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Why has he not met me yet?

Q.   There's this guy I like.... so he keeps making plans to meet me then goes quiet for the before and day of. Why, does he not really like me? Does he really like me and is nervous? We seem to get on well over text and phone and social medi...

A.   17 July 2017: I agree with Honeypie here and just would like to know if you know where this guy lives, I mean really know, The Internet is a great place for people THAT ARE SAD AND BORED to make up whole lives and live in this land of make believe, this ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a good guy but I'm not in love with him anymore. There's also a new man on the scene but he's in a relationship. I'm clueless about what to do

Q.   Hi Aunts and Uncles. I'm posting this here because I have always had good advice here before and I have no one I can speak to about this. I feel like such an awful person for what I am about to write but I can't go on keeping it in my head. It's ...

A.   14 July 2017: Do I wait until we are financially okay again and grit my teeth? This I don't buy as an excuse, My wife and I have had more and deeper financial troubles than most over 16 years and having sex and our love was often the only thing we had to hold us ... (read in full...)

I'm very uncomfortable around my colleague who has made advances at me. Did I deal with him in the right way?

Q.   An older male colleague made advances towards me in a (in my opinion) really creepy and passive aggressive way, half a year ago. I shut him down, almost got HR involved and we had a long frank discussion where I told him not to call me anymore, not ...

A.   14 July 2017: I go along with what the others here from your country say, just wonder if you need proof to go to HM ... (read in full...)

I cheated on my fiance and am looking at others because of the lack of sex in our relationship

Q.   Looking for advice... I'm marrying my fiancé next year whom I've been with for 9 years. We've had our ups and downs over the years and he's not had much time for me over the past couple of years as he's been studying on top of his full time job. Thi...

A.   14 July 2017: Unless he is ok with a hot wife, I would say end it with him now and start over in a new relationship, looks like you have grown apart, Cheating is not the way to go, you need to tell him about this and see if he wants to try help put things right ... (read in full...)

Are all men vain?

Q.   Are guys really vain? I'm an insecure female and I have from what most men say and ideal face and body and I get complimented a lot- I don't share a lot of myself with the men I've been because it takes time - they also have been really bad men- my ...

A.   11 July 2017: beauty is in the eye of the beholder, I think I am married to the best woman in the world, the other men that ever dated her saw things in her I did not and the many men that did not even give her a second look for what reason I don't know or care, ... (read in full...)

Husband has cheated in the past, is he cheating again?

Q.   My husband had cheated on me in the past for 3yrs straight before he told me even though I had asked and knew (feeling) it was going on, we worked through it and he promises it will never happen again, etc I've recently found various strands of hair ...

A.   11 July 2017: 4 posters have said he is guilty and I say you need more to go on, I would not normally say this but in this case, I say you need to find out to put your mind at ease, it is often the case that if you take back a cheater you will always have a dough ... (read in full...)

How do I get out of loving the "other man" when I'm a married woman?

Q.   4 years ago I became colleagues with a man I met online. He knew I was married from the beginning and he was always platonic with me, or so I thought, Things soon started getting weird between us and he started acting jealous whenever I'd men...

A.   11 July 2017: You are not been honest to your husband, so you not putting you all into your relationship, that is putting the relationship with your husband in danger, How would you feel if he was having phone sex with someone behind your back, As Denizen said ... (read in full...)

Why won't he do what he used to offer me in bed?

Q.   Basically, me and my partner got together in 2012. We're engaged now and have two kids so our relationship is serious. I'm 23 and he's 27. When we met we did start off at friends with benefits for about 6 months before becoming bf gf. Anyway, in the ...

A.   11 July 2017: That is a huge change from your first post, you are so lucky to find out what a jerk he is, A UK size 12 is smaller than av, and it takes a year for your body to go back after being pregnant, To comment on your size in that way for me is even worse ... (read in full...)

Is it normal for eyes to wander in long term relationships?

Q.   I have been with my gf 5 years now and over that time things have never been smooth sailing but lately and this is something I feel guilty about my eyes have begun to wonder i would love to say I would never cheat and I am 99% sure I wouldn't but I ...

A.   9 July 2017: 90% of men and women window shop and the other 5% are liars, but very few shoplift, But that is not the QUESTION here as you say your in a relationship where and I quote " me and my gf don't really click or have much in common " you then go on to ... (read in full...)

My friend seems keen for me to have sex with his wife

Q.   I am single guy....... A friend of mine and his wife who I have both known for years,went over my apartment last night, after drinking at a local bar,and we ended up having a threesome, after he encouraged her... afterwards it was a little...

A.   9 July 2017: The first posters seem to hit it, this man may have a fetish or can't get it up or keep it up long enough, or he just might like the idea love his wife and like to see her been pleasured more and more like the amount of pleasure he can give is not ... (read in full...)

How do I deal with creepy older men?

Q.   I live in a small rich town where there are a LOT of people in their 50s and 60s, I'm here because it's cheaper and nicer than the nearby city. I'm a female student in my 20s. I get hit on regularly by older guys (I'm talking the ones in the 50s ...

A.   8 July 2017: It seems to be more acceptable in the UK for men the do this and the old wolf whistles thing and even slapping girls on the behind, it is like as if women should expect it and accept it, It is like the girls that get raped and they end up been ... (read in full...)

What to expect in relationship after 10 years?

Q.   Hi, I need some perspective on my relationship. I want to know if it is expected that after 10 years should romance fade? Should I still be feeling lovey dovey or should I just be feeling bland and monotonous? Should I still be excited? Does ...

A.   8 July 2017: The one that finds the secret to everlasting love will become the richest person on earth, experts say the Lovey Dovey stage lasts only on av 3 months, they might be right but I don't agree if they are right you got more out of it that most, Whil... (read in full...)

Why won't he do what he used to offer me in bed?

Q.   Basically, me and my partner got together in 2012. We're engaged now and have two kids so our relationship is serious. I'm 23 and he's 27. When we met we did start off at friends with benefits for about 6 months before becoming bf gf. Anyway, in the ...

A.   8 July 2017: He was young and just starting out 6 years ago, He would have not much experience in sex and he might have felt he needed to do it or at least give it a try, Did you ever try oral before and if so did you enjoy it or are yu just wanting to explore ... (read in full...)

Why is she so inconsistent with what she wants?

Q.   I've been with this girl for about 8 months now. Everything has been good between us until about a month ago.. I moved in with her last month and now somethings are starting to bother me. She's very inconsistent with what she wants. She works...

A.   8 July 2017: As Honey said she might not be ready to do the family thing, She may feel the need for money to pay off education loans, You don't say if you know what her jobs are. You make it look like she is making up lots of lies to hide something from you... (read in full...)

I think he's been swapping explicit pics of me!

Q.   I need some advice and don't normally do this but I've been with this guy for nearly 2 years and had a gut feeling he's been up to somthing odd! I logged into his emails today and found messages between him and a random person on cragslist asking ...

A.   8 July 2017: This photo account that his has will have photos of you on it some you will know about some that you will not know about, It might have other photos of his ex or ex's, Scotland Yard have people that deal with this, he must be a member of other ... (read in full...)

How can I deal with bad female bosses

Q.   A year ago I was working for a large publicly held company - when they hired a senior manager and let go my original manager that hired me. As soon as she started working no more than two months in the job she started criticizing my work- micro ...

A.   7 July 2017: Without proof, you are going nowhere, some people just can't help it they are full of their own ignorance and don't even see that they are bully's, So if you want to do anything you will need to have something to show them, but it is against the law ... (read in full...)

Should I back of and give her time to deal with things?

Q.   So for the past month or so I've been sleeping with this girl I know through mutual friends. We always have a lot of fun together when we hang out. She's just getting out of a seven year relationship and is currently in the process of moving out of ...

A.   7 July 2017: I can see her point, you guys like each other and she is not healed yet from what went before, be a friend to her and show her you love her and not a guy out for sex, she just needs a bit of time, and you seem to be the type guy I would want for my ... (read in full...)

I work while my husband stays home, he goes on vacation but I cant!

Q.   A little over a year ago my husband left hos job because it was too stressful and demanding and became a househusband. I own our house, so no mortgage and extra espenses, and although our lifestyle has changed a bit- meaning that we try and save ...

A.   6 July 2017: I must hand it to him, he can wind you around his little finger. How I would like to be a kept man, It is a wonder he does not tell you he needs to take on a mistress as his life is too stressful, I am sorry I have no time for this type of man, ... (read in full...)

Online dating. He's not just chatting to me. Should I start chatting to others?

Q.   Online dating. I've had both good and bad experiences doing this . I've been chatting with a guy for a couple of week and we are meeting in a few days for our first date . He's told me the lines how he's hoping i'm the one and what he hopes will h...

A.   6 July 2017: I have never been on an online dating site, but the way I look on it is your not dating yet so it is free ground, till you become an item then sniffing around on the net is out as flirting with others is out in everyday life so as of today he is ... (read in full...)

I am much less experienced sexually and it bothers me.

Q.   I am a lot less experienced sexually than my girlfriend. She has had atleast 13 past sexual partners aswell as a long term boyfriend. Unfortunately her efforts to try and be open and honest about her sexual past (which I respect her for) led to me ...

A.   6 July 2017: Quilty is better than quintain, I hope for you that you can find a way to deal with her story, she must think a lot of you to let you into her past, while I respect her for why she told you I disagree with anyone that brings their history into a ... (read in full...)

I'm not sure if I should go on a third date with him!

Q.   I recently met a guy on a dating app and we have gone on two dates. We spoke once over the phone for two hours and he doesn't really text and doesn't call me at all. However, he is always making plans ahead by asking me at the end of each date when ...

A.   6 July 2017: Wheader he is into texting or not is a none I see here, the big question is about if you see your self wanting to go ahead with trying to make something work with him or not, it is good to meet up like this and even though he is happy with what he ... (read in full...)

He's asking about people I've slept within the past 2 years!

Q.   I've recently got into a relationship with a guy i've been seeing on and off for a long time. We've only been together a couple of months officially but he's began to ask about people i've slept with over the past two years. He's quite insecure as ...

A.   6 July 2017: I am a guy and the biggest mistake ever is to tell anyone about your history, I am the other posts here in the thing about LDR ... (read in full...)

I've forgotten how to meet people!

Q.   Ok I need advice, I'm a widow of 7 yrs, I was married for 27. I have forgotten how to meet people. seems the ones I do just want sex, Im not saying sex is a bad thing. but I want a relationship. Can anyone refresh me on how to meet people. ...

A.   6 July 2017: I am about the same age and with my wife the same amount of time, and we have said from time to time to eachother that we would not like to be going through all the date game again now , everything looks to have changed , in our day we had no ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating with his ex?

Q.   Is my partner cheating??????????? He says he needs 2 clear his head is he cheating with his ex and only talking 2 his daughter his smashed his phone up so no one can get hold off him but I think his stopping at his ex house cos he knows were not ...

A.   5 July 2017: first off you said he smashed his phone, did he take out the sim? You could try photne him from a phone he does not know. Just because he might be at his ex wifes house does not say he is sleeping with her, if he is in a bad place in his head she... (read in full...)

I want more from my friend's girlfriend.

Q.   why do people have friends and when you talk to them and you say you love them and I got a friend he got's a girl friend and I know them for quit some time they are in a relationship and me and my friend his girlfriend are friends put I would love ...

A.   29 June 2017: It is best to leave it a lone , you can't help your feelings for her , but you don't have to follow them , if you are a friend to them you would not try to split them up, What would you think of a friend that wanted to take you away from your love, ... (read in full...)

We both have partners but workmate is flirting

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm writing about an issue I have at work with regards to a co-worker. I work in a pub so it is a very relaxed atmosphere. I get on with all my co-workers, both male and female. However, there is one particular co-worker who...

A.   28 June 2017: Do you wish to brake it off with your bf ? do you hope to get a chance with this coworker ? what if it was your bf that was attracted to a coworker .... (read in full...)

Should I ask her now?

Q.   Hi I'm not sure where to start as this is a huge story, I will try to keep this as short and informative as possible. I'm here because I struggle to vocalise my emotions with those closest to me. I'm 27 years old I was with my ex for 9 years (16-...

A.   28 June 2017: The only thing you can do is ask her .If she is ok with taking you back don't make the same mistake again . If she is not you will have to deal with that , and move on ... (read in full...)

We both have partners but workmate is flirting

Q.   Hi everyone. I'm writing about an issue I have at work with regards to a co-worker. I work in a pub so it is a very relaxed atmosphere. I get on with all my co-workers, both male and female. However, there is one particular co-worker who...

A.   28 June 2017: Keep the work place a happy place , yse he knows your bought in the same place that is why he is doing it as he hopely is playing safe , but for all involved don't let him away with touching you know now the work place don't like that as they can be ... (read in full...)

Is this the chance to get back?

Q.   Guys I'm stocked in a situation. I loved a guy and we had some misunderstandings which led us to break up. Deep inside I'm still loving him. After so many months I met him. I told him that I'm still loving him. He looked at me and said "U r the one ...

A.   28 June 2017: Easy way to find out is wait for you birthday , It is not often that people can get back but it does happen , you did not tell us how long you have to wait , ... (read in full...)

Should I warn her it's showing?

Q.   My wife is currently 7 1/2 months pregnant with our 1st child. For the last few months as she has gotten bigger, she has relied on leggings and yoga pants as her go=to wardrobe. She hasn't noticed yet that these are becoming increasingly tighter and ...

A.   28 June 2017: YES yu can tell her that they don't fit any more , as honeypie said don't say you have seen others gaping , ... (read in full...)

How do I make the break for good?

Q.   I just read this article about having to let go of a true soulmate; that certain brands of soulmates come in fast, passionately - like a tornado only to be the impetus behind the ultimate crash and burn. So you love someone who also loves you b...

A.   24 June 2017: I don't believe in sole-mates. This is a romantic idea to make people that are in love think there is no-one else in the world that can make us happy, when we can be happy with many different people and most often see and fall in love over and over ... (read in full...)

Why is he still looking for me? He's married now.

Q.   9 years ago (15-16yrs old)I dated a guy in H.S. But we only dated for about a month before he broke up with me over the phone. In that month we were together we had sex and seems like all the guys were talking about it..Well next school year he ...

A.   24 June 2017: The most important part is at the end. You know he is using you. He wants to keep his wife and get a bit on the side, and he will break you up with every guy you ever get with to keep his little bit of extra, because that is all you are to him, a ... (read in full...)

I don't get his on-off attitude

Q.   I have been dating a guy for 1 and a half years. He asked for space. He asked for space and then said sorry the next day, and again stopped contact with me for a week. Suddenly he texted me again when he needed me and now again has cut off contact ...

A.   22 June 2017: he is playing games to get into your head , he is not worth your time , find a guy that respects you and does not play games to push you away so you drop your grade and find yourself having sex with him because of it , there are boys that play games ... (read in full...)

How to make someone who doesn't like you fall in love with you ?

Q.   I know a man who fancy me sexually but doesn't like me personally. This is odd I know, please open your mind. This is a player, someone who sleeps around and goes from a girl to a girl like a bee in the spring lol. He is good looking, char...

A.   22 June 2017: this guy is a player , he acting like he does not even see you is an old trick that some fools play it works like this if I take a girl out on a date and walk her home when we get near the door she is thinking that he will try to kiss me goodnight ... (read in full...)

I met him online, lied about everything and now 4 years later I know I need to tell him the truth but I don't know how

Q.   I met someone online 4years back when I was 17 - 18, so I joined in just for fun..members were not really serious about relationships but everyone was there after a breakup or divorce. And I decided to hide my identity and just to have chat with ...

A.   22 June 2017: how well do you know him if you only know him on line , many people are said to do as you did , some people are better at finding out the ones that are false then I am , I have come across some women that are men , why people do this I don't know , ... (read in full...)

I don't think he wants a divorce but he wants his freedom

Q.   My husband left me for another women but came back. He was with her for 18 months. I was devastated and profoundly affected. Our marriage wasn't perfect but we had been together for 22 years. We both had a hand in it but I never would hav betrayed ...

A.   22 June 2017: Yes it takes a strong person to get a divorce and even a stronger one to not fall into the trap of pulling the other one down and using the kids as tools in a game of tic for tac. All you said in your second post I agree with , and yes it is hard ... (read in full...)

We don't want kids or pregnancy but husband is against abortion. Help!

Q.   My husband and I never wanted children. I dislike children and the thought of being pregnant. He is fine with them but prefers not to have any of his own. We have always used condoms. I have never used any other kind of birth control. I do no...

A.   22 June 2017: Your mind is made up on the fact that you will never have a child. this is your right , it is your body and if you don't want to have the pill and I do agree with why you don't so the only other thing for you to do is for you to have your tubes cut ... (read in full...)

Told my boyfriend I got a new job at a hotel. He was concerned men would look up my skirt.

Q.   I told my boyfriend I just got a new job! It will help me pay my bills and I really needed a job right now. It's in housekeeping at an upscale hotel. The first question he asked is what will I be wearing? He was concerned it would be a skimp...

A.   22 June 2017: God, that bf is sick. he thinks everyone is like himself, thinking staff are there as toys, and that he wants to look up under their dress if he can. You get a set time to do a room you get a set amount of rooms to do in the day, You will have to ... (read in full...)

Is this guy interested or not?!

Q.   I met this guy about a year ago now-we met online and met up, we got on well and had a laugh, he didn't push for sex or anything like that, he was really respectful, I had a boyfriend at the time but the relationship was on its way out due to him ...

A.   21 June 2017: you don't say how far he is from you , and it looks as if he has done all the running or most , without making a realy long post , I would phone him up and tell him as it is , you know him now not to play the ballroom of romance games , as a guy I ... (read in full...)

A guy is visiting me from Europe, Should I be responsible for his accomodation and hotel bills?

Q.   It's my first time online dating and I met a likable European guy. He is 28 and I don't expect him to have much money. I really like him and I was to visit him first but because of my work I can't at the moment. He decided to visit first. I live in ...

A.   21 June 2017: He wants to come to see you so it is at his cost to get to you and to put himself up, if you went to him he offered to put you up, but this would be high risk for you, in the same way if he stayed at your place you would still be at risk. The first ... (read in full...)

Should I end my it with my cybersex buddy ?

Q.   Hello Dear cupid , I have a issue..... I have a pen pal in another country he is in the U.K. And I'm in the USA we met on Instagram it started out friendly but gradually got flirty and sexual we are both really attracted to each other and have ...

A.   21 June 2017: he might have a wife or a gf or might just want to cut the sex talk off for your own good , he knowing that it is not in your best intrest to keep it up , it was good for a bit , and now is time to move on , same goes for you , he might still be h... (read in full...)

I don't think he wants a divorce but he wants his freedom

Q.   My husband left me for another women but came back. He was with her for 18 months. I was devastated and profoundly affected. Our marriage wasn't perfect but we had been together for 22 years. We both had a hand in it but I never would hav betrayed ...

A.   5 June 2017: Unless you are happy with an open marraige, then get out when you can. He looks as if he wants to keep you on side. As if he gets a divorce, being the one that cheated, he would stand to pay more. So he is happy to have his family life and ... (read in full...)

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