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I know sex isn't everything, but it is something!

Q.   I fear I may have been a massive bitch to a boy - so excuse the length, but I need to be honest here if I am to get honest answers back. There was this guy I met at uni about 4 months ago. He was really nice and sweet and we really got on. W...

A.   18 February 2009: Sex is not everything, but almost everything! I think you should talk to him and tell him how you feel. Perhaps he's nervous in the bedroom, or simply dumb about these things and you need to teach him. Talk it out. If he is not really willing to ... (read in full...)

Why do I always orgasm so quickly?

Q.   Hi, I'm 27 years old, and when me and my girlfriend are having sex I sometimes have orgasm too quickly, sometimes it doesn't even take a minute. I don't really mind this that much, and even my GF says it is ok, but it makes me feel that I am not ...

A.   9 November 2008: Try thinking of other things like doing math in your head. i.e. count binary, 2, 4, 8, 16 , 32, 64, 128, 256, 512, 1024, 2048, 4096, 8192, .... Ii will keep your mind off the orgasm, and will enable you to last loger. Also, wait five minutes ... (read in full...)

Why do I feel so tired all of the time? Maybe the emotional problems in the past two years?

Q.   I often feel very tired all the time I am normally a happy person even though I have been hurt so many times in the past I try to be positive and smile through the pain.. I am just wondering why I could be feeling really tired and drained all of t...

A.   28 September 2008: I would go see a doctor and get a checkup. You could be suffering from mononulceosis (see link; http://bodyandhealth.canada.com/channel_condition_info_details.asp?disease_id=75&channel_id=1020&relation_id=10884)... (read in full...)

I''m in menopause and lost interest in sex but I'm upset my partner is resorting to porn!

Q.   i am 50 years old going through menopause have gone completly off sex my partner for 2 years has informed me during a heated discussion that he is paying for porn channels of sky every month and is masturbating to it i feel sick and disgusted with ...

A.   26 June 2008: He has had no sex for 2 years, and you are upset that he started looking at porn? He's a Saint not to have had an affair by now. You are wrong on this one. If you want him to stop looking at porn then you should try to be more intimate with him. He ... (read in full...)

Since I've started seeing this other guy, my ex has been back, asking me out again....

Q.   im hoping some people can offer some advice. my ex broke up with me 5months ago after 6years, he met someone new a few wks later. i was devastated but he didnt want to know. i then met a guy for drinks, he heard and since then has been back ...

A.   26 June 2008: Why did you guys break up after 6 years? Who broke up? You or him? It sounds strange that he only wants to be with you after you start seeing other guys. Is he still seeing the new girl he started seeing? Give each other some time (6 months) to ... (read in full...)

I don't understand what he wants....help!!

Q.   I made out with a friend of mine and now I don't know where we stand. To give a clear picture, I am a 29-year-old woman who mostly has male friends. I always prefer men's company and my four best friends are all men. I am actually going on holiday ...

A.   23 June 2008: I agree with Pepper27. This guys sounds like he is very much in love with you. The trouble is that I don't think you feel the same way about him, or at least are not ready to enter into a serious relationship like he has intentions for. You may be ... (read in full...)

Did I blow it by texting his ex-wife? Advice needed!

Q.   I have put this on another site but the replies were useless Apart from one and I thought id post it here to get some genuine replies! I met this guy online about 8 weeks ago... and everything was going fine... i have met his children and we ...

A.   19 June 2008: My opinion is that he probably still has feelings for his ex, and was actually trying to make her jealous by bringing you there. However, he didn't get the right reaction from his ex that he was expecting and was basically sulking about it and ... (read in full...)

Is it easy to give away a person you love?

Q.   is it easy to give a person whom you are inlove with to someone else? My boyfriend and I are inlove each other..but b/c of some peronal reasons I m going to marry someone else. but my boyfriend say "ok" . and I was shocked. is it easy to l...

A.   14 June 2008: What are your personal reasons?... (read in full...)

He came home from working abroad and I think he is not as interested?

Q.   I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend who's moved interstate for work. He told me he's coming home in a few weeks, but has been booked out by his friends and family and wont have time to see me. I'm not upset that he's spending ...

A.   31 May 2008: How long have you two been "seeing" each other? If its been a short time, it may be he is just playing mind games. If its been a while, then, I would agree with you. Seems like he has lost interest in you. The first person I would want to see is my ... (read in full...)

She refuses to give me a chance, but she's all I can think about!

Q.   I love her more than anything in the world and yet she refuses to give me a chance. I keep asking her to give me a chance but she keeps saying she's not attracted to me. But she's all I can think about and she is driving me crazy, why can't she ...

A.   17 May 2008: Unfortunately, biology has a lot to do with it, and it seems like you are not sending the right signals to her. Simple as that. Move on, you don't want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way about you as you do them.... (read in full...)

Am I expecting to much after a physical and emotional affair?

Q.   My fiancee cheated on me with a co-worker in September '07. The night it happened her, the person with whom she cheated with and some of their mutual friends from work went out drinking. To make a long story short, after that night she started ...

A.   9 January 2008: To be frank, this girl is not for you. She has both physically and emotionally cheated on you, and will continue to do so. If she is already wandering off with other men before you are married, imagine what she will do after. Save yourself the agony ... (read in full...)

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