Should I continue with plans to visit family?
Q. Hi there Happy Sunday everyone and thank you in advance for any forthcoming advice. This is a family matter and I am just not sure how to handle it. I am a little older, divorced, no kids and have lost both my parents. I have siblings wh...
A. 14 August 2017: Hi there, I will give you my 2c worth, as you are not clear on how much real contact you have with your family and extended family I think you should keep your booking and get a room somewhere near them as your uncle and aunt are not young anymore ... (read in full...)
Having sex all the time is really putting me off having sex
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together about seven months now. Things are kosher for the most part with a few small arguments here and there. One of the few things about the relationship that bother me is his sex drive. When we started dating I ...
A. 12 August 2017: Sexually incompatible is screaming out at me, And I think your still trying to find your own sexual comfort zone, I THINK you need to find a partner that will fill your needs in your field,
this man might fill all your other needs but not want... (read in full...)
How can I make my husband feel better about our sex life?
Q. I am a woman of 50 years, I married 10 years ago. I was single for 40 years and naturally I had several sexual partners (26 men more precisely). The problem is that I have never had orgasms with my current husband. He is very dedicated in bed, not ...
A. 11 August 2017: sorry for you and the polite you find yourself in, I hope he can get over the fact that he can not give you what others have in the same way, but he should all so be happy to try to find with you new things that are as good if not better, after ... (read in full...)
He seems a lovely guy but could I be missing something?
Q. I have been communicating steadily with a man I met online now for around 6 months, but we have been also interacting on message boards now for more like 8 months. Things have progressed to us both being seriously interested in seeing if we could ...
A. 11 August 2017: Why do I see huge contradictions here, I think if we stand back and look at the advice we hand out, If we are asked by someone that is worried about a number of partners their new partner has had before them, so why would we think that it makes no ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has his exes as friends on facebook.
Q. Is it okay for your partner to have exes on Facebook? I have an issue with my boyfriend having a woman he and his wife had a threesome with a few years ago (they are no longer together) being on his friend list. He also has an ex who had an abortion ...
A. 10 August 2017: Try put yourself in the place of this woman, an abortion must be a hard thing to go through and to be put through. Does she need to be blocked as well? ... (read in full...)
My husband refuses to acknowledge my children from a previous relationship
Q. Am 39 years married to my husband for six years. I had two children before marriage. On of them her dad is alive but is not interested in financially supporting her or co parenting. The other his dad passed on. I hve two more kids with my husband ...
A. 10 August 2017: this guy has some thing blocking him off from you first kids, No matter how little you know someone if they are seen to be sick you will care for them unless you are hurting in some way, I am not an expert but think he's got a jealous side to ... (read in full...)
He seems a lovely guy but could I be missing something?
Q. I have been communicating steadily with a man I met online now for around 6 months, but we have been also interacting on message boards now for more like 8 months. Things have progressed to us both being seriously interested in seeing if we could ...
A. 10 August 2017: I am like you I believe his story, I know a man we sell to every month is about the same age came up from the south of France with his mother and has never had a GF in his life and he is MD for a huge company, and there are many people out there ... (read in full...)
My brother is about to be taken for a ride by an online Romanian stripper!
Q. My older brother is marrying a 21 year old stripper from Romania to bring her to the US. He met her on a webcam girl site. It is likely a romance/green card scam. He is really in a mid life crisis (48) and this is totally out of character for him. ...
A. 10 August 2017: thank you "YouWish" for explaining what red pill is as I had no idea what it was after reading the post and had to look it up, God this site looks to be run by people that have a sick image of women, and if your brother is taking in by that, the ... (read in full...)
His ex girlfriends stuff is still a his place!
Q. I have been dating my bf for almost a couple months. He was w/his ex for a long time and still has her stuff tho its been awhile since they broke up. Her stuff is still there and I want it gone, I don't want her to have any hold on him. He has ...
A. 9 August 2017: and is he happy about you trying to put his balls into your hand bag, it did not take long for you to take over his life, I think you need to give your Unix the address to this site as he has not the balls to decide for himself what to do with... (read in full...)
Savings for our house keep getting taken away by Mum in law
Q. Hi cupids... I'm in a bit of difficulty at the moment and don't know if I'm being selfish...me and my boyfriend live together at his mums at the moment.. we are trying to save to buy a house together.. my boyfriends mum lost her job a few months ...
A. 9 August 2017: WE ARE GETTING ONE SIDE OF A 3 SIDED STORY HERE, first your living in her house, and paying a rent together, that is wrong, you should be paying her your rent and him his, the second what is a fair rent is it 300 each and then pay for extras which ... (read in full...)
I ended the affair but he keeps contacting me
Q. I have been involved with a married man for over 5 years....he said he's in a sexless marriage and his wife doesn't show him any affection....he can't leave her yet as he feels he would be abandoning his kids even though they are in their late ...
A. 9 August 2017: in a relationship, there are 2 people and often that is not easy, but in an affair, there are 3 and often more, you can't judge from a photo as what do we do when someone is about to press the button on the camera, "we say smile" we don't know if ... (read in full...)
Is it strange to be 'vetted' by your partners family?
Q. Does anyone else think this is a little odd, basically I am in a new relationship with a lovely woman and she has told me that a certain person that she knows (I don't know if it is a family member or friend) has 'vetted' me to make sure I am who I ...
A. 9 August 2017: I think it is normal if you think highly of people around you that you like to see that they are not making a mistake, you have being vetted and came up clean, saying you have not a second wife or you have not a history of using women and what not, ... (read in full...)
I've set boundaries on how much "help" I give my boyfriend and he doesn't like it!
Q. Am I a hypocrite? Am I mean? I know for a fact I'm confused. My bf and I were recently laid off and have 60 days to find a new job. I've already updated my res and applied to 6 places. I have even looked for jobs my bf could apply to and hav...
A. 9 August 2017: your love should have no boundaries, you should give your love with out counting the cost as long as the other person is doing the same, in one part of your relationship he can be good like if he is good at DIY and if you are good at doing this it ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has his exes as friends on facebook.
Q. Is it okay for your partner to have exes on Facebook? I have an issue with my boyfriend having a woman he and his wife had a threesome with a few years ago (they are no longer together) being on his friend list. He also has an ex who had an abortion ...
A. 9 August 2017: I think more of a man that can stay friends with an ex after a break up than one that acts like a child and thinks because they are not together now that he uses every thing in his path as weapons to hurt his ex, like the way many use their ... (read in full...)
What makes a person act like my ex did?
Q. I was dating a guy for about two years. Around April of 2017 he breaks off the relationship. I was being needy and angry during that time because I was in my senior year of college and it was finals. And my father had stage four cancer he got really ...
A. 8 August 2017: my deepest condolences, that guy is a self-centered pin that does not know what he is doing, needs time to get his head straight and figure out where he is going, by then it will be too late for him and then he will be trying to find ways to win you ... (read in full...)
I am in love with my brother's best friend
Q. Ok so I really need advice!!!! My brother has been best friends with this one guy for like ever. His friend M. Has known me his entire life and I never thought of him as anything else but like a second brother. But my brother and his friend drifted ...
A. 8 August 2017: If he is this close a friend you can have a proper talk with him, ask him what he wants from your friendship, and where does he see it going and if he wants to follow up on what he said,
you are 18 and not a kid now so you can tell if he is playi... (read in full...)
We've been facetiming and he's asked me to come to see him but now I'm getting cold feet
Q. I need to make a decision today please can you post so i can get advice. Or advise what i need to change in it to allow it to be posted. I met a guy online been facetiming for 5 months hes an actor i know who he is etc and we have a great friendsh...
A. 8 August 2017: I hope you do get to meet him in that way you will not give the rest of your time regretting not going, just what if you hit it off, where do you see this relationship going if there was one... (read in full...)
I can't handle my husband lying!
Q. Recently my husband hasn't shown any interest in sex at all. He hasn't always been one of those men who want it all the time but sometimes it can be 2 weeks before he even shows the least bit of interest. I thought it was me, I have put weight on ...
A. 8 August 2017: we don't know your guy, he could be gay that is acting that he is not gay, it could be that he just has some fantasies about him or you sleeping with other members of the family, and it might be nothing at all as he does not try to keep his phone ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a good guy but I don't know if I am wasting my time
Q. My boyfriend dated a French girl for 2 years and was very open about it. They went on vacations, posted affectionate pictures online and lived in as well. They broke up amicably and remain friends. My boyfriend and I started on a rough note. I wa...
A. 3 August 2017: He is more mature now and has put finance high on his list, he is not a kid and he seems to like you it might even be love, it does look as if he feels a bit under pressure that could be coming from you or the people around him, give him time ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend goes out with a male friend who makes her feel uncomfortable being too touchy
Q. My girlfriend of 9 months was recently on a night out without me present. She has a few guy friends that I know about that she's been friends with for a few years along with her girl friends and they were all out. One of her guy friends was too ...
A. 3 August 2017: this one is like flipping a coin it could be all innocent and two people just friends, but the way he acted when he was drinking shows he wants to be more than friends, she could be meeting him to tell him it is not going to happen and she wants to ... (read in full...)
Why is my girlfriend being friendly with a guy that won't leave her alone?
Q. Hey guys just want to know your veiws on my situation. Right my partner works in a pub at night everytime she goes to work she has this one bloke who wont leave her alone always saying how nice her arse is and that he will get her he has even seen a ...
A. 3 August 2017: I am total with aunty BimBim bank card and pin number, she is more than stupid,
Cancel the card yesterday, if the bank finds out someone else got their hands on your card and pin you would not be covered if anything was taking ... (read in full...)
Why has this man reappeared saying he's sorry things didn't work out
Q. I met a guy online a few months back. We got on well, there was chemistry and he only lived a 5 minute drive from me. Right from the start even though his profile said he was looking for a relationship I knew he was only after the physical side. ...
A. 3 August 2017: I don't understand why people jump into bed and have sex with others if they are looking for a serious relationship, I am not against casual sex if bought people are into it and are consenting adults but when you're looking for a serious relati... (read in full...)
How do I get over being rejected by guys?
Q. How do I get over the idea of being rejected by guys? Hi I'm 18 and about to go off to university. I've always been scared of getting rejected by guys so I have never put myself out there. As a result... I've never actually experienced reje...
A. 3 August 2017: WHY look on the negative side, why to think you're going to be rejected, You are putting the cart before the horse here fearing rejection before your even in a relationship,
this guy you know and interests you some what if you meet or bump int... (read in full...)
How can I make my husband feel better about our sex life?
Q. I am a woman of 50 years, I married 10 years ago. I was single for 40 years and naturally I had several sexual partners (26 men more precisely). The problem is that I have never had orgasms with my current husband. He is very dedicated in bed, not ...
A. 3 August 2017: In TRYING TOO hard to get things right we can all mess up and get everything wrong, and that is what you did, you can not undo what you have walked your self into,
YOU ARE BEING VERY OPEN to open to your husband, he does not need to know any... (read in full...)
I want to tell my boyfriend that I'm unhappy with him watching porn but I don't know what to say
Q. I recently discovered my boyfriend of 4 years watches porn and it makes me feel really uncomfortable. I know and understand most guys watch it but I have no confidence and self esteem as it is, I always think I'm not good enough for him and have ...
A. 2 August 2017: The porn is a side issue here, you think he does not love you because he looks at some porn, instead of talking about him looking at porn, get a sex few ed DVD's on the net, and look at them with him, this way you can explore what each other likes, ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says he will never marry me because of a bad divorce
Q. Hi i have a bf for almost 2 1/2 years. He is divorce cos his ex wife cheated on him. Im widpw but never have Problem with my marriage. The thing is, i love my bf now and i know he love me too. But because of his bad experience with his ex wife he ...
A. 2 August 2017: I take it your living together as husband and wife, and a lot of people think how stupid it is to spend 20k or more to have a ring and a day out with people that you might not ever see again,
and all that experience does not stop people cheating... (read in full...)
We've been facetiming and he's asked me to come to see him but now I'm getting cold feet
Q. I need to make a decision today please can you post so i can get advice. Or advise what i need to change in it to allow it to be posted. I met a guy online been facetiming for 5 months hes an actor i know who he is etc and we have a great friendsh...
A. 2 August 2017: If you go can you see yourself moving to where he lives if it works out, for your family to say it is up to you they must be happy that he is an ok type guy,
I would what the heck get them tickets booked, the worst can happen is you can't fi... (read in full...)
Would he have given his number if he wasnt really interested
Q. Im hopeless in the world of dating . Im on a dating site and the guy im chatting with is legit hes very open and hasnt held back with anything hes show me videos of where he works and facebook details , He asked if i was free we could meet for ...
A. 2 August 2017: From my where I stand, if I was asked to have a cupa and if I came make it I would suggest another date, and not just let it hang in the air, it is just as much your interest for you to meet him as it is for him to meet you if you don't show him ... (read in full...)
Do men ever regret dumping a good woman?
Q. Want to ask the other women on this site,I treated my ex great I thought, I did every thing to try to make him happy,its been over a year now, do you think he ever thinks of me. Do men ever regret dumping a good woman, oh he ghost me, never got a ...
A. 2 August 2017: even though you only asked for what women think on this one I can't help but think he might think about you but he might be happy where he is at, the relationship might have to be good in your eyes but it might not be what he was looking for, there ... (read in full...)
Did I prove a point in this office situation?
Q. I've heard that women hate it when men don't look at them or pay them any attention, and liking the guy or being in a relationship already is irrelevant. I had an attractive young woman always looking at me in the office a work. I deliberately...
A. 2 August 2017: A high amount of relationships are formed at work, and if you think of it 50% of marriages end in divorce not to talk about a number of relationships that break up,
You don't really seem to be interested or drawn to this younger woman, So I fee... (read in full...)
Is this guy online serious?
Q. I've been talking to this guy for a good 6 months now. We met through Snapchat. He has been the one initiating conversation majority of the time and he has admitted to liking me and caring about me. He said he wants to get to know me a bit more on a ...
A. 2 August 2017: I might be way off here but I think he is putting his education first, and we can't blame him for that,
If you have given him your phone no. has he not given you his, if not he is not serious or is keeping it from you if he has what is stopping... (read in full...)
Not sure if boyfriend is attracted to me sexually or that I am his physical type.
Q. Been with boyfriend for over a year. We are both in our late 20's. We only have sex once or once every 2 weeks. There are a lot of times where i want it more than him. He gives me excuses he is tired, he is bloated from food etc. But then sa...
A. 2 August 2017: I go along with what the other three posters said fully, and just wish to add that to build T you need to work out, to take up fitness would be good for the two of you,
It is normally a long process to get TESTED for low T, as dr don't look for ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him or a date or wait for him to ask me
Q. im chatting with a man online. On his profile he said hes in no rush and wants to get to know a person well. we have exchanged details ( phone numbers , social media, not addresses) we have been chatting for 6 week but he hasnt asked me out . He is ...
A. 2 August 2017: You get all types in line. He is confident so he thinks it is easy to pick up girls. Sounds like he is keeping a little black book of girls and has a few waiting in a line for when he can get to them if needs the next one to take on a test run. ... (read in full...)
He helps me financially but I'm the one who always initiates our conversations. Is he at all interested in me?
Q. So I have this friend that iv had for a while now. We've actually just met once and hooked up and then he went off overseas for a job. Well, we stayed in contact and have talked on and off. I just had a son and have gone through a tough tim...
A. 2 August 2017: You need to give him time, He has put work first for now and not able to be around all the time, 3 days is not long,
but you could do with asking him to eat withyou some evening soon when he is off work and see what comes out of it.
even ac... (read in full...)
If he keeps sending selfies does he like me as more than a friend?
Q. I have a guy friend who regularly sends me selfies of himself (nothing sexual or shirtless) just pictures from his shoulders up usually or a close up of his face. I don't ask for them. Last week he sent me a selfie of his new hairstyle, with the ...
A. 2 August 2017: the question is do you like him, if not it makes no difference if he is hooked on you or not,
If you're interested you will have to let him know as he might be trying to show you he is looking for a relationship more than just being friends... (read in full...)
His demands seem unreasonable. Am I being foolish?
Q. I have had a boyfriend for a long time and its got so he always wants back rubs and oral sexs all the time. I have told him that I do not want to do that without a condom. He prefers no condom. However for health issues I only do oral and other ...
A. 31 July 2017: YOU HAVE LET THIS GUY WALK ALL OVER YOU, you know the risk of getting an STD from giving him oral if he is with many other women,
why let him into your life, you would be better off having nothing to do with this man, ... (read in full...)
Is this woman after my husband?
Q. Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...
A. 30 July 2017: Part of me thinks she and you husband are made for each other, and you should look for a divorce from him,
He played games with her at work, then he backed off after getting her worked up, a case of harvesting what you sow,
You put up wi... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't maintain appropriate boundaries with male friends
Q. My wife (and five year old daughter) is currently on holiday in Florida with family and friends. Some of these friends are young men. One in particular is going without his girlfriend. I have been ok with the holiday. This isn't the issue. Th...
A. 30 July 2017: Did I miss out on it if she has agreed to the marriage guidance, will she go along and if so is she going to give it all her mind and the effort it takes,
you are right to try to get her to go with you, they know what they are about and they can... (read in full...)
Family members bring dogs to gatherings knowing our son is terrified of them
Q. My 12-year-old son has autism. Both my sisters recently got dogs. They are small breeds. My sisters and their husbands KNOW that my son is TERRIFIED of dogs yet still bring them to family functions and gatherings fully knowing that my...
A. 30 July 2017: Therapy for autism now use dogs and horses to help people with this handicap, Your family members just don't understand the challenges of autism and they should be more understanding about this,
Did you ever come across the book by DR Temple Gran... (read in full...)
Is a man considered promiscuous for having 15 sexual partners?
Q. Is having 12-15 women as sexual partners considered promiscuous for the average man? Would that many partners be a deal breaker for you? ...
A. 30 July 2017: First of all, you should not know to this extent each-others past, It puts the mind going in all directions and many people are not able to handle that information, I am now 53 and have had only 1 and she is my wife, My WIFE has had more and was... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's brother won't allow kids in his home
Q. My boyfriend and I are 26 years old. My boyfriend has a brother that is 24 years old and I have a brother that is 14 years old. The problem is that my boyfriend's brother will not let my brother visit his house due to his age. My boyfriend's b...
A. 30 July 2017: When I started reading this post I built an image of a man with a red room filled with cooled beer of his favorite brand protected with chains and locks,
By the time I got to the end and see your example of a pool party I thought this BF's bro... (read in full...)
Is this woman after my husband?
Q. Does it sound like this woman is after my spouse? My husband started a new job and seemed to become friendly and close to a woman I will call Kathy. They would discuss their personal issues ( our martial) ( her relationship issues). She would ca...
A. 29 July 2017: I hope you have copied that Facebook harassment, keep it for a long time, this woman is nuts, your husband is standing with you and is not doing anything to draw her, but she is the type that does not take no,
what must she have put in that har... (read in full...)
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