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Visions of her past sexual history haunt me..it's a serious problem and I need specific advice.

Q.   How do I get over my wife's sexual history? Please be specific. I don't need any comments stating to "just get over it," or the "past is the past." I'm well aware of these things, but I just can't. I made the mistake of asking about her past, and ...

A.   19 August 2008: As guys we put too much emphasis on sex. To help with your visions concede the fact that all her past partners were as good as you and she reacted the same as with you. Then realize that there is more to a partner, and you are the total package, ... (read in full...)

How do I stop obsessing over my girlfriend's previous sexual partners?

Q.   I've been going out with the same girl now for about 6 months...before we were 'official' we were half going out for about the same amount of time before then. She's had 2 sexual partners before me. She's my first real girlfriend and first long term ...

A.   19 August 2008: Just to follow-up on my last post... Guys why dig up old issues that happened before she new you existed? Also I know it is tempting to keep asking for details? Your mind says get me more info and I will forget about it all. This is a lie...... (read in full...)

How do I stop obsessing over my girlfriend's previous sexual partners?

Q.   I've been going out with the same girl now for about 6 months...before we were 'official' we were half going out for about the same amount of time before then. She's had 2 sexual partners before me. She's my first real girlfriend and first long term ...

A.   19 August 2008: To the ANON that said his wife told him he was the largest...LOL...do you expect her to tell you otherwise? That would create a whole new problem area. I am well above average however I asked my wife this question and her response was "a penis is ... (read in full...)

How do I stop obsessing over my girlfriend's previous sexual partners?

Q.   I've been going out with the same girl now for about 6 months...before we were 'official' we were half going out for about the same amount of time before then. She's had 2 sexual partners before me. She's my first real girlfriend and first long term ...

A.   19 August 2008: I have been married for 14 years (together 18) with my wife. She was in several abusive short term relationships (i.e. guys will say anything to get laid). Having low self esteem she felt that if she slept with them they would love her. She told ... (read in full...)

Out of the blue, I am having issues with my wife's past. What now...?

Q.   Out of the blue, I am having issues with my wife's past. What now...? I have been married 13 years, three kids. Back when dating my wife and I went over pretty detailed things about our sexual past. Names, places, how it took place and so on....

A.   26 October 2007: Sirion, I have been in counseling now for a few weeks. I started with a marriage and family therapist. She referred me to a shrink. I am now on zoloft 100mg and been diagnosed with OCD (not so much the cumplusive side, but more the obsessiv... (read in full...)

Do women remember the size of their former lover's penis?

Q.   I have been bombarded with penis enlargement emails lately. Something like 100+ a day. Hopefully I am not the only one. :) Obviously these are SPAM I know, however there are lots of products claiming to work for those less endowed. One of the ...

A.   3 October 2007: Wow thanks for the responses. I did not ask this question due to an insecurity, maybe it sounded that way. I am very fortunate down there. However even being the case no guy wants to hear or think that someone was bigger or better. This is the ... (read in full...)

Do women remember the size of their former lover's penis?

Q.   I have been bombarded with penis enlargement emails lately. Something like 100+ a day. Hopefully I am not the only one. :) Obviously these are SPAM I know, however there are lots of products claiming to work for those less endowed. One of the ...

A.   30 September 2007: Interesting. I only ask the 15+ years thing as my wife and I have been together for 18 years total. Was wondering if after that long things become a blur... :)... (read in full...)

Out of the blue, I am having issues with my wife's past. What now...?

Q.   Out of the blue, I am having issues with my wife's past. What now...? I have been married 13 years, three kids. Back when dating my wife and I went over pretty detailed things about our sexual past. Names, places, how it took place and so on....

A.   28 September 2007: Thanks for the comments...anyone else have and input for me?... (read in full...)

Do I marry my fiance or go off with my lover?

Q.   I'm a 46-year-old Mother of 8 (3 by my first husband, 5 by my current partner) and I've had many affairs. Most of which my partner has known about. But now I've started a relationship with a man who myself and my Fiance both work with. All of the ...

A.   27 September 2007: Ouch, by all means do not marry this guy. Makes me pose the question...what are the chances that some of the 8 kids are not the former husband or current partners kids? I would move on and live your sexual lifestyle by yourself.... (read in full...)

Do you think what I did was cheating?

Q.   I have been married for 14 years and a year ago my best friend and I had too much to drink and we kissed for less then 2 minutes(female). I told my husband yesterday and he said I cheated so it's over. Do you think that is cheating?...

A.   27 September 2007: Guys have imaginations. He probably thinks more happened, however you tried to minimize it by saying it was only a kiss. 2 minutes is a long time, I am sure there were hands on places they should not be, etc. Most "ooops" incidents happen when ... (read in full...)

Out of the blue, I am having issues with my wife's past. What now...?

Q.   Out of the blue, I am having issues with my wife's past. What now...? I have been married 13 years, three kids. Back when dating my wife and I went over pretty detailed things about our sexual past. Names, places, how it took place and so on....

A.   26 September 2007: Thanks Tommy7. I do try to change my thoughts when it gets bad. It only lasts for awhile though. I did speak to a counselor this morning. She is a certified life coach, marriage/relationship specialist, etc. I have an appointment with her this ... (read in full...)

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