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Opinions please on this email he sent to me....

Q.   I just want some opinions regarding how someone I know feels about me, if you were to receive this email, what would YOU think, its not the full email, just a part of it which I received today. I've known them for a long time and it is starting to ...

A.   5 July 2010: When I replied earlier your recent update about this being your uncle had not yet gone through the moderator and I couldn't be entirely sure that you didn't reciprocate in the feeling... But, erm, this does change things quite a lot! I am ... (read in full...)

Is love enough?

Q.   How can you be with someone when you are on two different pages? I love my girlfriend but she feels that owning your own business and working for yourself isn't stable enough and a waste of time. I love what I do and I make a decent living doing it. ...

A.   5 July 2010: With so many people being made redundant from their jobs these days, I'd say you are one of the lucky ones if you can make money from being your own boss whilst loving what you do. Stick at it! She sounds a little bit shortsighted and should ... (read in full...)

My long distance boyfriend doesn't trust me but he has the cheek to lie to me about himself!

Q.   Dear Cupid, I met my boyfriend online 6 months ago, and in a short period of time, we fell in love with each other. Even though we live a world apart, but we eagerly started this long distance relationship. We keep in contact by phone calls and ...

A.   5 July 2010: I'm sorry I have to disagree with the anonymous reader... why does this guy need to lie to you? it may be the way guys act if they are a bit insecure but he is giving you a slightly worrying message. He wants you to go to the other side of the ... (read in full...)

How do I tell him I never want to speak to him again?

Q.   I hate this man I'm seeing. He lied to me once, now twice. LDR...I'm visiting him now and just want to leave. Today, I told him I wasnt speaking to him, he left to go to store or whatever and hasn't been back since...its been three hours. I dont ...

A.   5 July 2010: Well you know this already but if you feel unsafe call the police at once. I'd say just go. If you think you need to speak to him about this, then do call him back but try to have the conversation on neutral ground. Am assuming you've travelled ... (read in full...)

The intimacy in our relationship has all but gone completely, what should I do?

Q.   i don't know what to do .we don't talk or rarely in sleep in the same bed . if it wasnt for a few i love yous and kisses you wouldn't even know were a couple please help...

A.   5 July 2010: Whilst there is no right or wrong way for a relationship to work, you obviously want and need more from this set up - and it makes me think perhaps he is actually quite happy with this arrangement... Am I wrong? And I presume he knows how you ... (read in full...)

Opinions please on this email he sent to me....

Q.   I just want some opinions regarding how someone I know feels about me, if you were to receive this email, what would YOU think, its not the full email, just a part of it which I received today. I've known them for a long time and it is starting to ...

A.   5 July 2010: I'd say it's quite obvious that this person is madly in love with you but is afraid of telling you in person. If that idea makes you feel uncomfortable, I'd have a gentle conversation with him about it sooner rather than later... ... (read in full...)

Is it a loser thing to go on vacation with your parents at 30?

Q.   Hey aunts! I'll be 30 in a few months. I have bf, a house of my own and a great job. My parents asked me to go on a 10 day trip together- on them! I said hell yeah! After all, it's a free vacation, right! And I love them. Then I thought... is it a ...

A.   2 July 2010: A loser thing? Not at all! It's a perfectly lovely thing if you and your parents can enjoy each others' company at any age. Cherish it. ... (read in full...)

Should your boyfriend think you are pretty and sexy?

Q.   Im not really sure if im being overly sensitive or what but i dont like the image my boyfriend has of me,we been together now almost 2 years, he is always saying he loves me cause pretty girls are bitches. Now thats basically telling me he doesnt ...

A.   2 July 2010: I'm not surprised you feel hurt - he sounds like an idiot, frankly. Do you really need someone like him in your life? Someone who is so close and yet so completely unaware of your feelings and of the huge effect of his ill-chosen words? I am ... (read in full...)

I'm the only boy in my class that doesn't have a girlfriend!

Q.   I'm 15 now but still no girls notice me and talk to me....I feel ashamed of myself for being a only boy in my class that has no Girlfriend...My friends even help me find a girl and we even did a blind date but there was no success I feel like i'm ...

A.   2 July 2010: First don't let your friends get to you, they sound quite childish. Secondly, don't worry about not having a girlfriend right now because (a) having a girlfriend is not everything and (b) chances are it will happen when you least expect it. ... (read in full...)

Why do I always pick the bad guys?

Q.   Hi there. I have had quite a few unsuccessful dating experiences lately. I finished with my boyfriend in February and met a lovely guy. He was so nice, he told me he hadnt felt this way about anyone for a long time. Then i found out that he lived ...

A.   2 July 2010: No particular reason other than bad stuff sometimes happens to good people. It's not you, it's just luck. Keep an eye open for new guys, get to know them, and you will find someone. xx... (read in full...)

I'm supposed to be going away with my so called friends but they treat me like a doormat! What should I do?

Q.   I would really appreciate some advice on this issue that is making me worry, to the point where i am almost being sick. I am due to go away with a group of friends in 2 weeks time to go to Greece for 2 and a half weeks. The problem is that these fr...

A.   2 July 2010: My advice would be to NOT go on this holiday and to stop seeing these so-called friends. Yes it needs some confidence to walk away from this, but this is absolutely not a friendship. This is bitchiness and abuse of the friendship you have given ... (read in full...)

I want to know how to be happy in life!

Q.   They say that beautiful people are less happy later in life… I hide behind my looks because the truth is, I’ve got low self-confidence. In fact, I have never truly believed I’m super attractive but with the right attention to myself (personal...

A.   1 July 2010: Being pregnant is a very short phase in a woman's life, and a very beautiful one at that, despite often feeling really groggy! You may have put on 30lbs, but you are carrying a baby and your body is singlehandedly giving that baby everything that ... (read in full...)

What is the best thing to say back when someone tells you they love you and you're not sure if you do yet?

Q.   What is the best thing to say back when someone tells you they love you and you're not sure if you do yet? I suspect my boyfriend might say he loves me soon - he's told our mutual friends he does and last night when we were holding each other in ...

A.   1 July 2010: I would suggest you smile super sweetly/seductively and give him a long lingering kiss. If you have to say anything then maybe tell him that what he said makes you so happy, or that you just love being with him ...and then kiss him. But if the ... (read in full...)

Long distance, age and cultural distances but I love him, what do I do?

Q.   Hi all.. I really need ur opinion bout my problem. I met a French man last year. He was in holiday in my country (in asia). He was a nice man. In the rest 17days in my country, we went evrywhere together, n of course we also made love. In 7days ...

A.   28 June 2010: Your story really reminds me of mine, but the boy I loved was in Asia, and I was in Europe. I was the traveller who would visit him as much as I could (and sometimes that was only once every 18 months), and he was the local boy who for whatever ... (read in full...)

Guys: What to you find physically attractive in a girl?

Q.   I need male input, what makes porn women so ideal and attractive, and what can I do to achieve that? I want men to think I'm as attractive as I can be, and they seem to love porn, so I only added 1+1... Of course I want a guy to love me for my p...

A.   27 June 2010: Thing is, different men like different things, and when you start trying to please everyone else you can end up confused and being dishonest to yourself. Learn to be happy in your own skin, and the confidence you will exude will be enough to drive ... (read in full...)

Why do these things make me feel "dirty"?

Q.   I trust my husband and love him dearly, but for some reason some things make me feel...dirty. I know from years of friendship that his type is tiny, blonde, white girls. I'm not tiny, not white, and not blonde. I know I'm attractive and I love ...

A.   26 June 2010: I think it's quite normal for women to have moments of total self doubt and an entire lack of self esteem, but if you feel that this is constantly in the background, it might help to speak to someone about it - maybe a doctor can provide some advice ... (read in full...)

Why does he spend more time with his friends than me, and how can I get him to stop?

Q.   So, I'm dating this guy. He's really amazing. We always have a good time when we hang out together and he seems like he's really into me... but there's a problem. He always spends way more time with his friends, than he does with me. I have talkes a...

A.   26 June 2010: I had a similar situation but it wasn't his friends, it was his work. Eventually I got fed up of being always in second place and he was fed up with my nagging him about it, so it came to an end, and you know what? it's the best thing that has ... (read in full...)

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