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He wants me to move to Oz from the UK but I'm feeling hot and cold...

Q.   I am in a total mess emotionally. My boyfriend is now living in another country and wants me there. He is getting very frustrated at how long it is taking me to make the move out to be with him but I am getting really cold feet and cannot for the ...

A.   2 January 2008: Hay - what a dilema. Have you spoken to your partner about your fears of moving? What is his responce? I think somethimes in life chances and opportunities come your way that both scare and excite us and its up to us to choose if were brave en... (read in full...)

She's 21 now, but when she was 15 she had sex with her teacher! What should I do?

Q.   I'm stuck for what to do. I've been with my girlfriend a few years now, and a few months ago we told each other's deepest secret (Here I was thinking it would be an interesting game to play, but really didn't expect anything like she told me). ...

A.   27 September 2007: Hay - ive read your question and all the comments that have been submitted and there are a few points of my own that I would like to say. Firstly I have so much respect for you for being so concerned about the welfare of your g/f and this mans curr... (read in full...)

I want a boob job but my boyfriend doesn't... yet he spends time in the gym sculpting his body!

Q.   Hi, My boyfriend is happy with my chest size but I'm not. I'm 23 yrs old and feel that my chest size is small annot proportion with my body. I have been thinking of having breast augumentation for 3.5 yrs now, since I thought maybe over time wil...

A.   22 May 2007: hi, its a shame that you can't feel 100% good about your body - however nobody does. There is a big difference between your b/f going to the gym and you getting artificial bags stuck to your chest. Its incredably sweet that your b/f likes you just... (read in full...)

Worried by my girlfriends sexual past...

Q.   Before my girlfriend I was a virgin, we have been dating for 5 months and its been great fantastic and wonderfull. Currently the main problem in our relationship is how I feel about her sexual past. Personally I have become gradually more i...

A.   22 May 2007: Hi, having 10 partners does seem like alot but lets just say they were all 1 night stands thats only sex twice a year if you average her around 20. Is it really that bad? What is it that gets to you more the number of the fact that she has a sexual ... (read in full...)

Worried by my girlfriends sexual past...

Q.   Before my girlfriend I was a virgin, we have been dating for 5 months and its been great fantastic and wonderfull. Currently the main problem in our relationship is how I feel about her sexual past. Personally I have become gradually more i...

A.   22 May 2007: Hi, having 10 partners does seem like alot but lets just say they were all 1 night stands thats only sex twice a year if you arrenage he rold to be 20. Is it really that bad? What is it that gets to you more the number of the fact that she has a ... (read in full...)

I'm 18 hes 22, would it be holding him back or inappropriate to date him ?

Q.   i have just started seeing a guy who is really lovely however he is only just 18 and im 22 this year. Is this weird or inappropriate? he looks and acts older than he is and all his mates are older than him but i am concerned people will think im...

A.   22 May 2007: I agree with the other aunt and uncle, you clearly care about each other and want to be together so why shouldn't you be? Yes some may say 18 is still young but in my opinion so is 22, just because your that little bit older doesn't mean he can't ... (read in full...)

Things were great for a year, but now his mother wont back off and now even ex girlfriends are in contact!! Help!!!

Q.   My boyfriend and i have been dating for about a year! In the beginning it was great and i couldn't be any happier. We did everything together we were insepartable. Then his mother got involved in our relationship then it just started going down hil...

A.   22 May 2007: Hi, im afraid I have to agree with Jovial, you've mentioned that you've already tried talking and it didn't get you anywhere! What did he say, what did you say? If he really cared about you and wanted you he would have put your needs first - it r... (read in full...)

A friend and I became "intimate". What can I do to prevent things being awkward between us?

Q.   last night i got very drunk and got fingered by one of my oldest closest boy mates. we nearly slept together but when my concience kicked in and told me not to. Im disgusted with myself even though i didnt sleep with him. I have no self respect and ...

A.   12 April 2007: Hay firstly don't feel awful or dirty for whats happened because as soon as you start feeling like that it will allow others to feel that way about you aswell - afterall your both mature adults (i hope) and you should be able to move on from this. ... (read in full...)

Hes my best friends ex, I cant bare to lose her, but what if hes the one!?

Q.   Hi My best friend had an on off relationship with a very good friend of mine fo three years. They broke up for good two years ago. He told her repeatedly that they would never have a proper relationship, never loved her but was very fond of her...

A.   2 August 2006: In my opinion - if she was any friend at all she would want you to be happy, and if there was a chance he could do that then thats something she will have to except. After 2 years id be very surprised if she isn't over him already. I think you just ... (read in full...)

Went out for a mates birthday, both my BF and my Ex were there.. I ended up splurting out to my current BF that I really wish I hadnt split with my ex!!

Q.   I have royally screwed up, last nite we went round town to celebrate my mates b'day the only problem was my ex bf and my current bf were both gonna be there. So we all meet up and got some drink i was on vodka for most of the nite. We went and sat ...

A.   2 August 2006: Hi there i think the best thing for you to do would be to take some time out from both of them - so you can clear you head. Do you know if your ex feels the same as you? ... (read in full...)

Is a relationship ok when it has no sex?

Q.   I met my boyfriend in late Jan through a mutual friend of ours. And while I wasn't attracted to him at first (I'd just gotten out of a relationship and he had a grilfriend) we continued to hang out and see each other because of our our shared ...

A.   2 August 2006: Hi i think the only thing you can do is talk to him about it - if its because he doesn't fancy you or because he wants time out then that needs to be addressed. However for some guys if their sex drive goes down slightly it can become very ... (read in full...)

I'm having gay fantasies; what does this mean?

Q.   I am definitely sure that i am straight! but sometimes i have dreams of doing sexual things with other girls (some i know, some i don't). Is this normal even when you're straight? I was thinking, maybe it's because me and some of my friends always ...

A.   2 August 2006: Hi there, this is really nothing to worry about. i am straight and yet i still fantasize about women all the time. Although i could never see myself doing anything with another woman. I once asked a friend of mine if this was normal and she said... (read in full...)

I'm having gay fantasies; what does this mean?

Q.   I am definitely sure that i am straight! but sometimes i have dreams of doing sexual things with other girls (some i know, some i don't). Is this normal even when you're straight? I was thinking, maybe it's because me and some of my friends always ...

A.   2 August 2006: Hi there, this is really nothing to worry about. i am straight and yet i still fantasize about women all the time. Although i could never see myself doing anything with another woman. I once asked a friend of mine if this was normal and she said... (read in full...)

I like Dr. Jekyll, but I don't like Mr. Hyde so much

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. I love him so much. He is the sweetest guy, he goes out of his way to do all he can for me and we can just lay about for hours talking and reading. He does however have an irrational ...

A.   2 August 2006: I think you have yourself a dilema, however you seem to be doing all the right things - you've taken a break to try and work things out, you've spoken about how the relationship isn't working and you've accepted that he needs to control his temper - ... (read in full...)

I am insecure about my performance in the boudoir

Q.   I've been with a girl for 7 months now and I am very happy with how the relationship has been going. However there is one thing that bothers me and I need some advice on how to deal with it better. Bascially my girlfriend is more sexually ...

A.   2 August 2006: I was recently in a relationship where i was much more experienced than my older partner and i know there were times where he would try and compare himself to them. So Im going to tell you the same thing I told him - it really DOESN'T MATTER, my ... (read in full...)

I accepted a marriage proposal but I'd rather play the field some more

Q.   right here it goes. i am currently dating man A but i am starting to have feelings for another lets call him man B, i am 16 years old. Man A has proposed to me and i accepted but i really like this other guy. PLEASE HELP ME!!!...

A.   2 August 2006: 16 is a very young age to accept a marriage proposal. Its clear that your not going to be with man A forever since you are already experiencing feelings for man B. I think the best thing to do would be to take some time out away from both of them. ... (read in full...)

Hes got a new friend close to his Uni, I trust him, but what if she trys something ?

Q.   Thanks for taking the time to listen and help me with my problem. This has been stressing me out for the past week. My boyfriend feels confused about a long distance relationship but i have convinced him to try making it work. My boyfriend jus...

A.   2 August 2006: Situations like this a very hard to deal with - however i think your right when you say that you think you should get to know her better - you never know the two of you might become better friends than what she is with your boyfriend. If you trust ... (read in full...)

How can I make guys realise theres more to me than just a hookup ?

Q.   Okay it seems that everytime I start talking to a guy it always seem to last for about 2-3 weeks and I feel real hurt because thats when I become close to them. I feel that these guys that I get involved with only want me for one thing......and I ...

A.   2 August 2006: Hi there, have you thought about not giving into the guys physical demands? The reason they might see you as a 'hook up' is because your giving them exactely what they want. Sometimes a guy likes the idea of a chase therefore hold off doing ... (read in full...)

Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?

Q.   Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...

A.   2 August 2006: Hi, like everyone elses responce I have to agree that you seem to be a very mature 14 year old, however at such a young age its very hard to have the emotional maturity to get involved in a pysical relationship with a man who is so much older. Has ... (read in full...)

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