on past post). We did discuss it over and over and over again. He felt like a complete dill hole(which he should h...

A.   20 May 2010: Let him go if he cheated on u cause if he loved u u wouldn't have done it find u someone else... (read in full...)

He wants me to do sexual things and I don't want to.

Q.   My boyfriend found out that i have had sexual activities in the past, and he wants me to do sexual things with him. I don't want to, but I feel bad not doing anything because I know he reallyy wants it! I feel horny at times, but when it actually ...

A.   20 May 2010: Don't do anything that u dotn feel confortable about it he feels like that then u should find someone else to date because if he's supposed to be your boyfriend then he should understand what's makes u feel unconfortable if he doesn't know then let ... (read in full...)

Is it weird to be hated by females but loved by males?

Q.   is it weird to be hated by females but loved males? i hang out with males more then i hang out with females and some of my male friends think im weird because of that. females think that im a slut/flirt when they see me hanging out with my group of ...

A.   19 May 2010: Females start to much s**t I know what u mean... (read in full...)

Can you tell if a guy has recently had sex?

Q.   How can you tell if a man has recently had sex? I am in a relationship with someone who sometimes has a very strong odor around the tip of his penis. He also has a very reddish on his testicles sometimes? Are these signs of a man recently having ...

A.   18 May 2010: That's sounds like an infection cause u are not supposed to have a strong odor coming from his penis that a sign of a std be careful ok I know what u talking about.I smelled the same thing on my best friend and I said on no I keep it moving. ... (read in full...)

I want to break up but her birthday is next week!!!! Help!

Q.   Hi there I am wanting to break up with my girlfriend but there is a catch her birthday is a week tomorrow. Part of me feels i should wait till afterwards but another part asks how long after. A week? Two? I just don't know what to do. Any help ...

A.   18 May 2010: I would tell her because u don't want to lead a person on its not good if u get her somthing then break it off with her she's going to feel more hurt I got done like that my ex broke up with me 3 weeks before christmas but I brought him a gift and ... (read in full...)

He seems to care but his actions speak differently..why is he this way?

Q.   Hi, It's been a while since I posted something, but I really need your advice. The relationship I'm in is an utter headache. We're together without the "title". We kiss, we fool around, we belong to each other--meaning we don't date any...

A.   18 May 2010: I had that same I was with this guy for 4 years every since I was 20 he played games the same would never call or pick up his phone on weekend so when I confronted him about it he started called but he would always stay busy and like he would call ... (read in full...)

He put our dating on hold because he has cancer! But he's kept in touch and I wonder if he is still interested?

Q.   I met a man recently and we had three dates but seemed to click on an emotional level very deeply very quickly. Then he found out he had Cancer and told me he just wanted to be friends. I was heartbroken and felt like i was going through a ...

A.   17 May 2010: He's still interested he's just going through a lot right now but don't turn your back on him because he has to take it one day at a time.... (read in full...)

Women, what is this?

Q.   Well this is embarassing. I don't have any idea what this is. Earlier today I went to the bathroom after this I was about to take a shower when all of a sudden all this white discharge came pouring from me down my legs. I don't think I have an ...

A.   16 May 2010: I wouldn't worry if u have no other symptoms it just a female thing ... (read in full...)

Why is this girl texting my guy late at night/early AM if nothing is going on?

Q.   My bf and I have had a few fights over him having friends that are women, specifically because there was one woman that texted him everyday late at night. We'll call her Ann. Everything, was going good after our three fights I dropped the subject ...

A.   16 May 2010: Good luck to u ... (read in full...)

Why is this girl texting my guy late at night/early AM if nothing is going on?

Q.   My bf and I have had a few fights over him having friends that are women, specifically because there was one woman that texted him everyday late at night. We'll call her Ann. Everything, was going good after our three fights I dropped the subject ...

A.   15 May 2010: If this girl is texting your bf late at night then they have somthing going on that he's not telling u u have someone to text your phone I don't care who it is but let him see how it feels but if he doesn't trip then he hiding somthing him an her ... (read in full...)

Should I end a happy loving relationship because... he had sex with 3 girls?

Q.   Okay now I know this may sound ridiculously jerkette and dumb, but...I don't want to be in love. But I am. Now yes I am happy because of it but the other side of my mind snarls at the happiness. With my personality, I just do not feel under control, ...

A.   15 May 2010: I would say end it cause u don't want to catch somthing u can't get rid of and the way that it works to u don't know who has what u can't say weather r not he use protection cause u weren't there but I think that u can find someone who wants u for u ... (read in full...)

How much effort does it take to text?

Q.   I was supposed to go round this guy's house tonight. We talked earlier, and he said he had a friend round and would text me later, when he was free. Only he never did. It's now really late, and I've not heard anything from him, not even a "sorry" ...

A.   15 May 2010: I would say don't communicate with him any more cause u were supposed to go over his house but from my point of view he had company it wasn't males that's why he said hell text be probably did but whenever he did his text was very far apart no ... (read in full...)

Should I simply back off or try to pursue this further?

Q.   I’m having the most difficult time understanding this man right now. It seems that the more we see each other or the closer we seem to get, the more distant he becomes and the less he initiates conversation or even responds to my text and phone ...

A.   14 May 2010: Hi I would say don't call him or text him if he realizes it he'll respond to u if he has any intrest in u I had that same problem would love to tell it to u ... (read in full...)

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