Is she just scared to leave her boyfriend because they live together?
Q. I have really liked this girl since she started a year ago but problem is she has a boyfriend of 5 years! Everyone knows that she is not happy and recently at a work function we somehow got together, this was great and she said that she felt the ...
A. 31 March 2008: Coming from someone who is in a similar situation to hers, I'm sorry to say that the chances of her leaving him anytime soon are slim to none. Even if she loves you to death and you would be perfect together, the fact that she's living with him ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him if I commit to a mortgage agreement
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating seriously for 3 years. We are both in our mid 20s. He is now living in different city because of work. He would like to buy a property so I can move up to his city about 1/2 year later (when my work gets orga...
A. 27 March 2008: First, I hope the fact that if you're paying half the down payment means this is a lone and not a gift. And if this is the case you NEED written proof of this or you could seriously screw yourself in the long run.
Secondly, I think it would be a ba... (read in full...)
I'm not deformed or ugly so....how come I've never had a girlfriend? I'm 33yrs old.
Q. I am 33 years old and have never had a girlfriend before, never had a meaningful conversation with a girl, never flirted before, havent really 'liked' anyone for 11 years, and I don't have ANY friends. It's not like I am deformed or ugly, I just h...
A. 27 March 2008: I definitely don't think you're a loser. You're sensitive enough to have thought about this for a great deal of time. Besides, most of the guys I know who rack up the most chick are complete douchebags. THEY'RE losers. Don't group yourself in with ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my wife to be a "slave" to another man?
Q. I am a married man and have always wanted my wife to have fum with other men. She see's it as cheating and is not sure. I have told her I would love her to tell me the things seh gets up to with other men whilst we have sex. I also like the id...
A. 27 March 2008: Damn you're lucky you're still a married man.... maybe not. She's not. If this means so much to you despite the fact that she's put off by it you need to reassess what this marriage means to you. Which is more important, her or your fantasy?
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What are the Tell-Tale signs of your girlfriend cheating on you?
Q. We've all seen those online-articles, magazine articles, about how to tell if you're dating a "playa" or if your man is cheating on you. But I've never seen the inverse of that. How can you tell if your girl's cheating on you? Let's be honest,...
A. 27 March 2008: First of all, follow your gut. Unless you're an incredibly insecure, irrational, or jealous guy, you're probably already on to something. Does she seem defensive or nervous when you casually ask her what she did today or yesterday or whatever? When ... (read in full...)
We can never find anything to say to each other?
Q. Hi, After a hard journey trying to talk to this girl I like, i was told to get her MSN address and talk to her on there. The thing is, i can never find anything to say. The conversation just dies straight away, ive tried talking about interests,...
A. 27 March 2008: Maybe getting to know her through the internet isn't the best idea. Is there any way you two could get together in real life? I know I'm an incredibly articulate individual in person, but when it comes to communication through type I'm pretty brief ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend created a "secret profile" on myspace! Can I trust her?
Q. hi everybody, i have a long distance relationship since 2 years. i discover recently that my girlfriend (23 years old) have created secretly a profile in my space, where she claims to be single. i asked her if she was hidding something from m...
A. 27 March 2008: OH HELLLLLL NO!
Does she know that you've discovered her profile? Have you seen it yourself? If you know for a fact that she has a secret profile and denies it or won't tell you how you can access it, you KNOW you can't trust her. If there's any ... (read in full...)
Should I stop sleeping with him until he tells me I'm his girlfriend? Is he not confirming this a normal men's thing?
Q. I have been dating this guy for four months now. I want to know if we are going steady because he has never come out and said that I was his girlfriend. His friends wife asured me that there was no one else he was dating. They have been friends for ...
A. 27 March 2008: If he seemed shocked about you asking him about sleeping with other people and his friend's wife assured you he was not dating anyone else, he probably considers you his girl. Some people assume spending all your time together equals a relationship, ... (read in full...)
I look less mature than the other girls in my class, is my weight and height normal for my age?
Q. I wanted 2 know if my height and weight iz normal. Im 13 years old and 5.1 in. but weigh 90.5 pounds. My doctor says tht my weight iz just fine but i seem like a baby infront of the other girlz in my class cuz thier so much taller and weigh more ...
A. 27 March 2008: You are still only 13 and have alot of growing and developing ahead of you, so that's something to look forward to (and sometimes dread). As far as your height, don't worry about it. In college, I had a friend who was 4'10 and gorgeous. Height ... (read in full...)
I want to be with the boy I was with two years ago but my recent BF just told me he loved me...
Q. 2 years ago I fell for a boy that lived a few citys down from me. things didnt work out. I held on to my feelings for a really long time. I met a new boy, he became my boyfriend and after i became his girlfriend. i paid for everything, dinenr lunch, ...
A. 26 March 2008: It sounds like you already know what you want. Despite the fact that your current guy says he loves you, those are just words. You pay for all his stuff and yet he still treats you poorly and picks fights. You and your old flame rekindled mutual ... (read in full...)
How do I "come out of the closet" and have a chance with this guy?
Q. hi, my name is dan, i'm 16, i'm gay, i haven't come out of the closet yet and i keep my feelings bottled up inside and it hurts. i have two questions, first one i'm in love with this guy who lives about 70 miles away and i've bin in love wid hi...
A. 26 March 2008: Maybe you could come out to this guy first. You don't have to tell him you have feelings for him, but obviously he has gone through a similar situation himself at some point in time. This way, you'll have someone to talk to about this and eventually ... (read in full...)
My breasts have become tender and I'm getting bad stomach pains, is this related to recently coming off depo-provera injections or could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi there, This may be more of a question for the doctor, but maybe some of you have had the same experience. I was on the depo-provera injection for three months only and came off it on the 14 December. In January a had light bleeding which l...
A. 25 March 2008: Almost everyone I've known who has come off of a contraception has had side effects. The side effects vary from person to person but it's just your body trying to re-regulate itself. I'd suggest looking up a site relating to the depo-provera ... (read in full...)
The Truth about Pubic Hair?
Q. Hi, I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend has been wanting to finger me but I am afraid to because I am afraid he will think pubes are gross. I tried shaving them but I had trouble doing a good job and after like a day it was just stubbly and ...
A. 25 March 2008: Use an electric trimmer. It's pretty close to gone, it takes about two minutes and you don't have to contort yourself all over the place for fear of being cut.
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Whenever I criticise his porn viewing he brings up my past and calls me a slut!
Q. I've been with this guy for about 4 years... at least that's how HE puts it. We hung out together for one year, have lived together for the past 3, but in my mind, have been officially a couple for maybe 1. I have always tried to make it perfectly ...
A. 25 March 2008: Thanks, Ask oldersister, you're completely right. I wouldn't be nearly as distraught by this if I were more independent and didn't feel like the wild at heart kept in cages.
-Jmo
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Whenever I criticise his porn viewing he brings up my past and calls me a slut!
Q. I've been with this guy for about 4 years... at least that's how HE puts it. We hung out together for one year, have lived together for the past 3, but in my mind, have been officially a couple for maybe 1. I have always tried to make it perfectly ...
A. 25 March 2008: To Escalaya, I made it very clear. He used to ask me out and I always said no.
-Jmo... (read in full...)
I wanted sex, he didn't at first but in the end gave in! Now he claims it was rape?!
Q. The other night I came home drunk and very horny but my boyfriend was asleep in bed. I woke him up by kissing him and touching him down there. At first he told me leave him alone as he was tired but in the end he turned round and we had full sex, as ...
A. 25 March 2008: You should tell him to improve his argumentative skills, that was a blow beneath the belt (so to speak).
I hope his wanna be lawyer friend is better at arguing with relevance or the law is in trouble. This was not rape.
-Jmo... (read in full...)
It really turns my boyfriend on to think of me having sex with other men - he even wants me to tape it!!!
Q. Well I really need some advice I've been dating this guy for 2 years. I fell in love with him everything amazing he was my first the sex amazing the bond pretty much everything I ever wanted but all of a sudden we started opening up and it really ...
A. 20 March 2008: Even though I pretty much agree with what everyone else has said, I think "Toasty" and "lazyguy" brought up one of the most important points. Regardless whether or not you'd feel comfortable doing this (and you're obviously not) you have to assume ... (read in full...)
Love-struck
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm losing my mind, help me please. I am a 24 year old man who always didn't find a way to connect with people on a close and intimate level due to the fact that my way of thinking is completely unacceptable in my community. I hav...
A. 19 March 2008: It seems like you already know what you want and are in the position to get it from this guy. He obviously has feelings for you and regardless of the fact that it's kinda taboo where you're at, you can't neglect your feelings. Follow your heart, no ... (read in full...)
My wife and I are considering getting her tubes tied.
Q. My wife and I are considering getting her tubes tied. What are the chances of her getting pregnant even though her tubes have been tied? And is she able to give birth to a baby if she DOES become pregnant?...
A. 18 March 2008: Don't quote me on this but I'm pretty sure it is pretty close to impossible. These days it's a pretty common procedure to have them cauterized or cut or both. As far as what to do on the extremely off chance that she becomes pregnant I'm pretty ... (read in full...)
Case of the "X"
Q. I have been seeing this guy I work with for about 6 months. I have never been invited over to the new house he stays at but have been to his old spot. He says that I can't come over because we work together and for work purposes, I shouldn't know ...
A. 18 March 2008: It sounds like he's definitely lying to you. Sorry.
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I'm on contraceptives, my period is late and the pregnancy test came up negative. What's wrong?
Q. I'm on the contraceptive pill, and my period is late, I've taken a pregnancy test and it came up negative...any advice on what I should do?...
A. 18 March 2008: I don't know how long you've been on the pill but I do know that they can mess with your hormones (and in turn, your period) for quite a while after you first start taking them. Your period is probably just late, if not, maybe it's too soon for the ... (read in full...)
I doubt anyone has ever been in such a situation with his girlfriend
Q. Before everyone begins with the "nah bro, dump her dump her" stuff, read it completely, and put yourself in my situation, and atleast TRY to understand how I feel. I'm with a girl right now, and quite frankly, she is amazing. Whether we're talking ...
A. 18 March 2008: First of all let me tell you that this is coming from a girl who sounds pretty similar to yours. I won't go into details but let's just say that I fuck up... alot. Anyways, I've seen how infidelity can scar a person (by current bf still has dreams ... (read in full...)
I can't keep a straight face
Q. I work with a girl who I am really interested in, even though we've never had a proper conversation. So, I want to ask her to go for a drink with me and get to know her better. The problem is that I can't think about her, let alone look at her or ...
A. 18 March 2008: Don't worry about the grin. Girls like that.... (read in full...)
I haven't had an outbreak of my genital warts for two years...could I still pass the virus onto my new girlfriend?
Q. Ok so about 4 yrs ago i got genital warts from my now ex girlfriend, i havent had an outbreak for about 2 yrs, my question is will they ever return, and can i still pass the virus onto my new girlfriend? thanks!!! ...
A. 18 March 2008: One word... yes. However, there are some meds that can lessen the possibility of passing it on. But still...yes. Sorry.... (read in full...)
Why won't he listen to me and take some responsibility?
Q. My guy and I are truly connected in mind alot and know alot of how the other is feeling and stuff like that. I know we both are clairvoyant too. Well we have been fine and are doing great so far one thing is bothering me that I have talked to him ...
A. 18 March 2008: I'm not sure of what contraceptives you can't use, and I won't ask. I'm assuming however, that you are capable of using SOME type of contraceptive seeing as how you used the word "some". Regardless, you should remember that YOU are in control of ... (read in full...)
I'm curious about what people think about making noise during sex...
Q. So this might be a dumb question, but I have always wondered: How much noise do you make during sex? Do you moan, scream, ect? And if so, do you only do it when you are having an orgasm or the whole time? Also, do guys find it attractive if a ...
A. 18 March 2008: I personally don't make much noise in bed, but that's just me, I'd feel foolish. However I have slept with some guys who seem to take personal offense to it as though I wasn't satisfied and then they feel self-conscious. So I guess it's sort of a ... (read in full...)
I have a mental block on sex with my partner...please help me as I want to work it out!
Q. I have been with my partner nearly 5 years and I love him dearly. We have 2 kids one is 3 and the other is 8 months. I find it really hard to have any sexual contact with him. I do try really hard but I feel like I just get a mental block. I had a ...
A. 18 March 2008: Different women can experience different changes in their libido with each pregnancy. Some women experience no change and some don't feel very sexual for more than a year. I guess I can't make any real suggestions seeing as how I don't know either ... (read in full...)
How can I impress him?
Q. This might sound childish, but its not. I've just broken up with my ex, and part of the reason for breaking up was sheer insecurity on my part - I got upset because I felt I looked the worst out of all his female friends, and my confidence just ...
A. 18 March 2008: It's not about expensive clothes when it comes to confidence. I swear, giving off the illusion of confidence even if you have to take a "fake it 'till you make it" approach for a while will not only make you look hot as hell but feel hot as hell as ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm going to be a virgin forever and if I do have sex, he'll just laugh at me!
Q. im 18 a female, i feel im going to be a virgin for ages, i dont want to get to 20 and still be a virgin, although i do value being a virgin but im just frightened i will be one for a long time and when i finally do have sex the bloke will laugh at ...
A. 14 March 2008: I'm close to %100 positive that whoever you end up losing your virginity to will not laugh at you. Seeing as how you value your virginity, you'll probably feel ready with a sensitive, caring man. Besides a lot of guys prefer virgins for a myriad of ... (read in full...)
Was it a miscarriage or just because of the mini-pill?
Q. A couple of months ago I missed a period for two months, then the middle of the second I started bleeding, lightly at first and then after that like a proper period. I'm on Cerazette (a Mini-Pill) and am using condoms but they broke quite a few ...
A. 14 March 2008: I'm not quite sure what the mini-pill is but I do know that any form of oral contraception messes with your hormones and can cause your period to become irregular, at least for a while. With regards to your condoms breaking, are you sure he's ... (read in full...)
I am still in love with them but I can never say it cos I don't want us to fall out completely and because it all started as a secret relationship...
Q. I was in a secret relationship (for various reasons) with my best friend for about 6 months solidly, then on and off for another year or so. This was 5 years ago now. We've fallen out (as friends) because of it but we have never talked about it ...
A. 14 March 2008: Forgive me for assuming, but It sounds like your secret relationship was with a female. If it wasn't, then completely disregard this. If my assumption is correct, maybe she is still uncomfortable with her sexuality and that's why she keeps going ... (read in full...)
She loves to hang out with me but only with other people, is this a bad sign?
Q. I am really good friends with this one girl. She knows i like her but she has never told me how she felt about me. All she said was that i was an amazing guy who makes her the laugh the most. She loves to hang out with me however she only wants ...
A. 14 March 2008: Maybe she appreciates your friendship but doesn't want to pursue a romantic relationship with you. She knows how you feel about her and hanging out with friends relieves her of the possibility that your feelings for her will ruin your friendship ... (read in full...)
If you leave someone alone, do they realize what they've lost?
Q. One for the men....I was in a 'relationship' with a non committal man. It would seem that i care about him more than he does about me, and he says he cant get into a serious relationship, so we decided not to see each other any more. At this stage, ...
A. 13 March 2008: Coming from a "non committal" girl (who doesn't let on) the fact that he stated he didn't want a relationship means just that. He's either too immature for a real relationship or truly doesn't want one. You can't change that. And if you play the ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 13 March 2008: One more thing, I think I can't be with him just yet... coz I also found out that his ex-wife still uses his family name... What do I need to ask him? I'm really so troubled... :-( Pls direct me...
If it makes you feel any better, my parents went... (read in full...)
Should I go to a "Gentleman's Club" to lose my virginity or am I selling myself short?
Q. Hey guys, I've been pondering this for a while now, but I'd like to get some outside opinions on this. I'm still a virgin at 20, and quite frankly I'm over it. It hasn't happened yet, I can't see it happening anytime soon, and I just feel bored ...
A. 13 March 2008: While I can't judge you for wanting to get laid, It seems like it is a big deal to you. The fact that you've posted this means you already have some reservations about it. I'm not going to tell you what to do, just think it through, and don't give ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 13 March 2008: no problem girlie, contact me any time.
-Jmo
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I really loved the way my girlfriend looked when we first met but I don't find her attractive any more.
Q. We've been going out for about 1 1/2 yrs and we live together. We did just have a baby about 4 mos ago. I do love her and the baby and i don't want to jeopordize our relationship but i can't get into her physically because i'm just not attracted to ...
A. 13 March 2008: Damn you sound shallow. However, I'll give you the benefit of the doubt and assume you're not a jackass. Maybe if you take her out every once and a while, make her FEEL pretty, make her feel appreciated, not only will she feel more compelled to be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend likes my hair combed down over half my face...
Q. I have pretty shoulder length dark brown hair and my boyfriend wants me to have it combed down over half my face all the time because he thinks it's sexy. Is this normal?...
A. 13 March 2008: Tell him that if he wants you to only see out of one eye it would be a lot less hassle to spend $2 on an eye-patch. Seriously, do what you want. You're not in a relationship just to have someone treat you like a barbie doll.
-Jmo
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He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 13 March 2008: Maybe you don't have to tell him you read his e-mail. Maybe you can use your feminine wile (we all have it) to slyly get information from him concerning his relationship with his ex. Or maybe you could have a frank and earnest conversation regarding ... (read in full...)
He is open and direct in everything else except marriage plans, is it really too early? Should I give him an ultimatum?
Q. Dated a guy - 8 mths. Love him. I am 39, never married, he says we should take our time, I want to get married and settle down. Is 8 mths too little to give an ultimatum? Am I being fair? He doesn't want to talk about marriage at all now - does ...
A. 13 March 2008: If you keep bringing up marriage plans you're going to make him feel like you're trying to "bag" him. The idea of marriage should feel natural and not like a race to beat the clock. It seems like your guy understands this and if he's the type of guy ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 13 March 2008: You should talk to your bf about this. Admit that you read his e-mail and tell him that this makes you feel uneasy. Get him to open up about why he felt it was alright to buy his ex shoes n' stuff and if he felt it was alright, why he wouldn't tell ... (read in full...)
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