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I can't deal with the poop streaks he leaves on the bed!

Q.   This is a gross question but I really need advice. Sorry to be graphic. Basically Ive been seeing this guy for 3 months and on 3 occasions when he has stayed over at mine he has left poop streaks in my bed. He did it lastnight and I felt sick. He is ...

A.   18 January 2014: Just reading this makes me want to take a shower... Maybe that is something you could both do before walking down to the shops to buy a bulk load of TP?... (read in full...)

Why do girls like jerks?

Q.   Why do girls typically go for the douchebags, and typically grody asshoke frat boys that spend 5 days a week in the gym? To me it seems like the only difference between a jerk asking and any other guy is that the prick, because of his false sense of ...

A.   24 November 2013: Just as not all men are the same - women are not all the same. Women do not "just like jerks" and I am tired of hearing that from men like you. Your problem is for whatever reason women do not like YOU, and for that you put the blame on them by ... (read in full...)

Friend has given me an ultimatium--either be his girlfriend or we no longer talk

Q.   I'm really close to my friend who told me he wanted to be more than friends about a year ago. Initially I said I didn't feel the same way and we tried to carry on as we had been before, talking everyday but I was seeing other people. Since then ...

A.   18 June 2013: So basically this guy is telling you that your friendship and time is worth nothing to him unless he can put his penis in you. It is up to you whether to date him or not, but never let anyone pressure you into something you do not wish to do.... (read in full...)

I am almost completely flat-chested, my self-esteem is in the toilet and it's affecting my relationships.

Q.   Well, the title says it. I am basically the equivalent of a 32AA bra size, and even then my bras tend to slide around because nothing fills them up. I've always been a slim build and then recently put on some weight and I now weigh a comfortable 125 ...

A.   16 June 2013: A bad fitting bra can cause any woman of any breast size to lose confidence. Are you sure that you are actually a 32AA or is that just the smallest you have come accross in-store? There are companies that make smaller sized bras and actuall... (read in full...)

I want a child, my husband doesn't- feeling terrible about this!

Q.   Hello everyone I really hope you can give me some advice. Or perhaps just support. Either way, I really need to vent. I am 36 years old and my husband is 42. We have been together for 15 years. Our relationship is really good and strong and I ...

A.   7 June 2013: PLEASE do not follow the advice to "accidentally" get pregnant. That would be cruel and deceptive. If your husband does not want kids, then he does not want kids. Sure he may have loved your unborn child but that is because he is not a mons... (read in full...)

My parents wont help me pay for university, but they're spending money on things I don't need?

Q.   I'm an 18 year old guy heading off to university next year. My parents and I have had some fallouts in the past, due to our disagreements over how to fund my education. My parents did not save up enough money to pay for my university. However, their ...

A.   16 April 2013: When it comes down to it; they are the parents and you are the child. It is their money because they worked for it and they can spend it how they see fit. I suggest you keep working if you want to go to University, after all it is your education.... (read in full...)

I'm tired of her crying and am losing patience!

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years, and we live together. This has been a gradual process, of me losing my patience. She cries a lot, for many reasons. Not a ridiculous amount, but at least a once, maybe a few times a week. Often, it is ...

A.   16 March 2013: I agree with the other posters. Also, no amount of talking or asking her not to cry is going to make her stop - this is who she is and it is not something you can change. You just have to decide if you can live with it or not.... (read in full...)

In love after 1 week, wanted to move in together after 2 weeks and now its week 3 I'm getting cold feet! Help!

Q.   Hey! I am having a really hard time trying to figure out my feelings, so I thought I would ask for the help of those whose judgement is not clouded by emotions! :^) So it's a simple story, old as the sun. I met a fantastic guy on a dating site (t...

A.   13 March 2013: Now, unfortunately you cannot be in love after a week, only infatuated. I know infatuation can feel all-consuming but it is not love and it fades. You were so wrapped up in the moment that you rushed in head over heals following your heart, and ... (read in full...)

He let my family and I believe for 3 years that his parents were dead!

Q.   I'm not at all sure what to think about this, and would like some opinions. Here it goes: I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's been studying hard and is aiming for his masters, I support him fully and I know he does the same for me. We ...

A.   13 March 2013: I understand that you feel hurt, however, you might not know the whole story. I personally am estranged from my parents (history of abuse) and if anyone asks about them I avoid the subject too. They might as well be dead to me and I do not want... (read in full...)

He unfriended me for no good reason

Q.   Good day to all my lovely agony aunts and uncles. Hope you all have been well. :) Tbh, this is more of a friendship-love problem instead of a relationship one, but it would be nice if I could still get help. Recently, one of my closest friends ...

A.   13 March 2013: Perhaps he likes you more than a friend and seeing your life constantly pop up on the Internet is hurtful to him? Perhaps he just did it because he has a bad sense of humour, nobody here can say. When it comes down to Facebook is not importan... (read in full...)

Haven't heard from girlfriend in 12 hours, am I overreacting or is this logical and legitimate?

Q.   Am I being ridiculous or do I have a reason to be worried and sick over this? My girlfriend called me last night after work and we talked a while. Everything was perfectly normal and great. She told me she was going to take some adderall (I'm not a ...

A.   5 March 2013: Is this a joke? 12 hours is nothing, get a grip otherwise she will run for the hills.... (read in full...)

16 weeks pregnant and my Bf is acting distant. What can I do? He's not affectionate now. It's made me feel lonely.

Q.   I'm 16 weeks pregnant and I'm 28 y/o. 5 years ago I was* married and had 2 miscarriages. I found out that my (now ex husband ) was cheating on me so I filed for divorce. Now, after years of thinking id never be lucky enough to get pregnant aga...

A.   24 February 2013: Are you sure that he even wants the baby? Seems really early in the relationship for such a huge step and commitment.... (read in full...)

I cheated on my boyfriend 6 months ago - what do I do?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for 11 months now, but 5 months into our relationship I kissed another guy. I feel so awful and sad that I've done something so despicable to someone that I love so much and who is so wonderful and caring. I ...

A.   20 February 2013: For me honesty is the best policy. I would want to know. You cannot build a relationship on lies and secrets. Tell him you made a mistake and then take it from there. Otherwise this is going to continue to eat you up inside.... (read in full...)

We've just got back together but he's changed his Facebook to 'Seperated'!

Q.   dear cupid, this may seem a trivial question but is really bugging me. Why would your partner who ive have 2 kids with and have recently in the past 6 mths gotten back in a relationship with change his relationship status on facebook to seperated? ...

A.   6 February 2013: You need to talk to him, stop living your relationship through Facebook rather than actually communicating.... (read in full...)

He re-arranged my furniture because his kids wanted it that way! They were guests, surely they should have left it alone?

Q.   Please help. I have stayed over at boyfriends place before, when his two kids of 9 and 7 were visiting as well. (They live with their mum.) There were no real problems. He had some time off to look after them when they had a couple of days off ...

A.   6 February 2013: Yes he should have asked first. Sounds like he has bratty, spoilt children. Are you sure you want this? I would be annoyed if they starting moving furniture around in MY house, it is rude and your boyfriend is disrespectful for allowing it.... (read in full...)

How do I tell my girlfriend her house is nasty and I wont eat at hers again until the roaches are exterminated?

Q.   Should you tell someone you love they are a slob and should do much better about being clean? I'm lesbian and coincidentally my girlfriend is too. Anyways I've recently just begun visiting her home after 3yrs making arrangements to meet up or visit ...

A.   31 January 2013: Please at least help the dog, fleas are terrible, do not let it suffer any longer. Please help it.... (read in full...)

Does it mean something if a guy strokes your cheek?

Q.   this happend twice once 3months ago I was out for dinner with friends and a friend said: we are somehow like smurfs...and then she said to me that I am tha baby smurf (because I am the youngest) and a male friend was sitting next to me and he was l...

A.   25 November 2012: I think you want it to mean something, but if he is just a "touchy guy" like you say he is - it probably means nothing.... (read in full...)

How can you stop from gagging during oral sex?

Q.   how do you avoid gagging whilst giving blowjobs? i dont know how to "relax" my throat and i always feel lik im going to throw up....

A.   18 October 2012: How do you avoid gagging? Stop putting it down your throat.... (read in full...)

Love, virginity, scared. How do I deal with my fears about losing my virginity with my BF?

Q.   So I'm a virgin a complete utter virgin, but I think I might be too childish or I am thinking too childish about sex. My body is telling me it wants to but my head is saying different. I'm not scared of having sex, I'm just scared of what my ...

A.   26 July 2012: If your boyfriend loved you he would be willing to wait until you are ready to have sex, not keep pressuring you. If you think that you ARE ready for sex with him, you need to be able to TALK to him about it first. Ask him all these question... (read in full...)

Am I overreacting or is he being heartless?

Q.   So I want to try to make this as unbiased as possible, sorry it's so long. My boyfriend and I are searching for an apartment in an expensive city. We are currently long distance, but have not always been. We agreed on a reasonable budget. We are b...

A.   24 July 2012: I am not sure what you want to hear really. You come here asking for opinions and you argue with every single person who answers you. This relationship sounds toxic, you sound immature and the whole situation is quite unclear. Aspergers or not, he ... (read in full...)

Is my boyfriend being selfish?

Q.   This may at first sound like I'm seeking money advice, but bear with me! I need to explain everything in case you get the wrong idea! Boyfriend and I will be soon moving in together. The flat is actually owned by our flat mate who will be sharing ...

A.   5 July 2012: I would consider you pushing the issue to be selfish of you. Why should he go into overdraft because you cannot pay your part yet? Be financially responsible, wait until you get paid next. Also if you cannot afford to pay the rent partway through ... (read in full...)

My fiance's ex wife got to sit with his family at the funeral, and wore her wedding ring that day! Am I right to be hurt by this?

Q.   I don't know what to think of this and would like opinions. My fiance's father died in Jan. Both his ex-wife and I attended the funeral and we were both civil. I was a little hurt by the fact that his ex deposited herself squarely in the front row ...

A.   26 June 2012: It does not seem like this is just about the funeral to me. You constantly feel the need to tell everyone why she is a bad person. Why do you need to compete with her? Do you have low self esteem or do you just want desperately to be better t... (read in full...)

They Like Him, But Won't Let Us Date.. Help!

Q.   Please help me. There is this guy I have fallen for. I am just about 18, and he is 20. He is 2 and a half years older than me almost exactly. My parents love him and think he is a sweetheart. But they won't let me date him. Their reasons: he is too ...

A.   26 June 2012: No matter how much they say they "trust" this boy of yours - they know that he is just a young boy and young boys only want one thing. Perhaps by showing you can respect their decision (knowing they have been through all of this too when they we... (read in full...)

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