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This guy cancelled 3 hours before a date because he met someone else when he had been the one to suggest the date!

Q.   I met a guy online a month ago and we went out on a first date and had an amazing time. Since then he had been texting me and sending pictures and flirting, then he asked to set up a second date. I agreed and we set it up, 3 hours before the date he ...

A.   28 April 2014: Guys are not ALWAYS like this, talk about a generalisation.(from the other poster) This one is a douche however though and you should have been a little ruder or more abrupt with him, its pretty rude. I wouldn't do what he did, there are nice guy... (read in full...)

He made one comment that upset me and now I'm not very attracted to him

Q.   How is it possible that last month I was very attracted to this guy, I thought he was this incredibly good looking person and I was really excited to out with him, i was like a little a teenage girl always checking my phone and feeling really happy ...

A.   1 April 2014: Arent you going to tell us the comment? I think you should just move on. Guys, watch what you say, we speak without thinking! Sexy/very handsome people are usually assholes, I;m sorry, that's the way it gos lol ... (read in full...)

I've got it all and done it all, so what next!

Q.   I am faced with a strange dilemma. I am 31 years old, I made all my childhood dreams come true already, I am recently divorced, have no kids because I never wanted them, men fall all over me, I have a healthy lifestyle, steady job, car, a cat, I am ...

A.   9 December 2013: don't take this the wrong way but you sound like a stuck up b***&, go see how the other half live and do something to improve the lives of others. Change career paths and become a doctor and save lives, go to some foreign country and do aid work. ... (read in full...)

could it be that I've always had a thing there but didn't realize it until he WAS in uniform?

Q.   What is it about a man in uniform that drives a woman crazy? My best friend (who I've never looked at sexually) enlisted in the USAF in the middle of senior year of high school; he went into basic two days after graduation two months ago. He's ...

A.   9 July 2013: Wow, go for it what are you waiting for?, it could be the big romance of your life, good for you, I hope it works out :-)... (read in full...)

My much younger girlfriend goes dancing with her ex boyfriend

Q.   I have had a girlfriend for over six months and in all that time she has been very affectionate at times but never once said she loves me. She likes to go dancing and occasionaly has men call her and ask if shes going. Recently ske has had an ex bo...

A.   1 April 2013: I think you are being too nice to her. Find someone that appreciated all the stuff you're doing for them, shes not the only cute girl in the world u know.... (read in full...)

The one thing I always wanted was passion. Just broke up. Am I asking too much? Wanting passion in a relationship?

Q.   I was wondering if the idea of real romance like in the movies is really impossible to find in relationships? Of course I realize they are only movies but a girl can dream right? I always hated romance movies because I think yeah right! But ther...

A.   25 February 2013: Its not too much to ask. There are people every second experiencing that wonderful passion. Just keep searching and try to feel what it will be like and it will come to you.... (read in full...)

Six years since I saw her and now old crush is commenting on my face book?

Q.   Probably one of the stupidest and ridiculous things to be writing on here about, but I'm just not thinking straight right now. Female friend I crushed on in high school. Never took a chance, I went to a college far, far away, and contacted her vi...

A.   21 February 2013: Find out what she looks like FIRST, you know how you remember things when you were younger and they are different? lol then go for it, why not, maybe its meant to be.... (read in full...)

Why is my ex calling me and hurting me when he doesn't want us to be together?

Q.   Dear Cupid My bf broke up with me few days back, he called me today, i thought he is gonna give this relationship another chance took his call, stupid of me. He said as far as he is concerned i dont exist and cut the call. Why does he have t...

A.   18 February 2013: What an asshole, he breaks up with you and then rubs it in your face again? What a jerk, try to find someone nicer. Oh, and he didnt like the fact you didnt contact him when he broke up, thats why he called you again, to try to hurt u some mor... (read in full...)

Sex in not a pleasure and I don't want to have it with my boyfriend

Q.   This is gonna be long, but I really need advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 years. I love him so very much. I have had millions of best friends in my life (girls) and all of them have either moved away, drifted apart, or we ...

A.   7 February 2013: Wow, what a dilemma you have! There are a few options: You could level with him and be honest and try to make the love making better, but it sounds like you just want him to be your best friend. You might lost him, but you need to have someone... (read in full...)

Does anyone else have to pay board to their parents?

Q.   Hi, just a quick question! I am 20 years old, and have just moved back home. My parents have asked me to contribute $100 a week, for rent/bills/food. I work full-time, making about $600 (aus) a week. I also have my phone bill to pay, as well as ...

A.   30 January 2013: If you don't like paying board there are plenty of share houses on gumtree for like $150 with bills included! I think $100 is a bit high in my opinion, tell then you can only afford $50 )... (read in full...)

I have no motivation. How can I stop procrastinating and enjoy life?

Q.   Not sure what is wrong... I have been feeling sad, lack motivation, and interest. I just want to watch tv all day except when I have to go to work. I have tons of things I need to get done in life, but I just sit on my couch and put it off. What c...

A.   6 January 2013: It's pretty hard isn't it sometimes? DO you have a boyfriend or married? Is that an incentive? Any interests? I think you just have to find out what you might be interested in? Have you ever wanted to travel? Change jobs to do something ... (read in full...)

How can I stop being over jealous and clingy

Q.   Umm hello, ok lemme just go straight to the point..I have a gf, we've. Been dating for 2 months now.. She is awesome, got no problem at all, or I dnt know if its a problem. I am too clingy or should I say too jealous, when ever she tells me about ...

A.   29 December 2012: Wow, 2 monts is so brief man, but maybe you are truly in love. But you will probably scare her away if you act jealous and clingy, so just stop yourself from doing it. I don't know how you can love some one so much in 2 months. I'm not having a ... (read in full...)

I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!

Q.   Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...

A.   27 December 2012: Some of you are just downright rude, some of you have made really insightful comments. Thanks so much to o no nonsense Aidan and CMMP, you really hit the nail on the head and thanks for your best wishes, great posts, and fantastic advice, you are... (read in full...)

I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!

Q.   Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...

A.   27 December 2012: Should I text her and say I want to make a real effort or best to not use text and tell her in person after I have cooled it for a few days?... (read in full...)

I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!

Q.   Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...

A.   27 December 2012: Thanks Aidan, so not even give her movies? Fair enough. I tried really hard not to hug her this morning wth kids drop off but I failed a little bit and just put m arm arond her and said have a good day. When should I tell her I want to talk to ... (read in full...)

My bf likes to sleep with other people and doesn´t mind if I do either 

Q.   I recently met this guy online who has since told me that he thinks we were made for each other. I was totally into him from the second we first met. We have mind blowing sex and he says he has never loved anyone or anything until he met me. He a...

A.   26 December 2012: I think you are setting yourself up for a lot of hurt if you pursue him. I mean of course there is a chance he will be faithful to you, but you will never trust him, thinking about him screwing someone else like he has in the past. How will he be ... (read in full...)

I want to get back with my wife. I know deep inside she wants to give me another chance!

Q.   Hello, I am looking for advice to help me get back together with my wife. We were married for 8 years, knew each other for 15 probably, we have two boys 8 and 11. As people know that have kids, the intimacy in a relationship goes out the the door...

A.   26 December 2012: Thanks guys and girls, you're all right, yes I do get it. Sometimes we are too stupid to really get it. I expect things to change because in my head I still love her but all I can offer her is to say I love you and say things will be different and ... (read in full...)

My B/f doesn't last very long in bed

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been having sex for about a month now and it doesn't last very long. We do some foreplay but almost as soon as he's inside me he has to cum. We've tried taking breaks, I usually don't give him oral before we have sex beca...

A.   26 December 2012: If you can, tell him to masturbate to just before he cums and stop and keep doing that until he lasts longer etc. And when he is in you and feels he's about to cum, make him pull out and cool off and then go in again when less sensitive. Just know ... (read in full...)

I'm confused, because after 3 months she says she only wants to be friends. Why? is it just stress that's made this happen?

Q.   I met a girl online. We talked on the site for over a month before she gave me her number Then after that, we texted and talked on the phone for 2 weeks before we went on a date. Sense then, we've gone out everyweekend for 2 months, sometimes tw...

A.   28 October 2012: If you really like her, just cool it off a bit, make her miss you a little for a change, you never know, she might change her mind.... (read in full...)

What can I do? My love has faded. I don't know how to break up with him. And I cry just thinking about breaking up.

Q.   I need help..I've fallen out of love with my boyfriend. Been together for six months..i thought he couldn't handle commitment, and that he only wanted sex but he seems to put more effort into the relationship and i can see that he's really changing ...

A.   28 October 2012: Not really any easy answer for this one. You could fake it and hope you fall back in love with him, or tell him you need to take a break for a while and see if you miss him, you might. Or you could just let him go as easy as you can. I hope you ... (read in full...)

We are great friends and he wants to be with me but I just don't fancy him, am I being too picky? Or am I right to not want to risk our friendship?

Q.   I have this friend - we have been friends for around seven years and I would class him as my BEST male friend. Anyway, we met seven years ago - he was my best friend's bf for around 2 years and they have a child together. I am actually god mother :...

A.   16 October 2012: Are you being too picky? Who knows but if you don't see him in that light, there's no point in trying to change things! Unless you are looking for marriage material and hope that the fancy him thing works later on, but probably not a great idea. ... (read in full...)

Marriage in trouble. But could we get back together? best advice???

Q.   Well, my world came tumbling down to earth about 5 weeks ago. I have been married for 8 years, known each other for another 7 or so years earlier, have two boys 8 and 11 with her. We had one break up before we had kids, she met someone at her w...

A.   16 October 2012: thanks ladies, I appreciate your advice ooo Justin... (read in full...)

Why cant I orgasm when having sex? Is there something wrong with me?

Q.   why is easy for me to have orgasm using fingering or by myself than make sex to a man...why i never comeout or have orgasm is man used me by his penis..is there something wrong to my body?pls let me know why?thanks...

A.   16 October 2012: Well, try to get him to go down on you if thats something you would like? I always made my wife cum orally or by hand, I think if I had enough staying power it would be able to be done via penetration but u know how it is lol :-)... (read in full...)

I want to be with my boyfriend, but at the same time I need a partner who can support himself!

Q.   Hi everyone. Just wondering if someone can give me their perspective on my situation. I've come across similar situations, yet none quite like mine. Here it goes,... I've been with the same guy for almost 10 years (I was 20, him 21). We've de...

A.   16 October 2012: Wow, he sounds like me :-( maybe he has lost confidence to get a job, when u get lots of knock backs you think you cant do anything to get a job! 10 years and no ring? omg, thats a long time, he owes you that at least, and you live an hour away. ... (read in full...)

Girls say I'm nice. So why am I still single? Am I missing something they are trying to tell me?

Q.   I have been talking to all the girls in my class who all happen to have significant others and they all call me the nicest guy they have ever met Some of the girls say that any girl would be lucky to have me and that I'm too good for just any girl...

A.   15 October 2012: Hennessy has it right, its about the friend zone, don't get into it unless you want to, look at girls you like as they are your future lovers, not friends.... (read in full...)

The sex is so unsatisfying for me. What are my options? My husband has ED and has been the doctor, but then forgets his medication for ED

Q.   I don't know where to go. My husband and I were raised in very conservative religious homes and had no sexual experience prior to marriage (at 18 and 19). He has an ongoing problem with premature ejaculation (I think his record is 10 seconds)...

A.   15 October 2012: Its hard to get the message to him, guys are dumb, like me, wouldnt listen to my wife and now she is leaving. We just don't listen and think you won't leave! Its such a tough question....I always pleasured my wife and could count on one han... (read in full...)

I cant even find a decent guy for sex! Am I just unlucky, or is this the way its going to be now I'm getting older?

Q.   I m in my early 40swith a grown child. I own a small business for many years now and did well for myself. I m not rich by any means, but deffinitely independent. All I m missing is love in my life. I m in good shape, considered to be above aver...

A.   15 October 2012: Its probably the case that you don't think you will meet anyone attractive, so therefore you don't. There are so many dating sites, just keep trying and dont chat to anyone unless you like their picture. Maybe try going somewhere else to meet ... (read in full...)

Is ALMOST cheating, cheating?

Q.   Hello, I'm in a very confusing dilemma with my boyfriend at the moment, and I'm afraid to talk to my friends about it because if we do stay together, I don't want them to think badly of him. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relations...

A.   15 October 2012: Its a really really tough one isn't it? Its not good him lying about it, I guess a lot of girls would not hesitate in calling him out for lying to you, its not good in the way he lied either. It would have been nice if he had mentioned you too. I... (read in full...)

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