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Would it be unreasonable of me not to invite her to our wedding?

Q.   My fiancee and I are getting married later this year and we are currently planning the wedding together. we are working on a guest list, and he suggested the other day that we invite this one girl who we havent really spoken to for years. Back w...

A.   8 January 2008: You are completely within your rights to 'not' invite her. Anyone in your lives that will either bring up 'bad' memories, or just a general uncomfortable feeling at the wedding should not be there. Your fiancee probably was just mentioning all the ... (read in full...)

I thought we were both virgins, but she isnt , can we still have a future?

Q.   I am just about to get married, and I am still a virgin. I just found out my future wife has had sex with a couple guys before me. I was hurt when i found this out...and still am...because I was expecting her to be a virgin too... I love her very ...

A.   8 January 2008: Well tough call here. You are entitled to marry a virgin if that is important to you (I know it was important for me). That is not an issue. That is your choice completely, and don't let anyone chastise you for your morals and beliefs. The real ... (read in full...)

Why do I suffer with bad BO?

Q.   I have a problem. a BO problem. I don't know why or how it has happened. I shower daily (under my armpits also) and i don't wear the same t-shirt for 2 days. what can it be then?...

A.   3 January 2008: As many have said, can't tell your age here. If you are a teenager going through puberty, there isn't anything you can do except shower daily or twice a day. Change socks, underwear, t-shirts twice a day and use a strong anti-persperant. You will ... (read in full...)

My partner hit me, and I'm 10 weeks pregnant with his child. I'm confused...

Q.   i am 10 weeks pregnant and have a child already to the same guy, he argued with me because he wanted the house tidying and because i said i was changing my daughter he cme up to my face and threw a tea towel at me in my face so i went in to his face ...

A.   2 January 2008: Tough call here. If he has done this before, I agree that you should get out of this relationship as fast as possible. If this is the first time, then make it a learning experience for both of you. I know it's not your fault, but if you are ... (read in full...)

I feel so guilty, I deleted a text from his ex girlfriend without him knowing, am I wrong?

Q.   I feel so guilty, I saw a text from my boyfriend's ex girlfriend on Christmas Day saying she missed him, and I deleted it, so he has no idea she text. The background on this is that they broke up a year ago, just after Christmas. I have been with...

A.   2 January 2008: Hi. I'm gonna take the middle of the road here. You, as his current boyfriend have a right not to have ex-girlfriends contacting him. I think you should have went to your boyfriend, told him you were looking at his phone and saw the text. Would he ... (read in full...)

Does Dr Pepper lower sperm count?

Q.   My friend hurd a roumer that Dr.Pepper lowers sperm count? is this true?...

A.   21 December 2007: Ummm, I hate to bring a bit of seriousness to this post, and maybe the poster never intented to 'really' ask this question. But, I checked the ingredients of Dr Pepper, and they seem fine. The reason I took this seriously is because Mountain Dew ... (read in full...)

My husband of 7 years asked me to put my finger in his butt during sex... Does that make him gay?

Q.   My husband of 7 years ask for me to put a finger in his butt when i go down on him and his favorite position is doggy style does this make him gay?????...

A.   10 December 2007: I think it makes him very experimental and open about sex with you. I don't personally ever want to try that, but, and long as it's you (a female) doing that, I guess it could be part of expanding your sex life together. If he ever asks you to put ... (read in full...)

40, married 20 years, and I'm not enjoying the life I have now. What can I do?

Q.   I have been married for 20 years. I have 2 children -19 and 17. At the beginning of our relationship we had a lot of money problems and had 2 houses repossessed and he was abusive towards me - he has the stitches from where I ducked and his fist ...

A.   10 December 2007: I normally would advise people to try everything to keep a marriage together. But, NOT in this case. I'm sure there is more to this story than you are telling, because there is an underlying hate/anger in your husband. Could there have been a major ... (read in full...)

How long do guys normally last

Q.   Once you get past all foreplay etc, once intercourse has started- how long is the avg time before a guy ejaculates??...

A.   7 December 2007: Well as every else mostly states, it varies a lot from guy to guy. I think anywhere around 15-20 minutes would be 'good/normal'. If it isn't the 1st time of the night for the guy, then it can last an hour or so. As someone said, men can have ... (read in full...)

I found photos of her naked ex in our room!

Q.   I (we've) got a little problem (or not). My wife is always very honest with me. She has never slept with anyone but me, but I know the first names of a few guys she dated and fooled around with some prior to me. Anyway, we bought our house a little ...

A.   4 December 2007: DONE. Shredded and burned this past weekend. Never to be brought up again (unless like I said, she finds something old of mine). Although, I think next time I'm in the attic, I'm gonna look through some of those old boxes and if I find anything of ... (read in full...)

I found photos of her naked ex in our room!

Q.   I (we've) got a little problem (or not). My wife is always very honest with me. She has never slept with anyone but me, but I know the first names of a few guys she dated and fooled around with some prior to me. Anyway, we bought our house a little ...

A.   1 December 2007: In response to the last post, yes my wife was a virgin when we got engaged. Don't know why you would post this stupid answer, but... We discussed her past before we got engaged, and this guy was someone she fooled around with (he was the first gu... (read in full...)

Diabetes affecting the aspect of males' sexual organs?

Q.   Does diabetes affect the way in which a guy's testicles hang (or don't hang) ... ?...

A.   30 November 2007: Actually, some forms of male diabetes will affect the production of testosterone, and for the same reason this can cause erectile dysfunction, the testicles themselves can shrink in size, or never develop to full normal male size. This would make it ... (read in full...)

Is it gay to watch gay porn?

Q.   is it gay to watch gay porn...

A.   30 November 2007: Well if it is curiousity then I guess once would be not-gay, but if you like it or watch it more than once because you're curious, then Hell Yes, it's Gay. Nothing wrong with that if you are gay, but then as SamuraiRick says 'get out of the closet ... (read in full...)

She spent the evening with a work-colleague the night before she came home but swears nothing sexual happened. Do I trust her less for this?

Q.   I have been going out with my girlfriend for 5 years. This morning I found out that she spent the evening with a bloke from work the night before then came home to me. She swears she didn't have sex with him and that they just talked. I don't know ...

A.   30 November 2007: Tough call. It is usually not proper for a girlfriend or wife to spend the night with another guy, but what was the circumstances? My wife doesn't drink (maybe 1 umbrella drink at the most), but if she did go out with co-workers and drank too ... (read in full...)

I found photos of her naked ex in our room!

Q.   I (we've) got a little problem (or not). My wife is always very honest with me. She has never slept with anyone but me, but I know the first names of a few guys she dated and fooled around with some prior to me. Anyway, we bought our house a little ...

A.   30 November 2007: Don't think so. She gave up the right to the pics when we got married. I also have no problems with my manly-ness. I only meant that this guy isn't some hot model or porno star material, so I can't see her keeping them as a turn-on. Based on where ... (read in full...)

Should I tell my husband who I cheated with?

Q.   I'm married and very regrettably cheated on my husband 5 years ago. After a few months I told him what I did but not who with. (it was with a guy friend but my husband didnt really know him but knew I was catching up with him now and then) My hus...

A.   29 November 2007: Well, I'm glad you two seem to be able to work through this, however, it is obvious that this affair is always in the back of his mind (understandably). He has the right as your husband to know everything he wants to know about this affair. I say, ... (read in full...)

I found photos of her naked ex in our room!

Q.   I (we've) got a little problem (or not). My wife is always very honest with me. She has never slept with anyone but me, but I know the first names of a few guys she dated and fooled around with some prior to me. Anyway, we bought our house a little ...

A.   28 November 2007: Thank you for the answers. I'm a little surprised, except for SamuraiRick, they were either not really helpfull, or just plain wrong/stupid. How can anyone even think that she would have a right to keep these pictures? When you get married, you have ... (read in full...)

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