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After using a spermicide is it safe to have oral sex?

Q.   This may be a dumb question but it's important to us, so here goes. Me and my boyfriend use Encare spermicide inserts along with condoms. We're wondering is it safe for him to do oral on me after having sex, or would it be harmful if the chemicals ...

A.   3 March 2009: no me and my girl had the same prblem and then went to the doctor do not i reapeat DONOT have oral after using a spermicide unless u rinse of the penis with soap and hot water then do watever u want... (read in full...)

Too tight for sex!

Q.   I'm 18 and the other night I was going to have sex with my boyfriend. We were foreplaying before and he got two fingers in me then once we were actually going to have sex he couldn't get in me. It would be my first time and I told me best friend ...

A.   3 March 2009: ok well wat u need to do is relax and massage urself and ull loosin up ull eventually get it in the mean time go get a dildo and push it in slowly and keep doing that it will eventually loosin up good luck and use a condom. ... (read in full...)

Is it too early to propose to her... I'm 14!

Q.   I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months now and I'm a sophmore in high school and she is a junior and she's going to enlist in the national gaurd and me in the navy but I really really love her and I was thinking about proposing march 31 her ...

A.   3 March 2009: idk why it says that im actually 16... (read in full...)

Maybe his equipment is faulty... or does he just not know how to use it properly?

Q.   Regarding the issue of penis size, people always say that it's not the size that matters but how you use it. How else can a guy use it aside from plain old boring penetration? What are some techniques other than changing positions? I ...

A.   3 March 2009: have him go in diff. positions or once in tell him to explore with it and rub around that should help also push deeper thrust faster or slower explore have fun with it... (read in full...)

I truly want to be with him but I'm not sure if I'm willing to be put on the backburner again.

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for a couple months and things started off great, he's a real sweetheart and a total gentleman. But since he's started school again (he just got into med school btw), he doesn't seem to have time for anything let ...

A.   3 March 2009: wow ur in a bit of a prediciment so why dnt u do wat u feel if u love him ull try and make it work or find someone else the only two things u can do... (read in full...)

My jealousy is killing me!

Q.   I've been with my girlfriend for a month and a half now. And everything is going so well. She has a past with other boys and it bothered me a lot, but I got over it. But yesterday, I was on her Hyves (other sort of Facebook/Myspace) and I went to ...

A.   3 March 2009: Of course you are or you wouldn't be with her or maybe she's a slut I don't know, but either way she's with you not them so forget about it. All guys are jealous!... (read in full...)

I found my own sister in bed with my boyfriend!!!

Q.   My sister is having an afair with my boyfriend! I was going to his apartment and saw her car. When I got upstairs (I have a key) they were in bed. What should I do? I hate my sister now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

A.   3 March 2009: dump the fucker and kick your sisters ass and never talk to her again and tell anyone she ever dates wat happend ... (read in full...)

Licking a penis!

Q.   Ok, So I'm 15 and a virgin. What can you get from licking a penis? It's a really stupid question I know.. but I want to know. Is it dangerous? Can you get an STD?...

A.   3 March 2009: no its not dangerous my gf gives me it all the time but if there is any chance of getting and std have him go to the doctor before u do anything have fun be safe and use a condom. -madly in love... (read in full...)

Does masturbating stunt the growth of your penis?

Q.   Oh man!! I feel so embarrassed asking this question... I feel so sorry for myself.. but does masturbating stunt the growth of your penis?? I'm 14 and 5.5 inch when it's hard and have been really self conscious lately about my size, will it ever ...

A.   3 March 2009: Size doesn't matter, don't worry, no it doesn't stunt the growth but god damn it feels good!... (read in full...)

Even though we live together, he's still married. Will he ever be free?

Q.   Okay, I have an issue and I hope that someone can give me a little insight on how to handle the situation without being judgmental, brutal, and malicious. I dated a young man when I was fifteen for almost 2 years so there is a little history. ...

A.   3 March 2009: just sit down and have a serious talk about you two it will be fine hes with you and it seems his wife is occupide at the moment so nothing will happen good luck. -madly in love... (read in full...)

Is porn addictive?

Q.   Ok well me and my boyfriend have been together for 8 months but have known each other for 7 years. Just recently we moved into our own place. I was unpacking one day wen his phone vibrated so I took a look to see who it was. Just a message. I had ...

A.   3 March 2009: it is perfectly normal i have been with my gf for 6 months and i watch porn alot it perfectly normal. If he does this it prbly means he masturbates and thats what he uses it for dnt be upset it wont turn into anything else and about making one idk ... (read in full...)

Do guys find genital piercings on women sexy and a turn on?

Q.   I want to get my clitoris hood and inner labia pierced. I would like to know from the guys if they find genital piercings sexy and a turn on. Of course, I'm doing it for me but would like to know what guys think of them. P.S. I'm single so I have...

A.   3 March 2009: yes they can be very sexy but know it will be harder to have sex and will most likely be painfull for awhile ... (read in full...)

I'm 14 have a baby, want another. Should I?

Q.   I'm 14 and when I was 13 I wanted a baby really badly. Well I got one and my daughter is just the love of my life. The father left but still helps fnancially, other than that I am supporting the baby fully on my own, so don't even start with any of ...

A.   3 March 2009: yes your right wanting i kid is not stupid not at all as a matter of fact i want a kid very much but can not support a family yet so im going to wait but i take great joy in hearing you will wait good choice... (read in full...)

The thought of a girl giving me oral sex aroused me??

Q.   First off, I have a wonderful boyfriend, and I love having sex with him. When I've masturbated, I haven't needed to think of anything sexual or look at anything sexual, because it seemed like everything I thought of (involving a guy or girl) turned ...

A.   3 March 2009: ok well this is normal many girls will fantisize about other girls its fine u shouldnt feel any different but this may be a sine that u are bi just think about that have fun -madly in love... (read in full...)

I need answers... To shave or not to shave, that is the question!!!

Q.   Hi!!! I have a little doubt, its about pubic hair, I'm 15 years old and my vaginal area is really really hairy, would that be a turn off for guys??? Should I shave it, trim it, or leave it like it is? PD: I'm blonde but my pubic hair is dark bro...

A.   3 March 2009: its perfectly normal and well for some guys its a turn on and some its not its all personal preferance so if u are planning on having sex just ask him it will be fine its not acquard for us guy my gf asked me and i tld her to stay how she is and it ... (read in full...)

I get the feeling he wants to take our relationship to the next level.

Q.   I have been in a relationship for about 6 to 7 months but I feel he wants to have more then just love... meaning he wants to have sex with me. Should I and if I do decide what are the best condoms to use? ...

A.   2 March 2009: if u really have to ask if ur ready to have sex your not im only 16 and im having sex with my gf of 6 months and we use durex ultra sensitive and trojan extra ribbed these are both good have fun be safe. -mad... (read in full...)

Should I continue on these pills?

Q.   I need some advice. I have been dating a guy for some time now. He's 38 and I am 20. I am also a teacher and I am ready to have a child. The problem is I have problems ovulating and my doctor puts me on fertility drugs - which I am taking now. H...

A.   2 March 2009: sperm bank thats all i can say or tell ur partner how u feel -madly in love... (read in full...)

She's found someone else but is it just a rebound relationship?

Q.   I broke up with my girlfriend about a year ago. We'd been a couple for 2 years. The problem is my parents doesn't agree if i dated her. I'm 24 and she is 22 now. So when we broke up I told her that I can't be with her any more. But the truth is I ...

A.   2 March 2009: dude yo'uer 24, they can't tell you what to do! You're legally able to tell them to mind their own business and they cant do anything about it! Date her if you love her, tell your parents and they can't do anything about it.... (read in full...)

I need answers... To shave or not to shave, that is the question!!!

Q.   Hi!!! I have a little doubt, its about pubic hair, I'm 15 years old and my vaginal area is really really hairy, would that be a turn off for guys??? Should I shave it, trim it, or leave it like it is? PD: I'm blonde but my pubic hair is dark bro...

A.   2 March 2009: hey this is no problem my gf is 15 and she is a little bushy but its never turned me off im not sure how other guys are though but im perfectly fine with it but if u dnt want to shave then just trim it guys get hair too and i shave maby 1 every 3 ... (read in full...)

Help - lesbian sex advice needed!

Q.   Hi, I've been with my girlfriend for about a month now. I'm 16, as is she. However, this is my first same sex relationship but it is not hers. She's a very confident lesbian, while I'm quite a bit more timid and only just come out as bisexual...

A.   2 March 2009: ok well im a dude but my sister is a lesbian and she just recently got a gf and well just do what you feel theres no right or rong way good luck. -madly in love... (read in full...)

His texts suggests that he likes me but I'm not sure... any advice?

Q.   I would like to ask for advice if thats okay! I like this guy... he is very shy, well, not shy as such... just quiet... and so does not talk to anyone particularly a lot (except to the lads when they're goofing about). We talk more in text than we ...

A.   2 March 2009: so go up to him and tell him how you feel and maby hell feel the same way good luck. -madly in love... (read in full...)

I'm 14 have a baby, want another. Should I?

Q.   I'm 14 and when I was 13 I wanted a baby really badly. Well I got one and my daughter is just the love of my life. The father left but still helps fnancially, other than that I am supporting the baby fully on my own, so don't even start with any of ...

A.   2 March 2009: no your still young and you have time let it sit for awhile and if u still feel that way in a while then do it but wait its the best thing to do. -madly in love... (read in full...)

The test came back... POSITIVE!!!!

Q.   I had sex and I missed my period and when I took a test it came came back positive! I don't even love this guy. Should I get an abortion? Should I tell my parents? What should I do?...

A.   2 March 2009: well first of all stop having sex with guys u dnt love and about the abortion its your choice jst know your stoping a chance for ur baby to grow up and have a life and ur killing and innocent child tell your parents right now thats all you can do ... (read in full...)

I sort of went through her stuff and found something I didn't want to see! HELP!

Q.   My future in this relationship depends on what you guys think. Please read it and give some wise advice. I don't want to make the wrong decisions, or tell her things I don't mean. Please read as much as you can, and let me know! I have a problem w...

A.   2 March 2009: ok well u need to sit her down and tell her this stuff u cnt hide it if she loves you she will understand but u also need to tell her you went thru her stuff and found those things and that with best wishes she get rid of them because they are her ... (read in full...)

He made up a story that a was seen cheating. Why would he do that?

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been arguing for the last couple of months over the same things over and over. After finally talking everything over and analyzing our relationship we have decided to stay together and work things out. We had a long ...

A.   2 March 2009: He loves you and he's scared of losing you and this was just his way of making sure you loved him enough that you would not do that to him, ya it's kinda stupid but be realistic, most of us guys are and a lot of us get really jealous so just for ... (read in full...)

Has anyone ever had sex in a public restroom?

Q.   Has anyone ever had sex in a public restroom? How did it happen? It seems like fun. How was it? Any tips for doing it? What positions work the best? ...

A.   2 March 2009: All I can say is you have problems! I don't want to be offensive but sex is a romantic thing and should be done without having to worry about if someone is going to walk in or you getting caught but I have some friends that have and every single one ... (read in full...)

Did I pop my cherry???

Q.   My boyfriend and I are very much in love, believe it or not. We had sex and it didn't really hurt... and there was no blood. Just a tight burning sensation. Someone told me I probably already popped my cherry via tampons or masturbation. I mean t...

A.   2 March 2009: Yes best chance is you did! There's not going to be that much blood so best chance is you already popped it.... (read in full...)

Vaginal pimples normal?

Q. don't know why, but i've been getting pimples in my vaginal area and i havent had sex or anything! i don't know what to do! is it normal? is there anyway to get rid of it? with house hold appliances cause i dont want my mom to find out. ...

A.   2 March 2009: Hey well I'm a guy and well this is happend to me to they get hard and they hurt well, I got rid of mine by just squeezing them and getting all of the puss and blood out it works and that's all you have to do.... (read in full...)

Is he just scared ofhow he feels?

Q.   I'm a recently seperated woman with children, I met a guy nearly 2 years ago at work, he is the same age single with no children, we hit it off immediatly, we started texting, in the time we have been texting, we text every day and have never missed ...

A.   1 March 2009: hes just scared of being hurt again he prbly does love you thats why your still togeather but if it continues talk about therapy hope this helped -madly in love ... (read in full...)

Why does being touched around the waist feel so good?

Q.   Why is being touched around the waist by the opposite sex feels so good? Of course, there's more of a spark when its somebody I like, but I noticed whenever there's flirting, being touched on the waist just makes me feel attractive and alive. So why...

A.   1 March 2009: its not stupid it happens to everyone you just feel wanted when someone u like touches you in more then a friendly way its a sexuall gesture everyone likes it have fun -madly in love... (read in full...)

I need tips to spice up foreplay!

Q.   Hi cupids... Well in short, I'm after your best foreplay ideas, tips and tricks, other than kissing or cuddling... Not that cuddling or kissing are bad, but it's all I seem to be able to think of, and it can sometimes feel a bit repetitive,...

A.   1 March 2009: lubricant condom wip cream chocklate handcuffs should make for an interesting eveing have fun be safe ... (read in full...)

Is age always a factor and can it be overcome?

Q.   I'm 33 years old, my ex is 23. We were together for four years and recently she did a Jekyll and Hyde type switcharoo on me at the start of her senior year (5th year; she took a sabbatical) In October she asked for space and then disappeared. I ...

A.   1 March 2009: you just have to get over it at least she broke up with you instead of cheating on you you should be happy about that sry dude ur out of luck move on... (read in full...)

I lied and told him I'm not a virgin to seem more experienced.

Q.   Hey! at the minute, i feel like ive gotten myself into a right prediciment! ive recently met up with this amazin guy, who i actually like rather a lot! but he doesnt know im a virgin, the thing is, im kind of embarrassed about being a virgin and he ...

A.   1 March 2009: wow ok well my gf asked me how expierienced i was and i tld her the truth you dnt need to be imbarrassed so just go to him and tell him the truth but your willing to try and see what happens ps. im not a virgin anymore;] ... (read in full...)

Can't get off from handjobs or blowjobs

Q.   I have a problem. Every time that my girlfriend gives me handjobs or blow jobs I cant get off. I dont know whats wrong with me but it's starting to suck because she thinks theres something wrong with her. Can someone please help me?!...

A.   1 March 2009: dude theres noting wrong i dnt get off with hand jobs or blow jobs either its perfectly normal but wat u can do is try different things tell her to use her tounge more when giving a blow job and then also tell her to grip tighter and different ... (read in full...)

Why do guys go hot and cold??

Q.   It is THE most annoying thing in the world! Let me explain my scenario and see what you all think: This guy and I have known each other for about five years (he was a prof in my college major so I saw him often), we've been good friends for abou...

A.   1 March 2009: hey well im not trying to make you mad but during holidays he might be cheating he might have a wife that goes to see family during the holidays and then he scoped out younger girls alot of guys are like that so my suggestion find someone your age ... (read in full...)

Painful sex and possibly pregnant.

Q.   i may be pregnant i took like 20 test also this was my first time having sex what do i do oh ya it was so painful having sex...

A.   1 March 2009: yes that is normally how it is for your first time it will be painfull VERY painfull and for the next couple of times so if you think you might be preagnent have a friend or if u dnt mind a parent take you to the hospital and get checked thats all ... (read in full...)

How far does the penis have to be in, in order to get pregnant?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend had unprotected sex a couple of hours ago, (the worst idea we've ever had) but when he comed he didn't fully pull out but he wasn't anywhere near totally in, it was as he pulled out he did. What are the chances of becoming ...

A.   1 March 2009: im sry this was a really bad idea truthfully a man with a penis 12 inches long has just as much chance of getting you preagnent as a man with a penis 1 inch long so i hope your one of the lucky ones but your chances of not getting preagnent are ... (read in full...)

I like this guy but am inexperienced! Help!

Q.   I have never had a realationship with a lad and my friends arn't that experinced. . but i really like this guy who is giving me mixed messages and i dont know how to react! He talks and smiles at me and i do the same back but its going no where and ...

A.   1 March 2009: ya me and my gf have now been going out for 6 months and when we started going out i was inexpierienced too. I did not know what to expect and well now its great and i love her with all my heart and well just go with what you feel ask him out and ... (read in full...)

I confessed my love and he "thanked" me!

Q.   Well, I am quite confused. Here´s my story: I have been in love with a very good friend and, after some non verbal communicating actions and signs, I have found out he feels the same but neither of us have ever verbalized it. The reason being is...

A.   1 March 2009: hey well maby he is just scared to tell you how he feels and well it might be ockward but why dont you ask him how he feels and then maby hell open up in the mean time break up with ur current partner and then ask and tell him u wont think any ... (read in full...)

I love my girlfriend like nothing else, but she still thinks she wants to finish it!

Q.   How to show my girlfriend I love her? I am a 14 year old boy. I've been going out with my girlfriend for nearly two months now, and I've never been happier, but the last week we've had a series of huge arguments about us, and she's recently b...

A.   1 March 2009: ok well my name is terry and me and my girlfriend have been going out now for almost 6 months and well at about 2 months we started fighting alot and eventually we broke up but the point is if this does happen never stop telling her you love her and ... (read in full...)

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