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She told me she loves me, but I'm not sure if she means it. What do I do?
Q. i really want to know something, there is a girl that i love, she means everything to me, but i do not know if she loves me back, please i need help what do i do, she told me she loves me too, but i am scared....
A. 5 December 2006: sorry i posted three times. was having problems with the page.... (read in full...)
She told me she loves me, but I'm not sure if she means it. What do I do?
Q. i really want to know something, there is a girl that i love, she means everything to me, but i do not know if she loves me back, please i need help what do i do, she told me she loves me too, but i am scared....
A. 5 December 2006: Hi Smith_broklins,
Why are u scared? why dont u believe she loves u? Perhaps the only way to find out will be to give it a try. It is worth it since she means everything to you. Relationship is all about taking risks and if u dont want to take ... (read in full...)
She told me she loves me, but I'm not sure if she means it. What do I do?
Q. i really want to know something, there is a girl that i love, she means everything to me, but i do not know if she loves me back, please i need help what do i do, she told me she loves me too, but i am scared....
A. 5 December 2006: Hi Smith_broklins,
Why are u scared? why dont u believe she loves u? Perhaps the only way to find out will be to give it a try. It is worth it since she means everything to you. Relationship is all about taking risks and if u dont want to take ... (read in full...)
She told me she loves me, but I'm not sure if she means it. What do I do?
Q. i really want to know something, there is a girl that i love, she means everything to me, but i do not know if she loves me back, please i need help what do i do, she told me she loves me too, but i am scared....
A. 5 December 2006: Hi Smith_broklins,
Why are u scared? why dont u believe she loves u? Perhaps the only way to find out will be to give it a try. It is worth it since she means everything to you. Relationship is all about taking risks and if u dont want to take ... (read in full...)
My sister is my harshest critic! What can I do?
Q. My sister made very hard critics on my degree my work and love life which nearly meke me cry, I always try to be nice to her when she's down but I cannot stand her attitude, she pretends to control when I go to the gym or the clasees I attend, I ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi Astrid,
I think u should learn to stand up to your sister or anyone else. My brothers were like that to me all the time. Imagine i was their only sister for awhile(three of them with only me) until my younger sister came much later. THey wou... (read in full...)
I'm scared to break up because I don't want to hurt him. I still care just don't love!
Q. im 16 years old. im with this really fantastic guy but i dont think i love him any more. we're arguing over stupid things, and i just cant seem to conect to him like i used to be able to. i think the fairest thing on him to do is to break with him ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi Rogue,
Tell him about how u feel. That u have noticed that the arguments are getting too much. Dont make him feel it is his fault. Tell him that both of u dont connect as much as u used too just as u said here and it isnt making u happy.Ma... (read in full...)
He wasn't sure if he was in love with me or not (long post)
Q. If someone said to you after you had sex together for the first time that they weren’t sure if they were in love with you or not, what would u do given that is only 2 months into our relationship? Stay with them in the hope that they fall in love ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi,
I do understand what u must be feelings. As u said he still have issues with his ex. You have been very patience and understanding i really do feel u love him. For me i think it is about time for you to turn the tables round on him. He shoul... (read in full...)
We broke up 1½ months ago - he says he feel uncomfortable being friends now!
Q. why is it that he wanted to be friends after the breakup but he says that he's still uncomforable around me? We had a perfect relationship but he wanted to end it cuz he just wanted to be friends for right now. I mean i want to ask him to ha...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi there,
I think since u have been friends for a long time u should feel free to ask him why he feels uncomfortable being your friend now. If his friendship does matter to you then u have to talk to him and find out what his concerns are. Add... (read in full...)
Site update: Now easier to rate questions and answers!
Q. Hiya Andrew, site guy here! Two updates: 1. Rating questions and answers is now much easier and cooler, check out the quick one-click star rating system. The more you rate the better the site becomes so please do rate! 2. I've tweaked th...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi Andrew,
i think it does gives a higher option of how answers and questions can be rated more accurately.
Kelly
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I feel like a freak. I hate: kissing, touching, cuddling, PDA, or any kind of sexual activity... Why!?
Q. Whenever i do anything i feel uncomfortable in my own skin and wish like hell to be elsewhere. i don't enjoy kissing. i don't like touching or cuddling. i absolutely hate PDA either when i see other couples or me and my b/f. I don't enjoy any ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi,
Would have loved to know your age?At a certain age i didnt like thinking about touching, kissing cuddling.I found it repulsive almost throughout my high school.But with time when u find the ideal person it comes naturally so dont beat yourself... (read in full...)
Am I really shallow?
Q. My boyfiend of two years broke up with me, and I was devastated. I thought I wanted him back desperately, but have realised that what I miss most is the feeling that I kne where my life was going and was a success. He was on paper my perfect man - ...
A. 5 December 2006: Hi,
It is part of dealing with breaking up to reflect and see what went wrong and why there were problems, incompartibility issues and trends of what u saw in him. This is going to help reshape what u want in your ideal man and know that it isnt ... (read in full...)
Worried that my weakness in bedroom will cause me to lose my gf...what can I do?
Q. Please help me on what to do. my problem is that I never satify my girl friend with sex in the bedroom, I always get weak when you need sex from me mostly, please can you tell me what most be the cost of it and what is the ways out of it too? Coz I ...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi,
I felt u might need an advise from a female at least. Im guessing u are above 18, do try to drink a "LITTLE" wine to help u relax yourself. I would advise u to let her guide you so that u can know what excites her the most. You can do this by ... (read in full...)
I'm 13 and scared to lose my virginity
Q. I need some help, i'm 13 nd im scared ov losin my virginity. ...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi sweet,
I think u shouldnt do anything that makes u scared. You are still very young and can have friends on a casual level until u are ready. You will be ready when u meet the right person, at the right time but that i feel is some more yea... (read in full...)
I feel like our relationship isn't progressing - what should I do to keep it going?
Q. I have been going out with my gf for 4 months now, its going well i love her to bits and i feel she loves me, But the thing is the relationship isnt going anywhere yeah we hug and kiss alot, but it seems the same every time i see her every 2 days, ...
A. 4 December 2006: I think your shyness is cute but its inhibiting you from showing her your love. I know u do love her but u have to look for ways to show it.Let it shine out when u are with her.Dont hold anything back. You must know abit of her interest and what she ... (read in full...)
He has women's numbers and texts saved under men's names in his phone!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. We have been having problems and I have found a number of text messages to 3 different women he has listed on his phone as men's names. He says that there is nothing wrong with this and that I am ...
A. 4 December 2006: I think u are right to be suspicions. If it was innocent he wouldnt have to conceal them. You should let him know u wouldnt put up with his deceit. I know how u must feel, it is horrible being in a relationship with someone u cant trust.Think deep ... (read in full...)
I dont want to push it with him
Q. hi ive been split from my boyfriend for 6 weeks,(after 2 yrs +) we have sort of kept in touch (the odd textmessage) he wanted to 'split up'rather than take a break but said he still cared alot for me, and wasnt certain is was the right decision...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi,
i agree with u. You have made a great decision to give him time. For me really, An example of a reply i could to his text would be something like" good to hear from you always , i do think of you as well". It is simple enough not too much fee... (read in full...)
She brings her father into the picture and it makes me uncomfortable
Q. My partner and I have been together for a year and a half mostly long distance. I have finally moved and got a place close to her. The problem I have is that she is back and forth. She lives with her parents (she is 48) and her mother has alzeimers ...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi there,
Would have loved to know if she has other siblings as well who can help her.
Perhaps another angle u can look at is that she might be having problems managing her time and the activities properly. Caring for her dad and mum isnt eas... (read in full...)
I'm having an affair, his girlfriend knows about it, what am I suppose to do?
Q. i met a man that i used to go out with when i was younger,but i was married.To cut a long story short, i started an affair with him.My marriage came to an end,which was hell for me and my girl.This man isnt married but lives with someone.He has no ...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi raq,
You are in a tight situation here. Perhaps she is confident becos despite his affairs he hasnt left her side yet.I would be careful if i were you.The money situation bit isnt sounding too convincing. Has he laid out plans for you when he ... (read in full...)
I split with my bf of 8 years, to be with someone else and now that has gone wrong. How do I cope?
Q. I am 26 and for the last 8 years I have always been with someone in a relationship over the xmas period, when it is also my birthday. I have my family and friends but I split with my long-term boyfriend this year and it's going to seem very strange ...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi,
I really think it was good for you to have followed ur heart even though the relationship u went into didnt go right. Dont be down about any decision u took because in the end that is what shapes us up. You wouldnt have been happy staying ... (read in full...)
Bras hurt me and I just can't wait to take them off! What can be done?
Q. i cant wear bras, i tried 4 just a year, it hurts so much, i've even figured out a way to get my bra off with my t-shirt on since it is soooooo painful. it pulls in my chest so i cant breath i doesnt help becuase i have asthma. i have been fitted ...
A. 4 December 2006: Hi,
I had the same problem too before.You see bras are like shoes in a way. No one can really tell u what your size is, u have to feel it on your body and see if it makes u comfortable. Make such it isnt too tight or fit. I'm sure u already ... (read in full...)
I insulted her figure during an argument! How should I apologize to my gf?
Q. My girlfriend and I are the quintessential right brain/left brain couple. I was a Math major in college, while she majored in English literature. She's very good in the spoken/written word, while I'm more of a numbers guy. Well, a few days ago we ...
A. 14 November 2006: Hi Scott,
I am afraid u went to a no go area here. The last thing u want to do is insult a woman figure.
I am afraid u just have to keep trying to apologise to her. Tell her u didnt mean it that way and explain to her what u said here. You s... (read in full...)
We were in a casual relationship and then he found someone - I went through his phone and now he says he can't trust me. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, For three years I have had a relationship that was never 100% serious. However, earlier this year my partner found someone he fell for. He did not tell me anything about her until the 2 of them fell into problems. He said he could ...
A. 14 November 2006: Dearie,
Just give him time. He is obviously upset and he should be really. He might not mean what he said and with time hopefully he will understand why u did that even if it was wrong.
I can see here that you still have feelings for him... (read in full...)
He has a fiance and I'm happy being second best
Q. im in love with my teenage sweetheart only problem is he is engaged and gettin married soon. we went out when we were younger but never had a proper relationship as i was too stupid to admit my feelings for him. been txtn him everyday and he came to ...
A. 14 November 2006: Hi dearie,
are u really? happy to be a second best.i sincerely dont think so unless u wouldnt have a posted a question here if u are content.
Seriously,i think u deserve to be with someone who will be totally devoted to you. i know u really li... (read in full...)
My husband said he loves the other woman, but he sleeps with me. I told him to choose her or his family. Please help!
Q. posted alot of questions lately last one being that my husband has just told me he is in love with another women got some answers back from you guys so i spoke to him last night as we got intimate about a week ago i asked him why if he is he is in ...
A. 14 November 2006: Hi dearie,
I really think you did the right thing. Please be patience and let him decide what he wants to do.Dont compromise your happiness to please him. He is taking advantage of you and the fact that you dont have the strength to leave him no m... (read in full...)
She hangs out with the wrong crowd and ignores me when I try to help! Advice please!
Q. hi i have a friend who is always hanging out with the wrong crowd but every time i try to help she doesn't talk to me for ages. what else can i do? ...
A. 14 November 2006: Hi,
i really dont think there is much else u can do here. You can only talk to her and advise her.Perhaps that is the kind of crowd she wants to be with. In that case, be careful and try not to get sucked into this crowd yourself.If she chooses ... (read in full...)
He's 35, he has no job and lives with his parents! Am I wasting my time here?
Q. I have been seeing my current boyfriend for over a year now. We both love each other very much and he treats me like gold. He respects me, listens to me, tries his best to understand me and is extremely affectionate and loving. In the whole time ...
A. 7 November 2006: Hi there,
I do believe he is the type that will need a push/motivation to do things that is his weakness i am afraid. He has a non-chalant attitude towards his career.
You alone can answer the question if u are wasting your time or want to stay... (read in full...)
This new man has got me all confused and I need your advice!
Q. Hi about a month ago I was working away for a week when I met this amazing guy, who also working away for my company, but from a branch close to me. We seemed to hit it off and I spent three nights with him in his hotel room. We never exchanged ...
A. 4 November 2006: Hiya,
For your first problem i think u should talk to him about it and reach a compromise. Maybe he thought about the problem your had and felt you will be more comfortable in that role. Perhaps once in a while u can exchange roles just to pleas... (read in full...)
Help me I'm becoming so paranoid!
Q. hi, Im 22 and ive been with my boyfriend 26 for a year and a half. Recently he has decided that he wants to go travelling for a year and he says if he likes it he might stay longer. We have a really good relationship but I think this has made me ...
A. 4 November 2006: No dear, in this case i dont really think you are being paranoid or psycho. Alot will feel the same including me. He will be leaving you for a whole year girl and perhaps more. i know how that must make anyone feel.
From your posting i do feel ... (read in full...)
Shall I trick him into having a child?
Q. i have been with my parnter for about two years, and i really want a baby with him and he wants to wait another two years before trying and i want one NOW, i have thought about telling him i am still taking the pill when i wouldnt be, but then when ...
A. 4 November 2006: No dear. i wouldnt advise u to trick him in having his child. I know u must be skeptical about doing this also and it doesnt go well with you unless u would have as well gone ahead and do this without needing to ask advise here.
I think your bes... (read in full...)
How can you tell if your ex still loves you?
Q. how can you tell if your ex still loves you?...
A. 3 November 2006: They will always want to know how u are if they care. i agree with anon, calling, text or even visits.... (read in full...)
I want my bf to live with me, but he wants his own place. This has upset me..what should I do?
Q. My boyfriend who is 43 years old has his own apartment. He has been staying at my house 100% for the past 3 months. He has bought a chain saw and took down 13 trees and helped build a regulation volleyball court in my yard. He paid for this court. ...
A. 3 November 2006: Hi BeachBlond7,
I do understand how u feel. Both of you staying together and now him wanting his own place is like moving backward in the relationship in the normal reasoning sense but from what i can read from your posting i think he feels yo... (read in full...)
My future Mother in law is very annoying and always interfering! What can I do?
Q. Me and my fiance are very happy together and are getting married next year. The only problem is that his mother is always interfering! She phones him constantly and is always tring to tell him what to do! It's really annoying! What shal I do?...
A. 3 November 2006: I know how u feel really. You want a close bond with your fiance where both of you can plan things together and decide what to do without interferences.
I really do believe that your fiance has a really close bond with his mother. I dont believe ... (read in full...)
Why do I always need to make the first move? What does it mean?
Q. What does it mean when your partner is interested in sex but doesn't give any indication of it - just lays there waiting for you to make the first move!? I am starting to find it really taxing - it is like I have to be a mindreader to kn...
A. 2 November 2006: Hiya,
I think you should talk to her calmy. Gently tell her how u feel and guide her so that she can be free to explore different new ways to make u happy and get fulfilment herself.
Goodluck... (read in full...)
He loves porn..he texts other women in chatrooms and he says he does it because....he's just messing about??? I feel worthless-what should I do?
Q. hi im recently married to a man i love very much and i know that he loves me to however he loves to look at porn on the net and also texts to other women through chat rooms also the women have sent him rude pics of themselves. i have confronted him ...
A. 31 October 2006: Hi Gogor,
I would be upset myself! I dont think u should put up with this. He isnt only looking at porn but sending texts.That isnt fair and i know how this must make anyone feel especially a newly wed.
Well dear, if he feels he is just messi... (read in full...)
Should I take this guy back after he dumped me??
Q. hey, i was wondering if anyone can help me. i went out with this guy for about 3 months and then he dumped me and on valentine's day. my friend introduced him to one of her friends and he started going out with her about 2 weeks after he dumped me ...
A. 31 October 2006: Hi,
I think you are skeptical about this guy and i would too. Your heart tells u for now to stay his friend and i think that is the right thing to do. Trust ur intuition. when u have a doubled mind about something it might be better for you not ... (read in full...)
His muslim family won't accept me as I have a child. What can I do?
Q. i have been with my partner for 9months but we seem to have a problem. as his family won't accepet me because i have a child. as his family are muslim? really need some advice please...
A. 31 October 2006: Hi there,
i think both of u have to work through this together.Talk to him and let him know how much it is important to you to get his family approval. If he does believe u are the one then perhaps with time he can get his family to accept y... (read in full...)
Do people really lie about how much sex they have? What are the signs?
Q. How many people lie about the amount of sex they have had? And what do people think the signs are that someone is lying? ...
A. 31 October 2006: Yeah i am afraid some people do. well in some cases u cant really tell that is why it is advisable to use protection during sex to avoid STDs... (read in full...)
Do you think I can encourage him to give it another try, before he dcides to end it with me?
Q. I am currently gutted that my bloke has told me he wants to finish things. We have been together for 5 years. He has always had periods of moodiness, but this time I asked him to try and talk to me about how he is feeling as I was starting to ...
A. 31 October 2006: Hi Loopy Loo,
I think it might be better in this case to leave him. It might not end up being a permanent separation becos if there is anything left he is going to miss u and want u back.But im afraid that if u try coercing him back it might ju... (read in full...)
I think he likes me
Q. there is a boy at my school who i really like.i think he likes me but am not really sure.we have never spoken .i allwys feel he is staring at me and we allways make eye contact and glance at eachother and he looks at me when we pass eachother.do ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi,
i really cant say if he does but u can try getting someone that knows him to introduce you to him. Be his friend and see how it goes.
Goodluck dear... (read in full...)
I've never turned down a guy in my life
Q. I had a relationship with S for 4 months, and he had a mate, M, that i really liked as we really hit it off. But My relationship with S ended 4 weeks ago, and today M was hitting on me. I have some serious hang ups at the mo, part of the reason me ...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi dearie,
I think u are very sweet to consider his feelings. But i guess u have to make it clear to him that you arent ready for a relationship right now becos u have alot to deal with and things u need to sort out emotional. You have to make thi... (read in full...)
I no longer feel physically attracted to him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years, we met at university where we were studying for the same degree and we got together 6 months after my previous boyfriend and I split up after a four year relationship. When I graduated last y...
A. 27 October 2006: Hi dear,
There have been alot of changes occuring in your life within the last year. You have moved from a big town to a small neighnour, where u barely know anyone. That alone isnt easy for some people to adjust to. Also u dont get to see fami... (read in full...)
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