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I'm a 21 years-old college student. I have a very realistic approach to life, but I try to compensate by finding good news everywhere, which ends up making me very cynical...

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I've fallen in love with my teacher... and it's not just a crush!

Q.   Hey everyone...I have a big problem. Im truly in love with my teacher. I know, I know, you are all going to say "no no, its a crush" but its so much more than that...trust me. I fell head over heels over him when we first started talking. I can tell ...

A.   14 November 2006: I understand, I've been there, and yes, I got over it, mainly by reminding myself that if he really was the perfect guy for me, then he wouldn't be married to someone else. You can do it!... (read in full...)

If she loved me, why would she move out of the country? What can I do??

Q.   Hi . I'm in a long-distance relationship that seemed to become stronger and stronger in time, regardless of the distance between us. A little while ago, she's been talking about going back to her home country, coz she kinda hates her current ...

A.   13 November 2006: Consider it from her point of view: she's been having a long distance relationship with her family for a while. She wants to go back to a place where she feels comfortable and where she can find a good job. There's nothing completely selfish about ... (read in full...)

He's not ready for a relationship but wants one with me later - I'm worried he just said this to make me happy! Opinions please?

Q.   Hi there, sorry this is long but hope somebody can help. Im in love with my best male mate. I have known him 4 months a short period of time but it was pretty much love at first sight for me we met in a club and chatted and he asked me if I would ...

A.   13 November 2006: You need to know why he's not ready for a relationship. If it's because he's on the rebound from someone else, then it's a good thing, it shows his respect. You should stick around. If he just doesn't want to get serious in general, listen to him ... (read in full...)

I need a full explanantion of what 'snogging' is? Any advice?

Q.   Hi Im 13 Years Old And I Have Never Snogged A Boy All My Friends Have And im Going Out With This Boy And he keeps Goin In To Snog me But I Dont No What To Do People Say Just Slip Your Tong In There Mouth But Then What Do You Do With It ?? I Dnt ...

A.   13 November 2006: First of all, don't start all your words with a capital letter, it's really annoying to read. Second, this is something you'll really learn only when it happens to you. My one piece of advice: don't go too fast, make it slow, don't use tongue right ... (read in full...)

We are inseperable, but there is a huge culture boundary! Opinions please?

Q.   I am 18 years old dating a 27 year old man. We have been dating for a couple of months. He lives in my apartment complex and we are inseperable. We are both very happy. But there are a couple of issues, aside form our age difference. I am Spanish ...

A.   13 November 2006: Cultural differences make a relationship all the more intersting. Languages can be learned. If others have a problem with that, they're close minded, just ignore them. ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with this shaving disaster??

Q.   Ok, this is kind of a wierd post, but I've kept things shaved 'down there' for about a year because my bf prefered it that way (now I do too). But, being clumsy, I've shaved a little too close to the actual opening of my vagina, and as a result hair ...

A.   13 November 2006: Ask your gynaecologist. And in the meantime, avoid getting a rasor too close to your clitoris. I'm getting shivers just thinking about what could happen...... (read in full...)

Am I normal or has my past made me "screwed up?"

Q.   I was forced to 'touch up' my babysitter when I was about 10, and in a competely unrelated incident my Dad was sent to prison for sexual harrasment towards girls as young as 11 when I was younger (he never touched me in that way, but I had a lot of ...

A.   13 November 2006: Everyone has wet dreams from time to time, there's no problem here. However, it's not the kind of topic you can solve with an agony aunt. You need professional help if you're not confident about yourself, someone who can see the situation better. ... (read in full...)

Fancy a girl... found her blog... discovered she has a boyfriend -- but isn't happy!

Q.   Hello, and here's my story :) It's a little long and I could add more detail, but I'll try and keep to the point. Ok, I'm a male, 32, from Sydney Australia. And there's a girl, 23 from Hong Kong (this has a small bearing on the story), whose ...

A.   13 November 2006: Ask her out. Since you're not supposed to know she has a boyfriend, use this to your advantage and try to make it sound "just as friends" so as to avoid freaking her out, and then make a move. Even if it doesn't work, she sounds like she could use ... (read in full...)

I'm 28 and my 17 year old gf confuses me with her on and off behaviours. What should I do?

Q.   my girlfriend seams to be very serious when we started and she even make comments about us getting married but just one month in to it, she won't answer her phone some times, she won't even come over. am 28 and she's 17. when i ask whats going on ...

A.   13 November 2006: She's being 17, which is what she is. No surprise. Age is subjective most of the time, but in this case, it's not. She's immature. You can wait a few years for her to grow up, or you can dump her now and find someone else.... (read in full...)

Not sure if my friend would like it if I dated her ex! What should I do?

Q.   my best friend is trying to set me up with her sisters ex. we are all friends. my b/f and i fight and they are trying to get me to give up on him. i dont know what my friend would say if i dated her ex ???? ...

A.   13 November 2006: The only question you should be asking is "Do I want to date this guy?" (I hate it when I'm being set up). If the answer is yes, go for it. Otherwise, you might end up never dating anyone...... (read in full...)

I'm 16-he's 28 and he confuses me! Not sure if he's really interested or just stringing me along?

Q.   hi! well...ive recently got this new job which ive been at for a few weeks now. When i first started i connected really well with my supervisor, actually i just thought we were friends who just made jokes and acted silly. But one night at work i s...

A.   13 November 2006: The age difference isn't the real problem. He's your supervisor, and dating someone higher than you in hierarchy is a general bad idea. Also, depending on where you live, it might be illegal to keep going this way. Just wait till you're 18 and have ... (read in full...)

I've developed a deep infatuation for this woman from work and I want more! What should I do?

Q.   Hi there, im in abit of a dilemma, i am crazy about this girl i work with in th office. I am 31 years old, and she is 20. The last couple of months there has been some major flirting going on between us which has been great, sharing long glan...

A.   13 November 2006: One word : e-mail. Certainly the best way to get in touch silently. It's also a great way of flirting. Imagine that, not alking to her, but seeing her in halls, thinking of the e-mail she just sent you... Go for it!... (read in full...)

We've split up but I still have to work with him! How do I get through this?

Q.   I have just been dumped by the guy who I thought was "the one" as he is going throgh some family problems and needs to be alone and just focus on his family. To make matters worse we work together, we actually sit beside eachother!I am mad about him ...

A.   13 November 2006: The best way to deal with this is being extra-professional. Be completely neutral. Talk to him only when needed. Most of all, try to be better than him. If you're boss was aware of the relationship, tell him/her about the split. If he/she knows abou... (read in full...)

I want family and committment. My long term lover doesn't. Should I just dump him and find someone else?

Q.   I'm a single white female, satisfied with my career, have a great apartment in great city. good friends/family. i have an amazing sexual relationship with an exciting (single, not married) lover who lives in the same time-zone but not the same ...

A.   13 November 2006: 10 years! Waouh! I'm sorry, but if in 10 years he didn't realise you were an amazing person and he should do everything possible to keep you, then you should dump his sorry ass. ... (read in full...)

How do I get away from an abusive man who has threatened to kill me? Help me out here!

Q.   I started messing with this guy while he was in jail for like a hole year he came home to live with me he got a job and helped me out alot but after about 3 months of him being home he started showing his other side and started drinking here and ...

A.   13 November 2006: Simple: go to the police NOW, like, this very minute, and get restraining orders. If he's been in jail before, it will be even easier for you to have it done. Step number two is calling a friend who lives far away and ask for help a few months. If y... (read in full...)

Involved with a 40 year old guy! His interest in sex has vanished..is his age a factor?

Q.   Does anyone know if there is much difference between the sex drive of a 20 year old man and a 40 year old man? I am in a relationship with a man almost twice my age and everything was going really well until more recently when his interest in sex ...

A.   13 November 2006: You have a problem. As a 40 years-old male friend of mine recently put it: "You know, the bottom line for all guys is their penis." If he's not interested in sex anymore when he's got a good looking (I'll assume you're good-looking) young guy avai... (read in full...)

Can't get in touch with my friends! My confidence is at an all time low! What can i do?

Q.   hi iv come out of an army prep course after breaking my arm about 6 months ago and my self esteem has gone to an all time low i cant get in touch with any of my mates and have been sitting around all day scared to go out geting money off the dol i ...

A.   13 November 2006: Take a piece of paper and a pen, write down all your thoughts, and try to do it as often as possible. Then get to the nearest city where you don't know anyone, have a cup of coffee and watch the others. Try to find a club of anything that could ... (read in full...)

If I think I love him still, then why did seeing the old pics of us together..make me feel physically ill?

Q.   Ok, so I'm still in love with my ex boyfriend, and I'm struggling to get over him, but I have to because he has a girlfriend. I was just deleting unused files off my computer when I found photos I'd saved of us together, kissing and being intimate. ...

A.   13 November 2006: Because you don't love him anymore. You're finally able to separate the guy you dated from the guy who is now dating someone else. Actually, good for you!... (read in full...)

Do I risk our great friendship and tell him I love him?

Q.   i have been best m8s with this lad for 2 years the problem is i think i love him and dont know wheter to tell him. i get the feeling he does feel the same but font want to risk are friendship as i would be lost without him can you help??...

A.   12 November 2006: Go for it. If you don't, you're not being honnest, and the friendship is already lost.... (read in full...)

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