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I no longer feel physically attracted to him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, we met at university where we were studying for the same degree and we got together 6 months after my previous boyfriend and I split up after a four year relationship. When I graduated last y...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi dear,
There have been alot of changes occuring in your life within the last year. You have moved from a big town to a small neighnour, where u barely know anyone. That alone isnt easy for some people to adjust to. Also u dont get to see fami... (read in full...)
He acts like he doesn't care at all and now he's emailing another woman! What should I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for over 1 1/2yrs now. Lately his career has been giving him many opportunities to travel and he picks up as much as he can and loves it. With hunting season and his being gone I haven’t seen him but two times in the ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi Steph92,
I think u are bottling alot up in this relationship and u need to talk with your boyfriend. A loving chat.You need to tell him everything when next u guys meet. Let him know about your insecurities, how unhappy u are with his frequent... (read in full...)
He was perfect why did he change so quickly?
Q. does he still love me as before? i have a relation for almost 5 years we were so perfect love each other. he always took care of me. ofcorse we had problems like any1 else. i noticed that after 2 years of our relation istarted to discover that he ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi,
Perhaps u should trying talking to him. A loving chat and see what happens. Let him know how u feel and that his mood swing and temper get to you. If u really do love each other then both of u have to work out ways to deal with this. There is... (read in full...)
His mood changed really suddenly
Q. Hi, I had the weirdest experience with my boyfriend tonight. We were collecting our scholarships and it was the first time my parents had met his. We hadnt seen each other for a week and he had been more distant than normal e.g texting me less, no...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi,
I think it becomes clear from your posting that he wants to be with u alone. you did indicate that u spent one week apart. He made it clear to you why he acted this way by saying that he is obsessed with u. I guess this implies he wanted t... (read in full...)
Why can't my fiancee understand why I love my kids more than her?
Q. I was married for 9 years, but split with my wife just over a year ago, we have 3 children together. I have been engaged to another girl for 3 and a half months and love her dearly. We live 300 miles apart and I live close to my wife and kids. I ...
A. 27 October 2006: Ok. thanks for clarifying alot cos i got abit confused from ur posting. If that is the case and u truly love her then perhaps u can arrange to meet and sort things out. Goodluck dear.... (read in full...)
In love with my best friend, how can I tell him?
Q. well where do i start. Im sort of in love with my best friend (male). We are really close and speak on the phone every night except for when either or us go on vacation. My other close friend told him i love him as i have done for a while, and he ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I know u really do like this guy and want to be with him but i feel he is confused on what he wants now and u shouldnt get involved with someone who is still unsure so that u dont get hurt. He is aware now on how u feel about him so g... (read in full...)
Why can't my fiancee understand why I love my kids more than her?
Q. I was married for 9 years, but split with my wife just over a year ago, we have 3 children together. I have been engaged to another girl for 3 and a half months and love her dearly. We live 300 miles apart and I live close to my wife and kids. I ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi,
I think it is wrong to make a comparison between the love you feel for your kids and your fiancee.You dont need to allow your finacee feel u love your kids better than her. This are two different feelings a father love and love for a partner.... (read in full...)
I can't lose weight...Will girls go for a fat guy?
Q. dear cupid i am having problem losing weight, i mean im on diet n i walk 20 minutes everyday and do gym, but am not losing weight, ive been doing this for a year. my other concern is that i heard girls will never go for fat guys, is that t...
A. 25 October 2006: Hi,
Some of my female friends have boyfriends that are overweight so i dont think that is necessary true. Of course u have some individuals who have certain preferences and like guys that are slim or built but others prefer to go with what is ... (read in full...)
Is there something between me and this guy?
Q. I'm not going to say exactly how old i am, but i will say i am in my mid-late teens. There is this guy i REALLY like... he's a few years older than me, he's really sweet, charming, good looking, great smile, has his life planned out and we have alot ...
A. 25 October 2006: i think u should take the chance and ask him out and get to know him better. what do u have to loose???
Goodluck dear... (read in full...)
I am bored with my bf's gal friend and he thinks I don't like her!
Q. hi, my bf and have been together 5 years, i am 18 and he is 24, there is this girl we both know , he is more friends with her and has more in common with her that what i do, which is ok, the thing is i find it hard to make converstation with her as ...
A. 25 October 2006: Perhaps this is just a simple misuderstanding and u should try clarify things with your boyfriend. Tell him what u wrote here that seeing her on a regular basis isnt appealling to you since both of u have nothing in common and u feel uncomfortable ... (read in full...)
My husband missing underwear! Should I be worried?
Q. My husband came home one day without his undies on, when I knew he left with them on. I found them hidden, I asked him where are they , he said he didn't know then told me the hidding spot that I'd had already found when I confronted him. Then he ...
A. 25 October 2006: i would have questioned him too.... (read in full...)
I have sexual dreams about my ob/gyn! He flirts with me and we exchange e-mails..and we're both married! How can I shake this feeling off?.
Q. I'm in love with my OB/GYN (perinatologist). Unfortunately, we are both married. I met him in June when I became his patient because of very severe complications with my pregnancy. He was the most caring doctor anyone could ever have. I was ...
A. 25 October 2006: Hi Cupidstruck,
I really dont think it is your intention to shake this feelings off. Sincerely, if it were u wouldnt reply his mails or flirt.
You have to be sincere within yourself and ask yourself what it is u want to get out of this. You are... (read in full...)
Would this non virgin younger guy think it's weird to be dating me..an older woman who is a virgin?
Q. Hi I have a question, I am 24 and I am still a virgin -I like this guy and he is 20 and he likes me too he has asked me out a few times but I always say no, because it was a choice of mine to stay a virgin and its still my choice, but would he...
A. 25 October 2006: Well dear the age gap isnt that much. Being a virgin is a choice u have made and has nothing to do with age limit. They are other things that are special about u and u are all about so try to focus on those aspects if u decide to go into this ... (read in full...)
My fiancee moved out and started seeing her Father's best friend! Is she gone off the rails here?
Q. My fiancee's father recently died after a short illness. Our wedding had been scheduled for next Summer. A month after the funeral, she has moved out and started seeing her father's best friend, a man who, to my mind, is a younger version of her ...
A. 20 October 2006: Hi,
I understand how u feel.I want to encourage you though to find the strength to move on. Your wedding wasnt just meant to be at that particular time that is why those chain of event happened. The same happened to me too but a whole differen... (read in full...)
Are you single? Please reply here!
Q. Hi everyone Andrew, site guy here.. Just doing a poll to see how many visitors to the site are SINGLE and would be interested in a (free, of course) DearCupid dating service. Just reply to this post. Thanks! A....
A. 20 October 2006: Hi Andrew,
Guess i'm one of the last ones to reply here. No,i'm not single. A dating site would be great and u can keep it separate but interlinked with this site. That will be cool!
... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my girl and her male friend?
Q. I've been dating my girl for over a year now and its a seriuos relationship, we both intend to take it to the ultimate i.e marriage one day, but there's one problem she's got this male friend that I feal is a big threat, at first I didnt think it ...
A. 19 October 2006: well i would be upset too. This guy is obviously taking part of her time and the email message isnt a good sign. i really cant say if anything is going between them but what i know is that they have a special bond something that anyone would feel ... (read in full...)
My bf hardly wants sex anymore. Is this because he sees me as a long term person who he wants a proper relationship with, or because he is going off me?
Q. My bf has said that 'we are not just about the sex' and doesnt wanna do it as much as we used to We have been together 6 months Maybe im just being a bit insecure at the moment He kisses and cuddles me loads when i see him (we only get to see ...
A. 19 October 2006: Well if he says u guys are not "just about sex" that means he wants the relationship to mean much more and wants to incorporate other variables in the relationship like perhaps friendship and companionship.
i really feels he sees u as a person t... (read in full...)
Does he expect me to chase him?
Q. Right where to begin?, i really like this lad i have only really knew him for a month or so and well i slept with him last week! He seen me in the pub after and never spoke and then he txt me later and said sorry i dint speak everyone would start ...
A. 18 October 2006: I agree with XleahX. if this guy wants you he will call u. dont let that bother u, for now just occupy yourself and go out with friends.
Take care dear. kelly... (read in full...)
Can my relationship still be saved?
Q. My ex and I have been broken up for almost 3 months now but we still remain friends. The reason we broke up is because he's battling depression and anxiety. He's finally going to start seeing a doctor for it. He told me last night on the phone ...
A. 18 October 2006: I really think the relationship can be saved. If both of you really love each other and he is willing like you said to work on the problems u faced then i can see the possibility. I really think that right now though the best thing u can do is be ... (read in full...)
I asked if he's go back to his ex-he said 'probably' not! Why does this word 'probably' bother me?
Q. I've been dating a guy for about a month now. It's been going really great but about 2 days ago he talked to is ex of maybe 6 months on msn. Supposedly they were not talking no more but out of the blue there she was. She just broke up with her ...
A. 18 October 2006: Hi CrAzYp_22,
I think the best thing u can do right now is get enough clarification and reassurance from him. He obviously didnt give u a satisfactory answer and no matter what anyone says here it is still going to nag you at the back of your min... (read in full...)
We seem to be rowing alot and I seem to always be the B*st*rd! What can I do I really love my wife!
Q. I am having severe problems in my marriage, my wife and I seem to argue most of the time, but I'm not solely blaming her. There are quite a few problems, but one which seems to crop up more often than not is due to my lack of forward planning...
A. 6 October 2006: Hi there,
I think there is always going to be disagreements in any relationship/marriage. Making a relationship/marriage sucessful will depend on how each partner handles the situations since it is never going to be rosy all the time.
Thankfu... (read in full...)
Is it possible to sustain a healthy family from 2 different religions ??
Q. Hi everyone.. i was curious what way can you sustain a healthy family with 2 different religions...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I think it can be healthy depending on how each partner handles the situation. My mum's close friend is actually married to a someone of a different religion. They respect each other views.When children became involve then they allowed ... (read in full...)
Does my fella really love me or is he only after sex?
Q. Iv split up with my boyfriend because our relationship wasn't going anywhere,i was with him nearly 4 years but i wanted more committment and he liked things the way they were.Anyway he's been trying to contact me with phone calls and txts saying ...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I think u should go with ur gut feeling. Basically, both of u have different views with regards to the relationship.Whilst u want commitment he isnt ready for that. I dont think u would be satisfied with the way things were before a... (read in full...)
He isn't allowed to date and is moving away, how do I keep him close but not too close?
Q. I'm in love with someone who is not allowed to date, or even consider dating for almost 2 years. I think he might like me, but I'm not completely sure. we have a lot in common, which for me, is rare. The big problem is that he'll be leaving soon and ...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I think u can keep him as a friend. Maintaining contact will be fun. You can exchange mails, encourage him when he needs a friend and follow-up on his life.
Take care dearie.... (read in full...)
My sister has big exams coming up and a new BF and I'm scared he will take her mind off her study!
Q. My sister has just started her A_Levels and she has also recently started going out with a boy who she was friends with to begin with. I'm worried she's going to mess up in her exams because she's in a relationship. I know what people will say, but ...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I know you must care about ur sister alot and u want her to be sucessful in her exams especially her upcoming A-levels. Whilst having a boyfriend is going to take part of her time if she manages that time properly she is going to have ... (read in full...)
I still love him...should I tell him?
Q. Ex-bf returned to Univ to recruit, shall I call/text him? We broke up 5 months ago. He did not see me in the crowd and he did not know I am also back in the University this week. We remained talking/emailing for about 2 months after the break-u...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I think u really want to contact him again and perhaps might regret not doing this.So you can call him, but shouldnt expect too much at first or be in a hurry to rekindle the relationship. Perhaps gaining his friendship will be the best... (read in full...)
Im 25 and just want to be alone, I dont want any interaction from Males at all, is this strange ??
Q. Hi there, I am not even sure that I can narrow this down to one question; I'm looking for wisdom, in whatever form it comes. I lead a busy, mostly unfulfilling life. I am a mother, a student, an employee, and I'm deaf. I'm not interested...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dear,
I think your arent happy with your present situation of things. I think u feel outweigh but work, schooling,i am sure u are a lovely mother but u still have a kid to consider as well. I think u are incredibly strong and brave and i dont t... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to the guy I met online, recently I found someone else and I like him too!!
Q. im engaged to this guy i met online ive been with for months now and i know i love him i swear to god i love this man. im 16 and my parents adore him..but lately ive been seeing this other guy and ive sort of started to like him you may think im ...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I feel u should slow down abit with regard to the stage you are getting in these relationship. I know getting engage is something beautiful and lovely but one have to be ready and i really believe u arent ready for now.
Give yourself... (read in full...)
Is it important to mix with people of the same social class when choosing future partners?
Q. I wrote on here a while back about meeting a girl who was in a different league so to speak. I'm from a well respected family with good standard of living etc. She was from lower social class and there were some reports of stealing in her family ...
A. 4 October 2006: Hi,
Iam from a higher social class myself but i dont really look on the class of people i date just what they have in their heart and how working they are. I am not judging u in anyway since your situation is abit complex with your family having n... (read in full...)
How can I break the ice and get chatting with my ex again?
Q. I have recently split from my boyfriend over a stupid drunken arguement. Needless to say i really want to get back together with him but don't even know where to begin. We are barely talking at the moment which is really difficult as we live in th...
A. 3 October 2006: Hi Inferno,
You could try calling him or going over to see him if u know his schedule. Tell him what u wrote here that it is sad really for everything to end over a drunken argument. Let him know how important his friendship is to you even if ... (read in full...)
Shes been having an affair for the last 6 months, shes also continually having a go, I feel so worthless, please help!!
Q. for the past 6 mths my wife has been having an affair, she has now left her boyfriend,and says she wants to be with me,i feel like im being used!! after going away for the weekend together hotel shopping etc,,she has turned around and said to me th...
A. 3 October 2006: Hi dearie,
You are not worthless and shouldnt feel depressed about anything. She is the one who is lucky to have someone like u who is ready to forgive her and give her a second chance despite her affair.I think that is the primary issue here and... (read in full...)
My girl cheated, I really love her! Was it really a genuine mistake ?
Q. My girlfriend has cheated on me and I dont know what to do coz I luv her and I cant let go despite what she has done. She says she luvs me and she does not want this to end thats whats confusing me. my question, can one cheat on someone you really ...
A. 3 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I really dont believe in cheating is a mistake. Am afraid i am one who believe that if your partner loves and respect the relationship they have,then they wouldnt cheat. I try to look for love based on trust and mutual understa... (read in full...)
I love him, but hes not affectionate to me, others say he slags me off, I dont know what to believe!?
Q. I have been going out with this boy for around 2 weeks now.I really love him. Before we were going out, we got on so well. Now, he hardly talks to me, unless I'm on my own. He's only hugged me 3 times and never kissed me. I really don't know what ...
A. 30 September 2006: Hi Meeh,
There are alot of people who dont really believe in public display of affections. Perhaps he is one. Alot of people during the initial stage of "wooing" will try to please but once the relationship starts there can be changes but that sho... (read in full...)
The guy I love could be moving to the USA!! What should I do ?
Q. im dating this guy and hes moving...to USA!! we both live in london and his mums company has transferred to new york and the whole family is going im in the middle of my studies doing my A levels and he loves me as he told me 3weeks ago but i do...
A. 30 September 2006: How dear,
Talk to him and let him know about ur fears. Why not try this if he cant stay. if u are thinking of going for further studies why not try to apply to schools in the US. there are so many funding opportunities. Which means u guys will jus... (read in full...)
I dont know whats wrong with me and Im scared!!
Q. I am so lost right now i don't know how to begin i am making such a mess of my life i am unemplyed i am messing things up with my boyfriend,the only man who has ever been loving i cause arguements everyday now he says he is sick of me an he is not ...
A. 30 September 2006: Hi dearie,
There is nothing wrong with u. You are just passing through a phase right now when things seem difficult. that happens alot with life and u shouldnt blame yourself for everything. A couple of years ago i was in your shoes. I had no j... (read in full...)
We broke up but something I said changed his mind...where do I really stand?
Q. My bf has been pretty depressed recently, mainly because he has no job but there are other issues too. Last night when we were together he started crying and said he didn't want to drag me down with him and that he couldn't put into the relationship ...
A. 28 September 2006: Hi dearie,
I think your bf is in need of support right now and he actually said the right phrase u were really "sweet". You were there for him and that's what is important in any relationship. I dont think u need to worry yourself or doubt hi... (read in full...)
We keep breaking up, but still have sex and act like we are still together!
Q. Hi, um where shud i begin really well i was with this guy for 3 years on and off i met him over the internet when i was 16 and went to meet him, it felt like love at first sight then he left me 4 times through these 3 years and always came back to ...
A. 28 September 2006: Hi dearie,
i'm afraid u have to really analyse the relationship u have with this kind. what the problems are? Can they be tackled?
what has put things have put a strain on the relationship for this long??perhaps one of the factors is that ... (read in full...)
I like her, she has a boyfriend...what do I do?
Q. i have a girl at my school that i like but she has got a boyfriend, i cant get over her can you help me with my love problem...
A. 28 September 2006: hi dearie,
i think the best thing to do is to try to stay her friend.this is an easier and simple way of establishing a relationshp with her since she is already in a relationship with someone else.
I hope this helps
kelly. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends been cheating on me, yet I still love him!
Q. what do i do after my boyfried of nearly 8 yrs ,has cheated on me with his ex?we have 3 kids under 6.had no problems and a fantastic sex life..and he goes off and has sex with her.the affair was going on for two months when i accidently found very ...
A. 28 September 2006: Hi dearie,
I understand how u feel really. Its difficult to fall out of love with a person if u are a kind/devoted person who love with all their heart. But u should understand that it is a two way event. If u notice that ur partner doesnt r... (read in full...)
He won't even call her his "ex" wife! I can't take anymore!
Q. im now staying with my bf for 1 year, he always tell me that he love me. he sometimes show it to me, but there is a time i dont understand whats going on inside of me when he speaks about his ex-wife.i already understand his past i know that there ...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi there,
I know how u must feel but I think part of him is always going to be in love with her. I dont think it necessary implies that he doesnt have feelings for you. what he feels for her is different more like a devotion.They couldnt stay tog... (read in full...)
My male friend is gay, we had sex, now im pregnant!
Q. I have been in love with a male friend for a long time, but he's gay. I intentionally got him drunk and seduced him. Even though we had really great sex, he said that he still prefers men. I just found out I'm pregnant with his child. Part of me ...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi dear,
I think he has the right to know you are expecting his kid but i dont feel u should use this to get him to marry you. I think he is pretty sure about his sexual orientation and if u proceed in this way u are definitely going to get hurt... (read in full...)
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