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Why has he gone off sex completely?

Q.   Hi, I really dont know where to start, and I know there are so many simular questions posted on here, but if someone has the time to answer I would be very gratefull. I have been with my partner for nearly 7 years, we are planning to get married s...

A.   3 August 2011: wow I honestly thought I was the only women dealing with this issue. I feel the exact same way as you, i have been with my boyfriend for 6 years and its like i have to beg for sex.. i sometimes feel like its me and maybe iam just not attractive to ... (read in full...)

What else can we do to make things better in our relationship?

Q.   hi i have been having problems with my relationship. my guy and i started going out 8 months back and we decided to get married, he has been having financial problems for which my family is not agreeing to get me married to him. the main probl...

A.   16 December 2010: him saying to you that he does not love you but is marrying you because you want him is an answer in itself! you honestly should not even try any more, I know its hard to let go of someone you love so much but if he does not feel the same then why ... (read in full...)

Would I become a wannabe???

Q.   One of my friends in school has a really cute style, but I'm afraid that if I start dressing like her, I will become a wannabe. Do you think it would be a bad thing if I want to dress like her???...

A.   16 December 2010: why dont you tell her that you really like her style maybe she could give you some pointers or maybe you and her could go shopping some time and she could help you choose some stuff... you never know she may be flattered that you even consider ... (read in full...)

Is this what you call being in love?

Q.   there was this guy in my life he asked me out but i siad no but we are still friends on facebook i think he loves me he always walked me home and was so nice to me but never made a move on me because i wouldnt be his girlfriend but he did ring me a ...

A.   16 December 2010: maybe its not love but lust.... I personally think if he was in love with you he would try a little harder or maybe he realized that you want nothing to do with him so he is not making moves! maybe you should give him a chance ... (read in full...)

I feel like any girl is prettier than me!

Q.   well!!! ive been dating my bf for about two years and when we first started dating he seemed to always be talking to girls and i found out because i checked his texts. Ok so theres this one girl he seemed to like a lot because they talked a lot ...

A.   11 December 2010: your not ugly ..he is for treating you this way! find someone who will appreciate you !... (read in full...)

I don't want my love life to be this difficult!

Q.   Here was my situation a few months ago: My girlfriend confessed to cheating on me by saying that she's developed feelings for another guy, who also happens to be an old friend of mine. He knows that i and her are in a relationship but even then sh...

A.   11 December 2010: your to young to be worrying about this .. as much as it hurts you should move on to someone who will treat you alot better then your current girlfriend... (read in full...)

My girlfriend is upset that her ex boyfriend is dating one of her friends!

Q.   My girlfriend found out recently that one of her (former) friends is seeing one of my gf's ex boyfriends, and she was quite upset about it. My gf broke up with this guy about two years ago. My gf claims she dumped him after he tried to pressur...

A.   9 December 2010: honestly I think most women would be bothered by this , i know I would its like stabbing you in the back. even though your gf has moved on with someone else(you) I am sure it still stings cause its her friend not some stranger her supposed friend ... (read in full...)

Help!!! Unhappily married...

Q.   I am a 29 year married female with a 3 year old son. I have been married for almost 8 years and throughout our marriage have had ups and downs. Something has been missing for a long time. I am a full time working professional and throughout my ...

A.   9 December 2010: I believe children could sense when parents are upset so if your in it for your son maybe you should think twice about it. I to stayed in a relationship for nine years and all for my daughter, until I realized it began to affect her, so think of ... (read in full...)

Anal tips needed!

Q.   I am thinking of having anal sex for the first time with my boyfriend. I tried many years ago with another boyfriend and even though lube was used it was painful and felt like I was doing a poo! I wondered if anyone had tips as to what the best ...

A.   9 December 2010: have him start with oral and as he performs oral to gently use his finger first one then two and so on until your a little loosened up and turned on enough so that when he puts his penis in you it wont be as painful or also try anal beads those help ... (read in full...)

I'm afraid of coming out because of the conservative society

Q.   Dear readers I’m a 26 years old male professional and successful and I’m virgin. I want to live my life as many people do, find a girl, get married and have kids. I love girls and they are sexy and attractive but when I think about sex I feel th...

A.   21 August 2010: try a relationship with a man first and maybe if it clicks then you will know what to do! remember they love you and they will except you the way you are!... (read in full...)

At 22, my parents tell me not to worry about having a girlfriend

Q.   Are my parents right about not worrying about finding a girlfriend at 22? I keep saying why don't i have a girlfriend but my parents say I shouldn'worry about it, that I should make most of being single now because I won't get that chance when I'm...

A.   21 August 2010: enjoy your life whats the rush .. I regret not being single in my early twenties thats when you will have the best times of your life.. she will come to you when you least expect it .. dont go looking for it let it look for you!... (read in full...)

Attracted to his personality but not his appearance

Q.   I'm in hard situation I've been best friends with this guy for a long while now and he's made attempts in the past to ask me out but I denied him. But I've developed feeling for him. So I told him this in march. He makes me feel happy. He's the best ...

A.   21 August 2010: well yo do need to be physically attracted to someone to get into a relationship .. but if he makes you happy why does it matter so much? remember in time looks fade and eventually you too will be looking at something in the mirror you dont like. ... (read in full...)

After 5 years together shouldn't he know if he wants to marry me or not?

Q.   I have been dating my current boyfriend for 5 years. We are still relatively young (23), but I feel like it should be okay for us to talk about getting married some day. I don't mean getting married next year or even the next. I just want to talk ...

A.   21 August 2010: I think since marriage is a thing women seek more then men it takes them a little longer to realize it ! sad but i think its true ..i have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and I am in the same boat as you. just stop talking about it and eventually ... (read in full...)

I feel left behind and that a guy will never fancy me!

Q.   I will soon be turning 16 and I have never been kissed. I feel embarrassed about this because most girls I know have been going out with guys for ages. I feel as if I'm being left behind and that a guy will never fancy me. I'm losing all my ...

A.   21 August 2010: are you most girls?? everyone is different and everyone expierences things at different times in there lives... be patient dont rush to be with a boy.... (read in full...)

I want out but can't seem to be able to do it!

Q.   I have always been a sheltered girl. My parents made sure i was highly protected, and would never let me do certain things when i was growing up. Because of this, i started to become anxious whenver going out or doing new things. My brothers also ...

A.   21 August 2010: its a choice to be happy or unhappy ! if you choose to stay at home your going to be unhappy... and why would you even want to go back home if your relationship did not work? if you do decide to move with your boyfriend, work and put some money away ... (read in full...)

Should I hook up with my cousin?

Q.   Hi, I have a cousin problem and it involves me a 17 year old having sex and messing around with my 14 year old cousin. We have spend a lot of time together and have fun together, when we start fighting for fun he accidentaly touches my boobs and ...

A.   11 August 2010: there are so many guys "not related to you" THAT WOULD BE INTERESTED..... (read in full...)

My Boyfriend is Bi-sexual and has met a "Couple" that he meets regularly for sex

Q.   I found out that my long term ( 6 years) boyfriend is a sex addict, that he has been frequenting "cruise areas for sex" and "glory holes" I found out he has made "friends" with a couple close to where he lives for "sex" that he met while cruising ...

A.   30 July 2010: wooooowo .. Iam sorry you had to find this out I to found out not to long ago that my current boyfriend recieved oral from a male when he was a teenager , and it devastated me that he never told me this, i had to find out from his cousin, well this ... (read in full...)

I need help telling my cousin I like her!

Q.   I have this problem I like my cousin more than family and I have for two years now, I think she likes me to but I don't know for sure I know what your thinking that's incest but you see I don't consider all of my family as family I care about but if ...

A.   30 July 2010: there are so many women in this world why would you even consider your cousin?? honestly its kind of gross but if you feel the need to tell her then go for it but dont be hurt if she to thinks this is strange ... (read in full...)

We have been together for over 7 years.. Now she wants to break up with me...

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend now for over 7 years. We met when she was 15 turning 16 and I just turned 19. At first we became friends because of common interests and where we were from. When she turned 18 she moved out of her parents house and so ...

A.   29 July 2010: move on .. as much as it hurts, you need to move on, maybe her love really did die and she is wanting to expierence new people and things, its very sad but dont you want her to be happy even if it is not with you??????... (read in full...)

I'm considering first-time sex with my boyfriend, how can I make sure it isn't disappointing?

Q.   I'm in a serious relationship with a man I love. And we are intimate, but both virgins for the time. I have a few questions. Here goes: One: I know it bothers my boyfriend that I don't come a lot, and haven't had an orgasm. We had a brief discussi...

A.   29 July 2010: well what turns you on? whatever does let him know so that he could do these things to you so that you could both pleasure each other before you go all the way. you need to be aroused in order to have the best orgasm . be open and honest tell him ... (read in full...)

The other women, cheater, extra marital affairs

Q.   I need to know if I should talk to his wife? I had an affair with a man that I knew was married. He has four beautiful kids. We only saw each other while we were in Germany together over a 5 month period. He told me his wife was divorcing him ...

A.   29 July 2010: wouldnt you want to know?... (read in full...)

He said " I love you" so soon! Does he really love me?

Q.   Before I ask this question I would just like to say - YES , I do really how stupid it is...but events leading up to this has caused me some serious paranoia. I need to sort my head out. I understand this is ridiculous but seriously just go with it, ...

A.   29 July 2010: if he said it to you why would you question it, if he did not love you he wouldnt say it! go with it but if you dont share the feeling you dont need to say it to him. sometimes we fall in love immediately , and i know alot of people who only dated a ... (read in full...)

How can I increase the intimacy in my relationship slowly?

Q.   I recently got a boyfriend and he stayed over at my house. We were lying on the bed fully clothed and he took my hand and slowly guided it to his penis and i rubbed. he groaned nd it felt immense to feel him. I want to do more but start clothed.. ...

A.   29 July 2010: its up to you if you dont want to rush dont rush, take it slow it makes it better!... (read in full...)

Why is my ex ignoring me and hanging around with lots of other guys?

Q.   Hi ok im actually at the point where i have been having an emotional breakdown almost every day and dont know what to do anymore. I broke up with my girlfriend 3 weeks ago and I have been left feeling very confused and hurt and need some advice...

A.   28 July 2010: oh sweetheart I am so sorry to hear this :( it saddens me to hear how someone could treat there partner so poorly. It seems as though the relationship died a long time ago. she abused you, she manipulated you and the reason she kept coming back was ... (read in full...)

He's married, but I love him! How can I handle this unrequited love?

Q.   Dear Agony Aunt I'm a single 24 year old living in the UK. My problem is that I think I'm in love with someone who is married and can never love me back. He is 29 and married with a kid. We used to work together and we got on brilliantly,...

A.   28 July 2010: well, maybe he was just being nice to you like he said , you need to appreciate how honest he was and straighforward, it seems as though you were the one givning your self false hopes. and why do you say you cant have a relationship because of your ... (read in full...)

How can I tell if shes really moved on from her ex?

Q.   I'm only 15 and you may think that this is only something trivial but it's tearing me apart! This girl I know I really fancy and I have for quite a time now. She has recently (2/3 weeks) split with her boyfriend who cheated on her (twice) and she is ...

A.   28 July 2010: does she constantly talk about him? if so then she is not over him.. there really isnt a way to know if she is over him.. alot of us are good at hiding our true feelings, i am not saying she is doing this but there is not really a real way to find ... (read in full...)

I love my fiance and her children but I just don't think this is going to work!

Q.   Dear Cupid, This will probably be a long letter so forgive me in advance. My fiance and I have been together for 11 years. (with a 6 month breakup some 7-8 years ago) and have 2 children together that I love more than anything. For quite...

A.   26 July 2010: well it seems as if though she has no consideration for how much your struggling. I to am in the same situaiton, but with no kids my boyfriend is just lazy:( dont let her step all over you it seems as though you are a very hard working man. talk to ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with my crazy neighbor?

Q.   why is he (my neighbour) a complete psycho ok guys heres my story . i have a nasty neighbour who shouts abuse and like intimidates , bad mouths me and my family . it all began before i was born . basically he was rascist towards are ind...

A.   26 July 2010: call the police !!... (read in full...)

Jealous boyfriend...

Q.   im in a weird position right now my ex still loves me, and is telling my boyfriend to break up with me cause he is dead jealous... he said if he doesent his gonna hurt my boyfriend.. and me and my boyfriend LOVE eatch other.. i dnt know what to do.. ...

A.   26 July 2010: well first off your to young to worry about these things your ex is just saying that cause he wants you back and must be deeply in love with you in order for him to tell your current boyfriend these threats.. does not mean he will do them. dont ... (read in full...)

Can a person really continue on in a healthy relationship after they've cheated on someone?

Q.   Can a person really continue on in a healthy relationship after they've cheated on someone? Is it really possible to cheat on someone while in a long-term relationship, and later become engaged to them and marry, and have a healthy marriage...

A.   26 July 2010: well we all make mistakes and we seem to hurt the ones we love most. try forgiving yourself for your mistake and never do it again, and also dont ever think that she will do it to you cause you did it to her, thats just your guilty concious playing ... (read in full...)

23 and always single...

Q.   Well, I have a problem. I am always the single girl. I've always been the single girl, always. Save for a few dates, I've never had luck with men. And I don't see that changing. Truth is, I've got an odd look to me that you either love or hate. I ...

A.   26 July 2010: your still so young! in time you will find the right guy dont rush, I know it sometimes feels lonely but soon you will find someone who will appreciate you and your unique look :)... (read in full...)

Losing control...

Q.   Right okay I think my friend needs help! She fancies her teacher (who is about 32) and she is only 15 :S don't get me wrong, he's a really nice guy but she thinks it's turning into love! It's just the way he talks to her and his sence of humour and ...

A.   16 July 2010: well she is to young to know what love is especially when she is falling for a man that she will obviously never have.. she still a baby and this man probably is just acting this way cause he is her teacher and its his job to look out for her or he ... (read in full...)

Dr. sent me home to rest I was very ill but b/f went out and left me alone and didn't even check up on me!

Q.   I just want some opinions on whether I have the right to be annoyed with my boyfriend or whether I am being a typical girl and overreacting. Ive been with my partner for almost 3 years and we live together and are both in our mid twenties. The ot...

A.   16 July 2010: personally i would be very angry and hurt.. your not being a drama queen sweetheart.. if it was the other way around I am sure you would be by his side.. he is an inconsiderate jerk and what the heck is he doing going to the movies with his female ... (read in full...)

Do I love him or am I just settling?

Q.   So here is my story, I am 26 years old and my boyfriend of two years is 38. I am well educated, as are all my friends. My boyfriend , however, is a complete opposite. He never went to college and he has a really bad job that doesn't pay anything. ...

A.   16 July 2010: well it somewhat seems like your not sure of what you want or your friends are just making you feel that way... dont make decisions on your love life based on what anyone else tells you, you need to decide on your own. and life is not always about ... (read in full...)

I think my b/f may have slept with my sister -- should I confront him?

Q.   I've been dating a guy for just under 3 years and, up until now, we've been so happy. About a fortnight ago, I went away for four days to celebrate the wedding of a family friend in Paris. My boyfriend stayed at home. I phoned him every evenin...

A.   10 July 2010: i think you should confront him and her both! go to your parents house and confront her.. dont let this go , dont lie to yourself if you feel that he did this behind your back. even if he did not have sex with her , making out with someone is still ... (read in full...)

Is it worth trying and holding on to her?

Q.   I'm 20 and i'v been out of school for about a year and 1/2 and i dont really feel like going back yet, but i have a girlfriend that i really care for that is going to collage soon and i dont see her much as is but once she starts school im afrade ...

A.   10 July 2010: i agree with everyone else it seems like she is over this relationship. sorry, I personally know how hard it is to get over the being alone part.. but in time you will heal and find someone who is worth all your love. remember this world is full of ... (read in full...)

Never in the mood for sex anymore!

Q.   I have been married for eight years.I have three kids.For the last two years I don't feel like having sex often.My husband is a wonderful man and he means the world to me.It makes me feel bad when he tells me why I'm not in the mood like I was ...

A.   10 July 2010: no matter how tired you are or whatever.. you need to please your man and make him happy or he will find it somewheres else.. ... (read in full...)

Is he secretly holding a grudge, or is he really over what I've done?

Q.   I have been with my partner for three years now, and in that time he has been perfect. He is loyal, respectful, loving and kind. However, I myself havent not been an angel. Although I didn't do anything obviously wrong I have sometimes crossed the ...

A.   10 July 2010: just because your forgiven more then once does not mean you can keep hurting this guy that you say you love:( in the end you will end up alone because we could only put up with so much !!!... (read in full...)

Should I confront him about the Viagra?

Q.   Hi, I am a 20 year old female. I've been with my boyfriend for about 10 months now. He is absolutely wonderful and I love him. Our sex life also has been good but there were couple times he had some trouble performing. A few days ago, I found pre...

A.   10 July 2010: just sit with him privately and bring it up in a non threatining manner.. you need to be able to talk about anything in a relationship and to me this is minor.... (read in full...)

How can I get him to confess how he feels about me?

Q.   please do me a favor. i am studying in a university and that's where we met. if we weren't in the same group i don't think he would notice me and neither do i. first of all i think i might have a crush on him. for real, i might just looking for a...

A.   3 July 2010: it sounds like he is interested.. why dont you just go up to him and say hello and tell him that since you were unable to accompany him for dinner that you would like to make it up to him and treat him to coffee, dinner, lunch , whatever... take it ... (read in full...)

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